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Thursday, December 12, 2013

It’s Your Wedding! You Can Do Anything You Want!!

Filed under: Creative Ceremony Ideas,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:15 am
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There are so many fresh ideas about how to make your wedding ceremony an afternoon delight for your guests. Guests tell me that they often come to a wedding ceremony pretty much expecting to hear the same old thing. Should a wedding ceremony be fun? I think so. So to keep your guests from being bored… add some fun things to your ceremony.

Your wedding ceremony can be as long-winded, short, extravagant, solemn, unconventional, formal, dignified, special and ceremonial as you could ever want. It is only and always “your choice” – not your mother’s or your mother-in-law to be or anyone else). Incorporate your own traditions or start a new one. Different is good. Put your own spin on ceremony traditions.

ItsYOURweddingA lot of how edgy you get with your wedding ceremony depends on the willingness of the Wedding Officiant/Minister to change or add things to the ceremony. There are many ceremony rituals, traditions & creative ideas from which to choose. Be sure you clear everything with them before you hire them. If they are not willing to change words or add things to your ceremony… hire someone who will.

(NOTE: Each link below opens in another browser window so you won’t lose your place wile reading this article).

Theme weddings are fun! The first theme wedding ceremony I performed was a “Pirate” theme wedding. The ring bearer carried a tiny treasure chest containing the rings. The reception featured a large treasure chest with coins with chocolate inside.

Celebrating your culture is another fun idea. Hispanics will often add the “Hand Fasting” or “The Lasso Ceremony” ceremony. Jewish couples like the “Breaking of the Glass” ceremony. This blog features more than 20 add-on ceremonies like the “Unity Candle,” the “Sand Ceremony” (often children from previous marriages are included and each pour a different color of sand), wine enthusiasts will add the “Loving Cup Ceremony,” an African tradition, “Jumping the Broom” is a symbol of sweeping away the old and welcoming the new, and the “Love Letter & Wine Box Ceremony.” Click here for many other examples!

Another favorite especially for the guests is when the couple writes some of their own vows. I call them, “Personal Promises.” Have the wedding officiant or best man flip a Silver Dollar to see who will say their vows first.

I am including links to two very creative weddings with photos. Check out Juno and Noah’s queer feminist interfaith wedding:

and… Evan and Catherine’s edgy and elegant Phoenix Hotel Wedding:

Another idea is to change up your guest’s seating. Draw inspiration from Shakespeare’s theater-in-the-round and seat guests in a circle around the altar. Everyone will have a great seat and you will feel surrounded by Love. How about a “Wedding in the Round?”

Have the wedding officiant stand to the side as you face the guests instead of having your back to the guests. Another idea is to change up the seating of the parents. Details here! The parents LOVE this idea!

Save a few bucks: display your ceremony events on a chalkboard instead of a program.

Rev up your “Guest Book!” There are lots of creative ideas here.

pendant-flagsOpen up guest seating. No bride’s side or groom’s side. Have your ushers encourage the guests to sit close to the front (except seats reserved for family) for the benefit of photos. “Today, two families become one, so pick a seat not a side” on a chalk board works.

In the Greater Phoenix area – called “The Valley of the Sun” – couples will often customize the label on bottled water. It’s important to keep your guests hydrated.

Have guests wave pendant flags or colorful paper pinwheels instead of bubbles, ribbon streamers, eco-friendly confetti and tossing rice or seed.

Dare to be different. Buck tradition and walk down the aisle together. It’s a poignant way to kick off your new life together.

Don’t wait until the reception for your first dance. At the end of the ceremony and before you walk down the aisle together… slow-dance at the altar instead of at the reception. Ending your vows cheek-to-cheek is totally neat and very different.

There are no limits to what you can do to make your wedding ceremony more interesting and memorable for your guests. If you want your I do’s to be totally you… collaborate with your friends and use your imagination!

As of December 12, 2013, there are more than 415 blog posts on this Wedding Blog. Use the article index to find more great wedding ideas!

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: Check Larry’s availability.

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