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Saturday, September 8, 2012

“I Didn’t Know He Snored!”

Filed under: Snoring — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Snoring is a funny problem only in a comedy sketch, but there’s nothing funny about it when you’re with a partner that snores. The husband snores. The wife nudges him to flip over. Both wake up feeling grouchy the next morning. Snoring is annoying.

snoring-sleep-apneaThe intimacy of a good marriage can be destroyed by snoring. If one spouse snores so loudly that it wakes up other, that’s a problem that must be solved. The non-snoring spouse will probably not be able to get back to sleep. If it is available, they may move to a guest room. But no one really wants to leave their spouse and sleep alone. If this goes on night after night, it can break down an otherwise good relationship.

By the way… women snore too! However, no matter who is the culprit, snoring can wreck a good night’s sleep and cause some serious resentment in the morning. Try to figure out what causes the snoring: allergies, dry air or laying on his/her back and then fix the situation. Simply popping a decongestant or buying a humidifier could be your solution or one of you may need to get some ear plugs. If, after trying some of our suggestions, the snoring situation is still leading to sleep deprivation make a doctor’s appointment. There are medical conditions that can cause snoring and you want to make sure your best beloved is diagnosed and treated.

Snoring is a fairly common affliction, affecting 40 percent of men and 25 percent of women. If you snore, you make a raspy, rattling, snorting sound while you breathe during sleep. In spite of its frequency, snoring is a sleep disorder that can have serious medical and social consequences.

Is separate rooms the solution? Statistics from the National Sleep Foundation about snoring and sleep apnea say 90 million Americans are affected by snoring. A study by the National Sleep Foundation found that about 24 percent of couples sleep in separate rooms and many couples who sleep separately are reluctant to discuss it. The National Sleep Foundation found that more than a third of respondents admit that their partner’s disruptive sleep habits have affected the quality of their relationship.

When snoring gets out of control, some couples resort to sleeping in separate beds, which is never good for any relationship. Sleeping in the same bed as your partner is an extremely important part of an intimate relationship. When couples start sleeping in separate beds, it can have drastic effects on emotional and sexual relations. Not to mention, it does not set a great example for their children and often “outsiders” get the wrong idea about the couple’s relationship.

snoreThe point is that snoring is a symptom of a serious underlying condition. But you don’t have to continue to suffer! Get help, stop snoring and get sleep now. Here are a few ideas that may help, however consulting a specialist in sleeping disorders or sleep apnea is your best bet. Sleep apnea is a serious health problem that should be treated.

1. Sleep on Your Side – You’re more likely to snore if you’re lying on your back, and sleeping on your stomach is stressful on your neck.

2. Lose Weight – Excess body weight, especially around the neck, puts pressure on the airway, causing it to partially collapse.

3. Avoid Alcohol and Tranquilizers – Both alcohol and sleeping pills can depress your central nervous system and relax the muscles of your throat and jaw, making snoring more likely. These substances are also known to contribute to sleep apnea, a dangerous condition that has been linked with cardiovascular disease. And they should never, ever be used together. If you have difficulty sleeping without sleeping pills (or if you use alcohol to help yourself fall asleep), discuss it with your doctor.

4. Get Your Allergies Treated – Chronic respiratory allergies may cause snoring by forcing sufferers to breathe through their mouths while they sleep. Taking an antihistamine just before bedtime may help. If your nose is stuffed up, try using an over-the-counter saline spray or a humidifier.

5. Buy a Mouth Guard – Your dentist or doctor may be able to prescribe an antisnoring mouth guard that holds the teeth together and keeps the lower jaw muscles from becoming too lax.

6. Stop Smoking – Smoke damages the respiratory system.

7. Keep a Regular Schedule – Get plenty of sleep. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day.

8. Elevate Your Head – Sleeping with your head raised may take some of the pressure off of the airway, making breathing easier. Raise the head of the bed by putting blocks under the bed posts, or prop up your upper body (not just your head, which can actually inhibit breathing) with pillows.

snoring1Excessive snoring may also indicate that you have sleep apnea, a serious sleep disorder. The National Sleep Foundation ( recommends that you see your doctor if:

• You wake up during the night choking and gasping for breath
• You have been told that your snoring is disturbing to others
• You don’t feel refreshed when you wake up
• You are extremely tired during the day
• You wake with a headache
• You are gaining weight
• You have trouble concentrating, remembering, or paying attention
• Your bed partner notices that your breathing pauses during sleep

A common mistake… ignoring your partner’s complaints about your snoring. That’s bad news for two reasons – your snoring could ruin his/her sleep, and it could be affecting your own health. The research that links snoring and sleep apnea to serious medical problems continues to pile up. Just recently, researchers at NYU Langone Medical Center in New York City found that loud snorers developed symptoms of dementia 10 years earlier than people who don’t snore – and that getting treatment for snoring helped delay the onset of dementia. Talk to your doctor about getting tested for sleep apnea. Treatment (ranging from losing weight to the us of a breathing machine, among other options) can reduce dementia risk.

It’s important to have sleep apnea treated, not only because it interferes with your daily functioning, but because it boosts your risk of vascular disease. Sleep apnea can be treated with lifestyle modification, surgery, oral mouth guards, or a CPAP machine, which blows air into the back of your throat while you sleep.

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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