Smartphone users! Please, PLEASE stay out of the way of the professional photographer at the wedding!
Your guests will most likely arrive at your wedding armed with their smartphones and some with iPads. Smartphones and iPads at weddings are one of the modern bride’s etiquette dilemmas. The use of smartphones for photosharing can be a great addition to weddings, and can make it faster and easier to get the candid shots that you once had to hunt down from guests. However, they can be a problem for the professional photographers that were paid big bucks to capture the wedding photos for the bride and groom.
The wedding ceremony should never be dominated by guests trying to get the perfect shots as the brides are walking down the aisle. First of all it’s bad etiquette to be in the way of the professional photographers as they shoot the wedding.
I encourage the brides and grooms to request that guests respect the sacredness of the occasion by refraining from photographing during the wedding ceremony. One way to keep smartphones in check is to include a brief note in your invitations, and a reminder in the form of a sign as guests enter at the ceremony area or a note in the program.
Sample note to include in your invitations: “We want you to be able to enjoy our wedding day, feeling truly present and in the moment with us. We’ve hired an amazing wedding photographer who will be capturing the way the wedding looks and we’re inviting each of you to sit back, relax, and just enjoy how the wedding feels. We are respectfully asking that everyone consider turning all cameras, iPads, Smartphones and cell phones OFF during our ceremony. (OR… We are respectfully ask that you do not block the view of the photographer as they take their photos; for example, do not take photos from the center aisle, etc.). We will be happy to share our wedding photos with you when they become available. The greatest gift you can give us is just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.”
Sample note in ceremony program: “We want you to be able to relax and have fun with us today! With this in mind, we are respectfully asking that everyone consider leaving all cameras, iPads, Smartphones and cell phones OFF during our ceremony. (OR… We are respectfully ask that you do not block the view of the photographer as they take their photos; for example, do not take photos from the center aisle, etc.). The greatest gift you can give us is just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.”
For those of you who think it might be rude or inappropriate to request that guests refrain from taking photos during the wedding ceremony, remember, the bride and groom have paid big bucks to have a professional photographer capture photos of their special memories.
What is inappropriate is waving your Smartphones in the aisle while the photographer is trying to get the best shot possible. Not good. Guests often crowd the newlyweds with Smartphone cameras during special must-have shots like the first kiss, cake cutting or the first dance. It becomes difficult for the photographer to do their work when they have to compete with so many smartphone users.
“My heart breaks when a guest ruins an otherwise lovely image or jumps in front of me when I’m capturing a key moment from the day. It completely slays me when this happens because while I am not remotely egotistical at all, I am fairly confident that my image would have been better than the one they captured. In the past 6 years of being a professional wedding photographer, it’s also been sad to watch the progression from seeing smiling, encouraging and happy faces as the bride is escorted up the aisle to faces hidden behind the backs of cameras and cell phones that line the aisle.” ~ Corey Ann, Corey Ann Photography, North Canton, Ohio
If the Bride and Groom approve, I will make the following announcement as soon as I am at the alter: “Ladies and Gentlemen, The bride and groom request that you turn your cell phones, ipads, cameras and other digital distractions (pause – just a few seconds) back on after the wedding. The professional photographer will capture how this moment ‘looks.’ I encourage you all to capture how it ‘feels’ with your hearts and without the distraction of technology. Thank you.” When I pause and say, “back on after the wedding,” the guests will often find this funny and it usually lightens things up a bit before the ceremony begins and it makes the point in a humorous way.
SPECIAL NOTE: If you are the bride and groom or are in the wedding party… when the professional photographer is taking photos after the wedding… ONLY look at the photographer – not the guests who are taking photos if you want the photographer to get the best photos. It looks pretty weird when the photo shows the eyes of some of the group looking at the photographer’s camera and the others looking to and fro.
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