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Tuesday, September 29, 2015

10 Hen Party Tips to Avoid Any Bridal Party Tantrums

Alice Rimes, Guest Author

Banish bridal party tantrums and dramas for good with these 10 top tips for planning the perfect hen celebration!

Make it affordable ~ Your dream hen party may consist of a luxury break abroad, but not everyone can afford such a lavish trip, so be considerate. Hen parties can be expensive, plus your girls may have to take annual leave from work to attend if you plan it on a weekday. Weekend parties at home are just as much fun and cost less.

WED-HenPartyTipsFun for all ~ Not all your hens will be into the same things as you and although it’s your party, try to choose activities you’ll all enjoy. Why not put it to the vote?

Have a pre-party introduction ~ Try to arrange a gathering with your girls before the party so they all get to know one another. This can sometimes be difficult to organize but it will be well worth it if they’re familiar with each other before the weekend away.

Put someone in charge ~ It’s always best to have one person organize the day rather than having several girls arranging different things. Make sure this person is organized but not too bossy, or it won’t go down well. Plus, this person should not be you!

Body hang-ups ~ Hot-tubbing it in a bikini and wearing skimpy fancy dress might sound great to you, but are all your girls happy to flaunt their flesh? That’s something to think about when planning a hen party!

Keep everyone entertained ~ Think about the time in between the activity and the club. Collect up board games, a karaoke machine, iPod player and more for hotel entertainment.

Stay together ~ You must stick together! Not only is it safer and reduces the chance of someone getting lost, it also avoids any awkwardness – there’s nothing more annoying than girls having in-jokes that exclude the other hens.

Get some sleep! ~ We know what you’re thinking – yeah right! But you don’t want Sunday’s activities to be ruined by Saturday night’s hangover.

Larry’s NOTE: If you are going to have a hen party, schedule it several days “before” the wedding day!

Buy them a thank you gift ~ Your hens have spent a lot of money to celebrate with you, so show them how much you appreciate their efforts by buying them a little gift to say thanks. This could be something they can use on the hen night itself. We’ve got some brilliant buys in the Wedding Ideas Shop.

Have a kitty for expenses ~ Make sure you have extra petty cash when planning a hen party. Whether it’s for a taxi or lunch, it’s not fair for one person to pay and be owed money from the rest of the party, so have a pot to pay for minor expenses.

For more hen tips, including our fabulous hen party A-Z list where you’re guaranteed to find something you’ll love, head to our Hen Party section on the website. It’s full of ideas and advice for you and your hens, so have a look!

BONUS Articles: 6 Things Bridesmaids Do That Really Annoy the Bride
Cloned “look alike” Bridesmaids
So, You’re a Bridesmaid… What Now?
Brides! Should You Fire Your Bridesmaid?
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Wednesday, September 9, 2015

The Duties of a Bridesmaid

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Monday, June 29, 2015

6 Things Bridesmaids Do That Really Annoy the Bride

Filed under: Bridesmaids,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Leah Messenger, Guest Author

Planning a wedding can be stressful! So, bridesmaids, take note. Here are five things that you do that really, really annoy the bride – even if she’s not saying so…

1. Being impossible to contact ~ Bridesmaids being difficult or impossible to contact is a huge problem. We’re not saying it’s compulsory for your bridesmaids’ phones to be in their hands at all times, and kept on loud on their pillow whilst they sleep, but the role comes with certain responsibilities and one of them is being contactable at certain times.

Angry Bride 2. Being fussy about dresses ~ Choosing a dress style that suits lots of different body shapes is a hard enough task by itself without adding a fussy bridesmaid into the equation. Don’t put your bridesmaids in dresses that don’t suit them or they don’t feel comfortable in, but don’t succumb to a moody best friend just because you didn’t get the dress SHE wanted most.

