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Sunday, April 28, 2013

Ideas That Celebrate Your Individuality at Your Wedding

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Alexis “Ally” Asbe, Guest Author

• There is something special about a bride who wants to wear her mother’s wedding dress.

• Sing a song for your love, do a dance, read a poem, play a guitar, or anything else.

hotdogs2• Have a groom’s cake that’s in the shape of your partner’s favorite animal.

• Eat hot dogs at your wedding if you like hot dogs.

• Plan a dance that the entire bridal party does when walking into the reception.

• Practice a first dance (with a twist) with your love.

• Have performers at your wedding – jugglers, fire-eaters, or some other crazy group.

• Thank about a photo booth at your wedding where guests can take pictures of themselves celebrating.

• Do the chicken dance… if you like.

• Write out the story of how you and your love met and share it with everyone (or act it out).

Breathe• Share pictures of you and your love when you were growing up. (Yes, braces and all.)

• Use antiques or items from other family weddings in your décor.

• Serve food that is of your love’s ethnic origin.

• Look for how your wedding dress can incorporate your family history – tie your bouquet with lce from one of your family’s wedding outfits.

• Ask your relatives to share stories of their weddings.

• Frame wedding or family photos of your relatives at an entry, gift or cake table.

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• Celebrate your ethnicity – maybe in your dress or your jewelry.

• Have your wedding cake or dessert made with your family’s secret ingredient (maybe you share what it is, maybe you don’t.

• Follow a family tradition that rings true for you.

• Let your guests know that how the details of your wedding are related to you. Celebrate their marriages.

• Remember to breathe! Trying to have everything fit in and trying to have everything be scheduled down to the second is a recipe for exhaustion and stress. Slow down and breathe.

• Keep your smile on all day.

• Revel in the “feeling” of your wedding and less about the details. Smile. Think about how people you love make you feel. And finally… tell them.

• At the end… treat the entire wedding guests to a surprise fireworks display.

Larry’s Book Review:At the Alter in Your Underwear” is a fun book to read. You’ll find some of the best and most practical advice I’ve ever read about weddings. Get a good chuckle from Chapter 8! Ally Asbe’s words will assist brides in having less stress and fewer anxieties about the big day. Best read with a yellow highlighter!”

allyCopyright 2013 Alexis Asbe. Adapted from the book, “At the Altar in Your Underwear.” Alexis “Ally” Asbe has designed and consulted for over 3000 weddings and events. She is the bestselling author of “At the Altar in Your Underwear: 40 secrets to an amazing wedding and a better you!” She is currently a consultant, writer and speaker devoted to styling your heart, your life and soon to be your best friend… Get in your underwear with her at AllyAsbe.com.

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Wednesday, April 24, 2013

The Biggest Wedding Trend in 2013 is to Buck the Trend

Filed under: Wedding Trends — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Sheryl Davies, Guest Author

Every bride envisions her wedding day as being the stuff that dreams are made of. And this season is no different, as we find weddings steeped in beautiful details, wrapped in fabulous fabrics, sparkling gem accents and featuring stunning bouquets and centerpieces. There will be delectable and creative cakes and unique locations to round out the day.

dessertTABLEToday, it is more important to couples than ever, to be true to who they are; rather than follow the traditions of the past. No longer do you have to be pushed into a scenario that isn’t totally you!

The biggest trend in 2013 is to buck the trend; each couple can do what makes them happy and what reflects their personalities. Most nuptials today are a reflection of the bride and groom, their lifestyle and what makes them comfortable.

Wedding gowns have definitely shifted from white and ivory to popular pink this season and the pinks are simply stunning! You can literally get married in any colour dress you choose.

It is evident in such practices as “First Look”, when the couple and their wedding party meet for a photo session, prior to the ceremony.

Alternate bridal registries and dessert bars, pizzazz lighting and cart service add to this list. Today’s gorgeous bridal fashion, over – the- top decorated theme receptions, delicious food, stunning photography and musical and lighting wows are all part and parcel of what makes wedding receptions the event of a lifetime for marrying couples and their guests.

Bridal fashions have come a long way and are bedazzling with gowns in many colour palettes from red to black, blush pink, vibrant blue to mint green. This year, sleeves are in, lace, chiffon, satin and silk are favourite fabrics. A huge trend in gowns has them encrusted with beautiful trim that catches the light with a high shine and a lot of bling.

