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Thursday, March 5, 2015

Social Media Weddings vs Unplugged Weddings

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Saturday, February 21, 2015

FUN Photo Ideas for Your Wedding Day

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Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Unplugged Weddings ~ Trending…

Filed under: Photos,Unplugged Wedding,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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I have talked about why some couples are planning unplugged weddings and with society’s social media obsession is at an all-time high, felt it bears further info. Cell phones, Facebook, YouTube – they are all part of our lives. But should they be front and center at your wedding?

It is becoming a bigger problem than most people consider. Many times guests with iPads, cameras, iPhones, etc., – especially guests sitting on the aisle – lean into the aisle (and sometimes stand in the aisle) and block the line of sight of the professional photographer.

Guests take photos at weddings because they want to remember the special day, not because they’re trying to be rude, however, photographers will often turn to get emotional shots of the bride and groom or family, only to find that they are hidden behind a camera and their perfect shot is blocked. Most couples have spent a large part of their wedding budge on their professional photographer, who will be getting amazing shots throughout the ceremony.

WEDUnplugedTrendingWhat is an unplugged wedding? ~ An unplugged wedding means that no electronic devices are to be used during the ceremony. This means no cameras, smart phones, no photo uploads to social media or tweeting, texting and Instagramming “during” the ceremony.

The unplugged trend rebukes the advances of Facebook (only for one day), with many brides and grooms encouraging guests to ditch their camera phones and enjoy their nuptials, distraction free. A ration may be in place, where a listed time for taking photos is planned as part of your schedule. If you’re allowing guests to snap away during a certain section of the day, a share tool is great for collating all the memories of your wedding.

Apps such as Wedpics host a real-time photo feed on your wedding day, and provide the ultimate photo and video sharing opportunity for you and your guests. Read: “Easy-to-Use Wedding Photo-Sharing Apps.” Be sure with the couple that it is okay to share any images you take after the ceremony on social media; sometimes couples prefer to keep things quiet due to varying factors, and you don’t want to cause undue stress.

A wedding ceremony is a brief and intimate moment shared between people who have been brought together as witnesses to the beginning of a marriage. What a novel idea! I truly believe that a carefully worded and meaningful ceremony can change lives and be a great influence upon the guests – but never if guests are too busy clicking away to hear or see what is happening.

A 30 minute respite from your electronic gear during a wedding ceremony is called: “being respectful of the bride and groom’s wishes!”

With the permission of the bride and groom, as soon as I get to the alter, I will often make the following announcement:

unplugedLadies and Gentlemen, I have a special announcement from the bride and groom: “We want you to be able to really enjoy our wedding ceremony today, feeling truly present and in the moment with us. We’ve hired an amazing wedding photographer who will be capturing the way the wedding looks – and we’re inviting each of you to sit back, relax, and just enjoy how the wedding feels. We’re respectfully asking that everyone consider turning all cameras and cell phones (pause) back on after the wedding. We look forward to sharing our professional photos after the big day! Thank you!”

Larry’s NOTE: I pause before saying “back on after the wedding” which usually gets a smile from the guests because they were all thinking I was going to say, “turn them OFF.”

Another strategy is as guests arrive, have a super cute sign made to post outside of the church or at the beginning of the aisle. Make sure your ushers point it out to guests as well. Some brides are including a brief note in the program. Be sure to let guests know that you’ll share your professional photos with them later, which is easy to do with Dropbox or other photo sharing services.

I recently had a bride and groom who wrote their own vows (I call them “Personal Promises“) and used their phones as the modern-day alternative to the piece of paper. My encouragement is that it is better all around to leave their phones at home. It just does not look good. I usually have the bride and groom send me their vows which I print on card stock and hand them to each when it’s time to read them.

Anna Post of the Emily Post Institute and co-author of the book Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition, shared six tips for successfully requesting guests power down as you gear up for your wedding day.

It’s a fine request for the ceremony, but not the reception ~ A wedding ceremony, Post said, is “solemn, even if it’s not religious,” she said. For that reason, it’s fine to ask guests to put away the phones for this portion of the evening. The reception, typically more of a party atmosphere, is another story.

Make the announcement well in advance ~ The wedding web site is a perfectly reasonable to place to ask guests to power down during the nuptials, Post said.

