You’ve all seen “The Hangover,” a movie about three groomsmen who go overboard at their friend’s bachelor party and wake up with no memory of what has taken place. The groom is nowhere to be found, and the groomsmen go on an epic mission to find him before the wedding.
If you have lots of friends in your wedding party, you will need a rehearsal. By having a wedding rehearsal, you can ensure that everyone involved with the ceremony knows the rest of the bridal party as well as their responsibilities.
Every person involved in your ceremony should attend: the bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents, flower girl, ring bearer, Officiant, readers, and especially the bride and groom. It is considerate to invite the spouse or significant other of each attendant. The purpose of a rehearsal dinner is to provide an intimate setting for the two families to mingle before the big event. The rehearsal is designed to make the Bride and Groom familiar with the ceremony so they can be more relaxed on their big day.
Here is my idea: Break tradition! Have your rehearsal two days before the wedding, not the typical night before. Why?
Consider scheduling a Wednesday rehearsal for a Friday wedding or a Thursday rehearsal for a Saturday wedding. In other words: Consider choosing a rehearsal date two days before your wedding day, not one day before. This idea separates two stressful days and gives you a day of rest before the wedding to get last-minute things done. (The Groom will need time for a pedicure, right?) 😉
At the rehearsal dinner… the social lubrication portion can can get a little crazy and can offer a few headaches the morning after the night before. If you have that extra day in between the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner and the wedding, that pretty much will guarantee that every one in the wedding party will be clear-headed and ready for the main event.
There is also more time to relax, recuperate, and get ready for the big day. If most attendants won’t be arriving until late on the eve of your wedding, a breakfast celebration the morning before the wedding is also acceptable. Some couples are just having the rehearsal and skipping the rehearsal dinner.
If you have 12 in your wedding party – 6 bridesmaid and 6 groomsmen – and 2 or 3 are from out-of-town, go ahead and have your rehearsal without them and fill them in on the details of the rehearsal the day they arrive or the day of the wedding. If you only have 1 or 2 on each side you may not need a rehearsal.
Have out-of-town bridal party people? Plan special things for them to do – sans social lubrication (no pub crawls) – the day before the wedding. Plan some tame things for them to do. Take this opportunity to spend some quality time with your loved ones because the best day of your life is just around the corner.
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