For the first time, the details in the back neckline of the gown are stunning. The biggest trend this year is the bridal gown. As predicted last season, Bridesmaid gowns continue to be different colours, and styles, which make them flattering to wear again, after the wedding is over. The new Pantone colours for 2013 highlight the dusk and inky blues, poppy red, shades of greens in jade, emerald and lime tones and a carry forward from last season, palettes in the orange and purple family with Nectarine and African violet. Neutrals like white and cream continue to be strong with gray as a contender, too.

bridalshoesHeadwear continues to look big for next season’s brides; lace caps, birdcage fascinators, veils (short and long), and flowers in the hair. Hats and gloves are also on the horizon and set to make a big comeback.

One of the most important accessories to come on the scene in the past few years has been the bridal shoe. They are adorned with jewels, bows, lace as they peek out from under her bridal gown. Bridal bouquets are real or silk and full of jeweled accents and, they can be rhinestone bling or ribbon handled as they create a classic and timeless feeling. Backdrops are becoming huge and will continue to grow in popularity.

Backgrounds behind the head table can be comprised of ribbon in multi-colors, yards of lace or garlands of flowers to add a sense of style and glamour to the reception. Always a compromise, wedding planning for this upcoming season offers so much choice that it will be easier to find exactly what the bride is looking for. Nostalgia continues with vintage, rustic and retro themes that are beautiful and full of elegance.

After hours and hours of planning, a couple needs to remember to enjoy their day with their eyes fixed on their future life. Their individual wedding style will be the foundation of the life they build together.

Larry’s NOTE: Different is good! I’m finding that many brides and grooms are tossing traditional protocol in favor of elements that display their own individualities.

BONUS Article: Wedding Inspiration 2013

daviesCopyright © 2013 – Sheryl Davies. Sheryl Davies is a long-time wedding industry veteran who has seen the changes but also knows why they came about. She has published “The Wedding Guide Windsor|Essex County” since 1990. She hosts radio shows for her clients on http://www.am800cklw.com. Visit Sheryl’s Blog and Facebook page and http://www.Facebook.com/sheryldavies.

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Saturday, April 20, 2013

Stats Show the Average Cost of a Wedding in 2012

Filed under: $$$ Tips,Budget — Larry James @ 7:30 am

Are wedding costs declining?

There are many who think so. However, The Knot’s founders say, “No!” Brides are pressing on with having the wedding of their dreams. Here are the average costs of what the approximately 17,500 brides in the survey spent on their weddings in 2012.

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There’s more. Survey finds that wedding budgets continue to rise, brides are focusing on guests; plus first-ever same-sex wedding statistics! Click here!

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Tuesday, April 16, 2013

How to Make Money Talks Less Awkward

Filed under: $$$ Tips,Budget,Financial Infidelity,Money Matters — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Aly Walansky, Guest Author

You can talk to your significant other about what they love, what they hate, where they want to travel and what they want to accomplish. But talking about the root of all those things – money – can be difficult. Financial experts say money and money problems are the leading cause of divorce which means communication is key. Make those money talks less awkward with these tips.

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daveramseyHaving a conversation about money isn’t something you want to spring on someone. Instead of bringing it up in the heat of the moment or just before bed, plan your chat ahead of time. Tell your partner you want to go over your finances next Tuesday or Saturday afternoon. Write it down on your calendar in ink. That way you can both be prepared and focused.

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Larry’s NOTE: Don’t be blindsided by your partner’s debt. If you or your partner are knee deep in credit card debt, you need to talk about it “before” you tie the knot. Waiting until after marriage and then finding out that your partner has $45,000 in credit card debt could be the straw that broke the camel’s back. You must learn to discuss your money as often and thoroughly as necessary and the earlier in your relationship, the better. Financial counseling can help couples with different styles meet somewhere in the middle. Please be honest about money!

