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Monday, July 28, 2014

Choosing Your Wedding Invitation Ensemble

Filed under: Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am

Treasia Stepp, Guest Author

Your wedding invitations are the first thing your guest will see with regards to your special day. Choosing them will be a very important part of the marriage process. Choose with style and great care. Ask yourself?, what do you want your guests impression to be of your big day? What do you want to express to them with regards to it? Express yourself and your fiancé through your invitations.

First off you need to make your guest list. This will be to determine how many invitations should be ordered. You would be wise to order an additional 25 – 50 invitations over the amount of guests you have listed on your guest list. You should count every couple and single guest, parents, clergy and also their guests.

invitation2All children over 16 should also receive an invitation. Give yourself plenty of time as well as the designer you have chosen. Your invitations should be ordered well in advance give or take four to six months. This will ensure less stress for you in the long run.

The invitation should be chosen carefully and thoughtfully, as it will give the perspective guests a brief preview of what to expect of the wedding. Selecting the right materials to use whether it’s the paper, style, wording or font all add to the important process of planning the perfect wedding.

Secondly your theme and colours of the wedding should be incorporated into the final design, whether you decide on a more traditional approach or a more unique and contemporary design it should compliment your own personal tastes. Many more brides today are choosing to go with the more unique invitations as a way of self expression. Once upon a time pure white and cream were traditionally used, now there is no limit on the colours and designs being included on wedding invitations.

Flowers and bells are extremely common yet always the favorite for couples who wish for their wedding invitations to be as elaborate as possible. Now brides have a choice of more color styles, font styles and paper options. Choose with care. Is your wedding going to be timelessly tradtional and formal, or comtemporary and unique? Whatever your style make it your expression of your wedding day.

Thirdly. Choose your font style, text style and color. Old English and Roman Capitals are were once favored for effectiveness and clarity, now it is almost limitless as to your options. There are hundreds of font styles to choose from. Make sure it matches your invitation theme.

For instance, you wouldn’t want an informal outdoors wedding invitation to depict French Script or say, Wedding Text script. Make sure the two work well together. Ink color should also match the basic design or the border color as well.

invitationWedding invitations should generally consist of 10 – 14 lines. If they exceed this then the font chosen should be less elaborate but if there is not much wording then fill the invitation with a different font style. Make it a full bodied font. There are even more numerous types of embellishments one can add to their invitations as well. Many brides opt for ribbons, pictures of the bride and groom, crystals and many more. Express yourselves through your invitations.

Fourth, choosing your wedding invitation wording. Do you want to add both sets of parents to the wording? Would you like it to have a poem added before the invite wording? Something else to consider is this. If you have children are you planning on them being in the wedding? If so you might would like to add their names to the invitation as well.

More weddng invitation experts should be able to provide you with this type of wording. I have seen more and more invites (as well as designed them myself) by incorporating the children’s name into them. Especially if you and your groom plan on having the children light the unity candles, do sand ceremonies and such.

Fifth, ask your wedding invitations vendor for references. Why you ask? No one is perfect!! This will provide you with a better peace of mind that you are choosing the right person for the job. Brides love to talk about their weddings, so ask them how the printer done.

Did they provide your invitations timely as was stated to them? Were there any grammar errors? Were they pleasant to deal with? Did they provide them with several options to choose from? Does your invitations person provide you with a picture of your invitation to check for errors? Do they mail you one for this to be checked? Which would you prefer? If it is a reputable invitations expert they should be happy to provide you with references and any information you should request. They should also provide this to you in a timely manner.

Lastly, try to order your invitation sets well in advance. Most invitation designers would prefer about 4 – 6 months of time. If at all possible allow them this. Your invitations should be mailed out to your guests about 4 – 6 weeks prior to your wedding day. This allows time for your guests to make any arrangements needed to attend your wedding. If you are inviting guests from out of town or out of state, it might be a good idea to mail their invites out about 8 weeks in advance.

Enjoy your time choosing the perfect wedding invitations ensemble. Your invitations person should make this as stress free for you as possible. Remember to express yourself and your day through your invitations. And always remember that if you allow yourself plenty of time for choosing the perfect invite, that you have also managed to make this part of your wedding planning process less stressful and more enjoyable for yourself as well as your future husband.

