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Saturday, November 10, 2018

Relationship problems? This is magic!

Filed under: Guest Authors,Relationship Tips,Video,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 10:30 am

Marie Forleo, Guest Author

Ever been in the middle of a fight with a loved one and felt crushed by the realization that you’ve had this exact fight *100* times before? Cue David Byrne. “Same as it ever was. Same as it ever was.”

We’ve all been there. In fact, Josh and I were caught in this loop in a bad way a few years back. These days, it’s a different story. Dust ups rarely last more than a few minutes.

Not kidding, what today’s guests taught me has been nothing short of a miracle.

It’s all thanks to marriage experts Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. and Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. They’re authors of many books, including the timeless bestseller, “Getting the Love You Want”.

“Being able to talk to another human being without pissing them off; connecting so that you feel safe with that person and they feel safe with you. That’s the desire of the human heart.” @HarvilleHelen

I wouldn’t have the partnership I have today without them. They have a gift for helping couples build the relationship of their dreams by fostering mutual respect and communication. Besides helping individual couples, they also teach families, teams and organizations.

Because negative relationships don’t just damage our own health and productivity, they have a huge long-term impact on society.

• You’re 100% more at risk from cardiac arrest if you’re in a negative relationship.
• People in broken marriages are 60% less productive.
• The breakdown of families is one of the contributing factors to at least nine major social issues — everything from substance addiction to violence and crime.

In today’s MarieTV episode, you’ll hear the story of how helping marriages in their local community boosted the entire Dallas ecosystem. Plus, you’ll discover a communication technique so good, couples around the world swear it works like magic.

If you have any relationship in your life that needs improving — their work is the best I’ve come across.

Larry’s NOTE: The video below is one hour. Choose a time when you can watch the entire video… with you and your partner.

Copyright 2018. Marie Forleo is an entrepreneur, writer, philanthropist & unshakable optimist dedicated to helping you become the person you most want to be. https://www.marieforleo.com/ FOLLOW her at:
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Tuesday, April 3, 2018

9 Ways to Ensure Your Guests Have Fun at the Reception

Filed under: Guest Authors,Receptions,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 9:30 am

Melissa Jill, Guest Author

Being newly engaged (or planning to pop the question) is such an exciting time in life, but we know it can also be a little overwhelming. That’s why we love to explore topics that might be helpful (or just plain fun) for newly engaged and almost engaged couples on our blog!

Your guests are SUCH an important part of your wedding, and couples have always been concerned with their guests’ comfort and enjoyment. But in recent years, making sure the guests have fun has been moving higher and higher on the wedding priority list for many couples… right up to the top of the list! I’ve photographed many amazing receptions in my 14+ years as a wedding photographer, so I want to share some of the options I’ve seen that take a wedding reception to a new level of fun!

Click here to see the rest of this excellent article!

Copyright © 2018 – Melissa Jill. I talk to a LOT of couples, and I’ve heard stories from far too many who regret their wedding photography. I’m not okay with that! So I’m on a mission to prevent those regrets from claiming any more wedding memories! As an engaged couple, you’re creating something amazing — a day full of so much emotion, so much beauty; every detail that you’ve meticulously planned out and hopefully implemented with the help of your wedding planner (trust me — it helps a lot with the stress factor). I have one of the best jobs in the world. I’ve been shooting weddings for 14 years now, and I love it. So I might cry at your wedding, but I promise I’ll keep shooting and your photos will be AMAZING. Contact Melissa @ www.MelissaJill.com.

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Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Does the Father of the Groom Give a Speech at the Wedding?

Barry Watson, Guest Author

Your son’s about to get married to the love of his life. Most likely, you are overwhelmed with joy and pride right now. It’s exactly the sort of emotion you want to share with the audience at your son’s wedding.

Although there is no set rule for who must and must not give a speech at the wedding, having family and friends say a few words is always good fun. The father of the bride has a speech delivered at the engagement party, then the father of the groom takes over at the rehearsal dinner and the best man is supposed to give the first toast at the wedding reception. But that’s just the most common way of doing things and you can get creative if you like.

