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Wednesday, June 28, 2017

How to Plan the Perfect Honeymoon

Filed under: Honeymoon,Honeymoons,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 10:30 am

A lot of people would agree that your wedding day is one of the most important, emotional, and happiest days in a person’s life. However, it’s at the same time exhausting and tiresome. That’s why newly married couples dream of a perfect honeymoon to start right the next day after their wedding ceremony. Tired of pre-wedding preparation and the long day of receiving gifts, they can’t wait to get away to some nice place and spend a wonderful week or two with their soulmates.

 

But here’s a tricky part: not only the wedding day itself requires planning and preparation but so does the honeymoon. You need to think of the right location, choose the best hotel, book tickets, and pack your bags in advance. So here come some important questions. What are the best practices of honeymoon planning? Are there any tried-and-true tricks to ease the process? Just how well in advance should one start planning?

 

As experience confirms times and times again, early booking helps save newlyweds a lot of money. That’s why it might be reasonable to start searching the right travel package for a honeymoon as soon as you’ve chosen the perfect diamond ring and decided on the date of the ceremony. According to statistics, the majority of people book their honeymoons at least 4 months in advance. This way, they can save themselves a lot of time and nerves. As most of the people prefer the same destinations for honeymoon (the most popular spots are Mexico, Caribbean, Maldives, and Hawaii), the best hotels tend to be booked before you even know it. That’s why planning things in advance helps get the best room in the best hotel in a chosen location.

 

Larry’s Tip:  Don’t plan to leave on your honeymoon immediately after the wedding. The wedding and reception may cause extreme exhaustion. It’s a big day. The honeymoon is very special so give yourself a couple of days (or more) to rest. Open gifts, write “thank you” notes, sleep late, rest and just be together. When you are fully rested, go for it! Don’t worry about not being able to take a big fancy honeymoon. You have the rest of your lives to make money and take big, wonderful, fabulous vacations. But you only get “one” wedding. Do it well and be happy.

 

Also remember to leave your hotel accommodation details (room and phone number) and itinerary with your family so they can contact you in an emergency. Don’t take your cell phone. Give it it’s own vacation. While your cell is recharging its batteries, you can do the same. This is a very special get-away for only the two of you. When you are ready to plan your honeymoon, check out my “Honeymoon Checklist!”

 

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Saturday, November 29, 2014

10 Sexy Ways to Make Your Wedding Night Very Special

Filed under: Honeymoons,Intimacy — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Engaged couples spend lots of time planning for the big day, but not everybody plans well for the big wedding night. This time alone together after the festivities can be incredibly meaningful and romantic. Wedding preparations and celebrations, while exciting, are often stressful and tiring for couples, which can be a major turn-off in the bedroom, even on your wedding night.

The best prescription for romance could be to make your wedding night a leisurely one. It’s your first night together as wife and husband. Make it unforgettable with these intimate tips.

WeddingNight1. Let Him Carry You Across the Threshold ~ This romantic tradition, which dates from Roman times, when it was said to ensure good luck for the couple, is fun for both partners.

2. Turn Off Your Cell Phones ~ Who do you need to be talking to on your wedding night? Leave your computers at home. When you check in, it is also a good idea to ask the reception desk to hold your calls unless it is an emergency. Be sure to tell the hotel or resort that you are honeymooners. Most will have special surprises that fit the mood of the honeymoon.

3. Get Squeaky clean ~ Do yourself and your partner a favor and make sure that you’re squeaky clean and ready for whatever may come. Think about it – what did you do at the reception? You probably danced all night and consumed lots of alcohol in stuffy, hot clothing. A quick five minute shower will go a long way.

4. Sexy Lingerie ~ Wedding night lingerie can really help the mood. Make sure your undergarments are on point. Pack sexy and elegant lingerie to really impress your new hubby. Buying lingerie is an opportunity for a woman or a man to express their sexuality and men can express their preferences as to what they would like their bride to wear. Purchasing the right lingerie, not just the sexiest or most revealing must be a primary factor at the time of purchase. Guys: Surprise her with some satin skivvies.

5. Hot Hair ~ A great trend is to ask your hair and make-up artist on your wedding day how to recreate the look, or a different one, for when you go away.

6. Fill Your Room With Seductive Fragrance ~ Arrange to have a bouquet of flowers put by the bed, as well as scented candles. From sweet and seductive, to musky and alluring, choosing your scent can help create your mood… and his!

7. Raise a Glass ~ Ask your venue to make sure there is a bottle of Champagne waiting inside the bridal suite at the end of the day.

WeddingNightFUN8. Romantic Music – Set the Mood ~ Download your favorite love songs onto your iPhone or MP3 Player. Most hotels provide a docking station; check with them before you arrive or pack your own for that perfect ambiance!

9. Breathe… Relax… ~ A wedding night does not necessarily mean jumping into bed right away. Take things slowly. Savor this moment. Take a few minutes to talk about the magic of your wedding – the parts you loved the most, and how you feel about each other. Take some time to enjoy each other. Real intimacy in marriage is not just about sex. It’s about connecting in all areas – mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Kiss, hug, laugh, and love. The rest will come naturally

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10. Pamper Each Other ~ Give each other foot massages, and progress as slowly – or as quickly – as you like to a sensual full-body massage. Remember to pack the oils that you will need.