And then follow up at the ceremony ~ “It’s not a bad idea to put it [the request] in the [wedding] program as well,” Post said. She said it is also fine to have someone in an official position – either an officiate of member of the wedding part – make an announcement before the wedding begins. “It’s a very fair reminder not to distract from the ceremony.”

Unless you’re a celebrity, don’t confiscate the phones ~ Unless you-re an “A-list” celeb, asking guests to turn over their phones is “taking it too far,” said Post. “Trust your friends will respect your wishes and do what you ask,” she said. And if they don’t? Never interrupt the ceremony to confront the offender.

Ask for what you want ~ Is it no cell phone calls? No texting? Or no photos, plus no Facebooking or Instagraming? Post said couples should be very clear with their guests on their wishes. What may seem innocuous to a guest – like taking a photo and posting it to Facebook – may be the exact scenario a bride who wasn’t able to invite every friend she wanted to the wedding – is hoping to avoid.

Beside having the aisles free of people using and obtrusively holding iPhones, tablets and cameras blocking the view of guests and the professional photographers, your guests will now be a real and connected part of the ceremony that they were asked to witness and participate in.

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Thursday, June 26, 2014

To See… or Not to See? That is the Question!

The top reason many couples today seem to keep this tradition alive is because they believe it builds up the mystique before the walk down the aisle. However, more and more couples recognize the time management benefits of seeing each other before the ceremony – meeting earlier for photos gets you to the party quicker. So… photos before the wedding or do you wait for your eyes to meet on the aisle?

ToSeeOrNotThe idea of not seeing each other before the ceremony comes from the days when marriages were arranged and the groom might never have seen the bride. In some religions and cultures the option of seeing each other before is simply not allowed. The wedding symbolized a business deal between two families. Not too romantic, right? There was a chance that he might take one look at her and bolt – so it was often safer for them to meet for the first time at the altar. Most admit it’s a bit old-fashioned.

There’s more… the veil the bride wears – its original purpose was also to keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like until the last possible minute, when it was too late to back out. Brides still often wear veils, however they are usually draped behind the brides head.

It’s typical that most brides and grooms totally miss out on the cocktail hour. Usually they are out taking photos with the photographer immediately after the ceremony. If you choose this way to take photos, remember to give the photographer a complete list of the photos you want taken and stick with a strict schedule. It’s rude to keep your guests waiting too long after the wedding for the reception to begin.

Not seeing each other before the ceremony makes most bride’s more stressed out. There is always the worry of seeing each other accidentally.

First Look is gaining in popularity. Whether the groom sees you in your dress or not has nothing do do with the magic of the moment. Prior to the ceremony, flowers, hair, make-up, clothes, and moods are at their very best. The emotion is still there. By scheduling a “First Look” or “Reveal Moment,” before the wedding ceremony the photographer will be able to capture your special moment of seeing each other privately for the first time. It’s your private moment. From a photographer’s position, there are usually many more pros to seeing each other beforehand than cons, but what it comes down to is your personal decision. Most brides and grooms have anxiety about the ceremony, however, when they choose the “First Look,” once they are together at the ceremony, the jitters melt away and the day becomes much more fun.

You’re able to schedule in extra time to drive to a great location, time to get a wider variety of shots and just have a more relaxed photo shoot. You will enjoy the First Look time privately, away from the crowd, where you can feel free to enjoy sweet sentimental moments together. Meeting before the ceremony, when you’re free from the often strict timelines of the ceremony itself, gives you more personal moments and experiences together, which adds wonderful memories to your day. The bonus is that you can take your formal pictures before the ceremony when everyone’s hair and makeup are going to look a lot fresher earlier in the day.

It can be extremely comforting to have a quiet word and a hug from the most important person in your world as your stress level is mounting before the wedding. Most claim that 10 or 15 minutes alone with their partner calms them for the main event. Having the First Look and spending that quality personal time together earlier on your wedding day ramps up and fuels the emotions to brimming for when the magic moment comes you see each other at your ceremony. Obviously First Look gives you more experiences and adds memories of your day; and in a very heightened way too. Clearly everything that happens during the First Look is a unique experience you wouldn’t have had if you didn’t take that personal time to be with each other. And… that makes your ceremony even more full of excitement, passion and Love.

