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Saturday, November 29, 2014

10 Sexy Ways to Make Your Wedding Night Very Special

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Engaged couples spend lots of time planning for the big day, but not everybody plans well for the big wedding night. This time alone together after the festivities can be incredibly meaningful and romantic. Wedding preparations and celebrations, while exciting, are often stressful and tiring for couples, which can be a major turn-off in the bedroom, even on your wedding night.

The best prescription for romance could be to make your wedding night a leisurely one. It’s your first night together as wife and husband. Make it unforgettable with these intimate tips.

WeddingNight1. Let Him Carry You Across the Threshold ~ This romantic tradition, which dates from Roman times, when it was said to ensure good luck for the couple, is fun for both partners.

2. Turn Off Your Cell Phones ~ Who do you need to be talking to on your wedding night? Leave your computers at home. When you check in, it is also a good idea to ask the reception desk to hold your calls unless it is an emergency. Be sure to tell the hotel or resort that you are honeymooners. Most will have special surprises that fit the mood of the honeymoon.

3. Get Squeaky clean ~ Do yourself and your partner a favor and make sure that you’re squeaky clean and ready for whatever may come. Think about it – what did you do at the reception? You probably danced all night and consumed lots of alcohol in stuffy, hot clothing. A quick five minute shower will go a long way.

4. Sexy Lingerie ~ Wedding night lingerie can really help the mood. Make sure your undergarments are on point. Pack sexy and elegant lingerie to really impress your new hubby. Buying lingerie is an opportunity for a woman or a man to express their sexuality and men can express their preferences as to what they would like their bride to wear. Purchasing the right lingerie, not just the sexiest or most revealing must be a primary factor at the time of purchase. Guys: Surprise her with some satin skivvies.

5. Hot Hair ~ A great trend is to ask your hair and make-up artist on your wedding day how to recreate the look, or a different one, for when you go away.

6. Fill Your Room With Seductive Fragrance ~ Arrange to have a bouquet of flowers put by the bed, as well as scented candles. From sweet and seductive, to musky and alluring, choosing your scent can help create your mood… and his!

7. Raise a Glass ~ Ask your venue to make sure there is a bottle of Champagne waiting inside the bridal suite at the end of the day.

WeddingNightFUN8. Romantic Music – Set the Mood ~ Download your favorite love songs onto your iPhone or MP3 Player. Most hotels provide a docking station; check with them before you arrive or pack your own for that perfect ambiance!

9. Breathe… Relax… ~ A wedding night does not necessarily mean jumping into bed right away. Take things slowly. Savor this moment. Take a few minutes to talk about the magic of your wedding – the parts you loved the most, and how you feel about each other. Take some time to enjoy each other. Real intimacy in marriage is not just about sex. It’s about connecting in all areas – mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Kiss, hug, laugh, and love. The rest will come naturally

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10. Pamper Each Other ~ Give each other foot massages, and progress as slowly – or as quickly – as you like to a sensual full-body massage. Remember to pack the oils that you will need.

Bonus Tip: Go easy on the booze at your wedding reception. Alcohol can keep you from having really good wedding night sex! If you’re too exhausted or tipsy for foreplay (that is important, you know!), sex isn’t going to be so great. Your first time as a married couple should be special, and if you’re too beat to do anything more than to just go throught the motions, consider having your “wedding night” the next morning. You’ll still be in your wedding night bed, with the excitement and stimulated with the adrenaline of the day before, but you’ll be more rested.

You don’t have to have a perfect wedding night. In fact, most couples will tell you that they did not have a picture perfect wedding night. However, your wedding night can turn into a disaster if you haven’t done any prior planning. Some couples might even choose to practice celibacy in the run-up to their wedding. While this won’t be a choice for everybody, it could certainly help store up all that passion and make the wedding night be one to remember. Do something romantic and out of the ordinary for one another to show how happy you are to finally be married. Savor the romance, whether it leads to an evening of exciting sex or not.

One final note: Although, traditionally, women have been in charge of birth control, that paradigm has shifted over the past 50 years. Condoms, diaphragms, the pill… whatever you pick, be real honest about who is in charge of protecting the goods long before your wedding night encounter, or you might be celebrating a honeymoon baby in nine months.

