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Friday, January 16, 2015

Guaranteed! No Hangovers on Your Wedding Day!

You’ve all seen “The Hangover,” a movie about three groomsmen who go overboard at their friend’s bachelor party and wake up with no memory of what has taken place. The groom is nowhere to be found, and the groomsmen go on an epic mission to find him before the wedding.

Oh, my!

WEDnoHangoversOne idea is to skip the bachelor and bachelorette parties. That’ll help.

If you have lots of friends in your wedding party, you will need a rehearsal. By having a wedding rehearsal, you can ensure that everyone involved with the ceremony knows the rest of the bridal party as well as their responsibilities.

Every person involved in your ceremony should attend: the bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents, flower girl, ring bearer, Officiant, readers, and especially the bride and groom. It is considerate to invite the spouse or significant other of each attendant. The purpose of a rehearsal dinner is to provide an intimate setting for the two families to mingle before the big event. The rehearsal is designed to make the Bride and Groom familiar with the ceremony so they can be more relaxed on their big day.

Here is my idea: Break tradition! Have your rehearsal two days before the wedding, not the typical night before. Why?

Consider scheduling a Wednesday rehearsal for a Friday wedding or a Thursday rehearsal for a Saturday wedding. In other words: Consider choosing a rehearsal date two days before your wedding day, not one day before. This idea separates two stressful days and gives you a day of rest before the wedding to get last-minute things done. (The Groom will need time for a pedicure, right?) 😉

At the rehearsal dinner… the social lubrication portion can can get a little crazy and can offer a few headaches the morning after the night before. If you have that extra day in between the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner and the wedding, that pretty much will guarantee that every one in the wedding party will be clear-headed and ready for the main event.

There is also more time to relax, recuperate, and get ready for the big day. If most attendants won’t be arriving until late on the eve of your wedding, a breakfast celebration the morning before the wedding is also acceptable. Some couples are just having the rehearsal and skipping the rehearsal dinner.

If you have 12 in your wedding party – 6 bridesmaid and 6 groomsmen – and 2 or 3 are from out-of-town, go ahead and have your rehearsal without them and fill them in on the details of the rehearsal the day they arrive or the day of the wedding. If you only have 1 or 2 on each side you may not need a rehearsal.

Have out-of-town bridal party people? Plan special things for them to do – sans social lubrication (no pub crawls) – the day before the wedding. Plan some tame things for them to do. Take this opportunity to spend some quality time with your loved ones because the best day of your life is just around the corner.

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Saturday, March 23, 2013

Get Me to the Rehearsal on Time!

Filed under: Rehearsals,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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A wedding rehearsal shouldn’t usually take more than 30 minutes if everyone gets there on time. That’s a big “if!”

PartyBusGenerally speaking the mood of the bride, groom and bridal party is more relaxed and casual and some people tend to wander in whenever they decide to get there.

Recently I arrived early at one of my rehearsals. A few minutes later a big Party Bus arrived with “everyone” who was scheduled to be at the rehearsal on the bus. What a great way to make sure that everyone arrives to the rehearsal on time.

Everyone was told that there would be a Party Bus at a specific location, complete with refreshments and that it would leave at precisely 5 o’clock. Miss the bus… you may miss the rehearsal. Everyone met the bus (on time), including the families and a few close friends and they all arrived at the rehearsal on time. The Party Bus is a great idea because not only does it get everyone to the rehearsal on time and together, it helps the bridal party and family members to get better acquainted with each other in a light-hearted way. After the rehearsal, they were taken to the rehearsal dinner.

The rehearsal dinner is a great time to meet everyone, relax and begin your wedding celebration. I recommend that if possible, plan to have your rehearsal two days before the wedding. This gives everyone a day of rest before the wedding and allows the bride to tend to any last minute details the next day like doing her nails or packing for her honeymoon, and to allow her the opportunity to wind down, relax, and rest well for the big day ahead.

beearlyOften some of the bridal party may be coming from out of town and may not arrive until the day before the wedding. In that case, if there are only one or two that may not be able to be at the rehearsal two days before, go ahead and have your rehearsal and have someone assigned to give them the details of the rehearsal on the day of the wedding. The rehearsal dinner is a great time to hand out printed lists of duties for the attendants. They need to know what is expected of them, and when they are on call.

