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Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Does the Father of the Groom Give a Speech at the Wedding?

Barry Watson, Guest Author

Your son’s about to get married to the love of his life. Most likely, you are overwhelmed with joy and pride right now. It’s exactly the sort of emotion you want to share with the audience at your son’s wedding.

Although there is no set rule for who must and must not give a speech at the wedding, having family and friends say a few words is always good fun. The father of the bride has a speech delivered at the engagement party, then the father of the groom takes over at the rehearsal dinner and the best man is supposed to give the first toast at the wedding reception. But that’s just the most common way of doing things and you can get creative if you like.

WED-FofGroomSpeechThere could be receptions where everyone says some words at least and I’ve been to weddings where no one besides the best man has a speech ready.

It all comes down to the audience, see what comes naturally and go with that.

Father-of-the-groom speeches are important. ~ In most cases, people in the audience want to hear what the father of the groom has to say about the event and the relationship his son and daughter-in-law share. The speech could be either funny or deeply emotional depending on the father, but you can bet the whole audience will be paying ample attention.

What if the father of the groom in unavailable? ~ There could be circumstances in which the father of the groom simply cannot come to the wedding or give a speech in front of a crowd. This is okay and someone else can deliver a heart-warming speech instead. The mother of the groom would be most welcome to come say a few words. Even the brother or uncle could do this. Basically, as long as it feels like a very close family member is sharing the family’s joy with all those who’ve gathered, it should be enough.

Should the father talk at the wedding reception? ~ Actually, why not? As we’ve seen before there is no rule to govern the perfect wedding. Families have to plan the day of the wedding according to what suits them best and if the father of the groom would rather talk at the wedding reception or if the bride’s father would rather say a few words at the engagement party, that’s okay.

Here are a few tips for the speech. ~ Generally it is always a good idea to have a few versions of the speech ready. Have different drafts made up before the big day and ask someone to help you edit them so that they appeal to everyone. A great speech takes practice. Also give compliments, thanks and blessings with the speech that always charms the crowd. Read more on

Finally, stick to the point and avoid letting your speech run too long. People have limited attention spans and they’ve come to the wedding to celebrate, so keep it all short and sweet.

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Larry’s NOTE: A special “Thank you” to Susan Stripling Photography for the photo above.

BarryWatsonCopyright 2015 – Barry Watson. Barry is a happy father-of-two, a loving husband and an awful golfer. While preparing to give 2 wedding speeches at his son’s weddings, he learned a lot about how to create a great father of the groom speech, so he started a blog where he constantly shares the best tips he found in this topic. You can read more on



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