Another photo-related consideration is light. Many of my wedding ceremonies are outdoors and about an hour or more before sunset. This concern is legitiment. Rounding everyone up for photos after the wedding can be a major chore, one that may mean you might be taking some of your photos after the sun goes down.

Most brides that have chosen First Look at my weddings tell me it was their most favorite moment of the day because it was just about them. If you are a traditionalist and love to play “hide ‘n seek” you may want to save the First Look for when you walk down the aisle. 😉

Never let anyone pressure you on how to make this decision. There are no rules governing when you see you first see your partner, except perhaps one: “Whichever route you take, make sure it is determined solely by ‘your’ vision of your wedding, and nobody else’s.” ~ Lauren Ragland, Wedding Photojournalist Association

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Thursday, May 29, 2014

Welcome to Our Unplugged Wedding…

Filed under: Photos,Unplugged Wedding,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Digital media has changed the way we do business, communicate and take photos. With the increasing popularity of modern recording and photographic devices like smartphones, tablets, point and shoot cameras and even consumer DSLRs – more wedding guests are plugging in and snapping away throughout the wedding day! There are photos at every wedding that are ruined by guests with cameras, usually during the processional and recessional whether it’s down an aisle of a church or down a grassy lawn.

UnpluggedWedToo often these digital devices are causing disruptions during the wedding ceremony. OFten the people who sit on the aisle will either stand or lean out into the aisle to take photos. In doing so, they often block the memorable photos that the bride and groom have paid big bucks to get from the professional photographer. A guest watching the wedding through an LCD screen isn’t the same as seeing it with your eyes. You are so concentrated on getting your photos that you miss the romantic experience of the ceremony. Often the shadows from a guest’s flash are bothersome and with several flashes going off at the same time make the photo too bright for the photographer to work with in the editing process.

Professional photographers know all too well that in that split second before the kiss, hands usually dart into the aisle to capture the perfect iPhone picture – leaving the professional to do his or her best to dodge around the amateur devices in order to get the timeless shot. The couple have invited you to celebrate their day, not sit there on your phone.

You may want to post a sign: “Welcome to our unplugged Wedding! We invite you to be fully present with us during our ceremony. Please turn off your cell phone and camera. We promise to share with you the many beautiful photos taken today!”

Ask the Wedding Officiant or Minister to make an announcement before the ceremony begins. Every Officiant is different. For me, I like to lighten things up a bit and as soon as I arrive at the alter, I often will say, “Ladies and Gentlemen, the bride and groom request that you turn your cell phones and cameras (and I pause briefly, and say) “back on” after the ceremony. They ask that you be nice and turn off your device.” Some of the guests will laugh or smile and they usually respect the bride and groom’s wishes.

One of the most surprising things that has happened to me while I was performing a ceremony was the bride who asked me to make the above announcement, however during the ceremony she whipped out an iPhone from her bosom and snapped two selfies. Out of respect for the bride, I decided not to embarrass her by posting the photo. 😉 It seemed a bit incongruent to me, but that’s just me!

DisposableCamerasOne couple asked me to say, “Ladies and Gentlemen, the bride and groom request that you turn your cell phones, ipads, cameras and other digital distractions (pause) “back on” after the wedding. The professional photographer will capture how this moment looks. I encourage you all to capture how it “feels” with your hearts and without the distraction of technology during the ceremony. Thank you.”

Perhaps a partial solution would be to have disposable cameras on each table at the wedding reception venue. The guests should be asked to leave the cameras on the table or drop them into a box or basket once they are done using them. This ensures that the bride and groom will have every camera which they are able to get developed.

Often the problem with that idea is that the children at the reception will begin snapping photos of everyone and you end up with a lot of photos of the floor or ceiling. If you use this idea, it’s important for the Master of Ceremonies (or Disc Jockey) to make an announcement that the cameras are there for the adults to use during the reception. A fun option would be giving the guests an assignment, such as incorporating their table number card into every picture.

BONUS Articles: Why You Might Want to Consider an Unplugged Wedding
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Monday, January 13, 2014

Considering an Unplugged Wedding?

