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Sunday, February 6, 2011

Hair Candy for Brides

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haircandyBridal tiaras and other bridal hair accessories for your hair add to the beauty and outfit for the bride, bridesmaid and often the flower girls. It’s becoming increasingly popular for brides to opt for wedding hair accessories instead of the classic tiara. Wedding hair pins are one of the most popular hair accessories.

It seems a bit strange that a hair accessory can make a big difference when it comes to how you look but it is actually true. Bridal hair accessories can attract a generous amount of attention to your hairstyle and can help glam-up your hair, taking it from ordinary to extraordinary.

It goes without saying that your hair should look its best on your wedding day, and whether you choose to wear it down or in an up-do, the right accessories will liven up your hairstyle. The colors of the accessories have the exact meaning as the dress; being in the virginal white outfit means pure and innocent. Adding a touch of pink hightens your sincerity. Red shows the love, yet it shows the passion of love and yellow. . . well, it’s exciting and pretty.

To accentuate their crowning glory, brides use hair accessories that will make them the star of their special day. Non-traditional brides are opting for more personalized and unique headpieces, hair accessories and few a choose veils. With some dazzling and sparkling hair accessories, a bride can be made to expose her most attractive look. Headpieces in gorgeous colors, feathers, flowers, trimmings and veilings are the newest choices for brides who have their own sense of style.

feathercandy2“It was Queen Victoria of England who set up the trend. She was the first monarch who wore white on her wedding day and had a beautiful tiara on her head. From there, it has been a tradition for brides to wear a white wedding gown, and they also adopted the “tiara” as part of their wedding accessories.” ~ Janet Verra

Aside from their gowns, women also spend time and money just to achieve the perfect hair during their special day. Hair accessories lend themselves to your creativity. They give you a perfect chance to personalize your hairstyle in such a way that only you can imagine. Bridal hair accessories can be as elaborate or as simple as you would like. Hair decorators can specify a hair accessory according to the bride’s moods, hair style or whether a wedding is choosing to go cheap or expensive.

You can’t talk about wedding hair accessories without addressing the veil. Some brides prefer a simple veil, while others like to add some sparkle to their veils by using those that have pearls or other gemstones to compliment it. Many brides are going without the big veil that sits on top of the head and hardly any are wearing the veil over their face because it hides their face in the photos.

If your wedding dress is simple, be certain your accessories will make you shine and all the guests wonder what’s on your hair instead of the classical veil. Co-ordinating the wedding gown to the jewelery to the hairstyle, along with the head piece requires some thought and consideration of the many options available.

There are many ways in which bridal hair accessories can add beauty and elegance to the bride’s image. One of the most elegant hair trends is accessorizing with a real or fake flower. If you are interested in flowers for your hair, speak with your florist. Many florists will have the latest tips and trends in flowers as adornments for the hair. Check out magazines to get other ideas, and clip out pictures of the styles you like best.

If you are planning on having a beach wedding, placing seashells through the hair is an option, for more sparkle, some brides are placing crystals in strategic points through the hair.

Much attention is to be given on the details of the headpieces so as to have each headpiece coordinate with the wedding ensemble. Bridal headpieces come in number of choices and brides have the freedom to choose which one best fits them. Shop around and you will surely find the best one.

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, December 28, 2010

White Doves Release Ceremony

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Here’s a great way to add romantic elegance and symbolism to your wedding by releasing two White Doves at the end of your ceremony. White doves at weddings are symbolic of celebration, new beginnings, fidelity, peace, love, and serenity.

whitedoveAs a true symbol of Love, the White Dove chooses its mate for life, therefore they are a very fitting and final addition to any wedding. They create a magical atmosphere as they circle the skies before leaving on their new journey together.

Doves and pigeons are of the same family, and in a wedding dove release there are no doves involved at all. Even though the small dove is credited with creating striking wedding day ambiance, an actual dove is unfortunately a poor candidate for release.

