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Sunday, July 21, 2013

Grab Plenty of ZZZZZ’s Before Your Wedding Day!

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At one of my weddings recently, I heard a bride say, “I’m bushed! I only got 2 hours sleep last night.”

Here’s one idea that might help. Plan your rehearsal dinner 2 days before the wedding, not the night before. The rehearsal dinner is a night when many of your guests will let there hair down and party, party, party… and then hope to arrive at the wedding the next day without a hangover. I doubt that. Remember, you must do it when it is most convenient for you. The most common excuse for not doing this is because you have guests coming in from out-of-town. Got it! However, if only one or two of your wedding party is not expected to arrive 2 days before… they may have to miss it. You will have time to clue them in to any rehearsal tips that they need to know the day of the wedding. This idea will also help you get in bed early the night before you tie the knot.

sleepingBRIDESmart brides do all the heavy duty stuff days before the wedding, not the night before. The even smarter ones hire a full-time Wedding Consultant. Look over your wedding day check list for any last minute items you may have missed. Set a bed time, let other people know about it and stick to it. You don’t want to show up with baggy eyes. Cutting off all communications with your man the night before shouldn’t be too much of a hassle. Spend some alone time. Never allow your friends to keep you up all night! Slumber parties and pub crawls are out. Make sure you get at least 8 hours of sleep the night before your wedding.

Lay out your “getting ready” clothes. You won’t need much on your wedding day, but it’s smart to fill a clutch with some “just-in-case” items: a mini deodorant, gum, tissues, and a list of your vendors’ phone numbers. If you plan on switching to flip-flops during the reception, toss those in there as well.

You need to be your freshest self on your big day. Relax. Pamper yourself. Staying stressed until the last minute may take away from your special day. Maintain control of your pre-wedding jitters by dealing with things you know you must do far in advance of bedtime. The day before your wedding… wind down at least two hours before you hit the sack. Drink some herbal tea, take a bubble bath. Avoid alcohol and caffeine (tea, coffee, chocolate). Have a glass of warm milk instead. Don’t eat anything the night before your big day that may give you indigestion or heartburn on your wedding day.

While you’re winding down for the night, take a few minutes and write a love note to your partner. Express yourself. Tell him how you feel and how much you love him. Give it to the best man to give to the groom on the day of the wedding. Also write a letter to yourself. Write about your excitement and your worries, about your hopes and aspirations, and predict what the future will hold for you. Hide it away and open it on your first anniversary.

If you will be saying anything to your partner during the wedding ceremony, read it over several times before you go to sleep. What you say should be spot-on for the big day so give it the once-over one last time.

Every bride and groom should look their best on their big day and that means no puffy eyes, pallid complexion or dark circles. Understandably it can be a mega challenge fighting those butterflies in your tummy and attempting slumber the night before such a huge day.

Do your best not to worry about the next day. If you find yourself lying awake in bed, follow the 15 minute rule. If sleep isn’t happening after 15 minutes, get up and read or relax on the sofa. When the sleepy feeling overwhelms you, get back into bed and go get some Zzzz’s. The more sleep you can get the night before your wedding day, the more energy you’ll have to make it through one of the biggest days of your life.

Have a light breakfast the morning of your wedding.

BONUS Articles: Bridal Beauty: Top 13 Bridal Beauty Don’ts
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Tuesday, June 11, 2013

The Morning After the Night Before…

The day after your wedding can be a time to simply be together… or you can jump back into the fray and charge full-speed ahead ignoring the fact that you have just been through several stressful days and probably could use a rest. Your body, mind and soul need a break!

DoNotDisturbSome couples don’t plan for “the morning after the night before” very well. They have guests from all over the country who have taken time (and expense) of attending their wedding and they feel obligated to entertain them the rest of the weekend. I can understand the need to visit with relatives and guests, but the day after your wedding might just be an opportunity for you both to chill. Make your apologies, arrange to have family do the entertaining and get on with your day… together.