WED-FofGroomSpeechThere could be receptions where everyone says some words at least and I’ve been to weddings where no one besides the best man has a speech ready.

It all comes down to the audience, see what comes naturally and go with that.

Father-of-the-groom speeches are important. ~ In most cases, people in the audience want to hear what the father of the groom has to say about the event and the relationship his son and daughter-in-law share. The speech could be either funny or deeply emotional depending on the father, but you can bet the whole audience will be paying ample attention.

What if the father of the groom in unavailable? ~ There could be circumstances in which the father of the groom simply cannot come to the wedding or give a speech in front of a crowd. This is okay and someone else can deliver a heart-warming speech instead. The mother of the groom would be most welcome to come say a few words. Even the brother or uncle could do this. Basically, as long as it feels like a very close family member is sharing the family’s joy with all those who’ve gathered, it should be enough.

Should the father talk at the wedding reception? ~ Actually, why not? As we’ve seen before there is no rule to govern the perfect wedding. Families have to plan the day of the wedding according to what suits them best and if the father of the groom would rather talk at the wedding reception or if the bride’s father would rather say a few words at the engagement party, that’s okay.

Here are a few tips for the speech. ~ Generally it is always a good idea to have a few versions of the speech ready. Have different drafts made up before the big day and ask someone to help you edit them so that they appeal to everyone. A great speech takes practice. Also give compliments, thanks and blessings with the speech that always charms the crowd. Read more on

Finally, stick to the point and avoid letting your speech run too long. People have limited attention spans and they’ve come to the wedding to celebrate, so keep it all short and sweet.

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Larry’s NOTE: A special “Thank you” to Susan Stripling Photography for the photo above.

BarryWatsonCopyright 2015 – Barry Watson. Barry is a happy father-of-two, a loving husband and an awful golfer. While preparing to give 2 wedding speeches at his son’s weddings, he learned a lot about how to create a great father of the groom speech, so he started a blog where he constantly shares the best tips he found in this topic. You can read more on MyFatheroftheGroomSpeech.com.

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Tuesday, August 4, 2015

How to Choose a Wedding Photographer

Melissa Jill, Guest Author

If you’re a bride or groom who values photography, the task of picking a wedding photographer can be daunting and somewhat terrifying. After all, there are no re-dos. You’re going to get married once, and you only have one shot to pick a photographer. You’re spending a lot of money, and you’re putting all your eggs in one basket… without being able to see the final product in advance. Yikes! Scary!!

WED-ChoosePhotographerI try to put myself in my clients’ shoes when I am meeting with them to talk about their photography needs. Even though I’ve never hired a wedding photographer myself, I think I can imagine the fear and trepidation they must feel. In addition to this, I’ve heard FAR TOO MANY horror stories involving wedding photographers not delivering, and newlyweds being left disappointed or heartbroken.

So, from a photographer’s point of view, I thought I’d share a few tips on making this huge decision. I know it may seem that I’m a little biased (pick me! pick me!) but I honestly don’t think every bride out there is right for me or me for them. So how do you find the best wedding photographer for you?

MelissaJill_Elopement_BouquetThree simple pieces of advice:

1 – Make sure that when you view their photos, you FEEL something. You are hiring an artist with a specific eye and heart. You want to resonate with how they see and capture the world around them — specifically relationships. And if you feel something when you look through their portfolio at a bunch of strangers’ wedding photos, you are guaranteed to love your own photos all the more!

2 – Ask to view an entire wedding worth of photos – the proofs. Any photographer can show you a slideshow of their best 50 photos they’ve ever shot and you will be impressed. But that won’t give you a good sense for what your wedding photos will look like. You want to make sure they have good quality photos throughout the course of one entire wedding.

3 – Make sure you like them as a person. Whoever you pick to be your photographer is going to be around you and your family for many hours on the best day of your life. So you want to feel comfortable with them and most of all, be able to TRUST them.