BONUS Article: What to Include (Etiquette Wise) With Your Wedding Invitations

TreasiaSteppCopyright 2014 – Treasia Stepp. Reprinted with permission. Helping brides-to-be get the elegant invitations of their dreams.

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Thursday, July 24, 2014

Don’t Do Me Any Favors…

Filed under: Favors,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Unless the favor is a food — like some delicious cookies, double fudge brownies or chocolates the guests can eat right then – it’s a wedding expense you can forgo. And all the traditionalists say, “Tacky!”

Not really. They aren’t really necessary. The point of a favor is to acknowledge and thank your guests for coming to your wedding. Many couples shell out hundreds of dollars on junky favors that will just get thrown away or left on the table when the guests leave the reception.

FavorsSome think that the expense of a nice meal at the reception is great way to say thank you. Others say the invitation to the wedding is a gift in itself.

If you need to be frugal or must cut something out completely, favors would be the wise choice. Most people will not even notice if you eliminate favors.

Here’s an idea. Forgo favors in “favor” of making a donation in honor of your wedding. Write a note to each guest and leave it at their place setting, letting them know you’ve donated to a charity in lieu of a traditional wedding favor. (Do not put anything about the donation being “in honor of” your guests or in their name.) Some larger charitable organizations such as the American Cancer Society will even do the work for you by printing favor cards or tags announcing your donation. The actual amount contributed should be kept private. Mentioning a dollar amount or directly collecting donations from your guests is considered an etiquette no-no.

The Knot says, “If you want to announce it, do one discreet sign that is in a high traffic area (like cake table or guest book table) and be done with it. Plastering announcements all over your reception is very “look at how awesome we are” and also makes your wedding look like a fundraiser.”

Oh, yes, one more thing about donations. Give serious consideration to the organization you choose. For example, weddings are not, in my opinion, the place to advertise political or religious donations that could spark unpleasant conversations during your reception. Some say donating to a cause YOU support is not a favor to anyone else. Hmmm.

What is important to you as a couple is what really matters. It’s “your” wedding… do what ever you want! If you decide that you must have favors, remember, favors do not need to be extravagant or expensive… it really is the thought that counts.

There are many ways to cut down on the expense of a wedding… no favors is one of them.

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Sunday, July 20, 2014

Music at the Reception!

Filed under: Reception Music,Receptions,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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“Did you like our DJ?”

“He was fine. But he didn’t play the songs we asked for, but it was still fun.”

SongRequestsOh, oh!

Obviously, the bride and groom will create a playlist of their favorites and a don’t playlist (the inappropriate lyrics, the songs you hate, hard to dance to, outdated, overplayed, or carry the wrong message, etc.) to keep the “chicken dance” and others from being annoying the guests. The last thing you want to hear is a song you hate. Create a “do not play” list for your band or DJ and you’ll never have to regret your reception music later.

Top 10 ‘Do Not Play’ Wedding Songs

1. The Macarena – along with all those other cheesy organized dance songs (Electric Slide, Chicken Dance, YMCA, Hokey Pokey, etc.).
2. Celebration
3. White Wedding
4. Lips of an Angel by Hinder – and other cheating, breakup, or death-related songs, including Jesse’s Girl, Tears in Heaven, and I Will Survive.
5. The Humpty Dance
6. Love Shack
7. Brick House
8. Who Let the Dogs Out
9. Hot, Hot, Hot
10. Tainted Love – or any ‘bad’ love song.

It’s one thing to have your DJ announce that he will play requests, but yet another to make it easy for your guests to have him play their favorite dance tune that will encourage them to get up and kick up their heels.

rsvpSongRequestSome couples are including a line on the invitation RSVP for guests to write-in a special request to be played at the reception. Asking guests for song requests on your reply card is a fun and interactive way to pre-plan a perfect playlist. Send your guests a small question along with their invite asking them their favorite song. It’ll get them excited to attend your wedding and contribute to your big day. When the guests hear their song they’ll get excited when their requested song comes on and get up and dance.