If you plan ahead for your wedding night and follow some of these tips, you will find your sex life will be joyful, and if you keep things light and fun on your wedding night, your marriage will be off to a good start in the intimacy department.

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Tuesday, November 25, 2014

So, You’re a Bridesmaid… What Now?

Being asked to be a Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor is truly an honor. The list of duties are long. You are the Chief Ring-leader. You were chosen because of your energetic, get-the-ball-in-motion and get-the-job-done qualities, to say nothing of your close friendship with the bride.

Being a bridesmaid is not something one should enter into lightly. The commitment is fierce and obligations many. Bridesmaids are usually close friends or family members to the bride and typically play a vital role on the day of the wedding. Bridesmaids must be a dependable group of ladies consisting of the bride’s closest friends and/or family. Negative, needy dramatic types need not apply. Bridesmaids have a strong supportive role they must play during the entire wedding experience.

BridesmaidSome girls find that they cannot meet the needs and demands of the bride. If you feel that you cannot do everything that is necessary for the bride to have the best day ever… you should decline rather than quit two weeks before the wedding because the stress was too much for you. There is no joy or fun in being a bridesmaid if you don’t enjoy what you are doing. Bridesmaid’s duties can be fun filled and enjoyable as long as everyone involved has a sense of humor and you all remain calm during the stressful periods.

“Attempting to back out for any reason other than an economic, health, or family crisis beyond your control is a risky move and generally not advised. Communicate any concerns to the couple, and things will usually work themselves out.” Emily Post

If you find that you are unable to carry out the duties of a bridesmaid, suggest to the bride some other duty that will still have you be a part of the wedding, e.g., guestbook attendant, addressing invitations, do a reading, gift attendant, be a “go-to girl,” bring food and drinks to the head table, etc.

Bridesmaid duties come in all forms and fashions. Many important bridesmaid duties involve keeping the bride comfortable, emotionally and physically. Duties of the bridesmaids include, but are limited to:

• Part of your responsibilities are to know your responsibilities. Have a one-on-one with the bride
• Assists Maid of Honor however they can
• Helps Maid of Honor plan and pay for the bridal shower and bachelorette party
• Help the bride with the planning of the wedding
• Greets guests at the reception and encourage mingling
• Purchases their own attire, transportation, and accessories
• Attends the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
• Assists the Maid of Honor in helping everyone get on the dance floor
• Assist the other bridesmaids on where to go and timing, especially if they show up late
• Organizing a bachelorette Party or a STEN do Party
• Assisting the bride in making decisions regarding her wedding decorations, invitations and reception menu.
• Visiting Bridesmaid’s stores to find a bridesmaids gown. Bridesmaids must remember that this is the bride’s special day and therefore she ultimately does make the final decision on the gown style
• Give an individual wedding gift to the couple, or contribute to a group gift from all the attendants
• Pay attention! This is the bridesmaid’s biggest task, yet sometimes the most ambiguous. Be a hands-on attendant, and errand runner and more. If you see something that needs to be done… do it!
• Provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and “positively” stressful time for your friend
• Ask if the bride needs anything (food, water, etc), all the way up until the time she is walking down the aisle
• Last but not least, one of your bridesmaid duties is to remain and pick up flower petals and be involved in the not-so-fun part – cleanup!

In other words… be there for the bride! The duties a bridesmaid must perform on the wedding day are essential in ensuring that the bride has a relaxed and fun filled day. Whatever feelings the bride may be displaying on the day, the bridesmaid’s should be aware that she will be very emotional and she will need emotional support from her closest friends. And what do you get for being a bridesmaid? You get to enjoy the glow of an appreciative bride whose wedding was made all the more special from your unique input.

The Expenses of a Bridesmaid ~ There is a considerable expense involved in being a bridesmaid, including cost of apparel, travel and hotel room for the ceremony, hosting a party, as well as a shower gift and a wedding gift. A bridesmaid can save money by asking others to pitch in for the showers, wearing a dress she already owns (if that’s okay with the bride), making her own dress, and staying with friends. She can give her friend the gift of time – i.e., the gift of addressing and stuffing the invitations. Also, a bride may pay for some of the expenses if her budget allows it.” ~ Nina Callaway

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Friday, November 21, 2014

7 Dos and Don’ts for a Perfect STEN Do

Larry’s NOTE: What’s a “STEN do,” you ask? It is a combo party for stags and hens (a combo bachelor and bachelorette party). Traditionally the “last night of freedom,” hen and stag do’s are now basically an excuse to go and have a good time, in whatever format that might take. A STEN do is a joint celebration where they all party together. STEN do parties see couples embarking on adventurous group outings with their friends to celebrate their last night as singletons together, with one party planning company seeing a 100% increase in the last three years.

