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9 Ways to Guarantee S#x on Your Wedding Night

Rachel Morgan, Guest Author

According to an annual wedding survey carried out by top hen and stag party providers Chillisauce.com, only 33% of newlyweds have sex on their wedding night. So we’ve come up with 9 top tips to make sure you do…

1. Don’t drink excessively ~ Nerves and excitement can make it all too easy to quaff Champagne, but if you drink to excess you’ll be falling asleep before the first dance. Instead, aim to have a glass of water in between drinks, and switch to sparkling water or fruit juice by the end of the night to perk you up.

WEDdingNight2. Luscious lingerie is never a bad idea ~ We girls are well aware of the power of sexy lingerie. It can make you feel empowered, beautiful, and it boosts your self-esteem to no end. Be sure to wear some stunning wedding lingerie under your dress so you have a constant reminder of what to look forward to – especially the look on your new husband’s face when he sees you in bed later!

3. Bat those eyelashes ~ Don’t forget to flirt with each other during the day! You don’t want to do anything outrageous – but a coy look and a whisper in his ear can work wonders. Let him know with longing looks that you can’t wait until the day is done and you’re finally alone together.

4. Reflect on your day ~ We can’t say it enough – this day is about the two of you. With all the partying, eating, photographing and conversing, it can be difficult to get a moment alone. After the party is over, avoid running straight off to the bedroom. Instead, take a moment to reflect on the day. Running through what’s just happened will make you feel even more connected with your new husband.

5. Where’s your hubby? ~ It may sound ridiculous, but it is surprisingly easy to forget about your other half during the day. Whether you’re getting ready with your bridesmaids, posing for the photographer, or chatting to friends and family, all of this can take over and cause you to neglect each other. Of course, it’s not possible to remove yourself from the wedding necessities, but be sure to go through as much of the day as possible with your husband by your side.

6. Sleep well ~ You’re sure to be full of wedding jitters, but it’s important to get your solid eight hours of sleep the night before your wedding! A good night’s rest will make sure that you are revitalized and ready to last the whole day – and night!

7. Don’t sweat the small stuff ~ Your wedding is a day you’ve been planning for months… perhaps even years. It can be easy to allow minor details to become a source of irritation or even cause an argument or a tiff with your family, friends or new husband. Keep a level head and don’t let anything ruin your day – the most important thing is that you get married to the person you love.

8. Rose petals, anyone? ~ You’ve seen it in all the movies: rose petals on the bed, candle light, romantic music and an ice bucket with Champagne. Clichéd, right? Yes, of course it is – but clichés are clichés for a reason. Setting the scene in the honeymoon suite can make intimacy hard to resist.

9. Be realistic ~ Reckon you’re going to have the most mind-blowing sex of your life on your wedding night? It could happen… but probably not. No matter what you do during the day, the excitement of your wedding will have you both filled with adrenaline, the eating and drinking will have you both full, and the dancing, chatting and general activities of the day will have you both feeling drowsy. If you follow the above tips, romance is certainly on the cards for the end of the night, but chances are it won’t be ground-breaking sex. Instead, keep your expectations realistic and focus instead on the closeness and intimacy you feel with the man who is now your husband. And you never know – it could end up being your most exciting sex yet!

Is it okay to not have sex on your wedding night? ~ “Actually, recent wedding stats show that it’s completely normal to not have sex on your wedding night! And it’s not hard to see why. You’ve been up since sunrise getting your hair and make-up sorted, not to mention sipping on champagne from the early hours, (only because it calms the pre-wedding nerves, obviously), then proceed to standing on your feet pretty much all day long. All the excitement a bride and groom endure on their wedding day can be tiring, so really, there’s no surprise that over half of newly married couples end their wedding day in the classiest way possible: passing out.” ~ Leah Messenger

Larry’s NOTE: If the night after you exchanged your vows ended with an orgasm, consider yourself lucky: 52 percent of newlyweds say they didn’t have sex on their wedding night, finds a recent survey of 2,128 people by the U.K. coupon website Voucher Codes Pro.

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Copyright © 2015 – Rachel Morgan. Editor Rachel is Wedding Ideas Magazine’s big cheese, which is appropriate as she absolutely adores the stuff. When asked what was her favorite, she simply drifted off into a haze of cheddary thoughts. Now that’s true love.

