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Saturday, November 30, 2013

Brides Want Grooms to Be More Involved in Planning the Wedding!

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The groom-to-be won’t care about things you thought he would

From planning the menu (shrug) to picking the music (yawn), your guy’s uninterested reactions even to the “fun stuff” might catch you off guard and bum you out. After all, these are the things you were sure he’d enjoy – so what will this mean for all the not-so-fun details?

ReluctantGroomSolution: Ask him what he wants to do and then listen. He may not be as disinterested as he’s acting. It’s possible that you’ve overridden his opinions one too many times and his pride is hurting. Of course, he may just have no interest in wedding planning at all.

Can you make peace with it, temper your expectations and give him a few to-dos? Or can you live with him just handling the honeymoon and the music? Remember, you’re marrying this guy. He needs to be a good husband – not a good wedding planner.

The groom-to-be will care about things you never dreamed he would

Whether it’s the color of paper stock for the invites or a preference for a certain species of peony, your man will give you at least one case of the what-the-what’s by expressing strong feelings about something totally unexpected and out of character. Even cooler? His new interest might be a shock to him too!

Solution: As the saying goes, if it ain’t broke…. Why not raise a glass to a lifetime of more quirky little surprises from your man? That said, if he’s venturing into groomzilla territory (it happens), divvy up the decision-making tasks so you can each be master of your own domains.

BONUS Articles: Listen Up Guys! – Planning a Wedding is a Team Sport!
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Here Comes the Groom! – A Call to ACTIVE Duty!
Grooming the Groom! Staying on Track for the Big Day!

Copyright © 2013 – TheKnot.com. Read more: “25 Things No One Tells You About Wedding Planning.”

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Tuesday, November 26, 2013

12 Tips for Staying Hitched!

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Here are a few tips that I have found to be true when working with couples as a relationship coach:

1. Before you get married just know that couples who are “best friends” first have a better chance of staying together.

2. Couples who have longer engagements – 1 year or longer – have a better chance of staying together.

TakeCareofYOU3. Couples who don’t rush into marriage, but take their time “really” getting to know each other have a better chance of staying together.

4. Couples who have “FUN” together, who play together have a better chance of staying together.

5. Couples who have disagreements and who work together to find mutually beneficial solutions have a better chance of staying together. They never take each other or marriage for granted.

6. Couples who wait a year or two or three before having children have a better chance of staying together.

7. Couples who have a mutual respect for one another have a better chance of staying together.

8. Compromise should be taken very seriously. Needing to have the last word and turning every argument into a full-blown fight can really wear on the relationship. Compromise means coming to a mutually agreeable solution – something you can both live with. Couples who continue to improve and strengthen your relationship have a better chance of staying together.

9. If you want your marriage to work, acceptance is one of the keys. If you married him/her, you need to love him/her for who they are “now” – not who you hope they will become. Bad habits and annoying comments before marriage rarely ever change after marriage.

10. Couples who communicate often – even when they don’t want to – have a better chance of staying together. A lack of effective communication is the #1 problem in relationships. You must promise to talk about anything and everything all the time that is relevant to your relationship.

BONUS #11. The seven deadly habits in a relationship are criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing, and bribing. Couples committed to staying together replace these deadly habits with supporting, encouraging, listening, accepting, trusting, respecting, and negotiating your differences. (Source: “Eight Lessons for a Happier Marriage” by William Glasser, MD, a Los Angeles psychiatrist, and his wife, Carleen Glasser, MA)

BONUS #12. Aways do what you need to do to take care of you! Self-care is not selfish. it’s required. Do that and the rest becomes much easier! Nourishing yourself in every way possible will help you blossom and grow into the person you are meant to be. We all have our purpose of being here and special paths to follow. Using healthy self-care to maintain your internal emotional tune-up is a gift worth giving yourself now. Putting yourself in the spotlight will give you the energy and enthusiasm you need to be at your very best… for yourself and for your partner.

“There comes a time when our self awareness and needs become our primary goal. Realizing that when we care for our needs first, we can show up in our life in our most powerful form.” ~ Mary Adams

I could go on but I won’t because most everyone knows that in order to have a great relationship you cannot have any undelivered communication that is relevant to your relationship.