The dove’s inadequate flying skills, lack of homing instinct, and skittish demeanor would invite suffering and starvation, or death at the mercy of predators, were it to be released into unknown territory. Doves should never be subjected to release. However, the dove’s slightly larger blood relative, the white homing pigeon, commonly referred to as a dove, is ideal for ceremonial releases.

Homing pigeons are trainable and more conducive to interaction with people. A wedding couple considering a release should investigate any dove release company to insure that only appropriate white homing pigeons are utilized. Other considerations to insure an effective release include:

whitedove3• The use of only seasoned, healthy pigeons with many hours of flight time
• Training provided for the handling of the birds
• A professional dove handler on the premises during release
• A positive reputation for service and treatment of the pigeons
• Appropriate and timely delivery and set up
• Cage décor
• A current business license and bird health records
• References

Pigeons rely on the sun and can only be released during daylight hours. A minimum of two hours before dusk is required for the safety of the birds during their flight home. Sunset and evening weddings are not appropriate for a dove release. They need to have ample time to find shelter before night sets in.

A successful dove release is one that sincerely addresses the well being of the birds, the guests’ view of the release ceremony, and the wedding couple’s involvement. When the release is undertaken with the health, comfort and safety of the birds in mind, the experience is the perfect addition for your wedding ceremony.

whitedovesWith careful planning everyone will enjoy a magical moment as the white doves reach for the sky, the hopes and the dreams of the wedding couple alive on their wings. Countless dreams and wishes have been launched on the wings of a dove, and with careful planning the inclusion of doves in the wedding ceremony can be amazing.

The environmentally friendly White Dove Release takes place during the bride and grooms first kiss! Often the Best Man and the Maid/Matron of Honor will release the doves as the couple kiss.

Larry’s Note: Here is a poem I wrote for a Butterfly release and have adapted it for the White Dove Release. You are welcome to use it in your ceremony or wedding program as long as you add the following credit:

Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. All rights reserved. Reprinted with permission. http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

Learn to Fly

Like a white dove is released
And unfolds its graceful wings,
A marriage grows and it develops
With the love each partner brings.

Your flight through life together
Is what you make it, full of Love
Spread your wings and learn to soar
As if with wings of a white dove.

Share together life’s great adventure
Now the two of you are one
Shower your lover with lots of kisses
Your infinite journey has just begun

Be a lover, friend and playmate
Learn to listen, laugh and cry
God has given you your wings,
But, you teach each other how to fly.

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is non-denominational, an award winning wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, December 16, 2010

The Wedding Dress That Made History

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Lilly Friedman doesn’t remember the last name of the woman who designed and sewed the wedding gown she wore when she walked down the aisle over 60 years ago. But the grandmother of seven does recall that when she first told her fiancé Ludwig that she had always dreamed of being married in a white gown he realized he had his work cut out for him. For the tall, lanky 21-year-old who had survived hunger, disease and torture this was a different kind of challenge. How was he ever going to find such a dress in the Bergen Belsen Displaced Person’s camp where they felt grateful for the clothes on their backs?

Lilly & Ludwig Friedman – Married January 27, 1946

Fate would intervene in the guise of a former German pilot who walked into the food distribution center where Ludwig worked, eager to make a trade for his worthless parachute. In exchange for two pounds of coffee beans and a couple of packs of cigarettes Lilly would have her wedding gown.

For two weeks Miriam the seamstress worked under the curious eyes of her fellow DPs (displaced persons), carefully fashioning the six parachute panels into a simple, long sleeved gown with a rolled collar and a fitted waist that tied in the back with a bow. When the dress was completed she sewed the leftover material into a matching shirt for the groom.

A white wedding gown may have seemed like a frivolous request in the surreal environment of the camps, but for Lilly the dress symbolized the innocent, normal life she and her family had once led before the world descended into madness. Lilly and her siblings were raised in a Torah observant home in the small town of Zarica, Czechoslovakia where her father was a teacher, respected and well liked by the young yeshiva students he taught in nearby Irsheva. He and his two sons were marked for extermination immediately upon arriving at Auschwitz. For Lilly and her sisters it was only their first stop on their long journey of persecution, which included Plashof, Neustadt, Gross Rosen and finally Bergen Belsen.

