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Friday, December 19, 2014

For Guests Only – Wedding Gift Suggestions for the Bride and Groom

What do you buy? How much do you give? Should you use the registry? Is cash okay? We thought should look at things from the guest’s perspective. Here are a few tips when buying wedding gifts for the bride and groom:

Your first go-to is the wedding registry. If the bride and groom have a registry you could begin there. Do you have to choose a gift from a registry? No. A registry is for your convenience and you are not limited to what is on the list. It’s there for a reason. This is where the couple is telling you what they really want and need. Ideally, you’ll be able to find a gift within your budget that you’re excited to give.

GuestWedGiftsWhat do you do if the registry is picked through and there is nothing “good” to buy? Or worse yet, what if you can’t afford the remaining items? Read on, we have a few ideas for you…

Cash also works. Contributing cash versus using a traditional wedding registry is a great option that allows you to control the amount spent. This is a highly debated issue, and while some guests have no problem giving cash, whether it’s through an online service or an envelope at the wedding, some still find it a little taboo. It may put your mind at ease to know that many couples prefer cash, and while they may not feel comfortable asking for it, a cash contribution would be much appreciated. In some cultures, this is the norm. It’s expected and preferred by everyone involved. On average the typical cash gift is around $150. Can’t give that? Give what you can afford with and open heart and a while lotta love!

Make what you give meaningful. If you choose to skip past the registry and don’t want to give cash, be sure to ask yourself these questions before purchasing a boxed gift:

• Is it meaningful in some way to the couple?
• Is it a gift you know they really want?
• Is it a gift you know they really need? (According to them, not you!)
• Will they love it?
• Is it meaningful in some way to you?

If you answered yes to 3 out of 5 questions, then you’re on the right track. Another thought. Be sure your gift suits their personalities, and they’ll see it as the thoughtful gift you intended to give.

Second marriages require more thought as to what to give. If it’s the number-two “I do” for the bride, the groom, or both, a second-time couple probably doesn’t need many of the traditional registry items. No one needs two toasters. Since they already have most of the basics, you can have fun buying them cool new gadgets and appliances, season tickets to their favorite sport, tickets to a play, musical, or the ballet, or a dinner cruise. Use your imagination.

Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. Gifts are often brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to popular belief, you do no have a year to send a gift. Waiting a year after attending a wedding can be considered “rude.” A gift should be sent right away or at least within three months of the wedding.

CashisOkayThough it’s not obligatory, proper etiquette suggests it’s a nice gesture to send a gift and a note even if you can’t attend the wedding, particularly if you know the couple well.

When wedding guests ask, “Where are you registered?” direct them to a honeymoon travel registry. A honeymoon registry is a trendy alternative to a traditional wedding registry and allows your guests to help you to achieve your dream honeymoon vacation by purchasing pieces of the trip as a wedding gift. It is a relatively new and exciting concept that began in the 1990s as an additional service. Check out: Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry.

Whatever you decide to give the couple, don’t stress over it too much because in the end, it’s the thought that counts

What do you do if you haven’t received a thank you note from the bride? Awkward! It is certainly okay to call and ask the couple if they received your gift. If you find this too awkward and the gift was sent from a store, you can call the store and have it traced. Just as a gift should be sent right away or within three months of a wedding, a thank you note from the bride and groom should also be written right away or, at the very least, within three months of receiving a gift.

One tip for the bride:

1. It is NEVER okay to include any mention of gifts with your invitation. It comes across like you’re expecting a gift.

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, February 9, 2012

A Hot New Wedding Registry Idea! – Cash Only, Please!

Filed under: Gift Registry,Gifts,Wedding Video — Larry James @ 8:00 am

It used to be that gift registries were the norm, however with the average age for marrying on the rise, many couples have already established households and have accumulated everything they need before they get married, and really don’t want to end up with two toasters, blenders, etc. Many couples are shelling out a serious sum of cash for their wedding themselves, and the idea of money for a honeymoon, down payment on a house or simply some spending cash to put toward the expense of a wedding is more appealing.

Most will agree that it is no longer considered tacky to request money instead of household items as long as you do it tactfully. The first few years of marriage are often full of surprise expenses. If a couple is in need of cash, my opinion is that it is a great idea to ask for what they really need.

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It is considered tacky to speak of anything other than requesting their presence at your wedding in a “wedding invitation.” That is a definite no-no! Asking for cash as a wedding gift can be touchy, particularly when it comes to etiquette conscious or older guests, who may not feel comfortable giving anything other than a traditional wedding gift.