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Friday, November 22, 2013

Have You Considered a Covenant Marriage?

If you feel like you’re fighting against the odds to keep your marriage intact, you might be able to breathe a little easier. It is no longer true that half of all marriages end in divorce. That’s good news!

Research has shown that the divorce rate is smaller than that – it maxed out at 41 percent back in the 1980s, and it’s currently on the decline. And if you’re a pair of college grads, you have a far greater chance of making it to that golden anniversary – your odds of staying married may be more like 75 percent. That’s also good news. It sounds like more couples are taking the big step to getting married more seriously. That’s good news too!

Covenantmarriage2“With the taste of wedding cake barely off their lips, divorce is the last thought – or word – on newlyweds’ minds. But as the honeymoon period wanes, and day-to-day difficulties crop up, the word can come up frequently during arguments for some couples, say relationship counselors.” ~ Kathleen Doheny

Being married requires some sacrifices. Things change when you say, “I do!” The couples who stay together are the ones who take the commitments they make in their wedding ceremony seriously. They are both “committed” to the idea of being together for the rest of their lives. That’s a powerful commitment that when made is intended to vanquish any and all ideas of a divorce anytime in the future.

I encourage all couples who are considering marriage to check out a “Covenant Marriage” which by Arizona Law requires couples who opt for a covenant marriage to get at least one hour of coaching before a license is purchased. Covenant is defined as a formal and serious agreement or promise. Arizona, has followed Louisiana in approving covenant marriages, in which couples voluntarily impose limits on their ability to divorce. These laws attempt to put the brakes on quickie divorces by fostering a renewed commitment to having a long-term marriage. (Arizona law went into effect, August 21, 1998. See ARS 25-901).

Although the Arizona Covenant Marriage is law, it is your option to choose to have a Covenant Marriage. The law governs the “requirements” of a Covenant Marriage. In essence, a covenant marriage gives couples the option of spurning no-fault divorce; they sign binding contracts that require premarital counseling from a minister or a marriage counselor and permit divorce only in cases of abuse, abandonment, adultery, imprisonment of a spouse or a lengthy separation. When applying for a license to be married in Arizona, both persons must show their intention to enter into a covenant marriage by signing a special statement (or “declaration”) on the application form.

CovenantMarriageIn premarital counseling, both people must be advised that a covenant marriage is a commitment for life. Premarital counseling also must include a discussion of the seriousness of covenant marriage, the legal requirement to seek marriage counseling if marital difficulties develop and the limited legal reasons available for ending the marriage by legal separation or divorce.

Why do I recommend a covenant marriage or at least, a coaching session before marriage? I’ve been a relationship coach since 1995. I’ve pretty much heard and seen it all. Some people begin contemplating divorce over the silliest things. Many of the things that people come to me for coaching could have been spotted in a premarital coaching session and suggestions about how to work through issues would have been given.

As you probably know, I am a non-denominational Minister/Wedding Officiant and have married hundreds of couples. Coaching is never required. Why? A person convinced against their will, is of the same opinion still. Benjamin Franklin said that. He’s right. If couples cannot see the benefit of coaching, and are forced into it, very little results can follow. I recommend it, but do not require it because of that. You can also do premarital coaching without a covenant marriage.

Making a marriage work takes lots of effort. It requires working together. Couples who are intent on staying together must always to whatever it takes to make their relationship work!

One more thing… Don’t use the “D word!” Never, I repeat, NEVER say the word “DIVORCE” unless you are ready to file the papers. It raises another level of anxiety that should not be considered when you are intent on staying together.

BONUS Article: Arizona Covenant Marriage Law & Requirements
Tie Up Your Loose Ends Before You Tie The Knot

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, November 18, 2013

Romantic Arizona Sunsets

A romantic wedding as the Arizona sun sets is an inspiration for you and your guests. Here you will find approximate dates & times of Arizona sunsets, plus a link that will tell you accurate sunset times for any American city. Also, you will find average temperatures for different times of the month and links to get the latest weather forecast and estimated sunsets no matter where you live in the U.S. and the world. Includes weather data regarding rainfall, driest cities, sunniest cities, etc.