3. Not getting on with other bridesmaids ~ You want the whole of the bridal party to get on! Through the planning process, through to the wedding day, you’re all going to be spending a lot of time with each other. Maybe one of your maids hasn’t taken a liking to one of your other maids? This causes tension within the bridal party, whether it’s kept quiet or seen through out-right arguments. Resolution?

At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you’ve chosen your best girls to be right next to you the whole way through it, so let her know and realize her mistakes! Arranging ‘get-to-know-each-other’ activities is a great idea to get the bonding started.

4. Making a mess ~ Girls are well known for being a bit messy when it comes to getting ready. Clothes scattered across the floor, make-up all over the place and so on. Whilst this is ok in their own bedrooms no one wants a messy bridesmaid in the bridal suite! Each girl should bring a little bag with everything they need for the big day and get ready as soon as possible, leaving a calm and tidy room where the bride can relax before her big entrance.

5. Not listening ~ Having your bridesmaids ask you the same details over and over again is not ideal when you’ve got so much to do. You don’t want to be bombarded by questions because your bridesmaids didn’t listen to you in the first place! We’re sure that you’ll have a to-do list for your wedding planning and for your big day – hand one over to each of your bridesmaids, or assign them specific tasks, and make sure they are in complete understanding prior to your day to avoid any hassle.

6. Uploading photos on social media ~ Everyone loves a good bride and bridesmaids photograph – but wait! Your bride may not want unofficial shots plastered all over Instagram even before she’s cut her cake! Make sure you let your maids know about how you feel about your wedding photos on Facebook. Have an acceptable social media plan in mind, and tell your chief bridesmaid who can spread the word.

BONUS Articles: 8 Ways to Guarantee Happy Bridesmaids
Cloned “look alike” Bridesmaids
Brides! Should You Fire Your Bridesmaid?
So, You’re a Bridesmaid… What Now?
6 Tips on How to Avoid Embarrassment as the Bridesmaid!

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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Cloned “look alike” Bridesmaids

Brides, don’t insist on making your bridesmaids look like clones. No more “cookie cutter” outfits.

The practice started with weddings in ancient Rome, which required the presence of 10 witnesses, who dressed like the bride and groom in order to ward off evil spirits. If the spirits couldn’t figure out who the bride and groom were, they couldn’t inflict evil on them. Very clever, ancient Romans. 😉

WEDBridemaidsDressesEvery good friend knows that along with the honor of being a bridesmaid comes the obligation to wear a dress in a color and style that’s not of her choosing. So your girls accept that, but it doesn’t mean they’ll submit happily if you force them to wear identical shoes, jewelry, wraps, and hairstyles.

In order to have a great time at your wedding, your bridesmaids need to feel attractive too – something that’s impossible if you’ve micromanaged their looks down to the lipstick hue. Plus, buying a bunch of matching accessories they may never wear again gets expensive. Not to worry… YOU will still be the main attraction! Why not select a dresses they can actually wear again without altering?

Your bridesmaids will look even better if you give them leeway to let their individual styles shine through the blush-colored chiffon gowns you’ve dressed them in. Even if the dresses are all completely different, you can still have a preview to determine who should stand next to who in order to create balance. Their look should compliment their body type. Same color, different styles and lengths is another idea. Let them choose their hair and makeup styles; give them more than one option with accessories like shoes, jewelry, and cover-ups.

It’s a near-impossible feat to find ONE dress (or even one color) that three or four or 10 girls (who are different colors and shapes and size) are ALL going to feel great in. So why not make it easier on everyone and let them all wear WHATEVER, and trust that your friends have good taste? Your “Bridal Brigade” should have the freedom to choose within your guidelines. Of course you have the final say; you are, after all, “the bride.”

Should your bridesmaids wear the same dress? No, just similar enough to be a little of the same but individual enough to compliment each girl.

Perhaps it is finally time to ditch tradition of the matchy-matchy bridesmaid dresses! What say you?

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Tuesday, November 25, 2014

So, You’re a Bridesmaid… What Now?