Bonus Tip: Go easy on the booze at your wedding reception. Alcohol can keep you from having really good wedding night sex! If you’re too exhausted or tipsy for foreplay (that is important, you know!), sex isn’t going to be so great. Your first time as a married couple should be special, and if you’re too beat to do anything more than to just go throught the motions, consider having your “wedding night” the next morning. You’ll still be in your wedding night bed, with the excitement and stimulated with the adrenaline of the day before, but you’ll be more rested.

You don’t have to have a perfect wedding night. In fact, most couples will tell you that they did not have a picture perfect wedding night. However, your wedding night can turn into a disaster if you haven’t done any prior planning. Some couples might even choose to practice celibacy in the run-up to their wedding. While this won’t be a choice for everybody, it could certainly help store up all that passion and make the wedding night be one to remember. Do something romantic and out of the ordinary for one another to show how happy you are to finally be married. Savor the romance, whether it leads to an evening of exciting sex or not.

One final note: Although, traditionally, women have been in charge of birth control, that paradigm has shifted over the past 50 years. Condoms, diaphragms, the pill… whatever you pick, be real honest about who is in charge of protecting the goods long before your wedding night encounter, or you might be celebrating a honeymoon baby in nine months.

If you plan ahead for your wedding night and follow some of these tips, you will find your sex life will be joyful, and if you keep things light and fun on your wedding night, your marriage will be off to a good start in the intimacy department.

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Saturday, July 12, 2014

Packing for a Honeymoon?

The first question… Where are you going? Whether you’re heading to a honeymoon cabin in the woods or a beach honeymoon in a romantic tropical location, once you have your reservations and your tickets there are several packing tips that can help you create a honeymoon to remember.

Oh, yes. The first tip is don’t plan to leave on your honeymoon immediately. The wedding and reception may cause extreme exhaustion. It’s a big day. The honeymoon is very special so give yourself a couple of days (or more) to rest. Open gifts, write “thank you” notes, sleep late, rest and just be together. When you are fully rested, go for it! Don’t worry about not being able to take a big fancy honeymoon. You have the rest of your lives to make money and take big, wonderful, fabulous vacations. But you only get “one” wedding. Do it well and be happy.

HoneymoonChecklistGet help with the honeymoon. Avoid incurring honeymoon debt and sign up with a honeymoon gift registry. Guests will then be able to buy increments of your big sendoff – a valuable cost-cutting plan. Since you may already have most of the traditional wedding gift items, you may want to offer your guests a popular new wedding gift alternative – a honeymoon registry. This will allow them to help you create the honeymoon memories that will last a lifetime. Check out Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry.

Notify your financial institutions of when you will be traveling out of the country on your honeymoon. This could save you the embarrassment of having your credit card rejected because the bank suspects someone else may be using your card. Avoid costly curency conversion. Some European merchants and ATMs capitalize on the fact that Americans can be intimidated by foreign currencies. If a merchant or ATM offers to convert euros to dollars while running your card transaction, refuse – you’ll be paying a premium for the conversion. If you are traveling internationally, arrange to get foreign currency of the country you will be visiting from your hometown bank.

beachsandelsAlso remember to leave your hotel accommodation details (room and phone number) and itinerary with your family so they can contact you in an emergency. Don’t take your cell phone. Give it it’s own vacation. While your cell is recharging its batteries, you can do the same. This is a very special get-away for only the two of you. If you must take your cell, arrange with your carrier for international access.

Don’t overtip. Service is often included at restaurants. If it isn’t, a tip of 5 to 10 percent is the norm in Europe. For taxis, round up to the next euro on the fare.

Label your luggage – inside and out – name, address, phone and another address of a close family member, just in case (God forbid) something happens to you. Use your “Honeymoon Leverage.” Many resorts will go out of their way for honeymooners: room upgrades, free bottles of champagne, flowers, a free dinner – these sorts of freebies are relatively common. Some of the upscale international hotel chains have programs whereby travel agents who are members of their program can request a free amenity or upgrade for their honeymoon couples.

When traveling outside the U.S., put your phone on airplane mode. Forget and the phone keeps checking the Internet and e-mail over the cellular network in the new country and you’ll get a huge bill when you return. If you must check e-mail, turn Wi-Fi on and find a Wi-Fi hot spot. If you are taking your smartphone or tablet to Europe, buy an international phone/data package before you leave to prevent costly roaming charges. Short-term plans generally start at $25-$30 and can save you hundreds of dollars.

Don’t be afraid to let hotels or travel agents know that this is your honeymoon: yes, the travel industry DOES market heavily to honeymooners, but you’re much more likely to get a bonus because of it than you are to be over-charged or taken advantage of. A thoroughly experienced travel agent who specializes in your destination can help you get more for your honeymoon budget this way.

Sandals-Honeymoon-160x600Check out weather and climate conditions. Sometimes a beach honeymoon can be rainy and windy, so make sure you know what type of weather to expect. A lightweight but warm jacket, sturdy walking shoes (that’s a must) and a small umbrella, especially if you plan on spending a lot of time outdoors. Wear comfortable clothes for honeymoon travel and be sure to carry necessities in a carry-on bag.