WED-STEN-DoPopular activities include paintball, whitewater rafting, highland games, as well as less adventurous activities such as recording a pop song or recreating an iconic music video to play at the wedding reception. Consider whether the friends of the bride and groom gel well together or not.

While the idea of having a joint hen and stag party may raise some eyebrows at first, there are some great advantages to having a STEN do; 1. You can save on money by having one party instead of two and 2. It’s a great ice breaker for the hens and stags to get to know each other a bit better (hopefully not too much! 😉 ) before the wedding. A combination of thoughtful planning and fun games is sure to make a hearty party to be cherished forever.

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An increasing amount of people are booking ‘STEN dos’. Although it might not be for everyone, people are seeing the benefits of throwing a joint hen and stag do party. We asked hen and stag do specialists Chillisauce.co.uk for the dos and don’ts on how to throw a Sten that will please everyone.

The Benefits

It’s just fact these days that most couples are spending longer together before they are married. Which renders the ‘last night of freedom’ concept as rather dead. Their single status and lifestyle has long since passed and some couple’s feel inclined to celebrate their hen and stag do together, seeing it as an extra opportunity to spend some special time together…

Keeping in mind the busy lifestyles most of us lead, it is becoming more common to find couples sharing hobbies and activities to get that quality time together. If this is the case, indulging in your same passions could offer you the chance to save money, or combine both budgets to go bigger and better.

A sten party can also benefit your family and friends! If you have been together for a long time, chances are you have a large group of mutual friends. A sten do means everyone can stick together and enjoy the evening. If, on the other hand, your friends have never had the chance to spend a lot of time together, this is the perfect opportunity for everyone to come together and mingle before the big day.

What can you do?

Couples usually separate during the day and enjoy different activities, and then meet up for an evening meal, drinks or night out. Or the other way round…

There are plenty of day-time activities you can do – whether you and your party are the adventurous type, the explorer type, or the cheesy-fun type. From paintballing and watersports, to a weekend on the slopes, to a more relaxed craft session, you’re bound to find something that everyone would enjoy.

And for the night-time? Well… the list is almost endless. It could be a wild night out for your sten party to enjoy together, a fancy three-course meal, an evening at a comedy club or the chance to take in a casino. Or if you are a music lover, why not all go to a gig of your favourite band?

Dos and Don’ts

• Do it for the right reasons, and not because of trust issues. It should be to double the fun and definitely not just to keep an eye on your partner.
• Do make sure it’s something you both really want. If one of you is pushing the other one, it will only end up in resentment.
• Do ensure that planning is a priority. Joining forces often means a large group, and spontaneity just gos right out the window.
• Do take into consideration the other hens and stags expectations when you make your decision. Will your maid of honour be upset at not being able to make the plans and surprise you? Will your H2B’s friends just want a lads’ night out?
• Don’t get excited too early on with the idea of a joint party. Will you regret not spending that special bonding time with just you and the girls? If you don’t get to see them as much as you used to, it might be the right time to.
• Do make sure it’s fair and balance. You want to avoid any bust ups or arguments so your sten do doesn’t end up like an Eastenders-style drama.
• Do think about the dynamics of the group. Make sure there are no awkward situations between a hen and a stag, and maybe no relationships when they get on a bit too well and slope off early.

Larry’s NOTE: STEN do parties have also been referred to as “Hag do” parties. Definition of a Hag: a witch, especially one in the form of an ugly old woman (often used as a term of disparagement for a woman). NEVER a good idea! 😉

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Monday, November 17, 2014

Need Some Wedding Invitation Inspiration?

Filed under: Invitations,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am

Recently I’ve been receiving a lot of very creative wedding invitations. If you want your invitation to stand out, take a little time and research the Internet for some creative ways to get your guests attention. Weddings invitations offer you an opportunity to set up the tone and theme of your wedding day, in addition it also offers some important information about your wedding. Wedding invitations are expensive so be sure to shop around.