When people know where the money is going, they tend to feel a lot better about the act of giving cash at a wedding. They will often ask the members of the bridal party and your immediate family for your registry information. Clue the members of your bridal party and family to respond by saying, “The bride and groom have a registry at Crate & Barrel (or wherever) however they request that you go to www.CashWeddingGift.com to contribute to the savings plan they have for a down payment on a house because they have just about everything they need to set up housekeeping,” (or: “The bride and groom have a registry at Crate & Barrel however they request that you go to http://www.CashWeddingGift.com to contribute their ‘honeymoon fund’ (or: ‘replace our dilapidated car fund’) because they have just about everything they need to set up housekeeping.”

If you are looking for the best wedding registry for your wedding, you found it. CashWeddingGift helps you get the gift you really want. It’s an online cash wedding registry where guests can easily and securely give cash gifts to engaged couples. Use your cash gifts to buy a home, help pay for your wedding or honeymoon or even start a retirement or college fund. CashWeddingGift.com is the fastest and easiest online cash wedding registry available. It’s convenient, safe and secure.

“Nowadays, with family and friends living across the country and at various stages in their lives, it’s definitely acceptable for a bride and groom to ask for gift cards or cash. It’s a great way to make it convenient for the guests and easy on them. I don’t think it’s tacky, whereas you can ask for gift cards on your registry, as far as cash, just be polite about it. You usually want to spread it by word of mouth. You definitely don’t want to put ‘cash only’ on your Website and you never put it on your invitation.” ~ Anna Post

Be sure to include any user IDs or passwords that guests will need in order to give a monetary gift via your chosen cash registry website.

Have more questions about CashWeddingGift.com? Click here!

BONUS Video: Is It Bad To Ask For Money As A Gift From Your Guests?

Video (How it works!): Copyright © 2012 – CashWeddingGift.com.
Text: Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, April 23, 2011

Honeymoon Bridal Gift Registry

What a terrific wedding gift alternative for the modern Bride and Groom. Instead of conventional wedding gifts, friends and family can shower you with a honeymoon gift that will provide you with a lifetime of memories.

giftregistryOn a traditional wedding registry, couples register for china, flatware and kitchen appliances. You may already have most of the necessities. Some couples have enough household items between the two of them to stock an entire home or apartment. These couples would greatly appreciate help paying for a honeymoon instead.

When wedding guests ask, “Where are you registered?” direct them to a honeymoon travel registry.

A honeymoon registry is a trendy alternative to a traditional wedding registry and allows your guests to help you to achieve your dream honeymoon vacation by purchasing pieces of the trip as a wedding gift. It is a relatively new and exciting concept that began in the 1990s as an additional service.

Some are still set up in this manner and require wedding couples to use their travel agency to book their honeymoon. More recent honeymoon registries are not involved with the planning and booking of the honeymoon. Instead, they provide the bride and groom with a customizable web page to share their honeymoon plans with others and accept gifts toward the honeymoon.

It’s time to let your imagination soar! What would it take for you to have the honeymoon of a lifetime? You could take a cruise, stay at an all-inclusive resort, rent a condo on the beach, a honeymoon suite, include airfare, breakfast in bed, a relaxing massage, a romantic candlelight dinner at an elegant restaurant, scuba diving lessons, entertainment, a relaxing day at the spa and even shopping funds.

Your friends and family participate by purchasing pieces of the trip as a wedding gift. For example a $1,000 gift item can be divided into twenty $50 increments. Guests save time on buying gifts because everything can be purchased online and an added bonus is that there are no gifts to wrap or carry to the reception! The benefit for the bride and groom, you avoid incurring a massive honeymoon debt.

top10honeymoonRegistry activities are displayed in an organized and user-friendly inventory format on their customized registry page. As wedding guests browse the registry page, they can make a gift, typically using a credit card, of any of the listed activities or give a general monetary gift of any amount towards the honeymoon.

Some travel agencies also provide honeymoon gift registries services. Some are free, however nearly all honeymoon registry services charge a service fee (usually 7 percent to 15 percent) on collected funds. As with anything else, you need to be a smart consumer when choosing a honeymoon bridal registry. Fees vary by service provider, though some sites may lower or eliminate fees if a certain amount of travel is booked through an associated agency. You typically receive a check for the total gift cash contributions minus the company’s percentage.

There are several services that eliminate service charges by allowing couples to accept cash, check or PayPal payments directly from guests – some are funded through advertising, others by a setup fee. Check them out carefully and remember you usually get what you pay for.

Etiquette says that registry information should never be included with wedding invitations. However, it can be sent with shower invites. Some provide free printable announcement cards to insert into bridal shower invitations as well as free electronic thank you cards. You can also give registry cards to your immediate family. They are the ones people will ask when they want to know where you’re registered.

