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Sunday, March 31, 2013

The Blending of the Sands Ceremony

The “Blending of the Sands” ceremony (often called the Unity Sand Ceremony) can be a beautiful and meaningful alternative to the “Unity Candle” ceremony. Like a Unity candle the pouring of two different colored sands together is used to symbolize the joining of the bride and groom or the joining of their families.

tamarablendThe “Blending of the Sands” concept was originally created by Geneene L. Thornton in 1993 and was used primarily for beach weddings in the San Diego area. The problem with the Unity Candle, especially on the beach, is the least puff of wind and the candles usually blow out.

Like a Unity candle, the symbolism for the Blending of the Sands is similar. This ceremony is usually added toward the end of the wedding ceremony.

This ceremony requires three small vials or vases, one for you and your fiancé to pour the sand into and two for each of you to pour the sand from. Each of the two vials of colored sand symbolizes the separate lives of the bride and groom and their families. The two outside vials or vases can be used later to display fresh flowers following the wedding. Some couples pour the sand from two sea shells. You can put your vase containing your combined sand on display as a constant reminder of your special day!

If your wedding ceremony is being performed on a beach, have the minister scoop up a little sand from the beach with a sea shell and pour it into the small bottle to symbolize the building of the foundation of the relationship and to give you a momento directly from the beach. (Larry’s Note: Yes, I know… you don’t build a foundation on sand! Let’s not get picky, picky! 😉 )

ForeverFrameUse two different colored sands which you can find at most arts and crafts stores and Bridal Shops. Small glass bottles or vials are usually found there as well. A nice touch is to pour the colored sands into a small “heart-shaped” bottle. Later, you can melt some wax to seal it to hold the sand in place, then seal it with a cork or lid. Have your names and your wedding date etched in the glass bottle prior to the ceremony.

After the Wedding Officiant or Minister reads the text for the ceremony, the bride and groom pour the two containers of sand into the third container simultaneously. You may wish to leave a small amount of sand in each vial to symbolize that although you are now joined as one, you are still free to express your own individuality.

This is also a great way to include children or step-children (blended families) into the ceremony. Obtain several extra vials with a different color of sand for each child. See the Blending the Sands Ceremony #2 – for Bride, Groom and Children or we can customize this ceremony to include portions of the Blended Family Ceremony.

The combined sand makes a wonderful wedding keepsake for the bride and groom and a constant reminder of their promises on their wedding day.

BONUS Article: The Blending of the Sands with a “New” Twist! – The Forever Frame!

Click here for many other suggestions for “add-on” ceremonies for your Wedding.

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Wednesday, March 27, 2013

“Sorry Mom, This is Not Your Wedding!”

Dad’s too!

I once had a father tell me, “I’m paying for this wedding and it will be the way I want it!” I replied, “How sad that you cannot allow your daughter to have things the way she wants them,” and quietly walked away.

controllingMotherA bride’s mother once tried to change nearly everything the bride, groom and I had planned for her daughter’s wedding at the rehearsal. The bride and groom wanted the Maid of Honor and the Best Man to walk out first because there were nine bridesmaids and nine groomsmen on each side. Since the wedding was outdoors and the wedding party would be standing on grass the concern was that if (traditionally) the Maid of Honor and the Best Man walked out last, the girl and guy who walked in first might not be standing where they should be. By having the Maid of Honor and the Best Man walk in first, everyone would simply take their place next to the Maid of Honor and the Best Man and would know exactly where they are suppose to stand.

The Wedding Coordinator knew the couples wishes and at the rehearsal when she began to line the bridal party up the non-traditional way, the mother of the bride shouted, “No! No! That’s not the way is is supposed to be,” and began to line them up the traditional way. It became apparent the bride had not told her mom of her intentions and was not going to say anything. I got the mom’s attention and will a big smile on my face I said, “Come here, Mary. I must tell you something.” When she got close enough, I whispered in her ear, “This is not your wedding. This is your daughter’s wedding. You’ve already had your wedding and she would like it to be her way. Please let her have it the way she wants it.”

The mother stomped away, visibly upset but stepped into the background. The bride rushed over to me and said, “What did you say to my mother?” When I told her, she said, “YES!! Thank you!” and the rehearsal went forward the way the bride intended. I was invited to the reception and when I leave I make it a point to say thank you to the parents and was not quite sure what the response was going to be from the bride’s mother. She gave me a hug and whispered in my ear, “I am so sorry I made such an ass of myself. The ceremony was unbelievable and everything was perfect the way my daughter planned it.”