WEDInvitationInspirationRemember to budget for your invitations. Postage and mailing are important factors to consider first, last, and throughout the entire process. Most invitations weigh more than an ounce, so be sure to check the size and weight before you buy stamps. Envelopes of “odd sizes” require additional postage. The Post Office has a handy calculator on their website: http://PostCalc.usps.gov/.

Have at least two other people read the invitation proofs from the designer or printer. Make sure you’ve got all the details: names, date, time, location, and RSVP info correct before you sign off for the printing and be sure to order an additional 25 invitation just in case.

Remember to take one complete invitation to the post office prior to mailing to make sure it will have adequate postage. Have it weighed, purchase some of those pretty wedding stamps, and be sure your invites will not be returned to you.

a34f9dd49cdd3616df3ad1b32eeec89cThis important tip is from the Knot.com ~ Your save-the-dates should go out six to eight months before the wedding. It can take anywhere from a few days to a few weeks — or longer, depending on how fancy you go — to print them. While your save-the-dates don’t have to match your invites, ordering everything from one stationer can save you money and make the invitation process easier on you. So start scouting stationers 9 to 11 months before the wedding. Aim to order your invitations about four to five months out so they’re ready to mail six to eight weeks before the wedding. If you’re having a destination wedding or marrying over the holidays, send out your invites even earlier (10 to 12 weeks before the wedding).

Do not include a registry card with your invitations; this is considered a tacky and an impolite gesture. Buy your thank you cards at the same time as your invitations. The reasons for this are simple – your parents will pay for them now (maybe!). 😉 They are more expensive to buy later.

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Thursday, November 13, 2014

Top 5 Ways to Get a Great Honeymoon Deal

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You both deserve a terrific honeymoon. Please don’t skip that much-deserved romantic adventure. Instead, check out these five amazing tips to help you get a great honeymoon deal.

Here it is: the inside scoop from Weddzilla.com.

SandalsCabana1. Hire a travel agent who can haggle for you. If your travel agent does a lot of business with a resort, they can negotiate better prices and freebies.

2. Go all-inclusive. At least, check it out. Remove the variables of food, drinks and activities so you know exactly how much your entire honeymoon will cost. Most Caribbean 4-star all-inclusive properties cost $3,500 per week.

Sandals-Honeymoon-160x6003. Either ask a travel agent or call the Caribbean Tourism Organization to find out which resorts are opening or reopening after renovations, so you can get introductory rates.

4. Viva Mexico! Mexico has the best deals right now because, frankly, people are afraid to go. But the drug cartel violence is localized along the border, hundreds of miles from Cancun and the Yucatan Peninsula.

5. There’s a technique to searching for air travel prices: search for a winter trip during summer, a summer trip during winter, and book it late at night on a Wednesday. Here’s an even easier way: track prices using sites like Farecast or YAPTA, which will send you notifications when ticket prices dip.

All-Inclusive Resorts vs. Non-Inclusive Resorts

Is the all-inclusive option really all it is cracked up to be? Or, would it be just as easy to stay at one that isn’t and eat on your own? Not all resorts are the same when it comes to all-inclusive packages vs. non-inclusive packages. MarketWatch did some investigation and came up with 10 ways that visitors to all-inclusive resorts often end up shelling out more than they expected — from automatic gratuities to impossible refunds. Find out how you can avoid these pesky fees and get on with the getaway you were hoping for. Do lots of research and ask lots of questions. Click here.

Top 10 Caribbean Honeymoon Resorts – If you are looking for more exclusive or unique, this is your Top 10.

1. Sandals Grande St Lucian
2. Sandals Grande Antigua
3. Jade Mountain St Lucia
4. Hermitage Bay Antigua
5. Beaches Turks and Caicos
6. Sandals Royal Bahamian
7. Palm Island Resort
8. Sandals La Toc St Lucia
9. Jumby Bay Antigua
10. Occidental Grand Aruba

Each of Sandals 14 Caribbean locations (Jamaica, Antigua, Saint Lucia and The Bahamas) offers sports and adventure enthusiasts the Island Routes Caribbean Adventure Tours. The program includes deep-sea fishing, catamaran sails, dolphin encounters, mountain biking and dune buggy off-roading excursions. Pricing for tours varies depending on resort and activity.