Four hundred people marched 15 miles in the snow to the town of Celle on January 27, 1946 to attend Lilly and Ludwig’s wedding. The town synagogue, damaged and desecrated, had been lovingly renovated by the DPs with the meager materials available to them. When Sefer Torah arrived from England they converted an old kitchen cabinet into a makeshift Aron Kodesh. “My sisters and I lost everything – our parents, our two brothers, our homes. The most important thing was to build a new home.” Six months later, Lilly’s sister Ilona wore the dress when she married Max Traeger. After that came Cousin Rosie. How many brides wore Lilly’s dress? “I stopped counting after 17.” With the camps experiencing the highest marriage rate in the world, Lilly’s gown was in great demand.

In 1948 when President Harry Truman finally permitted the 100,000 Jews who had been languishing in DP camps since the end of the war to emigrate, the gown accompanied Lilly across the ocean to America. Unable to part with her dress, it lay at the bottom of her bedroom closet for the next 50 years, “not even good enough for a garage sale. I was happy when it found such a good home.”

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Lilly Friedman and her parachute dress on display in the Bergen Belsen Museum

Home was the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C. When Lily’s niece, a volunteer, told museum officials about her aunt’s dress, they immediately recognized its historical significance and displayed the gown in a specially designed showcase, guaranteed to preserve it for 500 years.

But Lilly Friedman’s dress had one more journey to make. Bergen Belsen, the museum, opened its doors on October 28, 2007. The German government invited Lilly and her sisters to be their guests for the grand opening. They initially declined, but finally traveled to Hanover the following year with their children, their grandchildren and extended families to view the extraordinary exhibit created for the wedding dress made from a parachute.

Lilly’s family, who were all familiar with the stories about the wedding in Celle , were eager to visit the synagogue. They found the building had been completely renovated and modernized. But when they pulled aside the handsome curtain they were astounded to find that the Aron Kodesh, made from a kitchen cabinet, had remained untouched as a testament to the profound faith of the survivors. As Lilly stood on the bimah once again she beckoned to her granddaughter, Jackie, to stand beside her where she was once a kallah. “It was an emotional trip. We cried a lot.”

Two weeks later, the woman who had once stood trembling before the selective eyes of the infamous Dr. Josef Mengele returned home and witnessed the marriage of her granddaughter.

The three Lax sisters – Lilly, Ilona and Eva, who together survived Auschwitz, a forced labor camp, a death march and Bergen Belsen – have remained close and today live within walking distance of each other in Brooklyn. As mere teenagers, they managed to outwit and outlive a monstrous killing machine, then went on to marry, have children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren and were ultimately honored by the country that had earmarked them for extinction. As young brides, they had stood underneath the chuppah and recited the blessings that their ancestors had been saying for thousands of years. In doing so, they chose to honor the legacy of those who had perished by choosing life.

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Sunday, December 12, 2010

The Breaking of the Glass

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Although this ceremony is traditionally of Jewish origin, many couples choose to incorporate it into traditional and non-traditional ceremonies. When the bride and groom are of different faiths, and one is Jewish, they often will honor the Jewish tradition of breaking a glass toward the end of the wedding ceremony.

wineglassOne interpretation of this ceremony states that once the glass is shattered, it can never return to its former condition, thus symbolizing the couples wish to never return to the time before they shared their lives.

The breaking of the glass at the conclusion of the wedding also symbolizes that marriage is not always as joyous as the wedding itself. The bad times, when our hearts break, are representative of the shattered glass.

A couple that enters marriage, believing that their married life will always be as blissful as courtship, is in denial and doomed to failure. In this sense, the breaking of the glass causes us to be mindful of the needless barriers that people erect between one another and that we can break down the barriers and build a relationship of respect, unity and peace.