Being on time for the wedding rehearsal is deceptively important. Being on time is a matter of respect. This particular day it was very important to begin the rehearsal on time because there was another rehearsal scheduled at the wedding venue one hour later. For me, it’s important because I often have more than one rehearsal a day or may have an afternoon rehearsal and a wedding several hours later.

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Monday, November 21, 2011

When to Schedule Your Wedding Rehearsal…

Filed under: Rehearsals,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 9:00 am
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In my many interviews with brides and grooms I often discover that they have booked the date, the venue and just about everyone else… then they book the wedding officiant or minister last… but they have also failed to book the rehearsal.

RehearsalScheduleFor those of us who are very busy with wedding ceremonies (for me, about 75 wedding ceremonies each year), you also need to remember to schedule the wedding rehearsal at the time you book the wedding venue. Some venues, however, do not like to book the rehearsal very far in advance because there is always the possibility that they could book a wedding on that date. For the venues and for me too, weddings are always booked before rehearsals.

NOTE: When interviewing your wedding officiant or minister, be sure to ask if attending the rehearsal is included in their fee. I do not charge extra for attending the wedding rehearsal, however some wedding officiants and ministers do.

You are encouraged to plan the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner two days before the wedding (instead of the day before the wedding) to give you time to work out all the details, to do things that you may have forgotten and to have time for all to recover from the rehearsal dinner. It’s never a good idea to come to the wedding with a hangover. 😉

HOT TIP: Consider scheduling a Wednesday rehearsal for a Friday Wedding and a Thursday rehearsal for a Saturday wedding. This idea separates two stressful days and give you a day before the wedding to get last-minute things done. I do not schedule rehearsals on Fridays any later than 1:00 p.m. because Friday evenings are reserved for weddings only. My attendance at a Friday rehearsal for a Saturday wedding is subject to whether I have a Friday wedding scheduled. Most rehearsals should not take longer than 30 minutes (provided everyone arrives on time).

If some of the Bridal party are coming in from out-of-town and will not arrive in time for a rehearsal scheduled two days prior to the wedding, not to worry. If only one or two are not able to be there, have someone stand in for them at the rehearsal. Usually myself or the bridal consultant at the wedding venue can lead those not present for a rehearsal through the process on the day of the wedding. If, for any reason, I am unable to attend the rehearsal, I will schedule an early arrival the day of the wedding to coach those not present at the rehearsal through the necessary steps. I always arrive at least 30 minutes prior to the start of the wedding.

Your wedding rehearsal is really only for the people who are in your wedding party and the bride and groom’s parents. Of course, you can invite anyone you choose. During your wedding rehearsal, your officiant, your wedding consultant (if any) or the coordinator at the venue will guide you through the ceremony and explain everyone’s roles. My part of the rehearsal usually takes less than 10 minutes to hit the high points of the ceremony – those places where the bride and groom have to say something.

quicktipsFour Quick Tips for those in the wedding party:

1. Don’t lock your knees! Have you have every watched those funny TV shows where you see someone in the wedding party passing out? Here is what happens. IF you are a little nervous, your heart is beating faster (that’s normal at a wedding) and you lock your knees, you slow down the circulation of blood to your brain. Your brain needs that extra oxygen to help you maintain your equilibrium. So… do not lock your knees.

2. Remember to breathe! Regardless of whether it’s your first or second marriage most brides and grooms are a little nervous and some become emotional. This tip will help you calm down. Breathe in through you nose and out through your mouth. Why? Because we usually breathe in and out through our nose and when you have to THINK about breathing another way it short-circuits your brain and actually has a calming effect.

3. Have something to eat before the wedding! Put something in your tummy before you walk down the aisle. Crackers, cheese and a Pepsi are better than nothing.

4. Don’t worry about making a mistake during the wedding! Why? Because the guests do not know what we are going to do. If you make a mistake, don’t call attention to it. I’ve had rehearsal go one way and the actual wedding go another, however the guests were totally unaware of the mistake.

IMPORTANT: Remember to provide the venue wedding coordinator (and the Wedding Consultant/Planner) at your wedding venue ALL the details of the rehearsal BEFORE the rehearsal NOT at the rehearsal. Example: Names of Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, who seats the parents and grandparents, are the guys walking up first or will the Groomsmen walk with the Bridesmaids, names of the ushers (if any), etc. This will help make your rehearsal go much smoother and a lot less time consuming. Most brides wait until the rehearsal to begin telling the venue wedding coordinator the names of those in the wedding party. Telling them in advance saves about 15 to 20 minutes at the actual rehearsal.

rehearsaldinnerI give the brides and grooms a “Wedding Party List” for them to complete and send to me and the venue wedding coordinator two weeks before the rehearsal. It is a complete list of everyone in the wedding party, including the names and both parents, grandparents, ushers, etc. The venues love it because when everyone arrives for the rehearsal all they have to do is to call out names and line everyone up.