In the Greater Phoenix area I have listed 52 weeks of approximate sunset times for each week in the month. It is wise to plan for approximately 1 hour of sunlight after the actual sunset time. If you will be taking pictures “after” the wedding ceremony, you may want to begin the ceremony about an hour before sunset.AZSunsets

What Time Should Your Wedding Ceremony Begin?

Example: If the sunset is at 5:30 p.m. most photographers recommend that you begin the wedding ceremony (usually under 30 minutes) at 4 p.m., but no later than 4:30 p.m. Some couple are choosing to to what we call “First Look,” then taking more photos before the wedding. The bride and groom usually miss out on the cocktail hour because they are taking photos.

More and more are choosing to take more photos “before” the wedding so they won’t have to take so many “after” the wedding. This gives those who choose to take in the cocktail hour with their friends a chance to do so after the wedding. They can still get the official introduction of the bride and groom and the wedding party at the reception.

Remember, all dates and times above are approximate. For a more accurate sunset schedule for each day of each month for any year and any city in the USA, click here and complete the information in “Form A – Cities or Towns in the U.S.”

The Greater Phoenix area has more than 325 days of annual sunshine with an average high temperature of 86 degrees and an average low of 57 degrees. With only 7.66 to 8.32 inches of rain per year, our area offers an ideal setting for outdoor weddings. We basically have two wedding seasons: March, April and May and October, November and December. Wedding occur in other months to, however fewer weddings are scheduled during out hottest months; June, July & August. Most of those weddings are indoors. The greatest percentage of weddings are usually outdoors.

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Planning a “Destination Wedding” in the Phoenix area?

Here are some interesting United States weather facts and extremes that include the Greater Phoenix area! The National Climatic Data Center (NCDC) is the world’s largest active archive of weather data. NCDC produces numerous climate publications.

10 Driest Cities – Average annual precipitation in inches
1. Yuma, Arizona 2.65
2. Las Vegas, Nevada 4.19
3. Bishop, California 5.61
4. Bakersfield, California 5.72
5. Phoenix, Arizona 7.11
6. Alamosa, Colorado 7.13
7. Reno, California 7.49
8. Winslow, Arizona 7.64
9. El Paso, Texas 7.82
10. Winnemucca, Nevada 7.82

10 Sunniest Cities – Annual percent of possible sunshine
1. Yuma, Arizona 90%
2. Las Vegas, Nevada 85%
3. Phoenix, Arizona 85%
4. Tucson, Arizona 85%
sunset5. El Paso, Texas 83%
6. Flagstaff, Arizona 79%
7. Fresno, California 79%
8. Reno, Nevada 79%
9. Sacramento, California 78%
10. Albuquerque, N.M. 76%

10 Least Humid Cities – Average relative humidity in %
1. Las Vegas, Nevada 30.5
2. Phoenix, Arizona 37.0
3. Yuma, Arizona 38.0
4. Tucson, Arizona 39.0
5. El Paso, Texas 42.5
6. Albuquerque, New Mexico 44.5
7. Winslow, Arizona 46.0
8. Grand Junction, Colorado 48.0
9. Winnemucca, Nevada 48.5
10. Reno, Nevada 50.5

10 Least Rainiest Cities – Number of days per year with rain
1. Yuma, Arizona 17
2. Las Vegas, Nevada 26
3. Bishop, California 29
4. Santa Barbara, California 30
5. Long Beach, California 32
6. Los Angeles, California 35
7. Great Falls, Montana 35
8. Phoenix, Arizona 36
9. Bakersfield, California 37
10. San Diego, California 42

BONUS Articles: Destination Wedding: Arizona…
Getting Married in Arizona? Here’s the Latest Scoop!

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, November 14, 2013

Watering the Tree Ceremony

Planting a tree to celebrate a marriage is an ancient tradition that is shared by numerous cultures around the world. It is also a ritual that is catching the eye of modern brides who are looking for a clever twist on the unity candle or sand ceremony to symbolize their newly intertwined lives. The tree planting ceremony not only incorporates a visual of togetherness, but it provides a memorable “take-away” that will continue on with the couple far beyond their wedding day.

weddingtreeIt’s also a great ceremony for the environmentally conscious. Trees take many years of growth to reach their version of “adulthood,” and they are a symbol of longevity, tranquility, and life itself.