Welcome to the era of the over-documented wedding, where, even if you’ve hired someone to take photos, every guest has a camera and an iPhone and is tweeting the whole event. Not cool. Especially when you’ve paid big bucks to hire a professional photographer and the photos they deliver to you after the wedding had numerous guest with their iPads and smart phones held in the air and they are staring at the tiny screens. Photography fail. “Be nice, turn off your device!”

If you want your wedding guests to be fully present at your wedding consider an unplugged wedding!

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“Don’t like the idea of guests attached to their phones throughout the ceremony and reception? Opt for an unplugged wedding. Provide a phone check at the door (similar to a coat check), or add a note to your wedding website or ceremony program asking guests to refrain from taking photos or video. You can word it nicely – something like: ‘We want you to truly enjoy the ceremony and reception, so we ask that you please refrain from taking photos or video today and just have fun. You are welcome to take as many photos as you want at the reception.'” ~ The Knot

Many couples have been heard to say, “I’d rather guests simply watch and clap and smile and cry — and really listen and remember, not from the photos they downloaded onto their computers or Instagram, but from their own individual memories.”

I’ve had numerous weddings where some of the guests were downright rude. They lean out into the aisle when the bride walks down the aisle with her father and the photographer is seen trying to shoot their photos around the madding crowd. If it doesn’t bother the couple, then it’s not a problem. However, to most, it does.

Most photographers will provide a link to where guests can view their photos and choose to purchase their favorites. Speak with your wedding photographer to ensure you can make a small set of photos (perhaps just five photos) available digitally to guests within a couple days of the wedding. The link can be posted on your Facebook page.

When I interview a couple, I bring up this issue and ask if they would like for me to make a brief – slightly humorous – announcement at the beginning the the ceremony. Most say, “Yes.” Often when the request comes from the Wedding Officiant, guests will take note and respect the couple’s wishes. My experience is that an announcement from the Wedding Officiant along with a brief note on the program and a sign on a chalk board as guests enter the ceremony area works best.

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Have a couple of girls carry signs as they walk in!

Minister: “Ladies and Gentlemen, the bride and groom request that you turn your cell phones, iPads, cameras and other digital distractions (pause) back on after the wedding. The professional photographer will capture how this moment ‘looks.’ They encourage you all to capture how it ‘feels’ with your hearts and without the distraction of technology during the ceremony. Thank you.”

Sometimes not everyone listens. I recently had a guest walk behind me and begin taking photos of the Sand Ceremony during the wedding ceremony. The bride and groom had me make the above announcement at the beginning of the ceremony, so I turned and politely asked the guest to please be seated, which he did. I’m sure it was an embarrassing moment for him, however, I don’t work for him. I work for the bride and groom.

Another humorous version: “Ladies and gentlemen, prior to Sally and Pete’s wedding take-off, all seat backs and tray tables must be in their upright and locked positions, all bags properly stowed, and they request that all portable electronic devices turned off and stowed. This includes cell phones, iPads and cameras. Thank you on behalf of the bride and groom.”

The Offbeat Bride Website suggests that you could include a short note in your programs:

“We want you to be able to relax and have fun with us today! This in mind, we invite you to put down all your favorite devices and just be present in the moment with us. Please leave your camera in your bag (we’ve got photography covered!), and put your cell phone on mute (we promise they’ll call back!). We’re happy to share our professional wedding photos later (on Facebook, etc), but the greatest gift you can give us today is just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.”

Note for Guests: A wedding ceremony is a brief and intimate moment shared between people who have been brought together as witnesses to the beginning of the couple’s marriage… please don’t mess it up for the bride and groom!

Just a thought: It is no more rude or tacky to ask your guests to turn off all electronic devices than to have “guest photographers” compromise your professional photos from your photographer!

So… what’s your take on this issue? Please comment below.

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Monday, July 29, 2013

What You Need to Know When Hiring Your Wedding Photographer

Sheryl Davies, Guest Author

When your wedding is over and the months of preparation leading up to your big day are done, what you have left are your memories! And those memories are preserved in your wedding photographs.

wedPhtographerYour pictures are a tangible of your joyous day and have the power to evoke those special moments. As the years go by, your photographs assume a large and greater importance, not only to remember your memories, but they will be of great interest in the future, to your children and grandchildren.