I told the bride later that I was happy to step in and make things right because I would rather the mother be angry with me than the bride on her wedding day.

Talk about controlling mothers (and sometimes fathers)! You don’t need this wedding drama.

This phenomena is nothing new. It happens a lot. The mother’s traditional role was to plan the wedding for her daughter or son, but things have changed. Sharon Naylor, wedding expert and author of, “The Mother of the Bride Book,” explains, “One type of mom is the controlling type that is trying to plan the wedding she never had.”

wedding-stressWhether consciously or unconsciously, some moms start demanding that their daughter’s wedding fit into a certain mold – one that was missing at their own wedding. Kristen Harrington, a marriage and family therapist in Kingston, NY, has seen plenty of mothers who attempt to re-create their wedding day vicariously through their daughter. “The mother had disastrous things happen at her wedding and has now vowed that she is going to have the wedding of her dreams – which is her daughter’s wedding,” notes Harrington.

My belief is that mothers have the best intentions and really want what is best for their children. While the bride has been thinking about her wedding since the day her fiancé slipped that ring on your finger, your mom has been thinking about your wedding ever since she knew she was having a baby girl.

It’s critical to take a stand – to be strong and protect your plans for the wedding that you want. “It’s all about being diplomatic and assertive and knowing how to best talk to your mom,” says Naylor. With all the different feelings that a mother experiences during this pivotal point in her daughter’s life, everybody is really emotionally tweaked. And Naylor stresses that you have to take it upon yourself to be the leader in negotiating how things are going to go. “It’s important to set your foundation from the very beginning.”

My advice to mothers: Stand back and let your daughter and son have their wedding their way! Don’t act like a spoiled teenager “flipping out!” Never tell them that what they are doing is a bad idea or say, “I wouldn’t do that way if I were you! That’s silly!” or say, “That is not how it is traditionally done!” That kind of behavior is childish, inappropriate and will only cause hard feelings. Weddings and rehearsals are stressful enough without your interference. I’m sure it’s not intentional, but please back off. Only offer advice if you are asked for it.

My advice to the Brides and Grooms: Go with your heart. Do what YOU want to do. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your parents to tell them what you intend to do and hope for their blessing. Do not falter. Stand up for yourself. Understand that you are beginning a new phase in your relationship with your mother. It may take her some time to grasp this new concept. Take a deep breath and make a decision.

Let your mother know that you have decided to arrange some special seating for both parents at the wedding, one I’m sure they will enjoy. Read: “A Bright Idea for Seating the Parents of the Bride and Groom.”

Most important, give your mother something special to do that will help her to feel included. And… honor both mothers in a very special way during the ceremony. Read: “The Rose Ceremony” and note the special twist I have for that ceremony as the bride and groom walk out. Read: “Last Kiss… Before the First Kiss!

Once upon a time, the wedding drama got so intense with the mom trying to control every little detail of the wedding that the bride and groom eloped! Not sure your mother would like that.

BONUS Articles: Who (of the bridal party) Walks Down the Aisle First?
Traditional Wedding or NOT!?
Choosing Sides!
7 Ways to Keep “Momthulhu” From Hijacking Your Wedding Plans
Your Wedding is Your Wedding

Have you had situations or know about situations where the mother or the father was trying to control the planning of the wedding? If so, let us know in the comments section and tell us how you handled this issue.

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Saturday, March 23, 2013

Get Me to the Rehearsal on Time!

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A wedding rehearsal shouldn’t usually take more than 30 minutes if everyone gets there on time. That’s a big “if!”

PartyBusGenerally speaking the mood of the bride, groom and bridal party is more relaxed and casual and some people tend to wander in whenever they decide to get there.

Recently I arrived early at one of my rehearsals. A few minutes later a big Party Bus arrived with “everyone” who was scheduled to be at the rehearsal on the bus. What a great way to make sure that everyone arrives to the rehearsal on time.

Everyone was told that there would be a Party Bus at a specific location, complete with refreshments and that it would leave at precisely 5 o’clock. Miss the bus… you may miss the rehearsal. Everyone met the bus (on time), including the families and a few close friends and they all arrived at the rehearsal on time. The Party Bus is a great idea because not only does it get everyone to the rehearsal on time and together, it helps the bridal party and family members to get better acquainted with each other in a light-hearted way. After the rehearsal, they were taken to the rehearsal dinner.