It can get a little hectic when guests are running up requesting different songs during the reception. Give this RSVP list of songs to your DJ, along with the name of the person who requested each song. That way, if the dance floor starts to thin out, the DJ can play songs off of the request list and call out their name. This pretty much guarantees that the person who requested the song will get up and dance and encourage others to do so as well.

Top 10 Best Wedding Songs For Reception

1. All of Me – Jon Legend
2. Just the Way You Are – Bruno Mars
3. XO – Beyonce
4. Treasure – Bruno Mars
5. Let’s Get Married – Jagged Edge
6. Who You Love – Katy Perry and John Mayer
7. Marry Me – Jason Derulo
8. Borrow My Heart – Taylor Henderson
9. How Long Will I Love You– Ellie Goulding
10. Somebody Loves You – Betty Who

Keep in mind that the music will have a big influence on the mood of your reception, as well as your guests’ memories of your special day.

BONUS Article: Reasons to NOT allow the guests to make requests!

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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Yikes! Call Off the Wedding!!

Seldom ever is this something that I have had to deal with since I began performing wedding ceremonies, however, on occasion, it does happen. Unfortunately, sometimes weddings are called off. The bride and groom must effectively do damage control.

I once had a bride and groom call me, was excited about my romantic wedding ceremony, made an appointment to review the ceremony and make edits, set the date and paid a deposit. What happened next. NOTHING!

CancelledWeddingI never heard from them again. As time got closer to their wedding day, I called, sent e-mail and waited… nothing. No communication whatsoever. I called the venue, the disc jockey and the photographer and not one had heard a word from them. On the advice of my attorney, I sent a registered letter letting them know that if I didn’t hear from them within 10 days, the would lose their deposit and I would sell the date to someone else. They signed for the letter, but I heard not a word from them.

I can only guess that they either broke up or decided not to get married. Based on where the wedding venue was, they lost a bundle of money by forfeiting their deposits.

There is a better way! This kind of situation should be handled with respect and grace.

Although breaking an engagement or delaying a wedding is a difficult thing to do, it is less painful to call off the wedding now than it is to file for divorce later on. My best advice: First, Let your wedding vendors know what’s going on. Next, let your guests know as soon as possible. It may be embarrassing, however, most vendors will work with you. Some “may” return a portion of the deposit, others may not. How much you may receive will depend on how close the date of the wedding is when you cancelled the arrangements. Although the couple I mentioned above forfeited their deposit with me because of zero communication, if I would have been able to sell the date to someone else, we perhaps could have negotiated something.

Depending on the size, complexity, and date of your wedding plans, canceling the bookings for the arrangements you made may be overwhelming both emotionally and financially, but family and friends can help you through the process. At least let everyone know. You are not obligated to share the details or your reasons, however, common courtesy says… communicate. If asked, you could answer in any polite way (i.e: “Yes, we have decided the time was not right,” or “It’s true, and I’m rather uncomfortable talking about it right now.”)

If the wedding is simply postponed, include the new date and any new information. If the wedding is off indefinitely, indicate that as well.

If the invitations have already gone out and/or there’s no time to get a written explanation to guests, someone needs to call everyone on the guest list and let them know that the wedding will not take place. Obviously the bride and groom may be too traumatized to take care of this; parents, siblings, attendants, or other friends and family members should help out.

In case of a broken engagement, wedding insurance will not help. Insurance companies will only cover situations such as a death in the family, illness, a natural disaster, or severe weather conditions.

Everything happens for a reason. That may be a bitter pill to swallow in the middle of a break up, but I would recommend that you think ahead what might happen if you go through with the marriage and end up with a divorce. After tallying the costs of lost deposits and the other costs associated with simply planning a wedding, it’s still cheaper to suck it up now than pay for a divorce later. When in doubt… don’t! If it doesn’t feel right you may be better off waiting or calling everything off.

Some advice from MyWeddingGotCancelled.com: “When the decision is made to call-off your wedding, all the feelings that go along with a break-up can be intensified by shame and embarrassment. These feelings can complicate the healing process. There is no exact science to dealing with a loss, but most experts agree that grief is an individual experience that can vary in duration and intensity. Loss entails good days and bad days, often without much rhyme or reason. Grief also involves a multitude of emotions such as sadness, anger, guilt, loneliness and even relief. Accepting your needs and your feelings as you grieve is an important first step on the road to healing.”