I have personally visited Sandals Emerald Bay, Great Exuma, Bahamas and was amazed at the level of service from everyone I encountered. Set on breathtaking Dickenson Bay, the island’s best and most famous beach, this romantic getaway offers the charm of a quaint Caribbean village accompanied by the refined luxuries of a world-class all-inclusive that has been voted World’s Leading Honeymoon Resort for two years in a row. I highly recommend Sandals Emerald Bay! ~ Larry James

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Sunday, November 9, 2014

From Engagement to Marriage… How Long?

Filed under: Engagement,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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As a full-time, professional Wedding Officiant, it always worries me when I ask a couple how long they have been dating and they answer, “We’ve been together 4 months” (0r less). Really? You hardly know each other! There is seldom ever a good reason to rush into marriage.

When you first meet, and if everything clicks, the hormones are dancing… you are in Love! AND you hardly think of anything else. The butterflies in your tummy are all flying in formation. You forget to eat. Nothing else matters. You just want to hang out with the one you love. Most focus mainly on the “feelings” they have for each other.

WED-EngagedSlow down. Don’t head to the alter just yet. There are many things to consider. Three or four months is hardly long enough to know for sure that you are compatible or that you are both on the same page. Couples need time to really get to know each other. It seems to me that there should be a greater focus on what really matters… the relationship.

It takes time for the true self of someone to appear and people have a great ability to present themselves to others in a way they are not. In the beginning it’s easy to put your best foot forward. Just make sure it’s attached to the person who is taking the step. You will have more of an opportunity to distinguish personal peeves from unresolveable issues over time. Most couples spend more time planning their wedding that they do planning their marriage.

“You need to know each other: For some people, six months into a relationship, they get engaged. Six months later they get married and then six months later they are pregnant. Eighteen months together is NOT enough time to know you’re compatible as partners and parents. It just isn’t. I have heard that it takes three full rounds of each season (three years) to get to really know one another. That’s a good rule of thumb.” ~ Sasha Brown-Worsham

Answer this: “What works better for engaged couples — a very long engagement, or a shotgun wedding?” One ideal element of a short sprint down the aisle can be the absence of stress from the heightened expectations that can build during a lengthy wedding planning period. Long engagements can be difficult for those waiting to have sex until their wedding night.

Billy Crystal tells a tearful Meg Ryan at the end of When Harry Met Sally: “When you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as quickly as possible.”

Once you are ready for wedding bells, you should consider giving yourself plenty of time to start thinking about the wedding. It’s more important to take your time and make sure that your marriage will last longer than even the unmarried part of your life.

Short-term compatibility is easy to find, but the test of a successful relationship is how do you, as a couple, get back to compatibility as both of you mature as people after the knot is tied. What about a couple who meets and gets engaged within 90 days and then gets married after another 90 days? I’m not so sure about their success rate. From my experience, somewhere in the 9 to 12 months range is not to short or to long.

According to a 2009 Conde Nast American wedding study – 14 to 16 months is the average engagement length. In my opinion, couples should spent a lot of time and effort into thinking and talking about their marriage as opposed to thinking and talking about their wedding.

The Huffington Post recently ran a survey stating that the average length of an engagement is 13 to 18 months. marriage-stability-datingData scientist, Randal Olson, recently visualized some of the findings from a paper by Andrew Francis and Hugo Mialon, two researchers at Emory University who studied 3,000 married couples in the U.S. to determine the factors that predicted divorce. They analyzed income, religious attendance, how important attractiveness was to each partner, wedding attendance, and other metrics to determine the aspects associated with eventual marital dissolution.

What we see on the graph to the right is that dating 3 or more years before getting engaged leads to a much more stable marriage. This finding probably comes as no surprise, but it should stand as a warning to those who are eager to get married right away. Don’t jump into marriage before you really get to know someone.

Many couples decide to set their wedding date 18 months or more from the time they get engaged to allow them time to save up money for their wedding. That’s one of the biggest benefits to having a long engagement. Too many couples never think about a wedding budget and find themselves covered up in debt from the costs of an expensive wedding.

One of the best parts of having a long engagement is that it gives you breathing room to focus on your career, get a sense of what your partner will be like as a spouse and decide what you both want for your marriage (buying a house, when to have children, etc.).