The breaking of the glass also symbolizes the fragility of life, the fact that whatever we see before us as whole can be broken at any moment. It calls our attention for the need to care for one another; for just as glass can be shattered with a single blow, so the grace of a marriage bond can be shattered with a single act of infidelity or repeated acts of emotional irresponsibility.

Its spiritual significance is our reaffirmation of our faith in God. The idea is that the couple’s lives together be longer than it would take to fit the pieces of the broken glass back together again.

In Greece, the custom of breaking plates during the reception symbolizes good luck, happiness and the permanence of marriage.

The breaking of the glass also serves as a separation between the awe of the ceremony and the reception celebration that will follow.

breakingglassSome say (with tongue in cheek) that the moment the groom smashes the glass symbolizes the last time he gets to “put his foot down.”

This part of the ceremony comes right after the exchanging of rings and just before declaring the couple to be wife and husband.

The “glass” is often a light bulb wrapped in a white napkin or towel. Sometimes a wine glass is difficult to break. The best man hands the minister the glass. The minister will say a few words to explain the significance of the breaking of the glass. He then places the glass on the ground before the groom.

After he declares the bride and groom to be wife and husband he invites the couple to seal their promises with a kiss. The groom then kisses the bride and then breaks the glass with his right foot. Some couples choose to break the glass together. Applause is appropriate in most ceremonies with the breaking of the glass.

What do you do with the broken glass after the wedding? If the “glass” was a delicate wine glass (easy to break), some couples choose to save the glass and preserve it in a velvet pouch or another glass container to serve as a momento of their wedding day. Other creative couples have jewelry made from it.

Mazel Tov!

Photo Credit (left): The Jewish Glass Breaking Pouch – MyDreamWedding.ca

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, December 8, 2010

6 Tips on How to Avoid Embarrassment as the Bridesmaid!

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Julie Pickley, Guest Author

Bridesmaids are slowly becoming more of an important role in marriages, making more pressure for the bride to pick the best bridesmaid and for the bridesmaid to help as much as possible to do an outstanding job.

I once saw the worst bridesmaid at one of my good friends weddings. There were many mistakes leading up to her downfall of respect with me and other family members. I am writing this so you don’t fall into that trap as well.

An example of her idiocy started all the way back to the beginnings. She was very pushy to the bride and groom about the best way to do it, but because the bridesmaid was her best friend she was reluctant to change to another person.

Tip 1. Help the bride! Even if she doesn’t request help, offer, offer, offer! Do you want to shop for bridesmaid dresses? Are you okay? But be sure to not make her think that you are trying to take over the show. Remember it is your job to make sure everything runs smoothly.

Tip 2. Double check: A lot of brides make lists, and you can help by double checking the lists and making sure everyone is invited, and everyone knows what they are doing.

Tip 3. Be honest: If you think the dress doesn’t look that good, tell her nicely. Brides can get caught up in what they think looks good.

Tip 4. Give the bride space. Being a bridesmaid is about helping the bride but not overpowering her position. Remember it is her big day, not yours. Just think of yourself as the guardian angel.

Tip 5. Don’t make a fool of yourself. Don’t get too drunk at the reception and try and sleep with every handsome guy you haven’t seen before. Everyone will think you are the brides slutty friend and they will think less of you (and possibly the bride).

Tip 6. Don’t sleep with the groom! Do I need to explain this one? 😉

Keep calm. Everything will be great. Have fun, stay focused! Drink, but keep elegant. Remember this is the biggest day of your friends life. Keep to the job as the bridesmaid, have fun! It’s your turn next, promise.

BONUS Articles: Serving Her Majesty the Bride: To Be a Maid of Honor. . . or Not
Tips To Save On Bridesmaid Dresses

Copyright © 2010 – Julie Pickley. Reprinted with permission. Julie Pickley is a wedding planner with 5 years experience and much more enthusiasm. If you are becoming a bridesmaid or looking for a bridesmaid for your wedding, be sure to read through more of Julie’s Website’s articles for more juicy information. Visit her Website at: http://www.weddingbridesmaid.net/

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Saturday, November 6, 2010

Last Kiss. . . Before the First Kiss!