Being asked to be a Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor is truly an honor. The list of duties are long. You are the Chief Ring-leader. You were chosen because of your energetic, get-the-ball-in-motion and get-the-job-done qualities, to say nothing of your close friendship with the bride.

Being a bridesmaid is not something one should enter into lightly. The commitment is fierce and obligations many. Bridesmaids are usually close friends or family members to the bride and typically play a vital role on the day of the wedding. Bridesmaids must be a dependable group of ladies consisting of the bride’s closest friends and/or family. Negative, needy dramatic types need not apply. Bridesmaids have a strong supportive role they must play during the entire wedding experience.

BridesmaidSome girls find that they cannot meet the needs and demands of the bride. If you feel that you cannot do everything that is necessary for the bride to have the best day ever… you should decline rather than quit two weeks before the wedding because the stress was too much for you. There is no joy or fun in being a bridesmaid if you don’t enjoy what you are doing. Bridesmaid’s duties can be fun filled and enjoyable as long as everyone involved has a sense of humor and you all remain calm during the stressful periods.

“Attempting to back out for any reason other than an economic, health, or family crisis beyond your control is a risky move and generally not advised. Communicate any concerns to the couple, and things will usually work themselves out.” Emily Post

If you find that you are unable to carry out the duties of a bridesmaid, suggest to the bride some other duty that will still have you be a part of the wedding, e.g., guestbook attendant, addressing invitations, do a reading, gift attendant, be a “go-to girl,” bring food and drinks to the head table, etc.

Bridesmaid duties come in all forms and fashions. Many important bridesmaid duties involve keeping the bride comfortable, emotionally and physically. Duties of the bridesmaids include, but are limited to:

• Part of your responsibilities are to know your responsibilities. Have a one-on-one with the bride
• Assists Maid of Honor however they can
• Helps Maid of Honor plan and pay for the bridal shower and bachelorette party
• Help the bride with the planning of the wedding
• Greets guests at the reception and encourage mingling
• Purchases their own attire, transportation, and accessories
• Attends the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
• Assists the Maid of Honor in helping everyone get on the dance floor
• Assist the other bridesmaids on where to go and timing, especially if they show up late
• Organizing a bachelorette Party or a STEN do Party
• Assisting the bride in making decisions regarding her wedding decorations, invitations and reception menu.
• Visiting Bridesmaid’s stores to find a bridesmaids gown. Bridesmaids must remember that this is the bride’s special day and therefore she ultimately does make the final decision on the gown style
• Give an individual wedding gift to the couple, or contribute to a group gift from all the attendants
• Pay attention! This is the bridesmaid’s biggest task, yet sometimes the most ambiguous. Be a hands-on attendant, and errand runner and more. If you see something that needs to be done… do it!
• Provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and “positively” stressful time for your friend
• Ask if the bride needs anything (food, water, etc), all the way up until the time she is walking down the aisle
• Last but not least, one of your bridesmaid duties is to remain and pick up flower petals and be involved in the not-so-fun part – cleanup!

In other words… be there for the bride! The duties a bridesmaid must perform on the wedding day are essential in ensuring that the bride has a relaxed and fun filled day. Whatever feelings the bride may be displaying on the day, the bridesmaid’s should be aware that she will be very emotional and she will need emotional support from her closest friends. And what do you get for being a bridesmaid? You get to enjoy the glow of an appreciative bride whose wedding was made all the more special from your unique input.

The Expenses of a Bridesmaid ~ There is a considerable expense involved in being a bridesmaid, including cost of apparel, travel and hotel room for the ceremony, hosting a party, as well as a shower gift and a wedding gift. A bridesmaid can save money by asking others to pitch in for the showers, wearing a dress she already owns (if that’s okay with the bride), making her own dress, and staying with friends. She can give her friend the gift of time – i.e., the gift of addressing and stuffing the invitations. Also, a bride may pay for some of the expenses if her budget allows it.” ~ Nina Callaway

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Saturday, March 22, 2014

Brides! Should You Fire Your Bridesmaid?