Preparation: Purchase a small potted tree preferably in a clear pot. Display it on a table behind the Minister/Wedding Officiant with one or two decorated watering cans. Toward the end of your ceremony, the bride and groom walk over to sprinkle a small amount of soil to complete the planting and water the tree together, symbolizing the tender care a relationship requires but also showing the beautiful growth that results. Some couples choose to have their parents, attendants or guests to participate as well. After your wedding, take the tree home and plant it in your yard. There you can watch your love tree bloom and grow throughout the years… just as your relationship will grow.

The best tree to choose is one that has special meaning to you as a couple, perhaps one that you shared a first kiss under or that represents your hometown. You can either buy a sapling or propagate a cutting from a tree from a meaningful location. Sometimes the bride and groom each select a tree, or in the case of a remarriage with a blended family, the children can each have their own. We might call this tree the “family trees.” 😉

Commentary by Ann Keeler Evans: “One of the many reasons to use a tree as a metaphor at your wedding ceremony is the incredible symmetry of trees. The root system of a healthy tree is as large and beautiful as the canopy. As you stand beneath the leafy spread, you stand on ground that is held together by an expansive root system that enriches and supports the earth. There is nothing that a marriage needs more than the same sort of grounding a tree has. We must plant the tree, and our marriages, in soil that will nourish and support it (and you). Carefully cultivated, and protected, those roots will flourish and provide nutrients for the tree to grow.

The trunk of the tree can be relied on to support us. With good roots, we stand firm in one another’s love. We can lean on one another when we’re tired or shaken. When we hold one another and relax into that embrace, we can feel the roots of our love. And the canopy spreads out above us, sheltering us from the sun in the summer, turning brilliant colors in the autumn, tracing lacy patterns against the sky in the winter and bursting into bloom again with the return of spring. So our marriage moves with the seasons, things change, but the essence of the marriage remains, strong and flexible, rooted deep into the earth.”

NOTE: A favorite plant can also be substituted for a tree with a few word changes in the ceremony.

Suggested Words for the Watering of the Tree Ceremony

WateringPlantOfficiant: _Bride_ and _Groom_ will now take part in a Watering the Tree Ceremony, to symbolize the roots of their relationship, and the continued growth of their love, as they become each others family today. It will symbolically represent the growth of their love for one another. Please follow me to the table behind me.

Love is the essence of human experience and emotion. It is the root of all and everything we, as humans, do. Love enriches our experience, and fills our lives with meaning. It gives us a firm base from which to grow, to learn, and to change. Your Love must weather the challenges of daily life and the passage of time.

Just like the tree they are planting, marriage requires constant nurturing and nourishment. As they provide the sun, soil, and water for this tree, they will provide the encouragement, trust, and love needed on a daily basis to consciously nurture and nourish their connection to each other.

At this time, please put on your gloves and sprinkle a small amount of soil to complete the planting.

Officiant: Let your relationship and your love for each other be like this tree you plant today. Let it grow tall and strong. Let it stand tall during the winds and rains and storms, and come through unscathed. Like a tree, your marriage must be resilient. It must weather the challenges of daily life and the passage of time. And just like the tree you are planting, marriage requires constant nurturing and nourishment.

Officiant: Next, provide some water for the tree.

[They both hold the watering can and water the tree and set the watering can down on the table. The couple may want to wear some planting gloves. The groom will hand a napkin to the bride to wipe her hands, if necessary, then he wipes his hands.]

Officiant: Remember to nourish each other, with words of encouragement, trust, and love. This is needed on a daily basis so you each can grow and reach your fullest potential – just like this tree. The Bride and Groom will plant this tree in their backyard to always be a symbol of their love for each other.

Optional Prayer for the Watering the Tree Ceremony

Dear God, we stand before you in awe as we witness the miracle of your creation – this young tree. Unique and original, just like the bride and groom and unlike anything that ever was before or will be. Each began with a single seed, concealing a complex potential that miraculously unfolds with each passing day. We pray that the roots of this tree will gain hold and spread deep, drawing nourishment from the fertile earth.

