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Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Crafting A Wedding to Remember

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Friday, July 31, 2015

The Pros And Cons Of Planning A Big Wedding

Izabella Zaydenberg, Guest Author

Every little girl loves planning her wedding: what dress she’ll wear, where she wants to have it, what kind of cake she wants to eat.

No little girl, however, has answers to questions about seating arrangements or how she plans to pay for everything. We might all want the Carrie and Big wedding (before he left her at the library, that is), but no one wants to think about precisely what it takes to pull off the fairy-tale ending. All we envision is a gigantic wedding with every friend, family member and stuffed animal in attendance.

WED-ProsConsBig weddings are the epitome of pomp and circumstance. If you choose to have one, you should know what goes into it. Check out our pros and cons, with plenty of advice from the experts (AKA, people that are paid to deal with kicking and screaming brides on a day-to-day basis).

Pro: “Big” doesn’t always mean “big.”

A big wedding is entirely subjective, but you knew that already.

“I’ve spoken to people who say they want a small wedding of 160 people and others call and say they want a big wedding of 120,” explained Rachel Sackheim, the Director of Sales and Events at Brooklyn Winery. “A big wedding largely depends on where you grew up and how big your family is. In the New York area, a large wedding is generally defined as anything at or over 200 guests. South American weddings can be upwards of 400 to 600 guests while a midwest wedding might be large at 120. Big is based on whatever the couple is used to.”

Pro: Large weddings require as much work as smaller ones.

Andrea Freeman, the MVP of weddings who planned Ian Somerhalder’s nuptials to Nikki Reed, insists that “big weddings aren’t any more work to plan than intimate celebrations.”

The reasoning behind it is simple: if you’re planning a wedding, you’ll already be thinking of the little details. The number of people only changes the quantity, not the actual minuscule moving parts.

Con: You might have to sell a kidney to pay it off.

Sackheim explains that your budget is really the first thing to keep in mind when planning a big shebang.

“The most expensive part of a wedding is the per person price, and as you increase the guest count, you increase the food and beverage, labor, furniture, decorations and anything else that you need.”

The easiest way to decrease the overall cost? Knock some names off your guest list.

Sackheim suggests asking yourself, “Do you really need coworkers from a job you had 3 years ago there, or would you prefer to provide a better overall experience for your closest family and friends?”

Con: You need to budget time.

“I tell my couples to plan on spending 2 minutes with each wedding guest,” Freeman says. “Just remember that you’re not visiting with guests every moment — you also want time to dance, eat, cut your cake. Basically, once your list is north of 200, you’ll want to add time.”

Sackheim agreed: “A lot of couples feel that they need to act as hosts and want to greet and welcome each of their guests. That can be extremely time consuming and stressful and takes away from the couple’s enjoyment of the evening.”

“A large wedding,” she adds, “can make it difficult to seek out and spend time with the most important people there.”

If a large wedding can be an excuse to ditch your in-laws and your scary Aunt Lucy, maybe that’s not so bad after all.

Pro: You get to have a giant party.

No surprise here: The more people you invite, the crazier a bash you can expect.

“A large room full of people who all showed up to see you is an incredibly amazing experience,” Sackheim explained, “I personally had a wedding of 208 guests, and looking out over that room was a wonderful, beautiful feeling.”

Pro: Nobody is left behind.

When you have a large wedding, you don’t have to worry about leaving anyone out or having to turn anyone down.

Sackheim warned that creating a guest list is one of the most difficult parts of wedding planning — there are the bride and groom’s list, the bride’s family’s list and the groom’s family’s list.

“Putting a limit on any one of those groups can often lead to tension, so opting for a larger wedding can ease some stress,” she added.

Con: It’s not as intimate.

When Aparna Suresh married her husband, Dhruvan, she had a party that consisted almost 800 guests. A large part of her decision to opt for such a large wedding was because it was culturally appropriate. She explained her parents insisted on it.

The downside of having that many people at your wedding? Not knowing who the f*ck showed up or not.