If you don’t send a list 2 weeks before the rehearsal, either call the coordinator with the names or better yet, send e-mail a day or two before the rehearsal. A well-coordinated rehearsal should not take longer than 30 minutes provided everyone arrives on time. Please encourage those who will be in the wedding party to be on time. That is important to me because I will often have more than one rehearsal in a day.

Once you’ve taken care of the rehearsal business, it’s time to celebrate! Get your wedding party together, along with any other special guests and head off to your rehearsal dinner party – your time to unwind before the big day. The rehearsal dinner should be more intimate than the reception. It is a celebration usually reserved for the couple’s closest friends, relations and the wedding officiant.

NOTE: The best wedding officiants are usually very busy and book weddings anywhere from 6 months to 1 1/2 years in advance. It is also wise to book the wedding officiant right after you book the wedding venue if you want the best. Each year I have to turn down many requests for my “romantic” wedding ceremony because the bride and groom waited until the last minute to book the wedding officiant.

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Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Break With Tradition!

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Something to consider. . . Although “tradition” says that the Best Man and the Maid of Honor usually walk up just before Ring Bearer, Flower girl and the Bride and her escort, if you have 3 or 4 Bridesmaids and Groomsmen or more on each side, it is often a better idea to have the Best Man and the Maid of Honor walk in after the Minister and the Groom so that everyone else knows exactly where they are suppose to stand.

steinmannThe traditional way often has the spacing between everyone staggered or off the mark and may show up as loosely organized and out of alignment in the wedding photos.

If you decide to do it this way, please remember to tell the wedding coordinator at the venue BEFORE the day of the rehearsal because they usually line everyone up to go in the traditional way.

Larry’s Note: Photo of Suzanne Richmond and Scott Steinmann in Rocky Point, Mexico. Married May 21, 2007.

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, June 11, 2010

The Rehearsal & the Rehearsal Dinner! It’s Fun Time!

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The wedding rehearsal is a run-through of the ceremony with the minister (hitting the highlights of the ceremony and giving everyone their cues for the big day) from beginning to end, allowing everybody involved to feel more confident about what will happen on the wedding day. Walk through the ceremony, establishing the pace and timing, in the order each element will occur, where everyone will be standing and make sure all of the participants know their responsibilities.

The only people required to be in attendance at a wedding rehearsal are those who will participate in the wedding: the bride and groom, their parents and the wedding party.

To make your rehearsal go smoother. . . here is a HOT TIP: Provide the Wedding Coordinator at your wedding venue, ALL the details of the rehearsal, if any, BEFORE the rehearsal NOT at the rehearsal. Example: Names of Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, who seats the parents & grandparents, are the guys walking up first or will the Groomsmen walk with the Bridesmaids, names of the ushers (if any), etc. This will help make your rehearsal go much smoother and less time consuming.

Send an e-mail a day or two before the rehearsal to the coordinator with the names. Please send your minister a copy of the e-mail too. A well-coordinated rehearsal should not take longer than 30 minutes provided everyone arrives on time. Please encourage those who will be in the wedding party to be on time so everyone can move along to the rehearsal dinner after the rehearsal.

formaldinnerThe wedding rehearsal is usually followed by a dinner for members of the wedding party. All attendants, the bride and her fiancé’s immediate families, the minister and spouse, as well as any out-of-town guests are usually included in the guest list. Family and friends of the bride or the host may also be invited. It is generally acceptable to invite the spouse or significant other of each attendant.

If money is an object, only invite the key players. Rehearsal dinners can offer a contrast to the formality and stress of the wedding day and give the families a chance to get to know each other in a more casual setting.

The purpose of the rehearsal dinner is to allow both families and your special friends to meet one another, socialize and have fun together. It is a great way to begin your wedding festivities. Consider an icebreaker game to encourage mingling and establish acquaintances.

The rehearsal dinner is usually held the night before the wedding.