The rehearsal dinner is a great time to meet everyone, relax and begin your wedding celebration. I recommend that if possible, plan to have your rehearsal two days before the wedding. This gives everyone a day of rest before the wedding and allows the bride to tend to any last minute details the next day like doing her nails or packing for her honeymoon, and to allow her the opportunity to wind down, relax, and rest well for the big day ahead.

beearlyOften some of the bridal party may be coming from out of town and may not arrive until the day before the wedding. In that case, if there are only one or two that may not be able to be at the rehearsal two days before, go ahead and have your rehearsal and have someone assigned to give them the details of the rehearsal on the day of the wedding. The rehearsal dinner is a great time to hand out printed lists of duties for the attendants. They need to know what is expected of them, and when they are on call.

Being on time for the wedding rehearsal is deceptively important. Being on time is a matter of respect. This particular day it was very important to begin the rehearsal on time because there was another rehearsal scheduled at the wedding venue one hour later. For me, it’s important because I often have more than one rehearsal a day or may have an afternoon rehearsal and a wedding several hours later.

BONUS Articles: Do You Need a Wedding Rehearsal?
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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Destination Wedding: Arizona…

Unlike parts of the United States in the Midwest and the Eastern United States, Arizona has two wedding seasons. When everyone there is having June weddings, I usually take some time off in June or July because most of my weddings are outdoors and those months are when things begin to heat up in the Greater Phoenix area.

JerryFergusonPhotographyThe busiest months for weddings in Arizona are March, April and May and again in October, November and even December. If you will be planning a destination wedding in Arizona the best time for your wedding will be in one of these six months. They are the busiest months for weddings in Arizona because the weather is so accommodating.

Arizona’s low wedding season is June, July & August because of the heat. That’s when most wedding are indoors. Keep hydrated. Drink lots of water. Everyone knows water helps keep you cool. Give guests ice-cold bottles of water as they are seated.

Probably the most confusing and often debated weather event in Arizona is our so called “monsoon”. During the wet monsoon (July, August and September) we get 32% of our normal yearly rainfall. Average monsoon rainfall (July, Aug. and Sept.) is 2.45 inches. The Greater Phoenix area has more than 325 days of annual sunshine with an average high temperature of 86 degrees and an average low of 57 degrees. With only 7.66 to 8.32 inches of rain per year, our area offers an ideal setting for romantic outdoor weddings.

Arizona winters (December & January) may require heating for an outdoor evening wedding and cooling is a must if your wedding day falls in the warmth of summer (June, July & August). Yes, those months are the hottest, but fortunately it really is also a dry heat. The humidity is usually very low.

A romantic wedding as the Arizona sun sets is an inspiration for you and your guests. On the link below you will find approximate dates & times of Arizona sunsets, plus a link that will tell you accurate sunset times for any American city. Also, you will find average temperatures for different times of the month and links to get the latest weather forecast and estimated sunsets no matter where you live in the U.S. and the world. Includes weather data regarding rainfall, driest cities, sunniest cities, etc. Click here!

CactusJackHere’s the breakdown. On Average:

• July is the warmest month.
• December is the coolest month.
• March is the wettest month.
• June is the driest month.
• June has the most clear days.
• December has the most cloudy days.

To help with your Arizona Destination Wedding, you may want to pick up a copy of Arizona Bridal Source Magazine. Need someone to help with the planning of your wedding in the Greater Phoenix area, call Kim Horn, MBC™ (Master Bridal Consultant – 1 of 59 in the world!). Kim get’s 5 stars from Larry James!

And… of course, if you are looking for an experienced full-time, professional Wedding Officiant to perform your wedding ceremony, call Larry James. 😉

BONUS Article: The Pros and Cons of Destination Weddings

Photo Credit: Top left, Jerry Ferguson Photography

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Friday, March 15, 2013

Finicky Finances – Who Controls the Checkbook?

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A huge percentage of couples who wind up divorcing do so over finances. In fact a study done by Utah State University in 2009 reported that couples who argued over money at least once a week were over 30% more likely to get divorced than those who only disagreed about money once or twice a month. Those who argued over finances almost every day were over 100% more likely to get divorced than those couples who were able to agree over their checkbook. So if money is the root of all evil, at least in terms of marriages, how can you and your new spouse avoid this marriage pitfall?

