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Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Tying the Knot ~ A Nice Addition to Your Wedding!

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Thomas Witham, Guest Author

“Tying the Knot” is a wedding ceremony that can be added to the main wedding ceremony whereby a couple ties a fisherman’s knot as their ceremony’s Primary Option. As a primary option, it is used after the exchanges of vows and rings. The couple, using large colored cords, ties this knot as the officiant reads a commentary. That commentary appears below. The theme of the commentary is that, like a fisherman’s knot, marriage strengthens and supports the bride and groom through life and, like the knot, their marriage grows stronger under pressure. A YouTube.com video of my first couple to use this option, Jeremy and Melanie, appears below.

Below is a sample of a “Tying the Knot” ceremony.

_____ and _____ have just sealed their relationship with the giving and receiving of rings. Today their relationship is further symbolized by the tying of a fisherman’s knot; a true lovers knot, for it is the strongest there is; its bond will not break, becoming ever stronger under pressure.

These two cords represent each of you as individuals – as the unique and special gifts you bring to your marriage. As you fasten your pieces together, these actions represent the joining of your two lives into one common purpose. The completed knot represents your future, secure in the knowledge your relationship will continue to be strong, despite the inevitable changes life brings.

Although the fisherman’s knot is one of the simplest to tie, it is also one of the sturdiest. As stress is applied, the knot becomes ever stronger. It is the goal of marriage to achieve a blending of hearts and lives, but like the spaces between these cords formed by the knot, let there also be spaces in your new life together, so each may encourage and nurture the individual growth of the other.

I ask that you now pull on this rope to see it strengthen under pressure while still allowing us to see the individual cords – just as your support of one another as beautiful and blessed individuals strengthens your union. As you hold one another in mutual concern and shared respect, may you continue holding each other tightly in your hearts and form a strong bond, now and forever. Let this knot indicate the strength of your love and be a symbol of your unity from this day forward.

The above words for the “Tying the Knot” ceremony were written by Thomas Witham, Wedding Officiant. Larry’s NOTE: When I get a request to add the “Tying the Knot” ceremony to the wedding ceremony, I allow the bride and groom to edit the words in any way they choose.

Copyright © 2015 – Thomas Witham. Thomas is a leading Chicago Wedding Officiant. As a wedding minister/wedding officiant, he performs wedding ceremonies in any state. He also play a central role in helping couples plan their wedding. Visit Thomas’ Website: www.DayofDreams.com

How to Tie a Fisherman’s Knot

Step 1: Grab ends. Grab a hold of both ends of the rope. The end in your left hand is end B, and the end in your right hand is end A.

Step 2: Cross ends. Cross end B in front of end A so that the end B is behind the loop and pointing down.

Step 3: Pull end B through loop. Pull end B up through the loop and to the left, thus creating a small loop on top of the larger loop below.

Step 4: Pull end B through small loop. Pull end B through the small loop from back to front with your right hand.

Step 5: Tighten knot. Tighten the knot by pulling end B with your right hand, while holding the part of the large loop next to end A in your left hand. You should now have a knot on the top of your large loop, and end A should be able to slide back and forth to make the loop larger or smaller.

Step 6: Pull end A through large loop. Pull end A through the large loop from behind, pull it up, thus creating another small loop on top of the larger loop below.

Step 7: Pull end A through small loop. Pull end A through the small loop from back to front, and pull tightly with your left hand.

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Friday, September 26, 2014

What Kind of Wedding Ceremony Will You Choose?

Here is a list of the many different wedding ceremonies that are available for your wedding. You can choose one or mix several of them together to make it exactly what you want. Make sure that you choose a minister or wedding officiant who is willing to make changes, cut out parts you do not like and add things you would like to have in your ceremony. In other words, someone who will customize the ceremony to your complete satisfaction.

Religious Wedding Ceremony ~ Many religious ceremonies are performed in a church, temple, synagogue, etc., where the bride and/or groom is a member of the congregation, but these are not the only places. A religious wedding ceremony is typically faith-based and can also be performed anywhere. A religious ceremony performed by someone other that the official from the church, etc., can be anything the bride and groom chooses. A minister, priest or rabbi are often restricted from changing the ceremony. Scripture is usually a part of this ceremony and is often more like a sermon than a ceremony.