Choosing your photographer is one of the most important wedding decisions that you will make. A reputable professional will be booked a year or more in advance, and for that reason, it is suggested that you engage their services early in your planning process. There is nothing as disappointing as having your pictures turn out less than acceptable. There are no make- goods of your day. You only have one chance to get it right.

When you meet with a photographer, make sure you look at their sample work and ask questions regarding their style; is it journalistic, traditional or a combination of both? Be prepared to let the photographer know your expectations; what moments you want captured and what you envision in the final product. It is important for you both to be on the same page. Also, ensure that a contract is written with everything that you have discussed- quantities, hours, extra photos, an album, CD or memory stick storage, social media posting, ordering services online for your guests, a Plan B, etc.

You want to ask about their experience; you don’t want a photographer using your wedding for a practice run. What is included in their packages and how will the final product be delivered? Will you be receiving edited images that are print ready, will there be an album included in the price? Will he have more than one memory card to hold the images? It is recommended that they use one for each event throughout the day. With new technology, will you receive your 50 best images, emailed to you a couple days after the wedding in a digital mobile album?

photosIt is of importance to know if they will have a second camera, just in case there is a problem. You’ll want no surprises on your wedding day. Be sure to ask about a back-up plan, if your photographer can’t make it due to illness; a broken leg or who knows what. Make sure that point is added to the contract so you are not left high and dry. You will also need to ask about a secondary plan, in case of inclement weather. You may have wanted those outdoor pictures at that unique location in the worst way, but a torrential rain will ensure that it won’t happen. You need to know what the alternative spots will be, in advance of the day.

Your photographer will be spending time prior to the ceremony; possibly at two homes and then shooting your reception in its entirety, making it a 10 hour plus day. Be sure to provide a meal during the dinner hour.

In this age of technology, where everyone has a cell phone with a camera, it is important to note that you may want your wedding ceremony unplugged. That way your guests will have their full attention on you and your spouse taking your vows and the photographer will have an unhampered view of you both in order to capture what you are paying him for.

Once you are satisfied that you have conveyed all your wishes, relax and let your photographer fulfill them. A professional will gently capture the formal posing, unobtrusively capture the candid moments, and produce the photographs that genuinely reflect s your love and happiness you and your families share on your wedding day.

WedGuideCopyright © 2013 – Sheryl Davies. Sheryl Davies is a long-time wedding industry veteran who has seen the changes but also knows why they came about. She has published “The Wedding Guide Windsor|Essex County” since 1990. She hosts radio shows for her clients on http://www.am800cklw.com. Visit Sheryl’s Blog and Facebook page and http://www.Facebook.com/sheryldavies.

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Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Smartphones at Weddings: Potential Distraction!

Smartphone users! Please, PLEASE stay out of the way of the professional photographer at the wedding!

smartPhonesYour guests will most likely arrive at your wedding armed with their smartphones and some with iPads. Smartphones and iPads at weddings are one of the modern bride’s etiquette dilemmas. The use of smartphones for photosharing can be a great addition to weddings, and can make it faster and easier to get the candid shots that you once had to hunt down from guests. However, they can be a problem for the professional photographers that were paid big bucks to capture the wedding photos for the bride and groom.

The wedding ceremony should never be dominated by guests trying to get the perfect shots as the brides are walking down the aisle. First of all it’s bad etiquette to be in the way of the professional photographers as they shoot the wedding.

I encourage the brides and grooms to request that guests respect the sacredness of the occasion by refraining from photographing during the wedding ceremony. One way to keep smartphones in check is to include a brief note in your invitations, and a reminder in the form of a sign as guests enter at the ceremony area or a note in the program.

smartPhones5Sample note to include in your invitations: “We want you to be able to enjoy our wedding day, feeling truly present and in the moment with us. We’ve hired an amazing wedding photographer who will be capturing the way the wedding looks and we’re inviting each of you to sit back, relax, and just enjoy how the wedding feels. We are respectfully asking that everyone consider turning all cameras, iPads, Smartphones and cell phones OFF during our ceremony. (OR… We are respectfully ask that you do not block the view of the photographer as they take their photos; for example, do not take photos from the center aisle, etc.). We will be happy to share our wedding photos with you when they become available. The greatest gift you can give us is just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.”