Remember your passport if traveling out of the country. Make sure it is up-to-date. If you do not have a passport, allow plenty of time to get one. You’ll want to preserve these memories so pack a digital camera. Pack a few extra batteries and a couple extra memory cards. Check with a travel agent about gadgets to recharge any electronic gear. Electric outlets in foreign countries may be different. Chargers for cell phones, iPods, and digital cameras. Leave home with everything fully charged.

PackingAlthough a good honeymoon means spending a lot of time together in bed, you will need clothes for whenever you want to venture out of your room. Pack a swimsuit and sunscreen. Your honeymoon hotel may include hot tubs or outdoor swimming pools, and you’ll definitely want a suit if there’s a beach nearby. Romantic honeymoons often include luxurious dinners at formal restaurants, which may require a dress and a suit and tie. Even if your plans don’t include a four-star cafe, you will still want at least one dressy outfit for other occasions, including dancing, attending a musical or other honeymoon ideas.

Don’t forget extras. Whether you’ll be gone for just a few days or for a few weeks, the most romantic honeymoons include special touches to make everything perfect. Pack candles, flower petals, perfume and, of course, intimates for a trip you’ll never forget. Make a mix of love songs you and your partner can listen to together. Leave your valuable jewelry at home.

Pack several ziplock bags, all sizes; use for packing wet swimsuits or protecting your camera if it rains. Check the Knot’s Master Honeymoon Checklist for more suggestions.

Larry’s NOTE: Looking for a romantic hideaway? I have personally visited Sandals Emerald Bay, Great Exuma, Bahamas and highly recommend any of the Sandals’ Resorts. Emerald Bay is secluded within 500 tropical acres along a pristine, mile-long beach, civilized pleasure coexists with exotic adventures, from three impressive pools – including a half-acre, zero-entry pool with a dramatic fire pit in the middle – to seven exceptional restaurants. I never ate better in my life. The service by the staff was exceptional. Click the Sandals banner for more information or call me and allow me to share my experience!

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Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Must-Do List for Every Sandals Destination Honeymoon Bride!

Planning your honeymoon at a Sandals Resort? Here’s the latest scoop!

1. Hair and Makeup Trial

SandalsYou’d never buy your wedding dress without trying it on – the same goes for hair and makeup. Although you may know what works for your hair regularly, tropical climates can be a bit trickier. Fluctuations in humidity, temperature and breeze can be challenging for a bride to handle without some serious experience. Trust your stylist and do a trial before the big day. You’re stylist won’t let you leave unhappy. You’ll feel confident on the big day without worrying about whether or not your hair and makeup can stand up to the tropical climate.

2. Digital Photo Album and Videographer

This is especially important if you have family members that are unable attend the ceremony. Your pictures and video will stay with your forever without worry of damage and you can share your memories with generations to come.

3. Private Candlelight Dinner

Experience a private paradise with your brand new spouse under the stars. Weddings are wonderful, but the private moments that you and your love can spend alone are the topper to your wedding cake. Take advantage of your destination location’s private dinner services or have a rose petal drawn bath with ambient candles to set the mood in the privacy of your own room.

4. Sand Ceremony

Similar to the tradition of the unity candle, the sand ceremony is a popular tradition in the Caribbean. Here’s how it goes: Each person choses a color and during your ceremony, you will each pour your colored sand into a decorative jar to signify that you have become one – no one will ever be able to separate each sand color again. It’s a significant way to show your oneness that you can take home with you.

5. Couple’s Massage

Need I say more? Book a couple’s massage to experience a blissful state of mind with your spouse. Many couple’s rooms come equipped with a shower and hot tub so you’re pampering doesn’t need to end with a massage. Not only is it a great pre-wedding practice, but it’s also a fab way to start your first day together!

6. Explore!

Sandals-Honeymoon-160x600You want to ensure your Weddingmoon® is truly memorable so book that once in a lifetime tour and explore the destination of your dreams.

7. Private Transfer

Your Weddingmoon® starts the moment you step off the plane so to avoid any delay in getting started and arrive in style by booking a private transfer for that true VIP service.

Is there anything you should/shouldn’t be doing before the big day?

While you definitely want to avoid the big “No-No’s” like cutting your hair, over doing the sun or drastic skin procedures there are some things you should avoid the “morning of” as well!

Don’t Have that Large Coffee. While a hot double latte sounds like a great idea first thing in the morning … don’t! Wedding day jitters plus a double dose of caffeine equals a really shaky bride.

Don’t drink too much. I know I know… it’s time to celebrate; however you still have a wedding to get through. A drunken bride is not a pretty bride and slurred vows won’t be something you want to see on your wedding video later. Save the champagne toasts for the reception (and the honeymoon).

Don’t Tan in the Can. Fake tan is especially a “no-no” for beach brides who will be taking vows underneath a Caribbean sun and may risk a little perspiration (and a brand new tan streak down the front of their white dress). If you’re bent on having a bit of a tan, try and get some sun in small safe doses in the months leading up to your nuptials or hit up a tanning salon. A light dust of make-up bronzer may be all it takes to give you a hint of color.