KindOfCeremoniesSpiritual Wedding Ceremony ~ This ceremony may or may not have scripture. This ceremony can be used in instances where the couple feels they would like a spiritual ceremony without it necessarily being religious. It is generally based upon what the couple have chosen to believe – not necessarily what a particular denomination teaches. The wedding officiant is usually willing to allow the bride and group to express their own spirituality in the words of the ceremony. There may be brief mentions of God (or more – your choice), possibly a prayer and whatever the bride and groom choose, but does not adhere to any particular religious protocol. It may incorporate Native American or New Age elements into it to reflect their spirituality. In my view, this ceremony is often referred to as a non-denominational wedding ceremony.

Non-Religious Ceremony ~ Kind of a cross between a Spiritual and Civil ceremony.

Interfaith Wedding Ceremony ~ This is for the blending of two or more faiths, by including aspects of religion or religious rituals or readings that are symbolic of each faith.

Civil Wedding Ceremony ~ This ceremony is typically held in a courthouse, city hall or judges’ chambers and is officiated by a Justice of the Peace, a judge or a mayor PLUS you have to go through the metal detector to get to them. 😉 It’s short and in my opinion boring and never very romantic. It has simple vows and usually just a handful of close friends as guests and in most cases just two witnesses to sign the marriage license. A wedding officiant can also perform a civil ceremony anywhere you choose. Some officiants will add things link the sand ceremony, the rose ceremony to spice it up a bit. Here is my solution to a Justice of the Peace wedding. Click here!

Non-traditional Wedding Ceremony ~ This ceremony is similar to a civil one, but may have religious overtones as a couple, or one of you, is a member of a “non-traditional” religion. This ceremony gives you the most leeway to “have it your way.” It does not follow the more formal structure and does not include elements of the Christian religion such as prayers, scripture readings and blessings. It can be a blending of cultures (to honor your heritage) or religious faiths.

Theme Wedding Ceremony ~ This ceremony can be anything you want. It may have parts of the other ceremonies described here. I’ve had pirate themed weddings, weddings on Halloween, at the Zoo, in Hot Air Balloons, Celtic, Western Style weddings, Medieval/Renaissance themed weddings and more. These are fun weddings often with costumes to match the theme.

Military Wedding Ceremony ~ This ceremony is usually formal and steeped in military tradition. It requires full dress uniform for enlisted personnel. Rituals vary between the U.S. Armed Forces branches but most incorporate the stunning salute of the Saber Arch that the newlyweds pass under. Often a honor guard is present.

Commitment Ceremony ~ No marriage license is required. The intent is to demonstrate the commitment a couple is making to one another.

Same Sex Wedding Ceremony ~ The term same-sex wedding specifically refers to ceremonies for gay or lesbian couples. As of September 26, 2014, same sex ceremonies are not legal in the state of Arizona. Some same sex couples prefer to have a Commitment Ceremony, not a legal ceremony, but a ceremony with friends and relatives that demonstrate their commitment to each other.

Renewal of Vows Ceremony ~ This ceremony is used to celebrate a special anniversary, mark the couples transition through a difficult time, or just to acknowledge their love. They are often more intimate with only close family and friends or a gathering of many of your friends (It’s party time!). You can watch a video of the “Love in the Hills” event that celebrated the love of more than 650 couples who renewed their wedding vows at the same time on Valentine’s Day in 2014. Go to the home page on my Wedding Website and click on the video in the middle of the page.

There are many “add on” ceremonies that may be added to any of the ceremonies above. See the list by clicking here. They can make your wedding ceremony very special for you and your guests. Light humor is another aspect that some couples may choose.

There are so many ways to perform a wedding ceremony. Many brides and grooms are getting away from the old-fashion, traditional wedding ceremonies. Be sure your minister or wedding officiant is willing to make changes, cut out parts you do not like and add things you would like to have in your ceremony. My belief is that it’s “your” wedding, not the wedding officiant’s wedding. I say… “Have it your way!”

