Kristin Smetona, Guest Author
I have recently been very involved in boudoir photography. With that comes a lot of questions from potential clients, especially from my fellow Christians. I want to take just a few minutes to address what boudoir photography is and why I think Christian women ESPECIALLY should be involved in boudoir photography.
First, what is boudoir photography? Boudoir (pronounced bood-wah) refers to a woman’s dressing area. This can be a bedroom, vanity, or anything of the like. Specifically, boudoir photography refers to sexy, cute and tasteful photos that a woman might have taken of herself to give to a special man in her life. Think Victoria’s Secret photos of YOU. 🙂
So, why do them? I once heard a pastor refer to a man’s brain as a Rolodex. A man has thousands of images that he is bombarded with every day. Some good. Some not. Some holy. Some not. And whether he knows it or not, he remembers them. Ever so often his Rolodex goes on shuffle and pulls up an image in his mind. These images could even be as old as a Playboy cover he saw years ago. Now, don’t go thinking men are sick. It’s just the way God created them. They are visual.
But, why should Christian couples be interested?
Because of my Christian convictions, I believe that boudoir photography is best used in the context of marriage. I think any man would be delighted that his wife (or wife-to-be) would think enough of him to give him a gift that takes a lot of courage and love to do. Now, remember that Rolodex, ladies, how much better and holier is it if your husband’s brain goes on shuffle and up pops a gorgeous image of you. . . HIS WIFE? He is now thinking of the wonderful woman God blessed him with! What could be more God honoring than that?
Christian ladies, that are getting married. Some of you are (like I was) unfamiliar and intimidated by the thought of being *gasp* sexy. Just the thought of being naked with your husband makes you blush. I remember the feeling. I walked in the hotel room for my boudoir session and the first thing I thought was, “I need Vodka.” (Granted I had never even had Vodka, but for some reason it seemed to fit the bill.) Having a boudoir photography session is a great chance for you to warm up. It’s a safe environment for you to practice being sexy and see that it’s not bad or scary. In fact, I am convinced that if you are scared or nervous, it is all the more reason to do it.
“But what if my body is not in shape?” So what?!? Most ladies will NEVER be in the ideal shape that they want to be. But I bet you that even if you aren’t perfect, your husband will adore the photos. Why? Because it’s you! I had one boudoir photographer tell me that “Hey thanks for writing that post about Christians and boudoir! You totally rocked it!” I had a christian girl say it changed their marriage! You never know what a little sexy confidence can do for your marriage.
Let me also take this a step further, married ladies, when you are in the privacy of your own home with your husband, why do you stay so covered? Why not add even MORE images of you to his file? Why not prance around the bedroom in a piece he hasn’t seen in awhile instead of that old t-shirt? Just saying.
A few days ago, I came into our bedroom to see Dustin (how I love him!) looking through the boudoir pictures he has of me. I gently kissed him and asked him what he was doing. “Oh, just looking,” he responded with a grin. What a blessing it is to know that I have a husband who not only loves me, but appreciates the body of the wife he has!
I want to leave you with one last little thing. It’s from the TV show “According to Jim” and the episode called “Cheryl’s Boudoir Photos.”
(Cheryl hands Jim the envelope containing her boudoir photos as a Valentine’s Day gift. He opens it. Pulls a photo out and his eyes get big.)
Jim: WOW! YOU ARE AMAZING!
Cheryl: You think so?
Jim: You know, you could go pro! I mean as a model!
Cheryl: Do you like it?
Jim: Like it? I want to marry it! But I did! [Laughs] I can’t take my eyes off it!
Cheryl: Maybe you can take your eyes off of it for this. [She kisses him.]
It’s gonna get steamy in Arizona!
There are 14 spots and I need 14 lovely ladies to book sessions to cover the hotel room and my flight to Arizona. When you decide to book, email me at the address below (make sure to include what day and time is best for you & any upgrades). You will be sent a booking proposal from me with payment information. Simply complete your booking and you are set! (After booking, you will not receive a refund if you cancel your session.)
If the 14 sessions do not all get filled, everyone will be refunded all monies paid and the marathon will be cancelled. Decision to cancel will be made prior to August 1st if necessary. So, tell your lady friends and make it happen for everyone!
Q: How long will the whole session last?
A: Your session will last approximately one hour. If you upgrade to include hair and make-up, we ask that you arrive at least 30 minutes early.
Q: Can I see any of your past boudoir work?
A: Of course! E-mail me at email@example.com and ask for the link and password to the boudoir portfolio.
Q: Where will the marathon be?
A: The boudoir marathon will be at The Legado Hotel in Gilbert,Arizona. Check it out by clicking here!
Q: Who is boudoir for?
A: Boudoir is for every age! Single? Do it to feel sexy and confident. Getting married? You’re perfect! Married? He will love it! Been married for awhile? You will be stunning! Most women can’t believe the spark that a few images can bring back to their marriage!
Q: What if I don’t have a model’s body?
A: Your man loves you because of your size and shape, so don’t worry if you feel like you aren’t ready for the cover of Playboy! We all have things we wish we could change. I professionally retouch each and every photo, so you will look your absolute best! If there’s a specific issue that you’re concerned with, we will chat before your session and I can provide you with some tips and tricks for before and after.
Q: Can I bring a friend for moral support?
A: Absolutely! All I ask is that you limit it to one friend, so our suite doesn’t get too crowded.
Q: How many outfit changes should I bring?
A: As many as you like. We’ll go through them and pick out the most sexy and flattering for the photos. Most sessions will have time for 2-3 outfit changes.
Q: Can I add-on upgrades later?
A: Absolutely! You can purchase books, prints and disks up to 30 days after you are sent your proofing gallery.
Q: How do I keep this a secret for my husband or husband-to-be?
A: A great option is to tell him you are going out to do “wedding shopping” or “some time with the girls”. You could also tell him what you are doing. Who knows! He might pay for everything, treat you to some new lingerie, and maybe a beauty day to prep. 😉
For more information or to book, please e-mail Kristin at firstname.lastname@example.org! I can’t wait to work with you! This is gonna be so much fun! Check the Boudoir Marathon Schedule.
BONUS Article: Confessions of a Boudoir Photographer
Larry’s Note: A special thank you to Jessica Gelder, Wedding Consultant, Sweet Soiree, LLC, East Valley (AZ) Event Planner, for suggesting this article. Visit Jessica’s Blog!
Copyright © 2011 – Kristin Smetona. Reprinted with permission. Kristin Smetona has been a photographer for six years. She owns Smetona Photo in Orange County, CA. She graduated from California Baptist University (2010) with a B.A. Magna Cum Laude in Journalism, but ended up taking more photography classes then journalism courses. She has officially moved to Southern Califonia, I (and Dustin, her husband) are rebuilding the photography business she had in Kansas City (Kristin Joy Photography). Visit her Website.
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