BONUS Articles:100 Ways to Cut Wedding Costs
Splitting the Wedding Costs
Get Out of Debt with the Debt Snowball Plan” by Dave Ramsey, author of “The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness

alyCopyright © 2013 – Aly Walansky. Aly is the beauty and fashion editor for MyGloss.com, a style columnist for SheKnows.com as well as a contributor to publications ranging from Huffington Post to About.com. While she is well-known for her beauty and style writing — New Beauty Magazine rated her one of the top four beauty bloggers on the web in their Winter 2010 issue and Star Magazine rated her the hottest blogger on the Internet this summer – she’s rather diversified in the blogosphere – she’s been hired to live-blog from locations ranging from the Miss America pageant to the Emmy Awards. Diversified, sure, but her true passion exists in the worlds of beauty and style, and she is quoted in countless publications on a weekly basis, and has appeared as a beauty expert on the FOX network and various radio programming. Aly currently resides in New York City, where she focuses on the travel, beauty/spa, and fashion writing realm. Visit Aly’s BLOG.

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Friday, April 12, 2013

Order Up a Positive Choice

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Alexis Asbe, Guest Author

Whether you are fixing to marry the person of your dreams or simply trying to get through your day, there are inevitably times (often moment-to-moment) when you need to make a choice. Does that sound like a cliché? Well, simple, powerful truths often come disguised that way.

confusedBrideUnlike the complexity of wedding planning, making a choice is very simple and uncomplicated.

Choosing is like ordering a “Meal Deal.” For example, Meal Deal #1 is choosing to be positive, and Meal Deal #2 is choosing NOT to (which can put you anywhere between numb and negative). The benefits of Meal Deal #1 are endless. The side effects of Meal Deal #2 can be harmful to your health.

Here are just some of the benefits when you choose the “positively” delicious (sorry, couldn’t resist the pun) Meal Deal #1:

Adding a Side of Optimism

So what’s not to be happy about? You only have an average of 160 things to do when planning a wedding… and how many hours are there in a day… and how many days until the big one?

The feeling of “overload” and its buddy “emotional stress” WILL sneak up on you. Don’t be surprised. Count on it! And when these guys show up, be ready to flip them off with a good dose of positiveness. (Yes, it’s a word… I just made it up!)

Now, don’t get me wrong. You don’t have to walk around with a big cheesy smile on your face to be an optimist. Optimism is simply a choice to see something differently than what may seem obvious. Instead of dwelling on the tiny details, you can choose to look at the bigger picture, which may give you a better view of what is possible. After all, you are in love, and ordering up a side of optimism will only enhance the view.

Sprinkle Laughter on Top

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Planning a wedding is associated with over-the-top stress. In addition to your already busy life, you now have an unbelievable “To-Do” list, a looming deadline, and a limited budget. Finding humor while attacking your daily “To-Do” list, and actually laughing, are two of the best remedies for defusing stress. Not only will laughter ease the tension (yours and that of those around you), its healthy side effects will help support your body’s immune and circulatory systems… and the endorphins that a little chuckle releases into your body can’t help but improve your overall happiness. So, sprinkle a little laughter on your “To-Do” list and call me in the morning.

Building the Optimist Muscle

The practice of being positive is like building a muscle (hey, stay with me, those of you who hate exercise). It takes time, repetition, and requires a consistent supply of protein. While you are out and about tackling that “To-Do” list, try to stop at least 3 to 5 times in the day to check in with yourself. This is a great source of “protein.” Be aware of your self-talk. Are you on autopilot, with your wings tilting towards overwhelm or negativity? Are you looking for (drum roll…next pithy cliché…) the silver lining in every situation, or have you slid into having less than wonderful, be your expectation?

Sometimes, when we are rushing around, focused on accomplishment, we don’t see all the magnificence right in front of us. If you stop, take some deep breaths, look around and acknowledge each simple joy and accomplishment (yes, each and every one), you will be a muscle-bound optimist before you know it!

Two Scoops of Gratitude to Go, Please

Being thankful is like two giant scoops of ice cream. Everyone likes it. It tastes soooo good! It’s easy to swallow, and goes well with everything. While planning for your big day, remember that without a grateful heart, the “bigness” of the day will be diminished. After all, gratitude turns rejection into approval, confusion into direction, and misperception into transparency. When we are transparent we are vulnerable. When we are vulnerable we can devour all the richness of being in love… And that, my friend, is what will sustain you and your chosen one through the rest of your lives together.

Bon Appétit!