If you make your choice for a photographer based on the above three criteria MORE SO than based on price, you GREATLY increase your chances of being thrilled with the result of this once-in-a-lifetime decision.

If you are currently planning your wedding, click here to download a FREE checklist of 12 important questions you should be asking any potential wedding photographers you meet with! We’ve created a convenient form for you to print and take along as you talk with photographers. Make this big decision a little easier! Download your copy today!

melissajillMelissaPHOTOCopyright © 2015 – Melissa Jill. Melissa Jill is a wedding photographer based out of Gilbert, Arizona. She has been shooting weddings for many years and specializes in capturing emotions and moments in an artistic way. Visit her Website at: http://www.MelissaJill.com and her BLOG.

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Friday, July 31, 2015

The Pros And Cons Of Planning A Big Wedding

Izabella Zaydenberg, Guest Author

Every little girl loves planning her wedding: what dress she’ll wear, where she wants to have it, what kind of cake she wants to eat.

No little girl, however, has answers to questions about seating arrangements or how she plans to pay for everything. We might all want the Carrie and Big wedding (before he left her at the library, that is), but no one wants to think about precisely what it takes to pull off the fairy-tale ending. All we envision is a gigantic wedding with every friend, family member and stuffed animal in attendance.

WED-ProsConsBig weddings are the epitome of pomp and circumstance. If you choose to have one, you should know what goes into it. Check out our pros and cons, with plenty of advice from the experts (AKA, people that are paid to deal with kicking and screaming brides on a day-to-day basis).

Pro: “Big” doesn’t always mean “big.”

A big wedding is entirely subjective, but you knew that already.

“I’ve spoken to people who say they want a small wedding of 160 people and others call and say they want a big wedding of 120,” explained Rachel Sackheim, the Director of Sales and Events at Brooklyn Winery. “A big wedding largely depends on where you grew up and how big your family is. In the New York area, a large wedding is generally defined as anything at or over 200 guests. South American weddings can be upwards of 400 to 600 guests while a midwest wedding might be large at 120. Big is based on whatever the couple is used to.”

Pro: Large weddings require as much work as smaller ones.

Andrea Freeman, the MVP of weddings who planned Ian Somerhalder’s nuptials to Nikki Reed, insists that “big weddings aren’t any more work to plan than intimate celebrations.”

The reasoning behind it is simple: if you’re planning a wedding, you’ll already be thinking of the little details. The number of people only changes the quantity, not the actual minuscule moving parts.

Con: You might have to sell a kidney to pay it off.

Sackheim explains that your budget is really the first thing to keep in mind when planning a big shebang.

“The most expensive part of a wedding is the per person price, and as you increase the guest count, you increase the food and beverage, labor, furniture, decorations and anything else that you need.”

The easiest way to decrease the overall cost? Knock some names off your guest list.

Sackheim suggests asking yourself, “Do you really need coworkers from a job you had 3 years ago there, or would you prefer to provide a better overall experience for your closest family and friends?”

Con: You need to budget time.

“I tell my couples to plan on spending 2 minutes with each wedding guest,” Freeman says. “Just remember that you’re not visiting with guests every moment — you also want time to dance, eat, cut your cake. Basically, once your list is north of 200, you’ll want to add time.”

Sackheim agreed: “A lot of couples feel that they need to act as hosts and want to greet and welcome each of their guests. That can be extremely time consuming and stressful and takes away from the couple’s enjoyment of the evening.”

“A large wedding,” she adds, “can make it difficult to seek out and spend time with the most important people there.”

If a large wedding can be an excuse to ditch your in-laws and your scary Aunt Lucy, maybe that’s not so bad after all.

Pro: You get to have a giant party.

No surprise here: The more people you invite, the crazier a bash you can expect.

“A large room full of people who all showed up to see you is an incredibly amazing experience,” Sackheim explained, “I personally had a wedding of 208 guests, and looking out over that room was a wonderful, beautiful feeling.”