Don’t make drastic last minute changes. Pass on making any extreme last minute decisions period. Don’t wake up the morning of and decide to try that new tight curled hairstyle J-Lo had on American Idol two nights ago. Sometimes the desire to change your mind is just pre-wedding jitters or “performance anxiety”. Will everyone love my hair? What if my make-up looks too plain? Stop! Remember your wedding is not a show!

Don’t stress about it! This one may be easier said than done but avoiding pre-ceremonial stress may be as simple as turning your cell phone off. If the thought of no cellphone gives you separation anxiety jitters, then hand it over to your maid of honor to screen your calls and answer on your behalf. The morning of is not the time to stress over tiny little details. We’re sure all the bows on your favor box ribbons will be tied with a double knot instead of one and all your chocolates will be the same flavor. Your guests will not pack up and leave if you’re running a few minutes late and no one will notice their steak came with Idaho potatoes instead of Irish potatoes! Do you want to know a secret? You’re the only one who knows how everything is “supposed to go!” No one will know that your shoes were supposed to be eggshell instead of ivory if you don’t tell them.

The best advice that I can offer to any bride the morning of her wedding is to stay relaxed and think of your fiancé’s face the moment he sees you walking down the aisle. Everything else pales in comparison!

Larry’s NOTE: I have personally visited Sandals Emerald Bay, Great Exuma, Bahamas. It’s secluded within 500 tropical acres along a pristine, mile-long beach, civilized pleasure coexists with exotic adventures, from three impressive pools – including a half-acre, zero-entry pool with a dramatic fire pit in the middle – to seven exceptional restaurants. I never ate better in my life. The service by the staff was exceptional. Click the banner above right for more information or call me an allow me to share my experience!

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Monday, March 10, 2014

Honeymoon Q & A

Sam Becchetti, Guest Author

Your honeymoon is one of the most important aspects of the wedding planning process. Think of it as you reward for making it to the finish line of the marathon of planning your wedding. Let’s face it, it’s been your part-time job! This is the first chance for you and your groom to reconnect as a couple and recover in bliss. It’s also one of the most memorable aspects, so make sure to give it some thought.

Q ~ How do I get a passport?

HoneymoonQ&AA ~ First of all, be sure to start the process at least eight weeks before travel, or you may have to pay for expedited service. Step 1: Obtain your official birth certificate from your birth state by visiting www.cdc.gov/nchs/wes.htm. Step 2: Complete the application form. Step 3: Obtain a valid passport photo. Step 4: Make an appointment for an IN PERSON application – you cannot go for your intended spouse! For information on fees and other details, visit www.travel.state.gov/passport.

Q ~ Will I also need a Visa?

A ~ In most cases, no, but a few countries will require one even for a shorter term stay. Be sure to check with http://www.travel.state.gov/visa or your travel agent for requirements for the country(s) you plan to visit. If they do require one, and you do not have it upon arrival at the destination, they can refuse to allow you to exit the airport.

Q ~ Customs and Immigration – What’s the difference?

A ~ At the airport, you must pass through both. Immigration is the process of inspecting your documents to be sure you are who you say you are and have permission to enter the country. This is where they validate your passport (and possible visa). For most travelers, this takes just a few minutes with the officer. In some countries, they will also distribute a “tourist card” which you must present upon departure from that country.

Once you collect your luggage, you then go through Customs where they inspect your belongings and your declarations paperwork. Customs monitors the import/export of goods from other countries, so this will take place both at your foreign destination as well as when you return to the U.S. If you have goods that require duties to be paid they will be collected at this point. Customs also checks for items that are not allowed into the country for example, Cuban cigars bought in Mexico are not allowed to cross into the U.S. and would be confiscated. These rules very from country to country. It’s also important to note that just because you buy an item in a duty-free show does not necessarily mean you can bring it into the U.S.

Q ~ What does duty-free mean?

A ~ Duty-free shops, typically found at airports or in cruise ports, offer goods for sale at supposed discounted rates. Customs duties and local taxes are not charged on these items. It’s a good idea to know what the going prices are so you can decide if the duty-free prices represent any savings to you. Each country has different allowances for what you can bing back duty-free. The U.S. has a limit of up to $800. Anything over that is subject to taxing at customs. There are also limits on certain items like alcohol and cigarettes.

JustMarriedQ ~ What if I have an emergency?

A ~ There are two steps you should consider taking before departure to assist you in the event of an emergency. One is to purchase a comprehensive travel protection plan which provides coverage for various situations, as well as medical coverage, as most health insurance policies do not cover you when you travel out of the country. The second is to register with the STEP program at www.step.state.gov so the state department, consulate or embassy can assist you in event of an emergency.

Q ~ What if I still have questions?

A ~ Well in advance of your trip it’s a good idea to check out the www.travel.state.gov website. There you will find answers to questions you may have about the place(s) you are visiting. Do they have any required immunizations or breakout of illness? Political unrest? While this is good information, don’t panic. Remember that it is being provided by the government and they want to make sure they have covered any issues that my potentially be a problem at the time of your travels.