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mothergroomhugHere’s a creative idea to celebrate a special moment for the bride and groom and their mothers during the ceremony.

In the wedding ceremony just before the “first kiss” as wife and husband, the minister calls the mothers of the bride and groom forward and says the following:

motherbridehugMinister: The mother’s of the bride and groom will now come forward as we honor them as mothers and to help us with the next part of the ceremony.

Both mother’s come forward and stand next to their child.

And now Ladies and Gentlemen, it is time for _______ and _______’s last kiss as singles before they become wife and husband. __(Bride)__ and her mother, __(Brides’ mother)__ and __(Groom)__ and his mother __(Groom’s mother)__, will now offer this kiss.

These mother’s their lips were the first to kiss them and bring them into this world and today a mother’s love – together with their blessings – will be first to send them on their way to their new life together as wife and husband.

Mothers. . . please kiss the Bride and Groom!

Note: This is a very tender and poignant – and sometimes emotional moment – for the mothers, the bride and groom and also for the guests.

Photo Credits: Haines Photography (left), Adina & Scott Haines, Norfolk, Virginia. – http://ScotthAyneBlog.com/
Holly Pacione Photography (right), Colorado Springs, Colorado – http://HollyPacionePhotography.com/

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, November 2, 2010

The Oathing Stone – Casting Your Vows in Stone!

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Embrace the old European tradition to add a meaningful highlight to your wedding ceremony. The Oathing Stone is an old Scottish tradition where the Bride and Groom place their hands upon a stone while saying their wedding vows.

Called the oathing stone it was thought to be the best way to express your solemn promise in physical form. Taken from the ancient Celtic custom of setting an oath in stone, inclusion of an oathing stone in the vows can be deeply moving.

oathstone2Etching your vows in stone is a sacred symbol across cultures. In the Scottish tradition an oath given near a stone or water was considered more binding. In some areas of Scotland, the couple would carve their names on a tree or a stone. Some of these bridal stones still exist across Scotland.

During the reading of the Bride and Groom’s wedding vows, they hold an Oathing Stone in their hands. It is believed that holding the stone during the reading of the vows casts them into the stone.

In a more modern version, the Oathing Stone can be engraved with the couple’s initials in the middle, accompanied by the groom & bride’s initials and date of their wedding. The source of an oathing stone, what minerals are in it, it’s color, or other characteristics are less important than what is said over the stone.

oathing2After the wedding, the Oathing Stone can be used as a paper weight, or in a shadow box, or decoratively around a candle or vase of flowers, or placed in an aquarium, etc. Be creative! However they are displayed, they will always be a precious keepsake of a special occasion in your life. Give it a place in the garden so your love will grow strong roots and flourish or in a special place in your home to remind you of the vows taken on your wedding day.

oathing1At the wedding, place a bowl filled with mini-Oathing Stones on the guest sign-in table where the guests enter and exit the seating area. When your guests arrive, have ushers or attendants give each guest a small stone while the guests are being seated. Alternatively, a mini-Oathing Stone can also be placed on each wedding chair before the guests arrive. They simply hold the stone in their hand suring the wedding ceremony.

Since (I’m guessing) that most of your guests have not seen this ceremony, I think it might be a good idea to have the ushers or attendants give each guest a program as they enter the ceremony area, that – in addition to the names and wedding ceremony highlights – has a brief explanation about “The Oathing Stone” ceremony. You are welcome to use the following:

The Oathing Stone

During the reading of _____ and_____’s wedding vows, they will be holding an Oathing Stone. It is believed that holding the stone during the reading of the vows, casts them into the stone.

The Oathing Stone ceremony originated in Scotland. It is believed that an oath given near a stone or water was considered more binding. This evolved into the bride and groom holding their hands together on a stone as they repeat their wedding vows.

oathingstoneWhen you arrived, you were given a stone to hold in your hand during the wedding ceremony. _____ and _____ chose these stones as symbols of your special relationship, love, good wishes and heartfelt blessings to them. The stones will serve as a lasting reminder of your presence at their wedding and of the special love that they shared on this their special day.