Pro: Nobody is left behind.

When you have a large wedding, you don’t have to worry about leaving anyone out or having to turn anyone down.

Sackheim warned that creating a guest list is one of the most difficult parts of wedding planning — there are the bride and groom’s list, the bride’s family’s list and the groom’s family’s list.

“Putting a limit on any one of those groups can often lead to tension, so opting for a larger wedding can ease some stress,” she added.

Con: It’s not as intimate.

When Aparna Suresh married her husband, Dhruvan, she had a party that consisted almost 800 guests. A large part of her decision to opt for such a large wedding was because it was culturally appropriate. She explained her parents insisted on it.

The downside of having that many people at your wedding? Not knowing who the f*ck showed up or not.

“The entire experience loses its intimacy,” Suresh explained, “There are so many people you barely know who are either from your husband’s side and not related to you or are your parents’ friends from 20 years ago.”

Good luck remembering your great aunt’s boyfriend’s name, too. By the end of the day, Suresh warned, “You won’t remember anyone’s name when you have so much other sh*t happening.”

Con: Seating is going to be a b*tch.

Everyone has family and friend drama — and if you’re going to invite everyone you have to take all that interpersonal sh*t into account.

“First rule of thumb is to have assigned tables,” Sackheim recommends, “and it’s even better to have assigned place settings. It eliminates any awkwardness that guests might have if they’re trying to figure out where to sit on their own.”

Suresh agreed: “Seating was one of the biggest challenges. Choosing large tables of people that will get along with one another — that’s hard to find!”

Pro: You can hire someone to take care of all the stuff you don’t feel like dealing with.

If you’d rather bury yourself in a ditch than try and figure out flowers and seating arrangements, hire a wedding planner. You don’t have to opt for an expensive year-round one, either.

“If you know that the wedding is going to be big,” Sackheim suggests, “It’s a great idea to have a month-of or day-of planner, in addition to the venue-provided staff to make sure that everything goes off without a hitch.”

Still unsure if you really need to splurge on the extra assistance?

“Having a planner means having someone to make sure every vendor is in place with all of their needs, someone to keep the timeline moving and someone to wrangle everyone into place, from getting guests seated for the ceremony to finding Grandma for photos.”

Pro: You get all the swag.

This is perhaps the biggest pro of all: A large wedding means more guests, and more guests mean more presents.

Suresh enthused that one of the best things about her massive wedding was that due to the sheer number of attendees, she received “a load of money and presents,” which can be used to help pay off the cost of the wedding.

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IzabellaZaydenbergCopyright 2015 – Izabella Zaydenberg. Izabella joined the Elite Daily team after covering fashion and beauty for Time Out NY and SHEfinds. When she isn’t typing away, she’s playing with her rescue pets and getting angry about Game of Thrones. Follow her on Instagram @belkastrelka.

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Thursday, July 23, 2015

Non-Cheesy Wedding Readings for Long-Term Couples

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Isabel Hicks, Guest Author

Readings are one of the easiest ways to personalize your wedding ceremony and what type you choose will depend on your venue – religious readings and hymns, for example, are often not permitted in a civil ceremony location (e.g., court house weddings).

Having readings at your ceremony is also a great way of including a special friend or relative in the day, especially if you haven’t been able to choose them as a member of the main bridal party.

WED-ReadingsIt’s important that you both choose something that reflects your relationship and the way you feel about marriage. If you and your husband-to-be (h2b) have been together for a long time, then you might find that some of the more popular wedding readings focus too much on young or new love to suit you. We’ve gathered some of our favorite non-cheesy wedding readings that are suitable for long-term couples – hopefully you’ll find the perfect match!

From Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, by Louis De Bernieres

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”

This is an oldie and a goodie – it truly speaks to what long-term love should be about, which makes it perfect for couples who have already been together for a while. As this character is speaking to his daughter, this reading would be particularly beautiful if it was read by the father of the bride on the day.