Larry’s NOTE: If you plan to travel out of the United States on your honeymoon or destination wedding, call my friend, Sam @ 480-838-9447. I consider her to be one of the best experts on honeymoon and destination wedding travel.

HoneymoonSAM&ljCopyright © 2014 – Sam Becchetti. Reprinted with permission. Sam Sam Becchetti has been a travel coordinator since 2007 specializing in honeymoons and destination weddings. She is graduate from ASU in Tourism and Special Events and has served the wedding community for 20+ years in Phoenix. Not surprising, her favorite hobby is to travel – whether on the road for work or play she is always scouting new resorts for her clientele. Visit “All About Honeymoons, Weddings & Travel Services” at: www.HoneymoonSam.com

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Thursday, June 27, 2013

Honeymoon Q & A ~ Everything You Need to Know About Passports, & More

Sam Becchetti, Guest Author

Larry’s NOTE: If you plan to travel out of the United States on your honeymoon or destination wedding, call my friend, Sam @ 480-838.9447. I consider her to be one of the best experts on honeymoon and destination wedding travel.

How do I get a passport?

passportsThere are a few easy steps. Be sure to start the process at least 8 weeks before travel, or you may have to pay for expedited service.

• Step 1: Obtain your official birth certificate from your birth state by visiting www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w.htm.
• Step 2: Complete the application form.
• Step 3: Obtain a valid passport photo (try Walgreens for example).
• Step 4: Make an appointment for an IN PERSON application; you cannot go for your intended spouse! More details on fees & details can be obtained at www.travel.state.gov/passport.

Will I also need a Visa?

This is a little tougher. Most times no, but a few countries will require one even for a shorter term stay. Be sure to check with www.travel.state.gov/visa or your travel agent for specifics for the country(s) you plan to visit. If they do require one, and you do not have one upon arrival at the destination, they can refuse to allow you to exit the airport.

Customs & Immigration – what’s the difference?

At the airport you must pass through both. Immigration is the process of inspecting you and your documents to be sure you are who you say you are and have permissions to be where you are going. This is where they validate your passport (and possible visa). For most this takes just a few minutes with the officer. In some countries they will also distribute a “tourist card” which you must then present upon departure from that country.

Once you collect your luggage, you then go through Customs where they inspect your belongings and your declarations paperwork. Customs monitors the import/export of goods from other countries into the one you have arrived at. So this takes place at your foreign destination as well as returning back to the US. If you have goods that require Duty collection, this is where that takes place. They also monitor for items that are not allowed to cross into the country; a good example is Cuban cigars bought in Mexico are still not allowed to cross into the US and would be confiscated. Since these rules vary from country to country, just because it is in a duty-free shop does not mean YOU can buy and return with them to the US.

What is Duty-Free?

Couple_on_beachYou may see Duty-Free shops at the airport or in cruise ports. Here you are able to buy goods at supposed discounted rates because the shops are not paying taxes (or Duty) on the goods as they have not been imported or exported at the time you purchase. It’s a good idea to know what going prices are to know if the duty-free is actually worth any savings to you. Each country has different allowances of how much “stuff” you can bring back into a country that is duty-free. The US has a limit of up to $800, so anything more that you purchase is still subject to taxing at customs. Know also that certain items have limits on the amounts you can return with – like alcohol and cigarettes.

What if I have an emergency?

There are two things you can do preventatively before departure to assist in the event of an emergency. One is purchase a comprehensive travel protection plan which provides coverages for various reasons (sometimes any reason too) as well as medical coverage as most insurances do not cover you out of state, let alone out of country. The second thing to do is register with the STEP program @ www.step.state.gov/step/ so the Dept. of State, consulate or embassy can help you better in the event you need it.

Will I get jet lag?

Possibly. If you are traveling across more than 3 times zone to/from east/west (not north/south) you may develop the syndrome known as jet lag. It means that your body has not adjusted to the new times for eat, sleep, and overall good function. You may have indigestion, lack of concentration and not sleep well. A good rule of thumb is it takes one day per time zone crossed; North/south does not cause jet lag as that does not result in crossing time zones. You may also just have travel fatigue which is effected by being in a cramped space, re-circulated air, and dehydration. This can happen with any longer flight in any direction resulting in headaches, fatigue and/or confusion. This usually takes a good night’s sleep to remedy.

What happens if we cross the international dateline?

The international dateline is an imaginary line designated to help those in travel. If you are traveling east when crossing the line, you “gain” a day, meaning you are repeating the same date again. The opposite occurs if you are headed west, you “lose” a day as the date moves ahead. The biggest thing to remember is that when you depart, your arrival date may not be the same as your departure because you have crossed the line.

What if I still have questions?

If you had not caught on throughout the various topics, one very good thing to do before departure (and not the day before!) is to check out the www.travel.state.gov website. There you will find answers to things on current issues on the place(s) you are visiting. Do they have any required immunizations or breakouts? Political unrest? While this is good information it should also not set you into paranoia, it is delivered by the government and they want to be sure they have covered any issues that may or may not be a true viable problem at the time of your travels. It might be humorous to read the information provided to foreigners coming to the US by their own countries.