“There are thousands of pros and cons for short and long engagements, and of course there are exceptions to the above such as destination weddings and lifestyles that differ from the average (e.g. military, touring musicians). The key is to pick a path together that works well with your personalities. Engagement is a time in your life that you will never have again. Learn as much as you can from each other and make the most of it, regardless of the length.” ~ Danielle, Maggie, Kate & Andrea

So, my suggestion is to take your time. Work together to build a strong foundation for marriage. What happens during the engagement period has a greater impact on length of marriage than how long the engagement is.

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Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Most Popular Months for Weddings in Arizona!

According to The Knot’s Real Wedding Survey, June is the most popular month for weddings. For the rest of the country, outdoor weddings during summer months are extremely popular.

While The Knot unveils their “2013 Real Weddings Survey” captures detailed feedback on wedding budget, style preferences, event characteristics and other key information related to the bridal demographic, Arizona is clearly an exception to the June wedding stat.

WEDAZPopularMonthsWhy? Arizona is blessed with amazing weather!

When out-of-state visitors come to Phoenix, Scottsdale, Glendale or Tempe, they discover that our weather is good enough to “come back here to get married.”

Unlike parts of the United States in the Midwest and East, Arizona has two wedding seasons. When everyone there is having June weddings, I usually take some time off in June or July because most of my weddings are outdoors and those months are when things begin to heat up here in the desert. It’s summer and it’s the desert, however, when you plan your wedding for the warm early evening rather than the blaring mid-afternoon, the temperature change can make quite the difference. Grassy areas and tents can also make your outdoor wedding much more bearable.

Spring and Fall are prime times. We basically have two wedding seasons: March, April and May, and October, November and December. Weddings occur in other months too, however fewer weddings are scheduled during out hottest months; June, July and August. Most of those weddings are indoors. The greatest percentage of weddings are usually outdoors at resorts, hotels, and some in private home back yards.

A romantic wedding as the Arizona sun sets is an inspiration for you and your guests. Arizona is a very popular spot for destination weddings. It’s summer and it’s the desert, but if you plan your wedding for the warm early evening rather than the blaring mid-afternoon, the temperature change can make quite the difference. Grassy areas and tents can also make the desert sun much more bearable.

The Greater Phoenix area has more than 325 days of annual sunshine with an average high temperature of 86 degrees and an average low of 57 degrees. With only 7.66 to 8.32 inches of rain per year, our area offers an ideal setting for outdoor weddings.

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Here’s wishing you blue skies and magnificent desert sunsets!

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Saturday, November 1, 2014

Guys: Proposing? Think on These Things!

First of all… before you propose, make sure you are ready to propose. Have you been together long enough to really know each other? It may be wise to cool your jets until you’re beyond the dizzy-with-infatuation stage. Remember, marriage is a lifetime commitment.

If you are ready, be sure to drop enough pre-proposal hints. It’s important to have already discussed the possibility of marriage with your sweetheart before you pop the question. Patience. Have you received unequivocal signs that she’s equally ready to commit? The last think you want to hear is, “Let me think about it… we need to talk about this later.”

WEDproposalThe actual marriage proposal can seem awfully intimidating, with so many questions as to where, when and how. A good deal of consideration should be put into the timing and setting of this event. Preparation is the key. Be creative. However, remember that your ideal proposal may not be hers.

If you like things larger than life, but she tends to be reserved, flashing your proposal on the scoreboard during the Diamondback’s game is a bad idea. Public proposals only work for people who don’t mind being the sudden center of attention.

It’s important to have already discussed the possibility of marriage with your sweetheart before you pop the question. Decide what you’re going to say and practice, practice, practice. Focus on making this a happy memory and everything will turn out fine.

Enlist the aid of friends to help you execute your proposal plan. Don’t forget the ring. Will there be roses and champagne?

Public proposals are just okay, however, try to pick a place that’s a little more personal and romantic.

Pop a breath mint in your mouth before the proposal (there may be some kissing). No matter what else you say during your proposal, when you pop that final question, get down on bended knee! Research shows that 90% of women surveyed hope that, when a man proposes to them, he will get down on one knee.

Once she says, “Yes,” she is going to tell everyone so make your proposal a story worth telling. No matter what your proposal may be, it should always end with the words, “Will you marry me?”

Here are a few videos that will give you some ideas:

If your marriage proposal will be a surprise… be absolutely sure you know what she will say!

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