Sample note in ceremony program: “We want you to be able to relax and have fun with us today! With this in mind, we are respectfully asking that everyone consider leaving all cameras, iPads, Smartphones and cell phones OFF during our ceremony. (OR… We are respectfully ask that you do not block the view of the photographer as they take their photos; for example, do not take photos from the center aisle, etc.). The greatest gift you can give us is just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.”

smarPhones2For those of you who think it might be rude or inappropriate to request that guests refrain from taking photos during the wedding ceremony, remember, the bride and groom have paid big bucks to have a professional photographer capture photos of their special memories.

What is inappropriate is waving your Smartphones in the aisle while the photographer is trying to get the best shot possible. Not good. Guests often crowd the newlyweds with Smartphone cameras during special must-have shots like the first kiss, cake cutting or the first dance. It becomes difficult for the photographer to do their work when they have to compete with so many smartphone users.

“My heart breaks when a guest ruins an otherwise lovely image or jumps in front of me when I’m capturing a key moment from the day. It completely slays me when this happens because while I am not remotely egotistical at all, I am fairly confident that my image would have been better than the one they captured. In the past 6 years of being a professional wedding photographer, it’s also been sad to watch the progression from seeing smiling, encouraging and happy faces as the bride is escorted up the aisle to faces hidden behind the backs of cameras and cell phones that line the aisle.” ~ Corey Ann, Corey Ann Photography, North Canton, Ohio

smartphoneIf the Bride and Groom approve, I will make the following announcement as soon as I am at the alter: “Ladies and Gentlemen, The bride and groom request that you turn your cell phones, ipads, cameras and other digital distractions (pause – just a few seconds) back on after the wedding. The professional photographer will capture how this moment ‘looks.’ I encourage you all to capture how it ‘feels’ with your hearts and without the distraction of technology. Thank you.” When I pause and say, “back on after the wedding,” the guests will often find this funny and it usually lightens things up a bit before the ceremony begins and it makes the point in a humorous way.

SPECIAL NOTE: If you are the bride and groom or are in the wedding party… when the professional photographer is taking photos after the wedding… ONLY look at the photographer – not the guests who are taking photos if you want the photographer to get the best photos. It looks pretty weird when the photo shows the eyes of some of the group looking at the photographer’s camera and the others looking to and fro.

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Saturday, January 26, 2013

10 Things You Can Do to Avoid a Photographer’s Gripes!

Photographers tell me that there are several gripes that often show up as they are busy doing their best to take the best photos of the bride and groom. Here are a few things that you and your bridal party can do to make things go smoother.

1. Not holding the kiss long enough for them to get the shot. Kiss SLOOOooowly! I always tell the groom to hold the kiss until it begins to feel a little uncomfortable, then let her go! 😉 Why? Because the photographer doesn’t know when the kiss will be and if its a quick kiss they often miss the photo. That photo is usually the one that get’s missed the most. Also, the guests love it! Someone recently shouted during an unusually long kiss, “Get a room!” which brought laughter from the guests.

weddinggueststakingphotos2. It’s annoying when the guests hover around the photographer, taking their own photos during the family portrait session. The couple’s eyes don’t know which camera to look at. Tip for the bride and groom… “always” keep your eyes on the one you’re paying the big bucks to – the photographer, of course. Don’t be looking around in all directions. Look at the photographer’s lens. Ask the photographer to pause for a minute or two between family photos to allow guests to shoot there own photos. He might say, “I’m going to break for a minute or two for family members who want to take snap shots with your cameras.” People usually get the clue that there is a time for them to shoot, and a time when they need to keep out of the way.

3. You want sunset photos? Most photographers will suggest getting married around 4 p.m. or 4:30 p.m. if the sun is setting at 6:30 p.m. and this is great advice. Many couples don’t realize that in order for a photographer to get the best photos, either agree to see each other before the wedding and take a lot of photos before the ceremony begins or have your wedding consultant or wedding coordinator at the venue create a time-line that has the ceremony begin at least an hour and a half before sunset. The average ceremony (usually about 30 minutes or less and some are longer) will be over and you will still have 1 hour for photos. Discuss this with your photographer. I recommend taking the bride and her bridesmaids photos BEFORE the wedding, then the groom and his groomsmen photos so that the photographer can take a few family photos after the ceremony. This allows the photographer to spend more time with just the bride and groom. It’s rude to keep your guests waiting while you take photos after the ceremony for more than one hour, plus the guests are at the cocktail hour and if you are longer than an hour don’t be surprise when you get your bar bill. 😉