“The entire experience loses its intimacy,” Suresh explained, “There are so many people you barely know who are either from your husband’s side and not related to you or are your parents’ friends from 20 years ago.”

Good luck remembering your great aunt’s boyfriend’s name, too. By the end of the day, Suresh warned, “You won’t remember anyone’s name when you have so much other sh*t happening.”

Con: Seating is going to be a b*tch.

Everyone has family and friend drama — and if you’re going to invite everyone you have to take all that interpersonal sh*t into account.

“First rule of thumb is to have assigned tables,” Sackheim recommends, “and it’s even better to have assigned place settings. It eliminates any awkwardness that guests might have if they’re trying to figure out where to sit on their own.”

Suresh agreed: “Seating was one of the biggest challenges. Choosing large tables of people that will get along with one another — that’s hard to find!”

Pro: You can hire someone to take care of all the stuff you don’t feel like dealing with.

If you’d rather bury yourself in a ditch than try and figure out flowers and seating arrangements, hire a wedding planner. You don’t have to opt for an expensive year-round one, either.

“If you know that the wedding is going to be big,” Sackheim suggests, “It’s a great idea to have a month-of or day-of planner, in addition to the venue-provided staff to make sure that everything goes off without a hitch.”

Still unsure if you really need to splurge on the extra assistance?

“Having a planner means having someone to make sure every vendor is in place with all of their needs, someone to keep the timeline moving and someone to wrangle everyone into place, from getting guests seated for the ceremony to finding Grandma for photos.”

Pro: You get all the swag.

This is perhaps the biggest pro of all: A large wedding means more guests, and more guests mean more presents.

Suresh enthused that one of the best things about her massive wedding was that due to the sheer number of attendees, she received “a load of money and presents,” which can be used to help pay off the cost of the wedding.

BONUS Articles: “Oh, About the Reception…”
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IzabellaZaydenbergCopyright 2015 – Izabella Zaydenberg. Izabella joined the Elite Daily team after covering fashion and beauty for Time Out NY and SHEfinds. When she isn’t typing away, she’s playing with her rescue pets and getting angry about Game of Thrones. Follow her on Instagram @belkastrelka.

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Tuesday, July 7, 2015

5 Good Reasons to Hire a Wedding Planner!

Alexa Price, Guest Author

1. Hire a Wedding Planner to save money! ~ Budgeting is one of the most challenging aspects of planning a wedding. Think of your wedding planner as a financial advisor. An experienced planner will help you navigate the tough conversations such as who is paying. Planners are familiar with costs and how to best allot your money to the areas you value. A planner can create a realistic budget, secure the best pricing from trusted vendors, and manage payments. Lastly a wedding planner is an invaluable resource when it comes to cost-saving ideas. Would you like to save money? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

WEDweddingPlanner2. Hire a Wedding Planner to save time! ~ Time is truly a valuable commodity. It seems as if in today’s world there is never enough. Planning a wedding is very time consuming with many hours per week spent researching, planning, meeting, and coordinating. It can take over your life. Think of your wedding planner as a personal assistant who takes care of the details while you enjoy making the fun decisions and spending time with your fiancé in the days leading up to your wedding. Would you like to save time? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

3. Hire a Wedding Planner to save yourself from headaches and worry! ~ Headaches and worry are two things most people will likely experience when planning a wedding — with numerous checklists and the fear of overlooking an important detail. When is a payment due? Did you order your Grandmothers corsage and one for Great-Aunt Sally? Your wedding planner has your back and will keep on top of all the details and action items for you. You won’t lose sleep worrying and Great-Aunty Sally will be delighted you remembered her. Would you like less headaches and worry? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

4. Hire a Wedding Planner to maintain your love and relationships! ~ Relationships and memories with the ones you love are the most important things in life, but it is easy to lose sight of this when planning a wedding. This is an emotional time as you and your love ones are faced with important decisions that involve money, time, etiquette, and tradition. Think of your planner as a trusted therapist. A wedding planner can help you keep things in perspective by providing sound advice, solutions, and guidance throughout the entire planning process. Would you like maintain your love and relationships? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

5. Hire a Wedding Planner to minimize stress and maximize fun! ~ Stress is unpleasant, unhealthy, and can test the best relationships. Planning a wedding with little prior experience and expertise can create a lot of unwanted stress. Wedding planners have years of experience planning weddings and can navigate the process with ease on your behalf allowing you to enjoy your engagement period with the one you love. A great wedding planner specializes in making every meeting a fun memorable experience.