BONUS Articles: What to Do After You Cancel Your Wedding
Calling Off the Wedding – How to Survive a Broken Engagement
Coping with a Cancelled Wedding
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Saturday, July 12, 2014

Packing for a Honeymoon?

The first question… Where are you going? Whether you’re heading to a honeymoon cabin in the woods or a beach honeymoon in a romantic tropical location, once you have your reservations and your tickets there are several packing tips that can help you create a honeymoon to remember.

Oh, yes. The first tip is don’t plan to leave on your honeymoon immediately. The wedding and reception may cause extreme exhaustion. It’s a big day. The honeymoon is very special so give yourself a couple of days (or more) to rest. Open gifts, write “thank you” notes, sleep late, rest and just be together. When you are fully rested, go for it! Don’t worry about not being able to take a big fancy honeymoon. You have the rest of your lives to make money and take big, wonderful, fabulous vacations. But you only get “one” wedding. Do it well and be happy.

HoneymoonChecklistGet help with the honeymoon. Avoid incurring honeymoon debt and sign up with a honeymoon gift registry. Guests will then be able to buy increments of your big sendoff – a valuable cost-cutting plan. Since you may already have most of the traditional wedding gift items, you may want to offer your guests a popular new wedding gift alternative – a honeymoon registry. This will allow them to help you create the honeymoon memories that will last a lifetime. Check out Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry.

Notify your financial institutions of when you will be traveling out of the country on your honeymoon. This could save you the embarrassment of having your credit card rejected because the bank suspects someone else may be using your card. Avoid costly curency conversion. Some European merchants and ATMs capitalize on the fact that Americans can be intimidated by foreign currencies. If a merchant or ATM offers to convert euros to dollars while running your card transaction, refuse – you’ll be paying a premium for the conversion. If you are traveling internationally, arrange to get foreign currency of the country you will be visiting from your hometown bank.

beachsandelsAlso remember to leave your hotel accommodation details (room and phone number) and itinerary with your family so they can contact you in an emergency. Don’t take your cell phone. Give it it’s own vacation. While your cell is recharging its batteries, you can do the same. This is a very special get-away for only the two of you. If you must take your cell, arrange with your carrier for international access.

Don’t overtip. Service is often included at restaurants. If it isn’t, a tip of 5 to 10 percent is the norm in Europe. For taxis, round up to the next euro on the fare.

Label your luggage – inside and out – name, address, phone and another address of a close family member, just in case (God forbid) something happens to you. Use your “Honeymoon Leverage.” Many resorts will go out of their way for honeymooners: room upgrades, free bottles of champagne, flowers, a free dinner – these sorts of freebies are relatively common. Some of the upscale international hotel chains have programs whereby travel agents who are members of their program can request a free amenity or upgrade for their honeymoon couples.

When traveling outside the U.S., put your phone on airplane mode. Forget and the phone keeps checking the Internet and e-mail over the cellular network in the new country and you’ll get a huge bill when you return. If you must check e-mail, turn Wi-Fi on and find a Wi-Fi hot spot. If you are taking your smartphone or tablet to Europe, buy an international phone/data package before you leave to prevent costly roaming charges. Short-term plans generally start at $25-$30 and can save you hundreds of dollars.

Don’t be afraid to let hotels or travel agents know that this is your honeymoon: yes, the travel industry DOES market heavily to honeymooners, but you’re much more likely to get a bonus because of it than you are to be over-charged or taken advantage of. A thoroughly experienced travel agent who specializes in your destination can help you get more for your honeymoon budget this way.

Sandals-Honeymoon-160x600Check out weather and climate conditions. Sometimes a beach honeymoon can be rainy and windy, so make sure you know what type of weather to expect. A lightweight but warm jacket, sturdy walking shoes (that’s a must) and a small umbrella, especially if you plan on spending a lot of time outdoors. Wear comfortable clothes for honeymoon travel and be sure to carry necessities in a carry-on bag.