We pray that the trunk of this tree will grow healthy and strong, withstanding the forces of nature and to be able to support its canopy of branches and leaves. So may this couple possess a healthy body and a strong moral spirit, holding steadfast to their own integrity and understanding of the tempests and temptations that could weaken them. They will watch these branches bud and blossom, giving shade and beauty for all to enjoy. Help them to nourish and nurture this tree so that they may both mature and prosper, fulfilling to the greatest extent possible the potential for which God placed them on earth. And so it is. Amen.

BONUS Articles: More Add-on Ceremonies

Larry’s NOTE: A few words were borrowed from a similar ceremony by Penny Reynolds. Thank you, Penny!

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Sunday, November 10, 2013

Received Few RSVPs for Your Wedding?

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Jennifer Nichole, Guest Author

Other than just being generally annoying, lack of RSVPs could mean that your guests won’t have enough food, tables or chairs to go around at the reception. If you’ve only heard crickets on the RSVP front, these are some reasons why.

RSVP1. You didn’t make it easy. Don’t just write “Please RSVP” in the invitation and hope for the best. The fewer obstacles people have, the higher the chance they’ll respond. Include an RSVP card in each invitation. Even better, include a pre-paid envelope as well.

2. You didn’t give multiple ways to respond. In this day and age, more people are living and working digitally. Do your guests a favor and give them info on RSVPing to your Facebook account, in addition to snail mail.

3. You didn’t give a deadline. It’s an easy mistake, but a costly one. Before you finalize your invitation designs, make sure you give a deadline for RSVPing. Set it for at least three weeks before your wedding.

4. You didn’t ask for a declined invite. Some brides say to RSVP only if you’re coming, but this can cause a problem. What if the guest just forgot to send it along? Instead, ask guests to respond with their answer, whether “yes” or “no.”

5. You didn’t follow up. It’s three weeks until your wedding and you still haven’t heard from everyone. Time to make some phone calls! As prepared as you can be and as clear as your invitations are, you’ll still probably end up with people who don’t respond. Call them and ask for a final answer. If you don’t have the time, ask a bridesmaid to do it.

Now that you know where you could go wrong, plan out your RSVP process ahead of time so you have accurate guest talleys on your big day.

jenniferCopyright © 2013 – Jennifer Nichole. Jannifer strives to help every bride and groom prepare for their special day. It’s her belief that the little things – a favor, a gesture, a simple thought put into action – speak volumes in all the special occasions of your lives. See more at: http://blog.MyWeddingFavors.com

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Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Do Me a (Wedding) “Favor”… or Not!

Filed under: Favors,Wedding Favors — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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If you want to save some money at your wedding… think about ditching the wedding favors. It’s a great way to save a few bucks. You are already giving your guests a great experience: they get to attend a beautiful event, catch up with long-lost relatives and friends, have a free meal and dance the night away. Isn’t that enough?

charityfavorThe history of giving wedding favors actually goes back many years, when European aristocrats would give bonbonniere’s (small trinkets) containing sugar cubes or delicate confections, which symbolised wealth {sugar used to be a very expensive commodity}. In today’s economy, it’s really your choice.

Not every favor is going to please every guest… this seems to be one of those “it’s the thought that counts” situations. Buying something for your guests that is expensive or or something they will never use – like a 3 x 3 inch photo frame with your initials on it – is kind of silly. Favors that are meaningful will be appreciated by your guests.

Favors are never required and if you’re on a budget and can’t afford them, they are usually the first thing to be cut. At the end of a recent reception, once the guests departed, around 70 percent of the favors were left on the table. What a loss! It is not unusual for wedding favors to be left behind. No favors are necessary and I find it refreshing that people are choosing to save the money, instead of buying things that people may toss out when they leave.

According to an article in U.S. News and World Reports, brides throughout the country last year (2012) felt the pinch, as the average wedding budget included $289 for favors.

It’s generally expected to give a favor, but why not donate to your favorite charity in honor of your guests instead? This is something where a card would be placed at each table (see photo above) or each setting notifying the guests that you have made a donation to a charity in their name. The amount of the donation is really any amount you choose. For me the idea of giving a donation in lieu of a wedding favor seems like a win-win situation. The actual amount contributed should be kept private. Mentioning a dollar amount or directly collecting donations from your guests is considered an etiquette no-no.