Larry’s NOTE: A Wedding Planner acts as your “go to person” – The average wedding has from 15 to 25 different vendors. Combine that with the entire wedding party and all of the guests and that is a lot of people with questions and concerns! By hiring a wedding planner, brides and grooms can simply tell others to “talk to the wedding planner!”

True story: Ten minutes before the start of the Zachary Salter wedding below, someone took my wedding book with the ceremony I was about to perform. There I was with no wedding book, no wedding ceremony and 10 minutes to go before the wedding was to begin. I immediately notified Alexa Price and she smiled and said, “No problem!” as she handed me a hard copy of the ceremony that I had sent to the bride. WoW! Close call. Saved by the Wedding Planner! The show must go on! Thanks, Alexa!

Congratulations to Mr. & Mrs. Zachary Salter. Renee del Castillo and Zach Salter were married at 5:00 p.m., Saturday, May 9, 2015 at JW Marriott Scottsdale Camelback Inn Resort & Spa, Paradise Valley, AZ.
Wedding Venue: Marjorie Jackson, JW Marriott Scottsdale Camelback Inn Resort & Spa, Paradise Valley, AZ. http://www.Marriott.com/
Wedding Planner: Alexa Price, Simply Modern Events, Greater Phoenix, AZ. http://SimplyModEvents.com
Wedding Officiant: Larry James, Scottsdale, AZ. http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com/ & Blog: http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com/

BONUS Articles: Brides: Need Help Planning Your Wedding?
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Alexa-PriceCopyright © 2015 – Alexa Price. In 2010 Alexa Price moved to Arizona and started using her skills to design and create amazing events. She found intense fulfillment as she helped many loved ones celebrate their most important moments in life. In 2013 she created Simply Modern Events from her little studio in the Melrose District. I absolutely love my job! She understands events can be stressful but aims to ease stress through simple, clear, and uncomplicated transactions with her customers.

Larry James NOTE: Alexa Price get 5 stars from me. Working with her was a pleasure.

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NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Friday, August 29, 2014

Brides: Need Help Planning Your Wedding?

Keeping in mind that your wedding will most likely be the largest and certainly the most emotionally charged party you will ever throw, hiring a Wedding Consultant just makes sense. They should be at the top of your wedding vendor list.

They can take much of the legwork out of the planning process, allowing you and your fiance to relax and enjoy being the guests of honor at your wedding. Considering that it often takes as many as 250 hours to plan a wedding, I would ask, “How much is YOUR time worth?”

WEDconsultantYou should contact a professional wedding consultant as soon as the engagement ring goes on your finger. Every bridal consultant, event coordinator, wedding planner and wedding specialist is different. From wedding to wedding, the job of a wedding planner is never the same. Some of them work alone, some of them have a part time assistant or two and some of them have a large staff. Some of them will coordinate, oversee, and manage “your plans” and some of them will “create” the wedding that you want from your “wish list.” They make sure that all of their client’s best laid plans are carried out on your wedding day to ensure you can enjoy your day to the fullest.

Hire a competent Wedding Consultant. Anyone that belongs to the Association of Bridal Consultants is a good pick. They are professionals – trust them. They know what is in style and what will look good. A consultant will ease the stress level of everyone involved… including you! They will offer vendor choices to the bride based on that information and will set up and attend interviews along with the bride.