Kirsten Hansen, Guest Author

When it comes to dealing with drama, Little Red Lupine (aka Kirsten, the Community Manager of the Offbeat Bride Tribe) has held thousands of brides’ hands as they work through it. Here’s her advice on one particularly thorny issue…

FireBridesmaidYes, firing a bridesmaid sounds shitty. Honestly, it usually feels pretty shitty. There are lots of different reasons that a bridesmaid just might not work out — some that are high drama (like a fight or a friendship ending) and some that aren’t quite as emotional (life situation changes, unexpected illness or injury). Regardless, it still sucks. And it isn’t just bridesmaids. Maybe it’s a bridesdude, a groomswoman, a groomsman, or anyone who you asked to stand up with you at your wedding.

If you’re in this situation, there are probably a lot of feels. And we all know that when there are strong feelings, it can be way easy to say or do something you might regret. If you’re having issues with a wedding party member to the degree where you want to ask them to step down, you really need to keep your cool and just make it through with minimal damage. You also need to carefully consider your own responsibilities in the situation, and take ownership for your own issues.

Think about why you asked them in the first place

Were you expecting your bridesmaid to be a henchwoman? Were you asking because of what they mean to you? Do you feel like you owe them because you were in their wedding party? Is there history you want to respect? You asked them, so you must have had some reason… but maybe you aren’t really clear on what it was, or maybe it wasn’t the best reason. When you take the time to examine your own motivations, you may be able to better understand the role that you’ve played in things falling apart.

Consider exactly why you think it might be time to fire them

Make sure you really understand your reasoning. Are they not living up to your expectations? (Do they even know what their expectations are?) Are you no longer friends? Do you want to do this for their sake due to finances, time availability, or health considerations? Then think about how this compares with why you asked them in the first place.

As much as possible, try to focus on the actions you have taken — it’s easy to blame other people, but it’s much more difficult to look at how your choices contributed to a rough situation. If someone’s not meeting your expectations, is there a chance you were unclear or they misunderstood? Be honest with yourself.

Talk to them

Note that I said talk. I know it can feel way easier to send an email or text but trust me, on the Offbeat Bride Tribe, I’ve seen how even the best-intended emails can play out — and it’s infrequently well. You may be angry or hurt (and here are some tips for communicating when hurt or angry), and you may say something you will regret. Or they may misunderstand something you typed.
You need to have a conversation if at all possible — preferably in person, and definitely in private. Here are some things to talk about:

• If you’re undecided about them remaining in the wedding party, ask them about their feelings. Find out what’s going on for them. If they haven’t been responding to messages about the wedding, it may be because something has come up in their life that you don’t know about. Listen carefully.
• Talk openly about your concerns. Again, take full ownership for the role you have played in miscommunications and mis-aligned expectations. Apologize if you weren’t clear about expectations, or had unreasonable expectations that don’t line up with their availability or resources.
• Be sure to emphasize that you asked them to be a bridesmaid because they are important to you.
• Don’t be a dick. Stay open-hearted and patient. Think of this as information-gathering. There are no wrong answers. Don’t cast judgment on any feelings that come up. Just listen, and learn. Most importantly, take responsibility for your own role in things going awry. Yes, she might have fucked up royally… but even if your take-away is just “I should have been more thoughtful in making my original decision,” there’s almost always a lot for YOU to learn in conversations like this.

In talking, you may learn that your bridesmaid is actually looking for a way out. You won’t know until you talk to her.
Sometimes, you just have to end it.

Ok. You examined your own original motivations and potential mis-steps. You talked to them open-heartedly. You listened. You learned. And it’s clear: this is not going to work.

If you know it’s not going to work, then it’s in everyone’s best interests to ask your bridesmaid to step down. Now obviously, if you want to remain friends with them, you need to be as respectful and loving as possible — even as you’re asking them to step down from being a bridesmaid. Even if you’ve realized that a friendship is over, you still need to act with integrity.