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Larry’s NOTE: This article was originally published in Arizona’s Finest Wedding Sites & Services magazine.

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Friday, May 10, 2013

Will Sex on Your Wedding Night Be Unforgettable or Should You Fugetaboutit?

Filed under: Honeymoons,Intimacy,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Your wedding night is a very special occasion in ways more than one and you should do whatever you can to make it a memorable night. It’s your first night together as wife and husband. Planning for your wedding night is just as important as planning for the wedding and reception. It’s a night to be savored by the both of you. Plan ahead to make it a night to be remembered.

weddingnightbathYour wedding day is a often a stressful day with all the pressure, exhaustion and the expectations so be realistic in your approach… slow down. Take your time. Be realistic. It is an accepted statistical fact that these days, less than half of newlyweds consummate their union on the night of their wedding and often on the first night of their honeymoon. Why? Because they are so exhausted and emotionally drained from the weeks and the days that have preceded it that they just want to sleep and recover. What could happen is that one of you falls asleep, or isn’t in the mood. If they do, that is not a prediction of a doomed marriage. Spend the time relaxing and remembering how wonderful your wedding day was.

Wedding nights are only really steamy and romantic in the movies. It is wise to lower your expectations and just let it happen. Between the pressure, the exhaustion, and the alcohol you might have consumed at your wedding, this may not be the most amazing sex you’ve ever had. That’s okay. Cuddle. Do spoons. Rest up for another day. Your big day if over… time to relax and maybe just fall asleep in each other’s arms. That’s pretty sexy. Just try to enjoy whatever happens.

Anticipation is one of the key ingredients of making love. Premarital abstinence may help. Abstinence makes the loins grow stronger. For a period of time before the wedding, ban all sexual contact so that your desire for each other will build up until the wedding night. A week-long of celibacy might be a good idea.

Flirt with each other at your wedding and reception… then get frisky. It will help to arouse your desire for each other. Little things like holding hands, touching one another, etc., keep you focused on each other, and build anticipation as the wedding night approaches. Even in the presence of other people do not hesitate to let your partner know that you are looking forward to being intimate together later. Enjoy this moment with a wink, send them a kiss and tell them that you love them. Plan to sneak away during your reception to have a little alone time. Have your disc jockey/wedding entertainer plan a few things to involve the guests… for 15 or 20 minutes they probably won’t even notice that you are missing.

Bride-and-groom-jumping-on-a-bedBe sure to plan ahead to ensure that you have transportation readily available after the reception to take you to your wedding night hotel. Let you family and friends be assigned to transport any gifts, etc., to your home… not you.

Romantic tradition has it that the groom should carry his wife over the threshold. Have children? Hire a trusted friend to watch the kids. Make sure you reserve a beautiful suite at a hotel. Never go the “cheap” route and go home after the wedding. Hang a “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door. Also don’t leave for your honeymoon right after the wedding. Sleep in. There’s nothing remotely sexy about waking up at 5:30 a.m. to catch an early flight. Breakfast in bed is a great idea. Remember to ask for a late check out at the hotel.

Next… relax. Plan a CD with some of your favorite soft music. No Cell phones or TV tonight… not even to check the scores. Order room service. With all the mingling, taking pictures, dancing, cutting the cake and giving a speech at your receptions, some couple are to busy to eat or enjoy their reception meal. Take some time to talk about the parts you liked best of your wedding day. Focus on each other. Highlight the special moments of your life together so far.

kissthebrideNOTE for the guys: Be gentle. Be romantic. This is the night to get very, very intimate. Go very, very slow. Pace yourself. Don’t be a two-minute wonder! Never feel any pressure to thunder into the hotel room and start rattling the bed posts. Skip the clichés and tell her what it really feels like to be laying next to the woman of your dreams on the most magical night of your life. Remember, intimacy is not only about sex. This is a great time to talk about how you truly “feel” about your partner. That is intimacy too.

There is nothing better than perfect ambiance. Have the hotel staff sprinkle rose petals on the bed, around the floor, and scatter lots of lit candles everywhere. Order chocolate-dipped strawberries. The room must smell of fresh fragrance. Scent can be a powerful aphrodisiac. Take a luxurious bubble bath together. Good hygiene is hot. Have some bed-side breath mints handy. Make this night special.

A survey of brides and grooms by Brides.com ask the question: “How was the wedding-night sex?

• 61% ~ Awesome
• 21% ~ Meh!
• 13% ~ Didn’t happen
• 5% ~ Reproductive

SideNote… Don’t ask friends to decorate your hotel suite. Some think it’s funny to “short-sheet” your bed or to play practical jokes on your wedding night. Not a good time to be funny. Romance is the rule of the night.

It’s often easy to spot a couple who definitely will not be making love on there wedding night. Most likely it has to do with a little too much social lubrication. Ease up on how many drinks you consume. Lay off the shots. Your wedding night should be memorable… that means you need to remember it. Alcohol affects your libido. Missing out on making love and waking up with a hangover is never a great way to begin the rest of your life together.