Aside from planning and organizational skills, they have negotiating abilities, and business acumen, budgeting and project management abilities, creative flair, people skills and much more.

Can’t afford one? A Wedding Consultant may be much more affordable than you think. You will save your own time and effort and save money because they know who to call to get the best deals. They will make sure you get all the details “in writing.” No matter how small the detail, make sure it is in your contract. As the bride, you don’t want to be running around taking care of logistics or (worst case scenario) putting out fires.

Wedding consultants not only have a lot of know-how when it comes to coordination, but they also have a lot of valuable relationships with other vendors that can end up saving you quite a bit of money in the long run. They can help you stay on track with your budget, allocate funds correctly, and steer you in the right direction so you won’t have to waste money on having to learn things the hard way when it comes to vendors, deposits, favors, an experienced wedding officiant, catering, etc.

The bottom line is… most of today’s brides are hiring wedding vendors from the Internet rather than at the recommendation of a wedding professional. Most brides do not know how to create wedding day time-lines. Most brides do not know how to manage transportation. Most brides do not know how to write rental orders. Most brides do not understand that DIY (do it yourself) can spell disaster. Most brides think they can manage their wedding planning but as the day approaches, realize how little they have time for.

Most brides do not understand that having a planner with them throughout the planning process will actually save them time, energy and money! There has never been a better time to explain the importance of a qualified wedding planner. Take the time to educate yourself.

abclogoThe Association of Bridal Consultants is the only organization exclusively dedicated to serving wedding professionals worldwide. They have 4,000+ members who encompass the entire scope of the wedding industry and strive to increase wedding industry professionalism. I have been a member of the Association of Bridal Consultants since 2008 and hang out with the wedding consultants in the Greater Phoenix Area. Our monthly meetings are all about training wedding consultants and vendor members to be aware of the latest trends and to help us be the best we can be. If you need a referral to a Wedding Consultant give me a call on my Cell. Need a reference for my services as a Professional Wedding Consultant, click here!

BONUS Articles: 18 Essential Questions to Ask a Wedding Consultant
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New Rules… for Wedding Consultants
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Top 10 Reasons to Hire a Wedding Planner
The Myth of “Day of” Wedding Planning

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Rules of Engagement. . .

Filed under: Wedding Planning,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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He popped the question. You said yes. Yippee! You are now engaged! A marriage proposal is exciting, but it’s also serious. You’ve just agreed to commit to one another — for forever. You’ve offered each other your hearts… now what?

offermyheartAfter you decide to get married it can seem intimidating and scary knowing you have to plan a wedding, and you probably don’t know where to begin. Here are a few suggestions that may help:

First a quick note: I have numbered the first 7 to-dos which I believe are the most important and added a few other suggestions.

1. Tell your family and friends ~ Most brides and grooms cannot wait to share the exciting news with their family and friends. Most consider it an engagement no-no to not pick up the phone and call your family members and friends. All of them. No one likes to be the last to know – and getting the news via mass e-mail, Twitter update or Facebook is especially in bad taste.

2. Size your ring and get it insured ~ Once the engagement rings goes on your finger, you won’t be able to stop staring at your hand. Nothing can replace the sentimental value of your ring, but if something happens to it, at least you can get your (or his) money back. If you have home owner’s or renter’s insurance, call to add the ring to your policy. You may need an official appraisal before you can officially add the ring, so call the insurance broker to see what paperwork is required.

3. Pick a tentative date ~ You will need to talk about a time frame for your wedding date, even if you don’t choose an exact date right away. The first thing people will want to know is: “When’s the wedding?” Set a tentative date so you can keep your family and friends in the loop. You can always make it permanent after you have the venue, the wedding officiant, etc.