HOT TIP: Some couples prefer to have the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner two days before the wedding to allow a day of rest from the stress of having two busy days in a row. Wrap it up early enough for the bride to tend to any last minute details the next day like doing her nails or packing for her honeymoon, and to allow her the opportunity to wind down, relax, and rest well for the big day ahead.

This may not work if guests who are in the wedding party do not arrive in town in time for the rehearsal. However, if only one or two bridesmaids or groomsmen cannot attend I encourage the couple to go ahead and have the rehearsal without them and catch them up just before the wedding.

casualdinnerNobody says the rehearsal dinner has to be a “dinner.” Instead, opt to have a rehearsal brunch or breakfast. It could be a picnic in the park or meet up at a favorite breakfast spot for some delicious breakfast entrees and mimosas.

For a nostalgic touch, have the rehearsal dinner at a spot that is special for the couple. If Italy is the honeymoon destination, for example, an Italian restaurant would be fitting. Perhaps the dinner can be held at the restaurant that was the site of their first date or the site of the proposal.

The rehearsal dinner is often held in a private home or a restaurant and is as formal or informal as the host would like. Special instrumental music will make this event even more elegant. Consider hiring a pianist, harpist, or a guitar duo.

Depending on the guest list and budget, and the wishes of the hosts, the event can be anything from a formal banquet to a casual outdoor picnic. From a pool side barbecue to a formal sit-down affair, there are no hard and fast rules for the rehearsal dinner. While the excitement and stress of the big day may loom before you, this event lets you enjoy quality time with loved ones.

The wedding rehearsal dinner is traditionally given by the groom’s family. Planning the party is usually the responsibility of the groom’s mother. Many mothers of the groom are eager to participate. This is her opportunity to get involved in the planning process and contribute to the wedding.

It is a good idea for the bride or her representative to ask the groom’s family if this is an event she would like to take on. If the dinner is not something that a specific person can do because of cost or location, any member of the wedding party can take over planning the rehearsal dinner. Although it is traditional for the groom’s family to pay for the rehearsal dinner, it can also be built-in to the wedding expenses by both the bride and groom.

Given the more relaxed standards of modern times, other relatives, close friends, or even the couple themselves can plan and pay for the event. Whoever throws the party should definitely confer with the bride and groom to avoid any conflict with the theme, menu, or decorations of the wedding.

rehearsalinvatationInvitations should be sent at least four weeks before the wedding; or a simple phone call informing the guests of the time, location, and perhaps formality of dress. Usually rehearsal dinners are informal affairs, however a classy restaurant can be a welcome counterpoint to a formal dinner.

Consider using place cards to ease seating arrangements. Decorate the dining area with flowers and candles. You may want to mix your guests up a bit to allow them to meet someone they do not know. It is important to arrange seating in a way that will make guests feel comfortable, while at the same time encouraging conversation. Try to keep the guest list small, so that the dinner is intimate enough to invite conversation between people who have never met.

If the attendants gifts have not already been passed out, now is a good time to do so. An early evening is suggested as the events of the wedding day will be exhausting. The bride and her attendants will appreciate their beauty sleep.

The toasts (with perhaps a few roasts – no off-color remarks, please, as children may be present) at the rehearsal dinner are given by the host of the event (usually the groom’s father) first. Next would be the bride’s father, then the best man offers a toast to the bride and groom.

rehearsaltoastThe bride and groom may also toast at the end of the others. The groom with a toast to his bride and her parents and the bride with a toast to her groom and his family. This is an opportunity for them to thank everybody for support, etc. during the engagement. As part of the introductions, the bride and groom can stand and introduce the bridal party one by one and tell a little about each person. This is a great way to put together names to faces and get people laughing.

Not everybody must toast, but this is a perfect time to get the more personal stories and feelings out to the couple in a more intimate atmosphere.

Wedding rehearsal dinner ideas are only limited by your imagination. While there are elements of a rehearsal dinner that are traditional, this is the part of a wedding that has the most flexibility.

Following dinner, of course, is dessert and chit chat. Delegate someone to take some photos. Then the evening usually wraps up, particularly if the wedding is the very next day. Discourage members of the bridal party from capping the evening by going to a club to continue the celebration – everyone should be rested and refreshed for the big day. Bloodshot eyes don’t look good in the wedding photos! 😉

Horror stories abound of the bride, groom, or members of the wedding party showing up at the wedding late, in extremely poor condition, or at a minimum – not rested, after a late night on the town the previous evening as part of the rehearsal dinner festivities. The big celebration should be saved for the wedding day itself, and the rehearsal dinner kept a little more low key and laid back.

breatheNow. . . take a deep breath. Take another. And another. Breathing deeply – in through your nose and out through your mouth – is a powerful force and can wash away your worries and stress in most cases. Breathing in through your nose and out through you mouth is not the normal way to breathe. You have to “think” about breathing this way. When you think about something other than what you are nervous about breathing this way has a calming effect on you. You’re almost there. Take another deep breath.