Remember, before you get carried away with registering for pricey excursions, you must have airline tickets and hotel reservations to take a vacation. Determine your priorities and proceed accordingly.

Going out of the country for your honeymoon? Click here for passport information. If the Bride is changing her name, it’s best to travel with her current passport (with her maiden name) as it often takes weeks to receive the “certified copy” of the license after it’s filed by the wedding officiant/minister with the County Clerk’s office. A certified copy of the license is required by the USA State Department to legally change a bride’s name.

Hot Tip: Don’t plan to leave on your honeymoon immediately. Read the #1 tip in my article, “Miscellaneous Tips For Your Wedding, Honeymoon and More.”

Your honeymoon should be the highlight of your wedding experience. Honeymoon registries should help enhance that experience by not only helping get it paid for, but also helping put your mind at ease that your honeymoon is in the hand of capable, competent experts.

Some wedding guests may see a honeymoon registry as asking for money. Those with traditional views may consider this rude. However, just as most couples register with multiple retailers, couples may also register with a retailer and a honeymoon registry.

Check out the Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry.

When researching your honeymoon registry, we recommend that you ask:

• How long have you been in business?
• Are you a member of the Better Business Bureau?
• Is the money in my registry account secure? How??
• Can I make all of my arrangements, including travel, with you (i.e. “one stop shopping”) or,
• Do I have to use you for our travel?
• Is your website secure? How?
• What is your privacy policy?
• Do you have an 800# in case my friends in family don’t use the internet?
• Can you provide me with references to substantiate your service?

BONUS Articles: Click here for more articles about Honeymoons!

Larry’s Note: There may be times when you will not need a travel agent. One of those times is NOT when you’re on your honeymoon. Call my award winning, travel consultant friend, Sam Becchetti-Dockter (Mesa, AZ) at 480-838-9447 or click here for more info.

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Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011

The Wedding Gift Registry Experience Redefined

Filed under: Gift Registry,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

What better gift for a new couple than a nest egg to help them get whatever it is they need? Until now, there have not been any easy options for a cash registry. Deposit a Gift has really hit the mark with the service they offer! Some couples already have all of the traditional items that are generally on the wedding registry, and the gift of cash is really a perfect alternative for the couple who would prefer it. So easy and convenient, read on to see exactly how it works. Easy on you, easy on your guests and get what you really want.

If you’ve seen it, heard of it, or imagined it, you can register for it at Deposit a Gift.

Show friends and family what you need most with a customizable cash gift registry. Then sit back, relax and watch your account grow.

When the time is right, use your gift money on anything you want, whenever you want!

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Deposit a Gift works like a traditional registry to make it easy for gift-givers, but allows couples to register for anything — from honeymoons to home down payments, newlywed activities to charities.

Deposit a Gift is also the only site that includes a free wedding website, and room to list your other registries, so it truly is a one-stop-shop. No shipping. No gift wrap. No need for returns.

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Get Started today with your Deposit a Gift account so can can get what it it you really want and need. Maybe a honeymoon, maybe a nest egg to get you into your first house, whatever it is, Deposit a Gift is a great way to get you started. Click here to visit their Website.

BONUS Articles: Have You Registered for Gifts?
Where Are You Registered?

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Where Are You Registered?

It is considered inappropriate to include in your invitations where you are registered.

No guest should ever receive an announcement about your wedding registry: not with your invitations, via e-mail, or from a store.

If the store offers to send a note, decline the offer. Instead, pass the word through family and friends. It’s okay to tell someone if they ask you or to let those who may host a bridal shower for you so they can tell those who attend.

Guests often feel at a loss when choosing wedding gifts, and would prefer to purchase something you picked out yourself. Request a gift card to a nice restaurant for the bride and groom.

Many couples who do not wish to receive gifts, which is often the case with a second-time bride or groom, will provide the name of a charity organization to which wedding guests can contribute in lieu of buying a wedding gift for the couple.

Read, “Honeymoon Gift Registry

Check out Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry.

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Have You Registered for Gifts?

It is considered inappropriate to include in your invitations where you are registered. No guest should ever receive an announcement about your wedding registry: not with your invitations, via e-mail, or from a store.

If the store offers to send a note, decline the offer. Instead, pass the word through family and friends. It’s okay to tell someone if they ask you or to let those who may host a bridal shower for you so they can tell those who attend.

Guests often feel at a loss when choosing wedding gifts, and would prefer to purchase something you picked out yourself. Request a gift card to a nice restaurant for the bride and groom.

Many couples who do not wish to receive gifts, which is often the case with a second-time bride or groom, will provide the name of a charity organization to which wedding guests can contribute in lieu of buying a wedding gift for the couple.

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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