4. Hire a full-time Wedding Consultant ~ Can’t afford a Wedding Consultant? Think again! Are you an expert in negotiating with bakers, caterers, etc., for the best prices, finding the ideal venue, organizing party favors and all the other details you haven’t even thought of yet? They can help you set a budget and offer suggestions of where to cut if someone you really want to hire is more than your budget allows. They can help you stay on track with your budget, allocate funds correctly, and steer you in the right direction so you won’t have to waste money on having to learn things the hard way when it comes to vendors, deposits, favors, catering, etc. I truly believe that – in the long run – you will actually save money because they know the ends-and-outs of the wedding business and they can get you started in the right direction.

5. Choose a wedding venue ~ You will need to coordinate choosing the venue with creating your guest list (#6). A firm count is not needed to look at venues, however one of the first questions the venue will ask is how many guest you’ll be hosting. You can usually check the venue’s Website for guest limits.

5. Book your Wedding Officiant/Minister ~ I’ve been an award winning, wedding officiant since 2002. My experience has been that most couples wait until the last minute to choose the person who makes the pronouncement of marriage! In all 50 states you must have a judge, justice of the piece or an ordained minister or wedding officiant perform your wedding ceremony. I have yet to understand why this is last on the bride and groom’s list of things-to-do. It doesn’t make sense. Over the years so many couples have called at the last minute – two or three months in advance – to book me only to find that I am already booked. Don’t wait to book the person who will be most responsible for the most important part of your wedding… the wedding ceremony! Many times, 3 months is not enough time. The good ones are the most active (a full-time Wedding Officiant is best) and often book their weddings anywhere from 6 months to 1 1/2 years in advance.

6. Start your wedding savings account ~ Weddings can cost thousands of dollars. It is never good to start your marriage with several credit cards charged to the max. Today many couples are responsible for the cost of their weddings. If you are on your own this is a great idea. Deposit a set amount every paycheck that’ll go toward wedding-related expenses only. Another idea is to start a Honeymoon Bridal Gift Registry.

7. Create A Guest List ~ Because your wedding’s size determines where you’ll hold the reception, how much it will cost (prices usually rise by guest) and whether travel will be involved, creating a guest list is one of the first and most important things to do. It will help with planning your budget. So make your list; your fiancé and both families should do the same. Remember: Send save-the-date cards to your guest list.

Caution: Don’t be blindsided by your partner’s debt. If you or your partner are knee deep in credit card debt, you need to talk about it “before” you tie the knot. Waiting until after marriage and then finding out that your partner has $45,000 in credit card debt could be the straw that broke the camel’s back.

Other things to consider:

Create a wedding blog. WordPress.com is a good place to begin. You can always spice it up later with wedding details, hotel advice, maps, quizzes, daily thoughts and whatever other wedding whimsies you want to share.

Make your OWN wedding plans ~ Have it YOUR way! Do what YOU want to do. Listen for ideas from the ones who love your, however be sure to stand up for what you want your wedding to be. This is not your mother’s wedding… it’s your wedding so you get to do whatever you want to do.

Choose your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen carefully ~ Remember, the earlier you ask them, the sooner you can enlist their help. Keep in mind that your wedding party is agreeing to spend their hard-earned money and donate their precious time — be considerate and kind by informing everyone about all your plans, showing them a good time, and making sure they know how much you appreciate them. Be clear to them about their responsibilities and if anyone is not 100% on board with your ideas, choose someone else, especially the Maid/Matron of Honor. I know, that’s harsh, but this is YOUR wedding and your attendants must support you 100%!

Be considerate of your long distance travelers ~ Securing blocks of hotel rooms is a must, or at least providing a list of hotels that are close to the wedding venue.

Start a Journal ~ Let the ideas, dreams, schemes and pie-in-the-sky plans flow to paper. This will be a time of ten thousand moments you won’t want to forget, as well as some frustrating times that you’ll need to vent about, and not necessarily to your partner. The journal you keep while planning your wedding will not only help you through this time, but it will be something you cherish for the rest of your life.

There are many other things you should be aware of when you begin planning your wedding. The Article Index on this Wedding Blog lists hundreds of wedding topics from which you can choose. Please seriously review #4 if you want the best bang for your bucks! Call me if you need referrals. I belong to the Association of Bridal Consultants and can guide you to some of the very best Wedding Consultants in the Greater Phoenix area. Call my Cell anytime up until 9 p.m. MST. 480-205-3694.