Wedding-Favor2If you choose to give favors, give them something they will use, not something cheesy or useless (like a mint tin with “your” name on it). If your budget allows, here are a few ideas: sugared almonds, matchbooks, picture frames and champagne flutes are popular wedding favors, but they often get left behind. Sachets are in right now. Go edible! How about a mason jar of honey or a homemade jam? The glass can be reused or recycled. Another favor idea I really like is the seed packets of your favorite flower with biodegradable packaging or tree seedlings since they are organic and eco-friendly. Anything that is heart-shaped usually works. Measuring spoons and cookie cutters are nice favors and will get used – give one per couple. For single guys maybe a bottle opener or wine stopper.

In the desert – Greater Phoenix, Arizona area – some brides and grooms often opt to keep their guests hydrated with a bottle of water with a customized label with the couple’s names and date of their wedding.

If you need to be frugal or need to cut something out completely, favors may be the wise choice. Most likely, few will notice you didn’t have them, fewer will even care.

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, November 2, 2013

Baseball Fans? Have a Baseball Theme Wedding…

Here’s a wedding idea that will hit it out of the ball park! Get married at Chase Field in Phoenix where the Arizona Diamondbacks play! Begin your new life together at home plate. Theme weddings are a great way to incorporate your interests and personalities as a couple, and show your guests what you are all about.

baseballThemeThere are so many ideas that can make your wedding lovely with a baseball theme when it comes to weddings. From cute little baseball themed ring bearers and flower girls to guestbooks that are bats (or make two jerseys with your names on them and have your guest sign them), baseball tickets that are wedding invitations and so much more!

Guests attending your baseball themed wedding will marvel at the small touches you can incorporate into your baseball theme including the wedding ceremony or reception locations, your wedding vows, or the decorations that become part of your day to pull the baseball theme together. Popcorn and pennants for centerpieces, baseball socks on the groomsmen, tickets to get in, a baseball cake and the Bride and Groom’s names on the billboard.

Get creative with the look and feel of the printed media for your wedding; wedding invitations, save-the-date cards, and wedding programs. You your imagination. The more you incorporate the theme into your wedding, the more fun you, and your guests, will have. Google “Baseball Theme Wedding” for lot of ideas. Don’t forget to check Pinterest.

A baseball themed save the date or a wedding invitation that’s designed to look like a ticket from your local ballpark is a great start. Couple that with a wedding program in the mold of a gameday program, and you’re well on your way to establishing the look and feel of your baseball theme.

BaseballCenterPieceHave the guys wear uniforms! If you’re strong on traditional tuxes, have them wear special baseball wedding ties or have them wear their jerseys underneath. Caps are a must for everyone in the bridal party. Peanuts and Cracker Jacks® are a must as favors.

A baseball bat will be a big hit at your baseball theme wedding and will have guests begging to sign your baseball bat guestbook instead of forgetting about it like most guestbooks. Have the DJ play, “Take Me Out To The Ballgame” as the wedding party make their way to home plate. During the ceremony have the Wedding Officiant stand up for a 7th inning stretch and have all the guests sing, “Take Me Out To The Ballgame.”

A baseball theme wedding is one to have fun with whether you go all out or just give nod to your favorite sport with little details here and there. If you want a wedding that your guests will remember, perhaps a baseball themed wedding might be for you. It’ll bring a big cheer from everyone!

A little digging on Chase Field’s website reveals a basic budget-estimating tool for hosting events such as weddings or give them a call. Arizona Diamondbacks Main Number: 602-462-6500. By the way, you can have a baseball theme wedding at any wedding venue you choose, not necessarily at Chase Field.

Larry’s NOTE: A very special “thank you” to Emily Cann @ B Lovely Events for this exciting idea. For more photos go to: http://blovelyevents.com/2013/08/04/perfect-catch-a-baseball-wedding/. Photos of Baseball centerpieces at: http://blovelyevents.com/2013/07/22/play-ball-with-centerpieces/

Video Copyright © 2013 – Jeff Hill Video.

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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