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Sunday, September 13, 2015

Treat your Wedding Vendors with Love!

You’ve had your big day! No unexpected hitches! Everything flowed smoothly. And then… hopefully a terrific honeymoon. What’s next?

Hmmm. Let’s see. Perhaps you should first jot out a few “thank you” notes for all the great gifts your guests gave you.

Here is a quick gift tip: To keep track of gifts, place the name, address and phone number of each guest on a 3 x 5 index card. Store the cards alphabetically. As you open your wedding gifts, list the gift information on the appropriate card. When it comes time to write your thank-you notes, all the information you’ll need will be at your finger tips.

One hundred dollar billsPlan this one in advance: It is a common courtesy on your wedding day to make sure your wedding vendors are fed at the reception. You should expect to feed your photographers, videographers, DJ, Wedding Officiant/Minister, and musicians. Most caterers will usually ask you what provision you want to be made for these service providers during your wedding reception and will make some suggestions as to menus and seating arrangements.

Prior to the wedding day be sure to agree with the caterers and confirm to the individual service providers where they will eating at the reception. You will also be expected to bear the costs of drinks for the above mentioned wedding suppliers on your wedding day. Remember to invite your Minister/Officiant and his partner to the reception. He is usually seated at a reserved table with the parents of the Bride and Groom or nearby.

Some venues reserve a table at the reception for the vendors. It is not considered good wedding etiquette to seat your Minister at the vendor table. Request that your Minister be seated with the guests. This is a better idea and is a sign of respect. It allows your family and friends the opportunity to offer their “thank yous” for a job well done.

IMPORTANT: By the way, if the minister is invited to the reception and you have assigned seating, be sure to add the minister’s name to the guest list. (It’s embarrasing for the minister to have to ask where he should sit if you forget to have a place card with his name and table number on it.)

Most likely you have already expressed your gratitude with a generous tip for their services. Other than the bride herself, it’s the wedding vendors that make a wedding truly beautiful and special. Wedding tips are commonly overlooked when couples set up their wedding budget. It is important to calculate as much as possible prior to your wedding how much you can afford to tip your wedding suppliers.

Next, how about taking a few minutes and writing a few “thank yous” (I call them Love Notes) to all the vendors that did their part to make your wedding a great success. Is this a “have to?” No, however it’s a nice gesture that tells them that you are grateful for their participation in your wedding.

Wedding professionals do a lot of behind-the-scene work that if done properly, most people won’t even notice. That fact by itself is a reason to send them a quick note of appreciation. But, what if your vendor went above-and-beyond what you would call exceptional service?

Want to know a secret? Wedding professionals LOVE testimonials! It is a great reminder of happy clients and let’s face it, it’ll help them book future clients.

One great way to show a wedding vendor some gratitude for their outstanding service at your wedding is to post some stellar reviews of them on some popular wedding vendor rating websites such as Wedding Wire, Project Weddings and other Wedding Websites. Unlike personal written thank-you notes, customer testimonials are a public recommendation to potential clients that a certain vendor is professional, reliable and newlywed approved.

These sites have become popular resources for planning couples that are trying to decide which vendors to choose and work with in their local area. Your online review and testimonial not only helps build their professional credentials, it creates an atmosphere of helping, support and guidance. Every planning bride would appreciate seeing more of that.

I frequently post these “Rave Reviews” on my Wedding Website at: http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com/ravereviews.html.

BONUS Article: Grandma Betty, Thank You for Your Thoughtful Wedding Gift!

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, December 24, 2010

Tipping Your Wedding Vendors is a Common Courtesy

Filed under: Tipping Vendors,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Other than the bride herself, it’s the wedding vendors that make a wedding truly beautiful and special. Wedding tips are commonly overlooked when couples set up their wedding budget. It is important to calculate as much as possible prior to your wedding how much you can afford to tip your wedding suppliers.

weddingtipRewarding vendors with a tip is expected, and it will serve as a thank-you for a job well done. My personal opinion is that you alone should decide how much to tip. When I tip, I pay no attention to the percentages that are often recommended by wedding consultants. I believe that you should tip based upon the quality of service, attention to detail and their overall extraordinary effort. Follow you heart. Don’t be stingy just to save a few bucks on your wedding!

In doing the research necessary for this article, I ran across more than one Website that suggested (with identical wording): “To tip a Minister/Officiant is to trivialize their profession and extremely bad etiquette.” Oh, really? Who started that one?

Note form Larry James: I object! 😉

If anyone deserves a generous gratuity, it’s the wedding Minister or Officiant – the one who makes your day special for you and your guests and whose job it is to make everything legal.

It has been my experience that it is rare to find anyone giving less than a $100 gratuity to the Minister/Officiant, and it could be more depending on the minister/officiant. Be sure to discuss the tip with your partner “before” the wedding. Please be sure to add this to your budget. All tips should be calculated and prepared in separate envelopes ahead of time, thereby making it much easier for the individual responsible to deliver the tips. A tip is an added reward for service well done. Tipping has always been a personal expression of gratitude for service given and appreciated. All tips should be given in cash.

Read your bills carefully to avoid double tipping. Tips are often included in the bill automatically. Some vendors, caterers for example, will include a gratuity in their price. Most usually the tips are given to the wedding consultant or the best man in sealed, labeled envelopes prior to the ceremony who will then discreetly give them to the various wedding vendors after the ceremony.

tippingIf your wedding is performed by a civil employee such as a judge, clerk, or other nonreligious official, then you may want to forgo a gratuity. Such civil employees are often paid a flat rate and are usually not permitted to accept tips or donations — local law may actually prohibit it.

largetipIf you belong to a church, your own minister or priest may perform the wedding at no charge. In this case, you could make a donation to the church ($500 is common), and as an extra thank-you, consider sending something personal, such as a gift certificate to a nice restaurant. Yes, it’s true. . . you don’t need to tip a wedding official but think of it this way: it’s good karma and a good way to start your marriage with a positive vibe from the one person who joined you as wife and husband.

IMPORTANT: Gratuities are always at your discretion and while they may be expected, poor service should never be excused nor should you extend a tip to those vendors who provide less than excellent service. If you get lousy service from a wedding vendor. . . say, “NO!” to a tip!

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is non-denominational, an award winning wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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