BONUS Articles: The Best Use of 10% of Your Budget: Hire a Coordinator!
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Making Your Guest List Budget-Friendly!
Just Got Engaged? Follow These Steps!

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, July 6, 2012

Listen Up Guys! – Planning a Wedding is a Team Sport!

I know – I’ve said it before, but you grooms really need to pay attention! It often seems that women tend to do more than their fair share of the work when it comes to pulling off the perfect wedding. Teams of one don’t work very well. Wedding planning isn’t just for brides.

couple-doing-contractsMore than once recently when I heard the bride ask the groom for his opinion he answered, “Whatever you want,” or “It doesn’t matter to me,” or (worse of all) “I really don’t care.”

Guys, the bride wants you to care. When you partner thinks you don’t care she usually gets disappointed or annoyed or pushy. And guess where that began. Many men display a disappointing level of apathy when it comes to wedding planning. That’s a bad way to get your marriage started.

When she asks for your input she sincerely would like to hear your opinion. You’re engaged so GET ENGAGED in the planning of your wedding. Your degree of participation is a test of your teamwork – maybe even how you will work together after the ceremony and when you begin your life together. Your lack of involvement could be a red flag to her. It is important for engaged couples to work together on your weddings, because it will help to prepare you for what lies ahead. Working together as a team now, sets the tone for the marriage. Since marriage is about partnership, the wedding planning should be a partnership too.

Never be a groom who sits on the couch watching football, grunting random approval for her whirlwind of ideas for invitations, favors, flowers, music, guest lists, food, locations, dresses… well, you get the idea. There are colors to consider, flowers to choose, cakes to taste, vendors to meet and contracts to sign. This is definitely not a one person project. Pitch in. She needs your assistance. When she shows you a photo of a wedding dress she admires, give her input. When you take the initiative to help and realize how much she is grateful and appreciates you for it that will be your reward.

datebookShe needs you involved for several reasons. There are many decisions to be made during the wedding planning process, some of which can be very difficult. When she requests your opinion she is asking for your commitment to help her. She wants you to make everything happen “together.” You really need to be in on all of the details. It’s an opportunity for you to demonstrate teamwork.

If a decision needs to be made the day of the wedding, when the bride is in the limo on the way to the wedding venue, you better be ready to make a quick decision. Those decisions are usually time-sensitive and will not wait until the bride arrives. If you are engaged in the decision making from the beginning you will be aware of what’s going on and your opinion will be of value.

Your sweetheart needs your balance and perspective. Not participating can cause unneeded stress. She should not feel the weight of the entire responsibility for the entire event. Share the responsibility and share the stress. I believe that you should be asking her opinion about things too. “What do you think, dear?” Surprise her by asking if she would like to write some of your own wedding vows (I call these “Personal Promises“) for the wedding ceremony. Collaborate or write your own and let what you say be a surprise at the wedding (a better idea!).

spaCome to the wedding appointment with the Minister or Wedding Officiant. Help choose the wedding venue and go with her when she visits the other wedding vendors. She needs your input. Attend the Bridal Shows “together!” Having the groom involved with wedding planning is not a new phenomenon. Men who respect their partners go the extra mile – they fully participate.

Start planning the honeymoon. That should be right up your alley. Call Larry James for some very special ideas and savings for a Sandals Honeymoon! Once you decide on a destination that’s right for the both of you, work on a budget together. Surprise her with some of the details, eg., plan a special day at the spa, etc. Suggest that you take some dancing lessons together and put on a special show during the reception.

Don’t be clueless at your wedding! Don’t be a fiancée who’s sitting on the sidelines. Be part of the team! Make these important decisions together. Make a list and choose to help in the areas that best use your expertise. Many men are happy to pitch in with the planning in ways that allow them to best use their particular talents.

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