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Monday, October 24, 2011

Wedding Night Whoopee: Hot ‘n Heavy or Hype?

Filed under: Honeymoons,Intimacy,Wedding Night Sex — Larry James @ 11:50 am
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Sorry to say, but according to the brides and grooms who were willing to share in a brief, unofficial survey with me… making love on their wedding night is mostly hype, especially the hot ‘n heavy type!

Planning a wedding and all the things that are connected to it, eg., bridal showers, sending invitations, the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, and finally the wedding day – with the cocktail party and the reception – can leave a couple nearly completely drained, exhausted and making love on their wedding night is the farthest thing from their minds – (for most, anyway!).

coupleinbedAND… for those who did, most admitted that that they could have been very easily talked out of it. One couple told me that they abstained for several weeks leading up to the wedding day so they could be ready for action and admitted that they were so exhausted from the wedding day that it wasn’t quite as pleasurable as they expected. Most were simply too pooped to be amorous. One bride told me, “I would never risk choosing a partner for life without knowing if we are sexually compatible. We had fun getting to know each other sexually (condoms, of course) about a year after we became engaged. Foreplay is a very important part of making love.”

About one in three brides-to-be expect to hop in the sack and snooze after the wedding reception. According to TheKnot.com, “About one third of all ages spend the wedding night opening gifts, sleeping, counting cash presents, partying with friends.” It’s not at all uncommon – in fact its very common – for newly married couples to be so tired on their wedding night that one or both immediately fall asleep so making love doesn’t happen till the next day.

I bring this up because after talking with newly married couples, most had not discussed their wedding night plans before the wedding. This is a subject that you really need to talk about. If you both agree, it could be a great idea to wait until the morning when you have more time and energy to enjoy making love – then your wedding night intimacy issue is resolved!

So, what the next best thing? How about planning an early afternoon wedding and after the reception take some alone time to rest, relax and reminisce about the day as you cuddle in each others arms. Swap some of the highlights of your wedding day and take a nap. You can plan for your romantic interlude later that evening when you have regained your energy and can take the time to focus solely on each other. Anticipation about what will happen later can only heighten your arousal.

Perhaps a better idea: hold the sexy lingerie, lovely candlelight, a glass of wine and a gorgeous room for the night after your wedding. It’ll be more fun after you had a little rest. In the meantime you can open gifts, make notes about who gave you what and begin to write your “thank yous.”

Long wedding receptions often morph into a night of revelry and celebration. The big day can become a blur. Romantic sex then can be the farthest thing from your mind. Do your best to not be one who drinks so much at the reception that you don’t remember crawling into bed on your wedding night. That’s a no-no!

One bride told me, “Our wedding night was amazing. I have never had sex so good. I am even more amazed that it keeps getting better. We agreed to have no more than two drinks and although we were both tired we did the deed!” As long as you make sure you are both on the same page you should be okay. To do it, or not to do it – that is the question. It’s great fun getting to know each other intimately.

You can always make up for not making love on your wedding night on your honeymoon. A groom told me (with a big smile on his face), “We decided to wait until the second night of our honeymoon. After the wedding we were both exhausted. We left for Italy two days after the wedding, went to sleep in each others arms the first night and the second night…WoW!”

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What about those couples who don’t believe you should have sex before you are married? It’s a personal choice. Every couple has to make the decision that is best for them. If you are in that camp, remember that while sex is a natural part of life, it’s a bit more complicated than you might think. Your first time doesn’t need to be adventurous and perfect, you have the rest of your life for that – just do everything you can to make it special. To have pleasurable sex together there is a “learning curve.” Don’t expect fireworks the first time. It may be wise to seek advice from a sex therapist, a marriage counselor, relationship coach or talk about it together with a trusted friend. Read a good book about sex. “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers” is a good one (if I do say so myself). The more you talk about it with each other, the better off you will be.

Guys… Drink in moderation. If you both agree to make love on your wedding night, you don’t want to have trouble rising to the occasion later. The main thing to remember is making your bride feel special. If you can do that, you’ve already succeeded.

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