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Your stone does not have to be fancy (or engraved), an ordinary river rock will do. It’s the special way in which it was used in your wedding ceremony that is most important.

As you hold the blessing stone tightly in your hand, please reflect for a moment your wishes for this couple for love, happiness, prosperity, and unity.

Following the ceremony, _____ and _____ will invite you to place the stones with your personal blessing for them as a newly married couple into the special container on the gift table as you leave the ceremony area.

Here are the words I wrote for a recent wedding that included the Oathing Stone Ceremony just before the bride and groom did their wedding vows. Their Oathing Stone was on a table behind me (or it can be handed to the minister by someone in the wedding party or a parent) and at the appropriate time, I held the stone up for the guests to see as I recited the following. . . Click here.

NOTE: The photo of the engraved Oathing Stone is courtesy of http://www.etsy.com.

Congratulations to Melissa Yost and Victor Fuentes, married @ 5 p.m., Saturday, October 30, 2010 @ 5 p.m. @ The White House Provencal, Mesa, AZ. Melissa & Victor incorporated the “Oathing Stone” into their wedding ceremony.

My friend, Debbie Sweet, Artemeus Design/artZengraving, Scottsdale, AZ can engrave your Oathing Stone. Call Debbie at: 480-528-8995 or to see other terrific wedding ideas, click here.

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, October 29, 2010

The Blending of the Sands with a “New” Twist! – The Forever Frame!

frame3The “Blending of the Sands” ceremony (often called the Unity Sand Ceremony) can be a beautiful and meaningful alternative to the ” Unity Candle” ceremony. Like a Unity candle the pouring of two different colored sands together is used to symbolize the joining of the bride and groom or the joining of their families.

The “Blending of the Sands” concept was originally created by Geneene L. Thornton in 1993 and was used primarily for beach weddings in the San Diego area. The problem with the Unity Candle, especially on the beach, is the least puff of wind and the candles usually blow out.

Like a Unity candle, the symbolism for the Blending of the Sands is similar. The pouring of several different colored sands together is used to symbolize the joining of the wife and husband on their wedding day. This ceremony is usually added toward the end of the wedding ceremony.

foreverframelogoThe NEWEST in Blending of the Sand Ceremony vessels for your wedding is the Forever Frame! Their unique, patented design prevents the sand from mixing to ensure lasting memories. Use our frame to keep your memories flawless… forever.

• Sealed sand chamber prevents sand from escaping
• Keeper Plate® included to lock sand in place during transport
• Removable rear glass allows picture to be changed without disturbing the sand design
• Offered in Black, White & Cherry Stain

framebeachCouples who choose to include a Blending of the Sand Ceremony in their wedding can create a lasting memory that melds the symbolism of the ceremony with a physical reminder of their special day… forever.

Children from previous marriages can be blended together by including them in the “engagement” photo and having them choose their own color of sand for the ceremony. If you are including children, obtain several extra vials with different colored sand for each child. See the Blending the Sands Ceremony #2. We customize this part of the wedding ceremony to include the names of the children.

If your wedding ceremony is being performed on a beach (e.g., Rocky Point, Mexico), have the minister scoop up a little sand from the beach with a sea shell and pour it into the Forever Frame to symbolize the building of the foundation of the relationship and to give you a momento directly from the beach where your ceremony words were spoken.

foreverFrameThe “Blending of the Sands” ceremony is a popular and tangible way to capture the celebration that is the joining of two lives. By using our unique and beautiful frame for your unity sand ceremony, you’ll create a lasting reminder of the ceremony.

The last words of the ceremony usually say, “Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into their individual containers, so will your marriage (and your family) be, blended together.”