Why Marriage, by Dena Acolatse

“Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…

Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,
Who won’t hold them against me,
Who loves me when I’m unlikable,
Who sees the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me…

Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold…

Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love, in friendship…

Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements…

Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole…

Because, knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness
I create me,
I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage…

Because with this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.”

We think this reading answers the question of ‘why bother getting married?’, which many long-term couple who have already built a life together may be asked. We particularly love the line, “Because marriage means opportunity/To grow in love, in friendship”. Just be aware that if you’re having a non-religious ceremony, you may not be allowed a reading like this due to the Christian aspects of it – it’s best to check with your officiant.

I will be here, by Steven Curtis Chapman

WeddingReadingScroll“If in the morning when you wake,
If the sun does not appear,
I will be here.
If in the dark we lose sight of love,
Hold my hand and have no fear,
I will be here.
I will be here,
When you feel like being quiet,
When you need to speak your mind I will listen.
Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together,
And I will be here.
If in the morning when you wake,
If the future is unclear,
I will be here.
As sure as seasons were made for change,
Our lifetimes were made for years,
I will be here.
I will be here,
And you can cry on my shoulder,
When the mirror tells us we’re older.
I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty,
And tell you all the things you are to me.
We’ll be together and I will be here.
I will be true to the promises I’ve made,
To you and to the one who gave you to me.
I will be here.”

If you and your h2b (husband to be) hate cheesy poetry, then this simple, beautiful piece might be for you! It’s about sticking together through thick and thin, which makes it a great choice if you’ve been through some ups and downs together, and the line “I will be true to the promises I’ve made, To you and to the one who gave you to me,” makes it definite wedding material.

A Chinese Wedding Poem

“I want to be your friend
For ever and ever without break or decay.
When the hills are all flat
And the rivers are all dry,
When it lightens and thunders in winter,
When it rains and snows in summer,
When Heaven and Earth mingle
Not ’til then will I part from you.”

This translation of a traditional Chinese reading is short but sweet – if you’re not a fan of schmaltz, then this might be perfect. We love that it talks about unending friendship, as that’s one of the most important parts of a successful marriage.

Blessing For A Marriage, by James Dillet Freeman

Corinthians“May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding. May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.

May you look for things to praise, often say, ‘I love you!’ and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence — no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.”

This is another classic wedding reading, and one of our favourites. Many wedding readings talk about being the same soul or person, but this one is more about complementing each other’s unique personalities. It’s just the right amount of formal to suit the solemnity of the occasion, but also has some real, useful advice that will stand the pair of you in good stead.

Sonnet 116, by William Shakespeare

“Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests, and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.”

Of course no collection of love poems would be complete without The Bard of Avon. One of his most famous sonnets, this piece is about love being unwavering even in the face of adversity, and being unaffected by time. We think this reading would be perfect for a formal ceremony, especially if you’ve chosen to leave religion out of it.

He’s not perfect, by Bob Marley

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”

We’re finishing with these real words of wisdom from Bob Marley. This is a brilliant reading for more informal ceremonies, and would make a great choice if you or your h2b are Marley fans. By now you and your partner have been together long enough to know you’re not perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go on to have a truly wonderful marriage.

Larry’s NOTE: Want scripture in your ceremony. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (New International Version (NIV)) is a good one.

“Verse 4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

BONUS Articles: Wedding Readings
Romantic Poems, Prayers & Readings

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Saturday, July 11, 2015

48 Things Every Man Should Know

Larry’s NOTE: I got it, gals. Although this article has nothing to do with weddings, (Hint for the brides), perhaps this might be just the thing to get him to this wedding blog… where he can discover several other things that the groom could do to actually be a part of the planning process. “How to Hold a Baby” could be one, but I’m getting ahead of myself. Give him a kiss on the cheek and – whispering in his ear – ask him to read the “BONUS Articles” at the end of the article. 😉

Ryan Kaiser, Guest Author

WED48ThingsDudes. Guys. MEN. When it comes to the male gender, there are certain things all guys simply must know. Whether its for your own personal safety, in case of emergencies (that may or may not be bear attack related), to not look like an idiot in public, for the benefit of the people in your life, or just for your own betterment, taking a moment to learn the secrets on this list of things all men should know is essential.