Peace, love and hungry… Ally

Larry’s Book Review:At the Alter in Your Underwear” is a fun book to read. You’ll find some of the best and most practical advice I’ve ever read about weddings. Get a good chuckle from Chapter 8! Ally Asbe’s words will assist brides in having less stress and fewer anxieties about the big day. Best read with a yellow highlighter!”

allyCopyright 2013 Alexis Asbe. Alexis “Ally” Asbe has designed and consulted for over 3000 weddings and events. She is the bestselling author of “At the Altar in Your Underwear: 40 secrets to an amazing wedding and a better you!” She is currently a consultant, writer and speaker devoted to styling your heart, your life and soon to be your best friend… Get in your underwear with her at AllyAsbe.com.

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Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Monday, April 8, 2013

“That’s Just WRONG!!”

Lately I have had numerous calls looking for a last-minute wedding officiant to perform the bride and groom’s wedding ceremony. If a few cases I was able to help, but most of the time I scramble to try to help them find another wedding officiant.

About 90% of the time it’s because a friend of the bride and groom wanted to perform the ceremony, usually for free, and at the last minute got cold feet and backed out!

That’s just wrong!

There are two reasons it’s wrong. First, it’s wrong for the bride and groom to fall for a “freebee” ceremony especially since the ceremony “is” the wedding. To give the honor to someone who has never performed a wedding ceremony; someone who is inexperienced, on the most special day in their lives is just wrong.

The second reason: It’s just wrong for anyone – usually a relative – to beg the bride and groom to allow them to perform the ceremony and to accept this awesome responsibility and then back out at the last minute because their nerves got the best of them. That’s just wrong!

The other 10% of the calls come because a minister, usually of their church, booked the wedding ceremony and for various reasons could not perform the ceremony leaving them scrambling for a wedding officiant at the last minute. The least they could do is to provide an experienced assistant minister to fill in for them.

That’s just wrong, too!

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Larry James performing his “romantic” wedding ceremony! Click photo for “Rave Review” from Larry’s bride’s & grooms!

As I said before, the ceremony IS the wedding! It should only be entrusted to an experienced full-time professional wedding officiant. If you want to hear some horror stories, give me a call. I’ve heard plenty.

Note: Congratulations to Mr. & Mrs. Mahmoud Sallam. Dana Vogel & Mahmoud Sallam were married at 3 p.m., Thursday, December 30, 2010 @ Val Vista Lakes, Gilbert, AZ. Their close family friend was going to do their wedding ceremony and backed out 3 days before their wedding. I met with Dana & Mahmoud the day before the wedding and performed my “romantic” wedding ceremony for them the following day.

A friend who wants to perform your wedding ceremony may have the best of intentions when it comes to your wedding, but if this is a person who is known for being late, forgetting about events, or not being reliable or most of all, have never performed a wedding ceremony, they are the wrong person to choose. Most crack under pressure and may not be able to fairly judge whether or not they’ll be up for the task on your big day.

There are certain legal restrictions that wedding officiants must follow. In the heady days of planning a wedding, legal nuances can be the last thing on a couples’ minds. The laws in each state are different. You must be sure they are following the letter of the law so that later you don’t discover that your wedding was never a legal ceremony. Experienced wedding officiants know the rules. They also needs to know how to coordinate the wedding processional, write the ceremony, handle props, and assist the bride and groom in making decisions about what needs to be included in the ceremony. Often when brides and grooms start to realize all that is involved they start leaning toward the professional officiant.

A father of the bride or groom should be off the list. Why? Because they should be walking the bride down the aisle, then with their wife sitting on the front seat enjoying the ceremony. The same goes for favorite uncles, aunts, close friends, and siblings.

“Much can go wrong in the delivery of your wedding ceremony (when performed by a family friend). Even those who are proficient speakers under different circumstances may become rattled at the everyday glitches that can crop up in a wedding ceremony. Consider how your friend will do if the groom becomes emotional, the bride flubs her vows, the flower girl is whining, the musicians play the wrong selection, inclement weather conditions suddenly arise for your outdoor wedding, your feuding divorced parents refuse to sit next to one another, the microphone dies mid-sentence, or someone faints. Handling these situations requires a special set of skills. Professional officiants have “been there, done that” with every situation above and more!” – Maureen Thomson

The amateur officiant is rarely ever able to present a plan of the important steps of the wedding ceremony to the bride and groom. Why? Because they don’t know. Officiant planning and coordination with wedding vendors is also crucial to the bride, groom, and those participating in the wedding. In Arizona there are only two things that must be in the wedding ceremony to make it legal. Does your friend know what they are? Brides and grooms often have different religious upbringing and beliefs. How will your friend handle that without alienating the guest’s faith?