Remember your passport if traveling out of the country. Make sure it is up-to-date. If you do not have a passport, allow plenty of time to get one. You’ll want to preserve these memories so pack a digital camera. Pack a few extra batteries and a couple extra memory cards. Check with a travel agent about gadgets to recharge any electronic gear. Electric outlets in foreign countries may be different. Chargers for cell phones, iPods, and digital cameras. Leave home with everything fully charged.

PackingAlthough a good honeymoon means spending a lot of time together in bed, you will need clothes for whenever you want to venture out of your room. Pack a swimsuit and sunscreen. Your honeymoon hotel may include hot tubs or outdoor swimming pools, and you’ll definitely want a suit if there’s a beach nearby. Romantic honeymoons often include luxurious dinners at formal restaurants, which may require a dress and a suit and tie. Even if your plans don’t include a four-star cafe, you will still want at least one dressy outfit for other occasions, including dancing, attending a musical or other honeymoon ideas.

Don’t forget extras. Whether you’ll be gone for just a few days or for a few weeks, the most romantic honeymoons include special touches to make everything perfect. Pack candles, flower petals, perfume and, of course, intimates for a trip you’ll never forget. Make a mix of love songs you and your partner can listen to together. Leave your valuable jewelry at home.

Pack several ziplock bags, all sizes; use for packing wet swimsuits or protecting your camera if it rains. Check the Knot’s Master Honeymoon Checklist for more suggestions.

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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

The Second Time Around… Married to the Same Person Twice!

Filed under: Second Marriages,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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What would you do differently if you and your ex-husband/ex-wife got married again – to each other? How would your 2nd wedding to the same person be different? More important… how would your 2nd “marriage” to the same person be different?

The only sensible reason I can think of to do this is that you get back together because you Love each another and truly want to be together again. That’s it!

Remarriage2SamePersonI would suggest that before you tie the knot again that you both consult a marriage coach or counselor – not to see if you are really crazy for considering it, but to learn from your own marital history. If you didn’t get coaching prior to your divorce, are you both willing to do it now? Are you doomed to repeat the same mistakes again? Another reason would be to honestly look at what caused you both to give up the first time around. It’s important to know that it is likely that unresolved and unfinished business could resurface the second time around.

“It is important to recognize that the first marriage is dead. Don’t let that ghost hurt your new marriage.” ~ Sheri & Bob Stritof

Sheri and Bob are right! It’s in the past. You cannot go back and change it. You begin from where you are now and move ahead. Coaching will help you both to see one another’s part in the marriage’s failure. I suggest that you do not move ahead unless you both can accept your responsibility for what happened and promise to never make the same mistakes again. AND… hold each other accountable!

Do NOT move ahead if either partner is hesitant to recognize their contribution to the disintegration of the failed marriage. Jim Solomon, a counselor who specializes in helping married couples, says that this hesitancy is a good indicator that the couple in question is not ready to get back together. In order for remarriage to be succesful, both spouses have to recognize that they each played a part in their marriage’s demise.

Do second marriages to each other again ever work? As with all marriages, the answer lies in what both partners are willing to do to make the relationship work for the long haul. A commitment of the highest order is absolutely necessary. If you are moving ahead with this idea, I highly recommend that you ignore any statistics that may discourage you. This time it is totally up to both of you to do “whatever it takes” to make it work. You can do that because hopefully you are much wiser now and more mature and are honestly taking marriage more seriously this time. People change as they grow older.

Would you have a small informal wedding with close friends and family or go big? You probably would have less stress. You could really let your hair down and do only what you want to do. No outside influences – mothers or friends. Hire a professional photographer to shoot the entire wedding all over again.

It’s always possible that you may hear ridicule from family members and friends. The important thing to keep in mind is to stay positive and follow your own heart. Let them know that you are both committed and you would appreciate their Love and support.

I suppose the true test is whether you know with absolute certainty that neither of you will make the same mistakes again. People do make the same mistakes unless they get insight through their own thinking about what caused the divorce and their role in the marriage failure. You also will make different ones, however, if you are both willing to take this second marriage to each other seriously and with total commitment, you will both approach how you find workable solutions together very different than the first time. For example, better communications. You must promise each other to talk about anything, and everything, all the time, that is relevant to your relationship. And, promise to do that sooner than later.