Quick recap. . .

• The rehearsal dinner is usually hosted by the groom’s parents
• The bride and groom’s parents, step-parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, close friends, the minister, readers, out-of-town guests, the entire wedding entourage and their spouses/live-in-relationships/fiances should be in attendance.
• The rehearsal dinner immediately follows the rehearsal of the ceremony, usually the night before the wedding. (Some prefer to have the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner two days before the wedding to allow a day of rest from the stress of having two busy days in a row.)
• The party can be as formal or informal as you wish
• The party can be hosted at someone’s residence or at a restaurant
• The bride and groom usually offer a toast to their family and friends for their love and support.
• Gifts for the wedding attendants are usually handed out at this time
• Consider using place cards to ease seating arrangements
• Consider an icebreaker game to encourage mingling and establish acquaintances
• Special instrumental music will make this event even more elegant
• Select a location for the rehearsal dinner “close” to the actual rehearsal site
• The toasts will take place during the dinner. Between courses is a perfect spot for the toasts.

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Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (95 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Nervous About the Big Day? Feeling Faint? Here’s What to Do.

Time to rise and shine! It’s your wedding day! Take a few deep breaths and take a couple of cat-like stretches. There is a lot going on today so let’s begin by getting rid of any anxiety or nervousness you may have that might affect you during the ceremony. You might have butterflies in your stomach and your legs may feel like they are turning to jelly.

It is only normal for the bride and groom to fell a bit nervous before the wedding. Nervousness is a state of mind: it occurs because of unpleasant thoughts, fears and worries that plague a person. A little nervousness can give you an edge. It can give you the energy you need to dig deep and do a really good job. Accept your nervousness. It doesn’t need to paralyze you.

Diminish all the negative thoughts that dwell in your head, and stop thinking about nervousness itself. What you think about and speak about, you bring about. The more you keep thinking about how nervous you are, the more you will be unable to let go of those feelings.

Focus! Be in the moment. It may not be easy but do your best. Relax. Breathe. Concentrate. With a little perseverance and confidence, you can Just know that everything will turn out fine. Be happy. Avoid medications, caffeine, alcohol and illegal drugs.

nervousbride3Normally we make blunders because we are nervous and we concentrate more on avoiding mistakes rather than using our skills to perform better. Remember, you can’t get anything wrong because the guests have no clue as to what you will be doing. Knowing that should give a boost to your self-confidence. If you make a mistake, don’t call attention to it. The guests are on your side. They want you to do well.

Plan your rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner two days before the wedding not the day before. This avoids two stressful days in a row and gives you a day of rest before the wedding. Often there is a wonderful party atmosphere at the rehearsal dinner and too much booze can really put a damper on the big day.

Planning a bachelor or bachelorette party? If you must party. . . plan your party a week or more before the wedding and behave yourself. You do not want to start your wedding day with a hangover or with the guilt of something that you know you should not have done.

Get to bed early the night before your wedding, or else you may have baggy, puffy circles under your red-rimmed eyes. Lack of food and sleep can also cause your blood pressure to drop. Take good care of yourself. Take a brisk five-minute walk. Sometimes the movement of your body will help release feelings of nervousness. Treat yourself to some alone time and relax with a warm bath and some hot tea. Meditate. Aroma therapy might help. Burn your favorite incense. Close your eyes and see the perfect wedding that you know is possible.

stressedladyEven if you don’t ordinarily eat breakfast, eat a good breakfast and substitute healthy juices for coffee. You’re standing at the alter, about to say your vows, and all of a sudden you hear a growl. Opps! Then it dawns on you that it’s coming from your own tummy. Be sure to have a very light snack before you head down the aisle.

It’s important to keep your energy up. Crackers and cheese and a Pepsi are better than nothing. Eat some fruit, such as bananas, apricots, and nectarines, which are high in potassium. This keeps your electrolytes balanced and helps give you energy. Eat before you dress, or cover up your clothes to avoid any accidental food stains.