So you’ve got a Y chromosome. Now what? What should every guy know how to do? What are the things every man should know? From building fires to tying your tie, if you’re a man, the things on this list are essentials for being the best, most manly man you can be. But it’s not all beer and sports.

Men should also know how to hold a baby and sew on a button. Do you know which fork to use at a fancy dinner? Stop embarrassing your dates and take the time to learn.

There are things everyone should know, but this list is full of advice for MEN, with tips, tricks, and basic information all male humans should know. So get in touch with your inner Ron Swanson, and read through the list below to make sure you know how to escape zip ties and shine your shoes. You just never know when this advice will come in handy.

Have you ever thought to yourself, “Hey, I’m a guy. Aren’t there specific things I should know?” The answer is yes! This list of things men should know is your starting place. Man up and read. Click here!

BONUS Articles: Brides Want Grooms to Be More Involved in Planning the Wedding!
Grooming the Groom! Staying on Track for the Big Day!
Grooms… Listen up!
Listen Up Guys! – Planning a Wedding is a Team Sport!
Hey Guy! Getting Married? – Don’t Be Clueless!
Here Comes the Groom! – A Call to ACTIVE Duty!

Copyright © 2015 – Ryan Kaiser. More of Ryan here!

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NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Thursday, March 5, 2015

Social Media Weddings vs Unplugged Weddings

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Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Monday, January 12, 2015

A Groom’s Version of Wedding Planning

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Leah Messenger, Guest Author

We take a cheeky journey inside the mind of a groom to help you delegate jobs and duties of wedding planning accordingly…

What he’s interested in… ~ Make the most of your groom’s real interests and don’t pass him off the boring jobs. This way, you’ll have no problem with keeping him engaged in the wedding planning process.

WEDgroomsplanningThe honeymoon ~ It’s a holiday after all, and all that is associated with honeymoons – sun, sea and sex – cannot be seen as a bad thing in the mind of your groom.

The gift list ~ Presents, cash, and maybe returnable presents for cash. He sees this as a chance to get money back on you spending too much on those huge, elaborate table decorations that you ‘just needed’ to have!

The music ~ Why not choose a traditional tune to walk in to, but then let your groom decide on your recessional song? We’ve got lots of ideas right here!

The food ~ Food is the way to a man’s heart as some say, and it’s definitely one of the more fun jobs of the wedding planning. Did someone say tasting session?

The drinks ~ Need we say more? Your wedding is a party, and drink tends to get the party going and everyone having fun! Perhaps your groom can suggest his favourite tipple or create a wedding cocktail just for you?

The guest list ~ ‘You invited who?!’ – Make sure your husband-to-be is involved with the guest list. You won’t necessarily know everyone he wants there – or anyone he doesn’t.

The suits ~ Any excuse to buy a nice, new suit, will not go amiss to any man, and as it’s for his wedding day, it’s extra special. Just make sure he knows these top groomswear rules and tips!

What the groom should stay away from… ~ There are a few things that it’s probably best to handle yourself. These are…

The invitations ~ Your invitations will be the first glimpse of your big day that your guests will get. Make sure they complement your theme and more importantly include all the right information – and get sent on time.

The wedding dress ~ If you’re considering which wedding traditions to break, DON’T make it this one! The dress has to be kept a secret from your groom until the big day itself – the shot of him seeing you for the first time will be one of your favourites in the album, we promise!

The cake ~ In the mind of most men, a wedding cake is a cake. Perhaps, but it’s also the centrepiece of your reception and it will be captured in your wedding album for years to come. If you’re not really bothered, either, simple naked cakes can look amazing, too – just take a look.

