Thomas Witham, Guest Author
“Tying the Knot” is a wedding ceremony that can be added to the main wedding ceremony whereby a couple ties a fisherman’s knot as their ceremony’s Primary Option. As a primary option, it is used after the exchanges of vows and rings. The couple, using large colored cords, ties this knot as the officiant reads a commentary. That commentary appears below. The theme of the commentary is that, like a fisherman’s knot, marriage strengthens and supports the bride and groom through life and, like the knot, their marriage grows stronger under pressure. A YouTube.com video of my first couple to use this option, Jeremy and Melanie, appears below.
Below is a sample of a “Tying the Knot” ceremony.
_____ and _____ have just sealed their relationship with the giving and receiving of rings. Today their relationship is further symbolized by the tying of a fisherman’s knot; a true lovers knot, for it is the strongest there is; its bond will not break, becoming ever stronger under pressure.
These two cords represent each of you as individuals – as the unique and special gifts you bring to your marriage. As you fasten your pieces together, these actions represent the joining of your two lives into one common purpose. The completed knot represents your future, secure in the knowledge your relationship will continue to be strong, despite the inevitable changes life brings.
Although the fisherman’s knot is one of the simplest to tie, it is also one of the sturdiest. As stress is applied, the knot becomes ever stronger. It is the goal of marriage to achieve a blending of hearts and lives, but like the spaces between these cords formed by the knot, let there also be spaces in your new life together, so each may encourage and nurture the individual growth of the other.
I ask that you now pull on this rope to see it strengthen under pressure while still allowing us to see the individual cords – just as your support of one another as beautiful and blessed individuals strengthens your union. As you hold one another in mutual concern and shared respect, may you continue holding each other tightly in your hearts and form a strong bond, now and forever. Let this knot indicate the strength of your love and be a symbol of your unity from this day forward.
The above words for the “Tying the Knot” ceremony were written by Thomas Witham, Wedding Officiant. Larry’s NOTE: When I get a request to add the “Tying the Knot” ceremony to the wedding ceremony, I allow the bride and groom to edit the words in any way they choose.
Copyright © 2015 – Thomas Witham. Thomas is a leading Chicago Wedding Officiant. As a wedding minister/wedding officiant, he performs wedding ceremonies in any state. He also play a central role in helping couples plan their wedding. Visit Thomas’ Website: www.DayofDreams.com
How to Tie a Fisherman’s Knot
Step 1: Grab ends. Grab a hold of both ends of the rope. The end in your left hand is end B, and the end in your right hand is end A.
Step 2: Cross ends. Cross end B in front of end A so that the end B is behind the loop and pointing down.
Step 3: Pull end B through loop. Pull end B up through the loop and to the left, thus creating a small loop on top of the larger loop below.
Step 4: Pull end B through small loop. Pull end B through the small loop from back to front with your right hand.
Step 5: Tighten knot. Tighten the knot by pulling end B with your right hand, while holding the part of the large loop next to end A in your left hand. You should now have a knot on the top of your large loop, and end A should be able to slide back and forth to make the loop larger or smaller.
Step 6: Pull end A through large loop. Pull end A through the large loop from behind, pull it up, thus creating another small loop on top of the larger loop below.
Step 7: Pull end A through small loop. Pull end A through the small loop from back to front, and pull tightly with your left hand.
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