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Thursday, March 7, 2013

Choosing Sides!

Brides and Grooms… Here are what two guests think about “choosing sides” at the wedding!

BridesSideWeddingWoman.net“At many ceremonies, all the bride’s friends have to sit on one side of the room and all the groom’s friends sit on the other side. That sucks, because sometimes you’re friends with both of them — how do you choose? That moment of indecision is just weird for me. Plus, one side is usually much less crowded and people sit there thinking, ‘Gee, the groom doesn’t have many friends.’ All of this can easily be avoided by just letting guests sit where they want.” — Angie, 35

I totally agree! Usually it works best if when the guest asks the usher, “Which side is the Bride’s side?” that they tell them to not choose sides, but pick a good seat on either side towards the front.

“There’s always that one table at the reception: The people kind of know each other but not really — or they’re all the extra people who couldn’t be seated with people they know due to space constraints. It’s always a random mix of cousins, college friends, neighbors, work friends, and distant relatives. The guests always know they’re the misfit table, and it’s always awkward to sit there trying to make conversation with these people you have no interest in. Lack of thought in the seating plan has one of the most painful, sometimes embarrassing, results for a guest who often wonders, ‘Why am I stuck behind a pole at a table with a bunch of strangers?'” — Megan, 27

I totally agree! (There’s an echo in here) 😉 Some brides and grooms spend way to much time on trying to put the right guests at the right table. It’s not likely that you will please everyone. I’m finding that more and more couples are opting for “open seating,” – letting the guests sit with whomever they want. AND there are times when it is important to select the seating for a guest, such as exes who need to be separated, or putting a shy couple with someone you know that will engage them in conversation and help them to feel like part of the celebration. There are exceptions to every rule. I recommend two table of “reserved seating” for the the mothers and fathers and their close family members.

BONUS Articles: Traditional & Non-Traditional Wedding Seating
A Bright Idea for Seating the Parents of the Bride and Groom

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Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Traditional & Non-Traditional Wedding Seating

Where the seating of guests and family used to be very traditional, today brides and grooms are looking for creative and meaningful ways to have their ceremony be different to allow their guests to have a memorable experience of their wedding.

Here is the traditional way of seating guests and family…

You may have been to weddings where an usher will ask, “The bride’s side, or the groom’s side?” Usually they would seat you based upon your choice. Typically in most ceremonies the bride’s family and guests sit on the left (when entering from the back), and the groom’s family and guests sit on the right. For Jewish services it’s reversed.

BridesSideWeddingWoman.netReserving the first two rows for immediate family is traditional and still very much the norm.

Consider a more non-traditional seating arrangement. You really don’t have to separate the sides. How about no bride’s side and no groom’s side? How about mixing it up a bit. I have been encouraging brides and grooms to tell the ushers – when asked, “Which side is the bride’s side?” to ask the guests to please fill the seats near the front first so the photos look more balanced. Some will display the sign asking the guests to choose a seat not a side near the guest entrance. Some couples prefer a more “free-for-all” approach to symbolize the joining families and friends.

Tradition says the parents of the bride sit in the front row on the left side and the parents of the groom sit in the front row on the right side.

When the couple walks up the aisle, the bride is usually on the left and whoever is escorting her is on the right. Once the groom takes his place next to the bride their backs are to the guests. In my “romantic” wedding ceremony after about 6 minutes into the presentation of the ceremony they are asked to face each other holding hands.

Here’s the problem I noticed. When the bride faces the groom, she is facing away from her parents and the only thing they see is her back. The parents of the groom can only see the back of the groom.

Solution: Seat the parents of the bride on the right side and the parents of the groom on the left side. I know, that’s not tradition, however the first time we actually seated the parents in this manner, both sets of parents came up to me after the ceremony to personally thank me for allowing them to see the expressions on the faces of their daughter and son as the ceremony was being performed.

If you like these non-traditional ideas, remember to tell the Wedding Consultant and the Wedding Coordinator at your wedding venue, otherwise tradition will most likely be the rule of the day.

My experience has been that most brides and grooms prefer a mixture of a little traditional and more non-traditional in their wedding. Old traditions are hard to break, but bridal couples must be mindful that just because something has been around for a long time, doesn’t mean that fashioning new rituals isn’t perfectly acceptable and perhaps even preferable.

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Wednesday, February 1, 2012

A Bright Idea for Seating the Parents of the Bride and Groom

This idea falls into the category of “Why didn’t I think of this before??!!” 😉

Tradition says the parents of the bride sit in the front row on the left side and the parents of the groom sit in the front row on the right side.

parentsWhen the couple walks up the aisle, the bride is usually on the left and whoever is escorting her is on the right. Once the groom takes his place next to the bride their backs are to the guests. In my “romantic” wedding ceremony after about 6 minutes into the presentation of the ceremony they are asked to face each other holding hands.

Here’s the problem I noticed recently. When the bride faces the groom, she is facing away from her parents and the only thing they see is her back. The parents of the groom can only see the back of the groom.

BridesSideWeddingWoman.netSolution: Seat the parents of the bride on the right side and the parents of the groom on the left side. I know, that’s not tradition, however the first time we actually seated the parents in this manner, both sets of parents came up to me after the ceremony to personally thank me for allowing them to see the expressions on the faces of their daughter and son as the ceremony was being performed.

If you like this idea, please be sure to let the Wedding Consultant and the wedding coordinator at your wedding venue, otherwise tradition will most likely be the rule of the day.

Larry’s Note: We have been encouraging brides and grooms to tell the ushers – when asked, “Which side is the bride’s side?” to ask the guests to please fill the seats near the front first so the photos look more balanced. Some will display the sign asking the guests to choose a seat not a side near the guest entrance. Old traditions are hard to break, but bridal couples must be mindful that just because something has been around for a long time, doesn’t mean that fashioning new rituals isn’t perfectly acceptable and perhaps even preferable.

BONUS Articles: Who (of the bridal party) Walks Down the Aisle First?
Traditional Wedding or NOT!?

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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