Marriage is complicated. Conflict is an inevitable part of relationships. It’s never easy. Why is remarriage so difficult? The short answer is, because it follows divorce. Simply, something came before that didn’t work out well. People who divorced are in a highly vulnerable state. They want to be in a close intimate relationship, but the failure factor is always present.

Remarriage is a serious step that needs to be taken very seriously. It’s not impossible to make remarriage work, but it takes some concerted action to make love better the second time around. There will always be ups and downs. However, something amazing happens when you again face your guests and walk out into the world together again. You both step into a new kind of commitment; one that has you promise to work together come what may and promise to do so no matter what life throws at you.

BONUS Article: So, We Got Married… (AGAIN!)
DIVORCED? Don’t Remarry Until You Read This

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Friday, July 4, 2014

Celebrate Your Love With a BANG!

Filed under: Theme Wedding,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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There may be no better way to celebrate Love at the end of your wedding day than to light up the sky with an elegant musical fireworks display. Add sparkle to your wedding. One of the most important aspects of any wedding is the entertainment that follows the ceremony itself. Representing the passion, excitement and general emotion of the day, fireworks light up the sky for all to see and act as an excellent form of reception entertainment as well as a special moment for the bride and groom to enjoy.

Consider booking a small fireworks display for your reception. It creates a special touch of drama and sizzle. Imagine the exhilaration of having your own personal fireworks display or having a guest provide one as a gift to make the event even more spectacular. A private fireworks display is one of the most unique touches that a bride and groom can add to their wedding that is sure to amaze guests and create a memory to last a lifetime.

WeddingFireworksRemember to budget in the cost. Hiring a professional fireworks display company, sounds as if it would be awfully expensive. However, you can get a spectacular 10-15 minute display without having to spend a fortune. Expect to spend at least $1,500 and up for typical outdoor wedding fireworks displays. Prices vary according to length of the display and kinds of pyrotechnics.

I performed a wedding ceremony at Wrigley Mansion, Phoenix, several years ago where the bride surprised the groom with a special fireworks display. The fireworks were launched at a crucial moment; as they were being pronounced wife and husband. The timing was perfect and the look on the grooms face was unforgettable.

Hire a Professional! Do not DIY (do it yourself). Fireworks laws vary greatly from town to town, and state to state. Not sure what the rules are where you live? Contact the American Pyrotechnics Association (www.AmericanPyro.com) or check with your local authorities (the fire department, police department or town hall). The Fire Marshal has permit authority over all fireworks and pyrotechnics displays & events. The law is different in each state. For a breakdown of these laws in Arizona, visit our Directory of State Laws.

Please be aware that within each state there may be local restrictions as well. Please contact your local fire or police department for the laws regarding your area. The National Council on Fireworks Safety is a valuable resource for learning more about safely enjoying fireworks. The fireworks company handles all of the necessary fireworks permitting for you. Some jurisdictions may require a Special Use Permit. Plan ahead. Different cities and counties have different lengths of time required for submitting the permit, anywhere from 45 days to two weeks.

Don’t forget clean up. When you hire a professional, they will often take care of cleaning up as part of their fee.

Or… Just add sparklers. Sparklers and Confetti poppers can be fun, but make sure you are providing safe and quality items at your wedding. Have your guests line up outside the venue at the end of the night with lit sparklers and cheer as you depart from the party. Even if you are only using sparklers, safety must be a major focus. Be sure to provide a receptacle so guests can put the sparklers out; galvanized steel pails filled with sand work best. Add sparklers to your wedding cake. Give your cake baker a heads-up about your sparklers plan so he/she can decorate the cake with them in mind. Makes for a great photo!

Be sure to check with the wedding coordinator at your venue. Some venues have restrictions on fireworks.

A fireworks display at your wedding can be a fun finale for your wedding day!

Contact Fireworks Productions of Arizona or Google “Arizona fireworks displays.” Here is a source for Fireworks Wedding Invitations.

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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