In order to have a legal marriage, couples must purchase a marriage license from the Country Clerk at the Court House. I have performed some of the ceremonies above without the bride and groom purchasing a marriage license. Often there are various reasons the couple may choose to have a ceremony but not be legally married.

You can sneak a peek at my wedding ceremony template that brides and grooms can change, edit and have it however they choose. I guarantee that your ceremony will represent your values and beliefs because you always have the last word on what is said in your wedding ceremony. I promise! I also encourage couples to write some of their own vows. Click here!

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Wednesday, April 23, 2014

How to Find a Qualified Wedding Officiant

It has been my experience that most brides and grooms will pick the date, book the venue, then hire the DJ or Band, Photographer, Videographer, caterer, Photo Booth, etc., and wait until the very last minute to hire the most important person for your ceremony – the wedding officiant. The wedding officant sets the tone for your entire celebration. The really great officiants have very busy schedules. Most of the good ones book months in advance. If you want someone who will perform a really great wedding ceremony, please don’t wait until the last minute.

HOT TIP: Choose your wedding date first. Second, seek out a wedding venue that fits your style and taste. Third, hire your wedding officiant!

mcneil2Before you start looking for a wedding officiant, make sure you know what you want – after all, picking someone to marry you and your partner is something to consider carefully. What kind of ceremony do you want? What kind of vibe do you want for your big day? What would you like your officiant to say? Will they be willing change parts of the ceremony that you don’t like and add something that you do like?

What qualities do you want your officiant to have – would you like them to add a little light humor? Be serious? Do you want the vows to be romantic? Sentimental? Formal? Would you prefer to write some of your own words or vows to add to the ceremony? It’s better to begin thinking about all this before you call someone.

If you’re planning a traditional religious wedding, finding an officiant will be easy. That kind of officiant typically comes along with the place of worship. But if you’re not getting married in a church, temple, or synagogue, what then? Never fear, finding an officiant is possible. Do they charge extra to travel? Most do. It’s usually not too difficult to find an officiant who will come to your location of choice.

If you’ve got the date, have carefully planned your budget, and the wedding venue booked, your next step is to find a qualified wedding officiant.

Are you planning a traditional religious ceremony? If so, first contact your place of worship. Some wedding officiants can perform beautiful spiritual ceremonies. If you’re not getting married in a church, temple, or synagogue finding an officiant should be easier. If you’re looking for an officiant with a specific religious background, you may have to seek them out by narrowing your overall search. Same thing with finding an officiant if you’re looking to have a non-religious, non-spiritual or civil ceremony.

BringQuestionsDo you know someone who has been married recently? Remember to ask your friends and family if they were impressed and satisfied with their officiant. If so, ask for their contact information. Check your wedding venue’s “preferred vendor’ list. Usually only the names of qualified wedding officiants who have worked at the venue are listed. Most will allow you to hire a wedding officiant who is not on their list, unless you purchase a package deal and do not get to choose who performs the ceremony.

Be sure to choose someone who will be a good match for you and your partner. Get to know the officiant you interview. Listen to their speaking voice, their style and personality, and watch videos of them performing a real wedding ceremony Check their references. Bring lots of questions. Click here to read some on the questions you may want to ask.

If you are having a destination wedding and it’s not possible to meet up with the officiant in person before the ceremony, be certain to get references, and definitely spend some time talking by phone about the details of your wedding with them. Be totally satisfied or call someone else!

Caution: Hiring Uncle George or a friend who has never performed a wedding ceremony before is taking a big risk. It’s nice that Uncle George has offered to do it for free, however, always remember you get what you pay for. Sometimes free is good. However, this is your wedding… pay a little more and hire the best. Make the cuts to your budget somewhere else, not the wedding officiant. As I said before, the wedding officant sets the tone for your entire wedding celebration. A poorly trained, inexperienced wedding officiant with a boring ceremony can leave the guests cold and uninspired. If you want a memorable wedding ceremony, choose wisely. Hire someone who has experience and knows the ins-and-outs of a wedding ceremony.