Here are ways to word a difficult message:

“I asked you to be my bridesmaid because you are super important to me. You will always be important to me… but at this point, I’d rather you be a guest at my wedding than a bridesmaid. I feel like we’re not lining up on our ideas about you being a bridesmaid, and want us to be able to both enjoy my wedding together — and it feels like having you attend as a guest is the best way to do that.”

“I love you and I know your life is really busy right now with _____. I really want to support you in being able to focus on that, and so let’s just have you come to my wedding as a guest instead of as a bridesmaid.”

“This is emotional and hard, but I guess I’m just going to rip off the band-aid: I want you to come to my wedding as a guest, and not as a bridesmaid. This was a really rough decision, and I totally understand if you’re upset with me. I hope you can understand why I made this choice, but I understand if you’re mad or frustrated.”

Unless you’re ending the friendship, it can be helpful to talk to your former bridesmaid about other future plans. Even if it’s just “Let’s get drinks next week,” it can be hugely reassuring to know that just because being a bridesmaid isn’t working out, doesn’t mean the relationship needs to be over.

The goal with any difficult conversation is to take responsibility for yourself, and communicate with integrity and maturity. It can be easy to try to externalize it when bridesmaids don’t work out, but ultimately this is your choice, and your responsibility. Do what you need to do, but do it with respect.

BONUS Articles: Q & A – Can I Remove a Bridesmaid from the Wedding Party?
Serving Her Majesty the Bride: To Be a Maid of Honor… or Not
6 Tips on How to Avoid Embarrassment as the Bridesmaid!

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Wednesday, December 8, 2010

6 Tips on How to Avoid Embarrassment as the Bridesmaid!

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Julie Pickley, Guest Author

Bridesmaids are slowly becoming more of an important role in marriages, making more pressure for the bride to pick the best bridesmaid and for the bridesmaid to help as much as possible to do an outstanding job.

I once saw the worst bridesmaid at one of my good friends weddings. There were many mistakes leading up to her downfall of respect with me and other family members. I am writing this so you don’t fall into that trap as well.

An example of her idiocy started all the way back to the beginnings. She was very pushy to the bride and groom about the best way to do it, but because the bridesmaid was her best friend she was reluctant to change to another person.

Tip 1. Help the bride! Even if she doesn’t request help, offer, offer, offer! Do you want to shop for bridesmaid dresses? Are you okay? But be sure to not make her think that you are trying to take over the show. Remember it is your job to make sure everything runs smoothly.

Tip 2. Double check: A lot of brides make lists, and you can help by double checking the lists and making sure everyone is invited, and everyone knows what they are doing.

Tip 3. Be honest: If you think the dress doesn’t look that good, tell her nicely. Brides can get caught up in what they think looks good.

Tip 4. Give the bride space. Being a bridesmaid is about helping the bride but not overpowering her position. Remember it is her big day, not yours. Just think of yourself as the guardian angel.

Tip 5. Don’t make a fool of yourself. Don’t get too drunk at the reception and try and sleep with every handsome guy you haven’t seen before. Everyone will think you are the brides slutty friend and they will think less of you (and possibly the bride).

Tip 6. Don’t sleep with the groom! Do I need to explain this one? 😉

Keep calm. Everything will be great. Have fun, stay focused! Drink, but keep elegant. Remember this is the biggest day of your friends life. Keep to the job as the bridesmaid, have fun! It’s your turn next, promise.

BONUS Articles: Serving Her Majesty the Bride: To Be a Maid of Honor. . . or Not
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Copyright © 2010 – Julie Pickley. Reprinted with permission. Julie Pickley is a wedding planner with 5 years experience and much more enthusiasm. If you are becoming a bridesmaid or looking for a bridesmaid for your wedding, be sure to read through more of Julie’s Website’s articles for more juicy information. Visit her Website at: http://www.weddingbridesmaid.net/

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