LoveNote. . . “Jerry and I are doing great. I have thought of you often, with fondness, of how you helped make our wedding so wonderful. I have placed our beautiful container of sand on a shelf at the entrance to our kitchen. Almost every person who attended our wedding comments about our ceremony when they see it. Others who come to our house ask about it and when I explain what it is, they say they wish they had something like that for their ceremony! (they should have called you!!) I cherish having such a unique memento from our wedding.” – Lisa & Jerry Fletcher (Fletcher’s Tire & Auto Service, Greater Phoenix area) – View the Fletcher Photo Gallery

To contact Bill & Elaine Kendall (Owners) @ Forever Frames, click here!

BONUS Article: The Blending of the Sands Ceremony

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Falter at the Alter. . .

Filed under: Wedding Articles,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

We’ve all heard of the run-away bride. Remember Julia Roberts in “Run Away Bride?”

Before you “falter at the alter,” make sure that you are really ready to say “I do.” It’s the “C” word: Commitment. Not everyone is ready for it. It is not uncommon for brides (and grooms) to experience anxiety, fear, stress, and even panic as the big day comes closer. There are jitters (stress related) then there are jitters (pure panic)! It’s common to have butterflies in your stomach. Hopefully not enough to cause you to “get outta Dodge.”

runaway-groomBy the way. . . guys have also been known to have reservations and chicken out at the last minute! Most everyone has had second thoughts however most work out the issues before they become the reasons for turning away from the one you say you love.

Over the past nine years as one of the busiest wedding officiants in the Greater Phoenix area, I’ve had my share of brides and grooms who have decided to call off the wedding, but always BEFORE the big event.

Never let, “the wedding has been planned, the deposits paid, the dress and tux have been fitted and the ice sculpture is starting to melt in the reception room” be the reason you move forward when you are having doubts. When in doubt, don’t. . . then get some help. If you are going to call it off. . . it’s best to do it before you run up a lot of unneeded expenses. Weddings take long extensive planning and may cost you a lot of money and a lot of stress that might cause you to just escape from the planning and become a runaway bride. If there ever was a time to place value on your instincts it’s now!

To date there is a very small percentage of those couples who were serious enough to pay a deposit, forfeit the deposit and call off the wedding. Of those I spoke with, money and incompatibility seemed to be the top reasons. An even smaller percentage have married and eventually divorced.

My 16+ years relationship coaching experience tells me that if there are significant issues to cause you to seriously consider calling your wedding off, perhaps you should at least think about a delay. After the invitations have been sent is too late!

AND. . . if you think for a moment that after you get married that this bad behavior (or whatever the issues are) will probably change, you are almost guarenteed to be 100% wrong! Resolve your issues BEFORE marriage. If you don’t they come back to bite you in the butt. Yes, people do change. But if the behavior is bad enough for you to remotely consider ending the relationship or have doubts and you ignore your feelings and get married anyway. . . you are most likely headed for a fall.

Express yourself. First to your intended and if that doesn’t work, call a coach. Coaching is not always the answer. Sometimes it too late to turn things around. Both parties must have a sincere desire to work together to make things better. Take your time. Lots of it.

runawaybrideMuster up some courage before you decide to talk with your partner. Listen to how they respond. Your doubts do not necessarily mean that you mean to call off the wedding. Make sure they understand this. If they realy love you, and if they are the right person for you, they will understand. If they don’t understand and get defensive or switch the blame to you, your instincts may probably be right. Perhaps a decision to postpone or call a halt to your impending marriage might be the best for everyone.

I will be the first to say that it is not all that simple. If you’re not sure the marriage is a good move, engage the attention and support of your partner and tell them weeks or months before the wedding the reasons you can’t go through with it. Don’t wait until the last minute. If you need more time, say so.

Relationships are complicated. They come with twists and turns, and ups and downs. Problems are natural to progress. They tell you what needs to be worked on. Problems are not to break us, they can and often will make us stronger as a couple.