It never pays to be undernourished at the wedding. You will look tired and drawn, and you could faint if you don’t get enough breakfast. Eating before the wedding will give you energy for your big day and you won’t feel light-headed.

Groom’s usually sweat buckets while some brides (and grooms) have been known to faint.

guyfaintFeeling faint at the ceremony? Swaying back and forth is one of the signs that someone may be close to fainting. Reach out. Let someone know if you can. The first thing you do is support yourself. Hold tight to the groom or someone nearby. Remember to breathe. This is important. One on the tricks I learned as a professional speaker was to breathe in slowly through my nose and out slowly through my mouth if I was a little nervous during the introduction to my speech. You have to think about breathing that way and when you think about something other than what you are nervous about it has a calming effect that can help you gain your composure. Keep breathing like this a few moments until you begin to feel better.

IMPORTANT: Do not lock your knees. Remember to slowly shift your weight from one foot to the other. Never stand perfectly still. Keeping your legs stiff while standing for a long period of time can interfere with your circulation and cause the blood to pool in your lower extremities. The brain needs the oxygen that the heart pumps to it. Locking your knees slows that process down. If the blood has trouble getting to your brain, you may be in danger of passing out. Keep your knees loose and shift your weight occasionally, especially if you start to feel any numbness. Slight movements will help keep the blood flowing.

Stay hydrated. Drink plenty of fluids during the day, especially if it’s hot or excessively dry. Stick with water, ginger ale, or other clear liquids in case there is an accidental spill. Avoid alcohol. Alcohol dehydrates you and can make you dizzy or light-headed. The effects will be stronger if you haven’t eaten much. Steer clear of caffeine.

Never take any new medication. Well-meaning friends may offer you sedatives or nerve pills to help calm you on your big day, but don’t be persuaded.

nervousbride2Face the minister with your backs to the guest – at least, at first. In my ceremonies, about 8 to 9 minutes into the ceremony I ask the bride and groom to face each other. For those who do not like to speak or be in front of people, this gives them a little time to get used to standing there. Look at the minister or at each other – not at the guests. Enjoy the moment. Savor the connection you’re making with the person you want to be with, and do your best to forget all the rest.

Choose temperature-appropriate clothing. In Arizona, it’s very hot during the summer. Most of the weddings in June, July and August are indoors or in the late evening. Avoid long-sleeved dresses and bulkier synthetic fabrics that don’t breathe.

If you’re getting married outdoors in Arizona, make your attire matches the climate. Go with silk or linen and other light fabrics that let the air in against your skin. Skip the tuxes for the guys and consider linen suits or go with something even more casual.

Read, “Getting Married in Arizona? Here’s the Latest Scoop!

If you are planning on saying some of your own vows, remember this: DO NOT try to memorize them. Write what you are going to say on an index card and when the time comes, have the minister hand you your notes. You may want to write in a little humor. Humor has a tendency to break the tension and help you cope with some of the anxiety and nervousness you may feel.

The butterflies in your stomach usually begin to disappear as you walk down the aisle and see the man of your dreams waiting for you at the altar.

Just for fun, take this quiz from “The Wedding Book” to see what type of bride you are! What Kind of Bride are You?

BONUS Article: Nervous on My Wedding Day
Writing Your “Personal Promises (Vows)”

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, November 16, 2009

Testing! Testing!

Test your wedding day shoes!

If you think you will have an opportunity to sit down during your wedding day. . . forget it! It’s not likely.

Most likely you will be on your feet throughout the day and into the night. . . dancing the night away and greeting family and friends that you haven’t seen for a while.

Be sure to break in any new shoes you plan to wear long before the wedding. If they are a tight fit, visit a shoe shop and have them stretched a little.

The last thing you need is sore feet on your honeymoon.

Get lots of rest the night before your wedding. Consider having your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner at least “two” days before your wedding if possible. That separates two stressful days and gives you time to catch up on any last minute things you may need to do.

It’s also a good idea because sometimes the groom and the groomsmen like to head out after the rehearsal dinner for a little social lubricant (if you know what I mean). Hangovers are not a good idea to have on your wedding day. Having your rehearsal dinner “two” days before your wedding give everyone a day to recover.

Want to be comfortable for the “first dance?” Relieve the pain of heels by getting some reliable and foldable flats. Click here!

Here’s a great idea for your honeymoon.

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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