The flowers ~ Your bouquet will have to complement your wedding dress so it’s best to keep this one under wraps until the big day too. Discuss colours and, of course, his buttonhole with the groom but don’t give any other details away.

Our list may be a little tongue-in-cheek but do try to delegate some jobs to your h2b (husband-to-be) or other members of the bridal party. You can’t do everything yourself!

BONUS Article: The Ultimate Wedding Planning List for Grooms
Grooms… Listen up!
Brides Want Grooms to Be More Involved in Planning the Wedding!
Here Comes the Groom! – A Call to ACTIVE Duty!

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Monday, December 15, 2014

Answering the Hard Questions Can Help You Make A Powerful Commitment

Susan Piver, Guest Author

For those of us contemplating marriage in the new millennium, a conscious effort is required to create a shared vision. Nothing can be taken for granted. There are no cultural models for us to look to. Often traditional religious values can’t support our relationship. For many of us, our divorced parents can’t offer a model to emulate. TV, movies, music; they’re all about easy solutions, romantic escapades, youthful passion. How, then, do we create an adult view of relationships, one that includes passion and commitment, the fullness of who each person is and can be?

HardQuestionsThere is no technique, no gimmick, no class, no easy answer. The solution, the only solution, is knowing and revealing yourself and receiving your pratner – relentlessly, and with great skill. My book, “The Hard Questions: 100 Questions to Ask Before You Say ‘I Do’” helps create a shared view of life and a deeper knowledge or your self and your beloved. It can be used throughout the life of a relationship; answering these questions ten years into a relationship is as valuable as answering them ten months into it. The hard questions can help lead to a deeper level of intimacy.

For many of us, religion is something that we observe when someone is born, marries or dies. Suddenly, as such moments, the religion you were raised with, the traditions your family may have followed, become vitally important.

Any impulse your beloved may have to devalue or ignore such traditions can become very, very hurtful. It’s important to examine what you will do, if anything, to mark the passages of life. If you are married, it is likely you encountered this curious arousal of attachment to tradition while planning the marriage ceremony.

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Also, for many of us, spirituality has become increasingly important in our day-to-day lives. Many people have “practices”; yoga, meditation, communal gatherings, discussion groups, that are central to their lives. It is important to share such practices with your beloved! If so, why? If not, why not? And what happens when one partner holds childhood religious traditions dear while the other has created a unique spiritual practice, totally apart from the religion her or she grew up with? How are both belief systems honored and blended under one roof?

1. Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?

2. Do we share a spiritual practice such as meditation, yoga or some other type of “non-traditional” observance? If not, would adding such a practice enrich our lives together?

3. Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? If the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other’s choices?

4. What does each desire of the other in terms of support and/or participation in the other’s practice?

5. How do we mark births and deaths within our family?

6. What place do spiritual and/or religious beliefs play in our home and home life?

7. Do we observe any spiritual rituals? Celebrate any religious holidays? Together? Separately?

Larry’s NOTE: Getting married? You would be wise to purchase this helpful book, “The Hard Questions: 100 Questions to Ask Before You Say ‘I Do’!” The questions include topics like, money, work, sex, health & food, family, home and more. It is a simple, yet profound relationship tool that can forge and strengthen lasting, intimate bonds between engaged couples, newly-weds, and all those in long term relationships. I highly recommend it!

BONUS Articles: Religion vs. Spirituality
Spirituality ~ Take Two
The Benefits of Integrating Spirituality into Your Daily Life
Holy! Holy! Holy!
A Prayer of Thanksgiving
Vows, Parents & Religion: Conundrum!

Susan_PiverCopyright © 2014 – Susan Piver. Adapted from Susan’s book. Susan Piver is the former President of Upaya Recordings, where she developed CD/Book packages with authors Andrew Weil, M.D., Deepak Chopra and Thomas Moore. She currently runs Padma Projects, a production company that creates CD/Books. To learn more about answering the Hard Questions, visit, SusanPiver.com.

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Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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