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“Bliss out in the tub. Prepare beforehand for a romantic bath. Think rose petals, massage oils and candles, as well as sponges or loofahs to wash each other with. Just turn the water on and enjoy.” ~ Michelle Bender

To tired for wedding night whoopee? Wait until the morning. Perhaps morning-after sex might be a better idea.

The wedding night marks the beginning of a new responsible life together and is extremely significant in the life of each of you. Your wedding night may not be the best night of your lives but it is the starting point of a life that can turn out to be a wonderful life together. Perhaps the best promise you can make to one another is to get through the day together and turn your focus on the marriage that lies ahead.

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Sunday, February 3, 2013

What Does it Take to Have a Healthy Sexual Relationship?

Once married, there is more at stake. So why would you pay less attention to your lover’s needs once the prize has been won? The bonding of two hearts continues long after marriage. It takes diligent effort and a committed love for you to continue to stir the sparks and keep the fire burning. Getting married is just the beginning.

So… What does it take to have a healthy sexual relationship? It takes a relationship with unwavering commitment, a passion for life’s sexual journey and a dedication to the processes to go from boring sex to bliss in the bedroom.

Couple-in-bedIt requires dedication to pleasure;
• learning to be intentionally spontaneous;
• developing the ability to communicate openly and honestly your most secret sexual desires;
• the willingness to be a student of great sex; the discipline to stay in the moment when being sexually intimate;
• the daring to experiment;
• an attention to hygiene;
• the generosity to consider your lover’s pleasure before your own or the esprit de corps to decide whether you go first or reach orgasm together;
• the keenness of mind to recognize the value of making love vs. only having sex;
• the gusto to be energetic or the sensitivity to passionately lie motionless together;
• the wit to not always take yourselves so seriously, to laugh, to play and to experience whatever is sexually fun;
• the insight to negotiate agreements and promises about how you will mutually care for your partner¹s needs in the sexual arena;
• the courage to ask for the variety of pleasure you want and
• the deserve and the respect to honor your lover’s right to say no without consequence.

Avoid selective sharing. When you are talking about making love with your love partner, share what is really in your heart. Say what you want. Have an agreement to listen without judgment. The agreement must include the right to not participate in something you consider not right for you, but without making a big deal out of it or criticizing your lover for speaking what he or she would like to try. Just say no. Or say, “Yes! Let’s try that!”

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It may be difficult at first to share your sexual desires, but remember, each time you do, it will not only give you more freedom to naturally express what you want, most likely it will also be an incredible turn-on for your lover. Talking about making love with someone you love and being authentic about your desires is verbal foreplay.

When you place a high value on your sexual relationship, you will find more pleasure in it. When you are both energetic in your pursuit of it, bells ring! Be intentional about striving for ways to improve it. When you can freely express with words what making love with your love partner is like, how it feels, and what you would like to try next time, then you can explore together the erotic treats that God has given you the choice to create. You must learn to continue doing those things that you do together that keeps your love alive. Anything of value must be managed to stay in existence.

There is nothing more romantic than a marriage in which the spark still flickers and, more importantly, ignites on a regular basis. Just because you are married does not mean you have to stop acting like lovers. Passion does not stay alive by itself. Neither does love. A garden unattended does not explode into color; it withers and dies. Love and passion must be nurtured. If you expect love and passion to continue to burn as an unattended fire, you will both burn out.

Commitment must be renewed. Love must be rekindled. The true romantics are those who continually work together to maintain the love and passion that brought them together in the first place. While the pursuit is exciting and fun in the beginning, the responsibility each partner has of investing time and energy to supporting a healthy and prosperous marriage on a continuing basis is undeniably more important than hoping that things work out while giving far less effort than you spent on winning your partner’s hand. Holding on to it is the key.

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Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Just Got Engaged? Follow These Steps!

The moment has finally come! Your significant other has popped the question and you’re swimming in happiness – but what is next? Here are a few steps to help you get started on your journey to everlasting bliss!

Announce it! You have big news and word will inevitably spread fast! Make sure you tell the most significant people first. Mom wouldn’t want to hear about your engagement through a Facebook relationship status change. If at all possible, tell the crucial people first and follow with sharing it on your social networks.

partytimeA fun way to keep your friends and family updated is to build a wedding website. Write your love story, upload a photo album, announce your wedding party and give important information to guests. You can even have guests RSVP – which will give your poor writing hand a much needed rest!

Party! This is a celebration! Go out for a night with friends or ask a close friend (probably your maid of honor or best man) to organize a small gathering to celebrate the occasion!

Decide who is paying for what and design a budget. Traditionally, the bride’s family pays for: the ceremony, wedding dress, flower arrangements at ceremony, photos and video, reception, stationary and transportation. The groom’s family pays for the marriage license, wedding officiant, tuxedos, bouquet and flowers your attendants will wear, honeymoon, and rehearsal dinner.

Feel free to think outside the box when setting a budget and figuring out who pays for what. Tradition doesn’t always dictate. You can register your weddingmoon online and have attendants make a contribution to your weddingmoon destination! Visit a Honeymoon Registry for more information.