How about Inter-ethnic marriages? Are they familiar with cultural rituals that can be added to the ceremony? Keep in mind the type of ceremony you wish to have, and whether or not the person you want to solemnize it is articulate and capable of handling something so important.

There is nothing binding to stop your friend from changing his or her mind as the big day approaches. This happens all the time as people get cold feet or egos start to conflict between the couple and the officiating friend.

Just because a family friend volunteers to do your ceremony is no reason for you to give in because you are afraid you will hurt their feelings. Be couragous! Say, “No, and thank you for asking. We are going to hire a full-time wedding officiant!” (Ask them to do a special reading for you during the ceremony and then hire a professional). Even those who are proficient speakers under different circumstances may become rattled at the everyday glitches that can crop up in a wedding ceremony. If they do get a bad case of the nerves, have they provided for someone to take their place?

An experienced wedding officiant sets the tone for the celebration to come including the rest of your wedding day. They have the ability to handle a myriad of circumstances that can creep up on your big day. Guests come to a wedding to honor the bride and groom and to be inspired by the words of the wedding officiant.

To gamble on a friend to perform your wedding ceremony… That’s just wrong!

BONUS Article: No Thanks! A Family Friend Will Perform Our Wedding Ceremony
Who will perform your wedding ceremony?

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Thursday, April 4, 2013

Prepping Your Flower Girl for Her Walk Down the Aisle

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Sofia Angeli, Guest Author

Before the bride walks down the aisle, there’s another lady who usually steals the show. No, it’s not the mother of the bride. Who else but the flower girl? Yes, this little charmer almost always catches the attention of the guests. Perhaps, it’s the innocence and the element of surprise that she brings to such a formal and momentous event that makes her worth the wait.

FlowerGirlBut for some little girls, this task of walking down the aisle is just too overwhelming. Some just break down in the middle of everything. Some don’t even make it to the starting line.

Your little angel might be doing the walk for the first time. Or she might be doing it once more after a not-so-successful appearance the last time. So how do you deal with your own little flower girl? Here are some suggestions on how to make it more pleasant for her and for you.

Practicing

Even if the bride has called for a wedding rehearsal, you should brief and practice with your little flower girl how she should walk down the aisle. Explain to her what the procession is all about. Tell her what will happen. Especially for toddlers, sometimes they just get shocked about everything new around them.

Tell her that there will be music. If you can get hold of the music the entourage will be marching to, let her hear it and practice walking to that tune.

Describe to her what things will look like – that there will be people around and that there will be others marching, too. Of course, it will be much easier if she’s familiar with the place of the ceremony.

If possible, let her meet other members of the entourage so she’ll be friends with them. She’ll look forward to seeing them again on the wedding day.

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When she fits her dress, ask her to walk around to make sure she doesn’t trip. Ask her, too, if the dress, particularly if it has layers of tulle, doesn’t feel too heavy.

If she’ll be carrying a basket of petals to be scattered as she walks down the aisle, make sure the basket is light enough for her to carry around. As much as possible, let her carry the basket, too, while wearing the dress before the wedding day.

On the day of the event, don’t make her wear the dress too early. She might get too tired of wearing it or damage it from playing, eating or drinking while waiting for the ceremony to begin.

Walking Down the Aisle

Bring a couple of her favourite toys or books to keep her occupied and calm before the ceremony begins. Don’t forget to have in your bag a few biscuits that she likes, in case she gets hungry and the ceremony gets delayed.

Ask members of your family whom she’s fond of sit near the aisle as she walks. Seeing familiar faces will calm her nerves and also make her flash her cute smile that will be great for the cameras.

Lastly, keep in mind that things may not go as you planned – or practiced. Make sure you’re dressed and made up for appearing on the aisle, too. In case she stops and refuses to go the whole length of the procession, calmly go to her, hold her hand and walk happy and proud with your little girl.

Copyright © 2013 – Sofia Angeli. Sofia Angeli is a PR & communications consultant for companies in various industries. In particular, she brings her writing skills and passion for travel, culture, arts and lifestyle, including wedding planning and engagement rings, to the online world.

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