4. Not creating a shoot list. More than any other complaint photographers hear from brides is that the photographer missed getting a certain photo. Usually it’s because that particular photo was not on the shoot list. This list acts as a checklist for the photographer so that no important “must have” photos are missed. Ask the photographer to take lots of fun photos and candid shots. As the photos of the people on the list are taken, they are checked off the list. Include “all” the names of the people who will be in the photos and before the wedding ask them to stay close so they can hear the photographer shout out the names for the next photo. Be sure to list the bride and her siblings, and the groom and his siblings. Give the photographer the names and cell phone numbers of the maid of honor and the best man and ask them to assist the photographer in rounding people up for the next photos. They should be your your go-to persons for question from the photographer. Make sure they understand that this will be part of their duties. Tell them to caution guests who will also want to take photos to stay out of the way of the photographer and to not use flash while the photographer is working.

5. Be clear about how many hours you will need the photographer. Before the event, clearly communicate to them what services they are prepared to offer for the price you pay. Do they include digital files? How many hours of work will they shoot? Are they going to shoot the reception too? Is there a travel charge? What prints are included? Will they do an album? Don’t surprise the photographer with a demand to stay longer than you hired them for and not expect to be charged extra for the time.

6. Nothing is worse than one photographer trying to conduct two large families for photos. Make sure you tell the families and the photographer which family will go first.

funweddingphoto7. Let the photographer know if it is okay to move around during the ceremony. If you want the best shots, your answer should be, “go anywhere you need to go to get a good shot.” That may mean getting in the guests way – momentarily – to get the picture. Weddings in churches often have restrictions about the photographer using flash during the ceremony. Be sure to check with the person performing the ceremony. Every location has different rules. Get to know them.

8. Create a timeline for the reception. It can be very easy for the photographer to miss the cake cutting, bouquet throwing, etc. Photographers are usually very good about following a schedule with brides for the big things like when the bride and groom photos will be taken. Be sure your timeline has everything that you want the photographer to shoot.

9. Hire your photographer far enough in advance so they won’t be rushed to obtain all the details that you want them to know about your engagement photos and your wedding.

10. Not being ready for photos when the photographer arrives. Plan your day! Especially your wedding day. Double-check with the hair dresser and anyone else that may need to be there to help you be ready – according to your time-line – to make sure they stay on schedule. Be on time! No excuses.

We’ve all seen the bad wedding pics. Blurry brides, green tinted grooms, hideous composition and the list goes on. Weddings are a one shot chance. There is no reshoot of the event and the bride and groom are very emotionally invested in the outcome of the photos. Hire a photographer only after viewing his/her portfolio, an in-depth interview about your likes and dislikes, checking their references, etc. You will want to know if they have a plan in place for handling an equipment malfunction?

A professional wedding photographer knows the ins and outs of weddings, what works and what doesn’t. I would NEVER recommend that you “cheap-out” by having a family member or someone who is just beginning their photography career to shoot your wedding. NEVER! The good ones aren’t cheap and the cheap ones are not usually good. Plan your wedding budget accordingly.

Wedding photography is one of the hardest jobs in photography. Weddings are emotionally and physically exhausting events to shoot. They have days of prep before the wedding and days, if not weeks, of work (editing, etc.) afterwards. Wedding photographers deserve your “respect” and trust and the really good ones genuinely deserve the fees they receive.

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Photo Credits: Top photo: Andrew Sansom Wedding Photography
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Friday, November 23, 2012

Clever Ideas (Photos) to Make Your Wedding Special

Filed under: Photos,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Some wedding images need no explanation.

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WedSignWeddingWoman.netLarry’s Note: These images were “borrowed” 😉 from Brenda Owen’s Facebook page with her permission! Brenda Owen is a wedding officiant and ordained minister. Brenda is best known in three states (SC, NC and GA) as the Wedding Woman because of her beautiful, romantic and memorable ceremonies. Brenda lives in Anderson, SC. Follow her on Pinterest, Twitter, Facebook and on her Website @ WeddingWoman.net!

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