Where, oh where will your wedding be? Do you and your spouse prefer an intimate gathering of your nearest and dearest? Are you going big with 200+ guests? These decisions will inform your destination choice. Indoor wedding or outdoor wedding? While most venues can accommodate varying wedding parties, many may not have a decent indoor back up location in case of – gasp – rain! Start looking at locations and venues now to ensure availability.

honeymoonWhat are your colors? Chances are, this isn’t the first time you will have thought about your wedding colors. Go with your gut! If you need a little inspiration, do a Google search.

Plan your honeymoon. However, here is a good tip: Don't plan to leave on your honeymoon immediately. The wedding and reception may cause extreme exhaustion. It's a big day. The honeymoon is very special so give yourself a couple of days (or more) to rest. Open gifts, write "thank you" notes, sleep late, rest and just be together. When you are fully rested, go for it! Don't worry about not being able to take a big fancy honeymoon. You have the rest of your lives to make money and take big, wonderful, fabulous vacations. But you only get "one" wedding. Do it well and be happy. Seek out some place very special where you relax and have fun. Sandals Resorts are terrific. A Sandals tropical honeymoon is the kind of honeymoon you dream about. I’ve been to Sandals Emerald Isle in the Bahamas and highly recommend it.

Larry’s Note: A special “thank you!” to Sandals Resorts for inspiring this article.

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, October 24, 2011

Wedding Night Whoopee: Hot ‘n Heavy or Hype?

Filed under: Honeymoons,Intimacy,Wedding Night Sex — Larry James @ 11:50 am
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Sorry to say, but according to the brides and grooms who were willing to share in a brief, unofficial survey with me… making love on their wedding night is mostly hype, especially the hot ‘n heavy type!

Planning a wedding and all the things that are connected to it, eg., bridal showers, sending invitations, the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, and finally the wedding day – with the cocktail party and the reception – can leave a couple nearly completely drained, exhausted and making love on their wedding night is the farthest thing from their minds – (for most, anyway!).

coupleinbedAND… for those who did, most admitted that that they could have been very easily talked out of it. One couple told me that they abstained for several weeks leading up to the wedding day so they could be ready for action and admitted that they were so exhausted from the wedding day that it wasn’t quite as pleasurable as they expected. Most were simply too pooped to be amorous. One bride told me, “I would never risk choosing a partner for life without knowing if we are sexually compatible. We had fun getting to know each other sexually (condoms, of course) about a year after we became engaged. Foreplay is a very important part of making love.”

About one in three brides-to-be expect to hop in the sack and snooze after the wedding reception. According to TheKnot.com, “About one third of all ages spend the wedding night opening gifts, sleeping, counting cash presents, partying with friends.” It’s not at all uncommon – in fact its very common – for newly married couples to be so tired on their wedding night that one or both immediately fall asleep so making love doesn’t happen till the next day.

I bring this up because after talking with newly married couples, most had not discussed their wedding night plans before the wedding. This is a subject that you really need to talk about. If you both agree, it could be a great idea to wait until the morning when you have more time and energy to enjoy making love – then your wedding night intimacy issue is resolved!

So, what the next best thing? How about planning an early afternoon wedding and after the reception take some alone time to rest, relax and reminisce about the day as you cuddle in each others arms. Swap some of the highlights of your wedding day and take a nap. You can plan for your romantic interlude later that evening when you have regained your energy and can take the time to focus solely on each other. Anticipation about what will happen later can only heighten your arousal.

Perhaps a better idea: hold the sexy lingerie, lovely candlelight, a glass of wine and a gorgeous room for the night after your wedding. It’ll be more fun after you had a little rest. In the meantime you can open gifts, make notes about who gave you what and begin to write your “thank yous.”

Long wedding receptions often morph into a night of revelry and celebration. The big day can become a blur. Romantic sex then can be the farthest thing from your mind. Do your best to not be one who drinks so much at the reception that you don’t remember crawling into bed on your wedding night. That’s a no-no!

One bride told me, “Our wedding night was amazing. I have never had sex so good. I am even more amazed that it keeps getting better. We agreed to have no more than two drinks and although we were both tired we did the deed!” As long as you make sure you are both on the same page you should be okay. To do it, or not to do it – that is the question. It’s great fun getting to know each other intimately.

You can always make up for not making love on your wedding night on your honeymoon. A groom told me (with a big smile on his face), “We decided to wait until the second night of our honeymoon. After the wedding we were both exhausted. We left for Italy two days after the wedding, went to sleep in each others arms the first night and the second night…WoW!”

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What about those couples who don’t believe you should have sex before you are married? It’s a personal choice. Every couple has to make the decision that is best for them. If you are in that camp, remember that while sex is a natural part of life, it’s a bit more complicated than you might think. Your first time doesn’t need to be adventurous and perfect, you have the rest of your life for that – just do everything you can to make it special. To have pleasurable sex together there is a “learning curve.” Don’t expect fireworks the first time. It may be wise to seek advice from a sex therapist, a marriage counselor, relationship coach or talk about it together with a trusted friend. Read a good book about sex. “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers” is a good one (if I do say so myself). The more you talk about it with each other, the better off you will be.

Guys… Drink in moderation. If you both agree to make love on your wedding night, you don’t want to have trouble rising to the occasion later. The main thing to remember is making your bride feel special. If you can do that, you’ve already succeeded.

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Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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