Some couples plan to leave the next day for their honeymoon and leave the entertaining for the weekend up to the parents, etc. One couple I married recently had a limo pick them up at the reception and immediately left for the airport and their honeymoon. This, in my opinion, is never a good idea. The wedding and reception may cause extreme exhaustion. Plus, if you have a rehearsal, there’s the stress of the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, plus the possibility of a hangover or two. Caution: Don’t party hearty the night before your wedding. Both are very big days.

dayAFTERweddingYou may want to read, “When to Schedule Your Wedding Rehearsal…” – this article has some great planning ideas for the rehearsal. The honeymoon is very special so give yourself a couple of days (or more) to rest before you leave, otherwise you may need a vacation after the honeymoon.

Don’t worry if you’re not being able to take a big fancy honeymoon. You have the rest of your lives to make money and take big, wonderful, fabulous vacations. But you only get “one” wedding. Do it well and be happy. Check out my “Honeymoon Check List.”

Some couples postpone their honeymoon trip until after they know they have survived the $$$’s they spent on the wedding. 😉 That’s probably a better idea if you feel you must spend time with family and friends the day after the wedding, but what could you both consider doing the day after the wedding that might get you new life together kick-started?

Some will obviously not agree about skipping the day after entertaining… that’s okay. You get to do what YOU want to do. It’s only and always your choice. Having said that, here are a few suggestions to consider. I suggest 3 specific things to consider:

jumping-on-bed1. Rest – Spend the night of your wedding at a hotel. When you enter the room… head for the bed and do some celebratory bed jumping! Some hotels offers some specials for newlyweds. Ditch you cell phone. Let anyone who calls, leave a message and check your messages when you check out. You may want to tell the hotel to have calls go directly to voice-mail. Handwriting the “Thanks yous” and opening your gifts can wait until later or even after the honeymoon. You are beginning a new chapter in your lives. I encourage you both to make some wise choices.

2. Recuperate – Rest and just be together. Sleep late. Snuggle with your partner. Move slowly all day. Spend time with your best friend… your wife/husband. Only do what your heart tells you to do. Laugh together. Celebrate! Be cool. Take a dip in the pool. Have some fun, this is YOUR day. Order room service. Enjoy each other. Trash the dress in the hotel pool and give your camera to a stranger by the pool to capture the moment. Get a massage and spa treatment – You deserve it! Talk without speaking… this step requires a bed. Utilize the “Do Not Disturb” door hanger. Take this little overture as an opportunity to reflect upon your hopes and dreams for the future.

3. Reflect – Talk, talk talk. Communication is a good thing. Really listen to each other. Be grateful for a terrific wedding. Laugh together about the things that didn’t go so well, e.g., the ring bearer ran all the way to the alter, gave the ring to the best man and ran back to his seat. Do you feel any different since you are now married? Talk about what made you feel loved and special about the wedding. Re-read the vows that you spoke to each other during the ceremony.

At the end of the day, of your wedding day, the only thing that matters is that you have married the man/woman that you love. Never lose sight of that.

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Monday, November 16, 2009

Testing! Testing!

Test your wedding day shoes!

If you think you will have an opportunity to sit down during your wedding day. . . forget it! It’s not likely.

Most likely you will be on your feet throughout the day and into the night. . . dancing the night away and greeting family and friends that you haven’t seen for a while.

Be sure to break in any new shoes you plan to wear long before the wedding. If they are a tight fit, visit a shoe shop and have them stretched a little.

The last thing you need is sore feet on your honeymoon.

Get lots of rest the night before your wedding. Consider having your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner at least “two” days before your wedding if possible. That separates two stressful days and gives you time to catch up on any last minute things you may need to do.

It’s also a good idea because sometimes the groom and the groomsmen like to head out after the rehearsal dinner for a little social lubricant (if you know what I mean). Hangovers are not a good idea to have on your wedding day. Having your rehearsal dinner “two” days before your wedding give everyone a day to recover.

Want to be comfortable for the “first dance?” Relieve the pain of heels by getting some reliable and foldable flats. Click here!

Here’s a great idea for your honeymoon.

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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