If you are experiencing the pre-wedding day jitters – before you freak out – here are a few things to consider:

• Discuss your premarital misgivings with a trusted friend, doctor, priest, minister, rabbi, therapist or relationship coach.
• Talk to a friend who’s recently been married – someone who can help you differentiate between a real change of heart and mind concerning the relationship and simple jitters about the overwhelming wedding process itself.
• Recall why you said “yes” in the first place and see if your reasons are still valid.
• Think about what you like and what you love about your future partner and why these aspects of his or her personality are so special to you.
• Think about what you look forward to in marriage and focus on the positive.
• If you feel trapped or embarrassed consider all your options: forget about it and suffer later, call a temporary delay or call it off for good. There may be more reasons, so consider all the possibilities.
• Ask yourself, “Has my fiancé(e) changed since I said ‘yes,’ and if so, has it been for better or for worse?”
• To those who need it, express a deep and sincere apology and move on. This will allow the emotional healing process to begin.
• Are you really ready to get married?

Research indicated that over 40% of brides have wedding anxiety. I personally think it could be higher. To relieve some of the pressure, make sure that you plan your wedding to your own specifications and no one else’s, especially your parents. Never bow to that pressure. It’s not their wedding. It’s YOUR wedding! They aleady had their wedding. I know. It’s not easy. But it’s important for your own well being that you never bow to the pressure to please others.

For the mothers who become Momzillas. . . express your feelings in a loving way and tell them to back off. It’s okay to say “No” to something you do not want. For fathers (or mothers) who are “small” enough to threaten because they may be paying for it, tread lightly but stick to your guns.

There is no greater choice or bigger decision you will ever make than choosing the person with whom you will spend the rest of your life. Sometimes it scarey. That’s normal. I know it’s old fashion but that is another great reason for long engagements. I do not believe that you should decide to get married, because it just “feels right.” There is no good reason to be in a hurry to get to the altar.

Don’t even consider being a “runaway bride!” It’s one thing to call off an engagement or a wedding weeks before, but to actually runaway on your wedding day. . . not good! Being a runaway bride is a cowardly act. It tells a story about you. If you get “cold feet,” bow out gracefully. Be humane and respectful. 😉 Not possible, you say? Do your best to as nice as you can about it. Think about the frustration and embarrassment that your partner, family and friends might feel if you keep them waiting for hours at the altar.

Always remember, it’s a lot better in the long run to step back before the wedding than to find yourself in a marriage you wish you could run away from later on.

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, October 1, 2010

The Beautiful “Wall of Roses”

Filed under: Wedding Articles,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

The wedding arch is a traditional element of most wedding ceremonies, framing the location where the bride and groom stand to say “I do.” Because it is a central focus for the ceremony, couples will want something stylish and coordinated with their wedding.

wallofroses1Here is a fresh idea for an alternative to a classic arch for a wedding ceremony. How romantic would it be to walk down the aisle towards this enchanting wall filled with delicate roses? More than any other flower, roses say, “I love you.”

It provides such a wonderful fragrance too, not to mention be a stunning backdrop for your wedding photos.

wallofroses2Some brides and grooms will have their initials embedded in the wall with contrasting colors. The color of the roses could also match the color of the bridesmaid’s dresses. You can also incorporate rose wreaths – heart-shaped for love – into the wall of roses.

At the end of the reception celebration, invite the guests to take home pieces from the wall and make mini bouquets.

Have someone drill small holes in a large piece of wood or drywall through which to place the roses. Small water tubes on the back of the wall of roses will help prevent the roses from wilting.

All roses symbolize Love, but their colors have special meaning. Roses can impart either a formal or a casual atmosphere, depending on the varieties and colors you choose. Incorporate roses and rose petals into every loving step of your wedding. Use the list below to choose the shade that best matches the feeling you want to convey.

Red – Love, passion, respect and courage
Yellow – Joy, friendship and freedom
Pink – Happiness, gratitude, appreciation and admiration
Cream – Thoughtfulness, charm and graciousness
Orange – Admiration, fascination, enthusiasm and desire
White – innocence, purity, secrecy, reverence and to honor those who are deceased

Bonus Articles: “Add a ‘Rose’ Ceremony to Your Wedding Ceremony!”
Honor a Deceased Loved One

NOTE: Photo (above left) courtesy of L & N Notes BLOG.

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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