HOT TIP #2: Arrange a time to get together with Larry James – an award winning wedding officiant – for a no-cost, no pressure, no-obligation interview. Larry serves the Greater Phoenix area, Sedona, Flagstaff, Tucson, an occasional beach wedding in Rocky Point, Mexico, and anywhere else your budget allows. (Please excuse the shameless plug!) 😉

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, January 14, 2013

Is a Memorable Wedding Officiant Worth the Splurge?

Naturally… “I” would think so. I am an award winning Wedding Officiant.

HEARTthank-yous1Memorable? My former wedding clients think so. Rave reviews!

A special “Thank you” to them!

How do I know… they send me LoveNotes and write endorsements on WeddingWire.com, talk about me on The Knot and other social media sites.

Sad as it is to say, most of the wedding details that you work so hard on will be mere memories the next day. Some you won’t even remember. The food will be eaten, the dress put away, the monogrammed napkins crumpled, the flowers wilted and the party of the year – your reception (intended to celebrate the wedding ceremony) – will be a distance memory. Be smart. The reception is not the most memorable part of a wedding! Even the guests will tell you that. Sure, it’s great to have a terrific party but when you hire the right wedding officiant, the buzz at the reception should be about the wonderful wedding ceremony.

Don’t hire the first wedding officiant you find online. Take the time to find the right wedding officiant. I promise… it will be worth it.

When asked what most brides and grooms splurge on, seldom does “Wedding Officiant” even make the list. Trends come and go, but your wedding is all about the “wedding ceremony.” If hiring the best wedding officiant stretches your budget, make some cuts in other places. I wish could tell you how many of the brides and grooms that I have talked with that have either hired their “friend” – who backed out at the last minute or had never performed a wedding ceremony – or they hired the “cheapest” officiant they could find and lived to regret it.

mcneilI’ve seen couples splurge on over-the top cakes, a Hummer limousine, a killer honeymoon, or flowers galore. There is nothing wrong with that if you have bags of bucks. Don’t skimp on your wedding officiant. It never ceases to amaze me when someone calls and says, “So-and-so across town only charges $_____!” Comparing prices will seldom get you the right wedding officiant for your wedding. The price should not be the only determining factor. Comparing the words in their wedding ceremony, their willingness to change what you don’t like and their wedding experience will.

I’ve built my wedding career on integrity as a wedding officiant and by demonstrating the “Lagniappe Principle” to every client. Lagniappe has been defined as: an unexpected or indirect benefit or, giving what your clients pay for… and then some. Most are surprised at the level of knowledge and experience that I represent when we first meet. I can honestly say that I have never had a bride and groom who has complained that I didn’t give them much more than they expected. Many refer to the numerous awards I have won and this blog as a example, which – as of this writing – has more than 330 articles, tips, suggestions, add-on ceremonies, etc., about weddings.

weddingwire2013I know you are busy planning the party, but I ask you to remember the most important part of the day – the wedding ceremony. Remember this: “Your wedding ceremony IS your wedding!” If anything from your wedding day is going to be permanently etched on your brains, it’s got to be the moment you look into each other’s eyes and exchange your wedding vows. The ceremony is the reason you are planning this elaborate bash, right? Consider a wedding officiant who will promise to respect your specific wishes and beliefs; vows, readings and who can artfully guide your guests to a better understanding of you as a couple.

Don’t wait until the last minute to book your wedding officiant. The choice wedding dates for the really good ones go fast!

Being budget-conscious is a good thing and the truth is… sometimes the best wedding officiants costs more. Why? Because brides and grooms say they are worth it. I know I am not the most inexpensive wedding officiant, but my former brides and grooms say I am the best! I agree. 😉 You can always find someone cheaper… but better? Never!

Remember, your wedding ceremony is much more than just saying, “I do!”

So, what’s your wedding day splurge going to be?

Suggested reading: Larry’s “Romantic” Wedding Ceremony! ~ This ceremony has a touch of traditional with a few modern twists, a slight Spiritual tint (or not! – your choice) and an emphasis on lots of love and romance! In other words, anything goes – with your approval, of course!

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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