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The only way that you can fight back against falling apart due to money is to have a plan. It doesn’t matter if you have only one income coming in, or two, it’s vital that you both are able to put together a plan that works for the household. And it’s actually a very easy thing to do. The first thing that you should do is to figure out how much money you’ve got coming in, and how much you’ve got going out.

Sit down together and add up how much money you bring home in a month. You then simply take all of the monthly recurring bills that you have and subtract them. Things like cable or internet or cell phone or rent are all things that should be deducted, one at a time, so that you can see how much money you have left at the end of the month. You can also estimate how much you spend a week for things like groceries and gas, and can deduct this amount as well.

The money that you have left over at the end of the money is the “play” money. This is the money that you both need to decide how to use. Some couples opt to give each other a stipend each week that they can spend however they want, while others simply pool the money into one big pile and use it how they see fit. What’s important is that you decide, together, what you want to do.

It’s also important that you decide who pays the bills. Some couples like to sit down and to do them together, while others prefer that one couple be responsible. Even if only one person is actually making the payments, both of you should know what’s going on, so if you’re the bill payer, make sure you tell your spouse when you’re paying this bill or that bill. This way both of you know where the money is going each month. And most importantly of all: no secrets. If your finances are strained, tell your spouse. Tips like these will help to keep money from becoming the big evil that so many couples see it as.

Larry’s Note: Smart couples that I know do their best to save at least 10% of their monthly income every month. I know. It’s not easy, and years from now you will be glad you did!

Listen to this dialogue about separate checking accounts or not and make your own decision:

BONUS Article: Post-Wedding Credit Card Blues? Here’s the Solution!
Get Out of Debt with the Debt Snowball Plan” by Dave Ramsey, author of “The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness

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Monday, March 11, 2013

For the Love of DIY Wedding Flowers!

When working with fresh flowers, make sure that you select blooms that are full of life, insect free and with plenty of healthy leaves. Here are a few other things to consider:

bouquet• To prolong the life of the flowers keep them in containers that have been cleaned with a mild bleach solution then rinsed will with water before use.

• Store the flowers in a well ventilated area free from smoke and car fumes.

• Warm water will open buds and closes flowers, cool temperature slows down the development, adding longevity to the arrangement. Excessive temperatures can damage the flowers.

• Use floral preservatives (available at florist shops and craft stores) these keep the flowers looking fresh and inhibit the growth of bacteria which can reduce the flowers water intake.

• If you order long-stem red rose buds for the “Rose Ceremony,” be sure to have the florist attach the small water bubbles on the end of each rose. Timing is everything, especially when it comes to buying red roses. Marrying around Valentine’s Day? Expect a significant increase in the price of a single stem.

If you are on a tight budget use lots of greenery. Greenery is inexpenvise and will make a great filler and you will use less flowers.

bouquet2Choosing highly aromatic flowers for centerpieces may sound like an amazingly romantic idea, but it will drive your guests insane if they are prone to allergies. Be sure your bouquet isn’t too fragrant – you don’t want to be sneezing down the aisle! Some of the most fragrant flowers include freesia, lilies, lilacs, tuberoses, gardenias, and lilies of the valley. Go lightly on these blooms.

Try using potted plants and shrubs such a ficus trees which can be rented.

Couples tend to see the centerpieces and the table setting but do not visualize the whole reception room with their guests in it. For example, couples pay for a reception room with a wonderful view of the scenic surrounding and want tall, large centerpieces that will obstruct this view or the view of the guests on the other side of the table.

You may even have your own fake trees at home, or you could borrow from friends and family. These will look charming when lit with tiny lights.

Since some wedding venues tend to decorate their establishments anyway for the holidays, you can get away with buying fewer decorations yourself. The drawback? Holidays can also drive the prices of some popular flowers higher. Nearly all flower prices, especially roses, go up the first two weeks of February and then again weeks before Mother’s Day.

bouquet3Let your florist source local blooms, not just ones you pick out of photographs. Flowers from nearby farms are more affordable because you won’t have to pay exorbitant shipping fees, plus they’ll always be fresher and more vibrant.

For bride and bridesmaid bouquets, we recommend a simple selection of fresh cut flowers and greens. Sometimes having only the same type and color of flower without fillers and greens makes bouquets more exclusive and the bride looks more elegant.

The boutonnieres can use some of the same flowers or colors used for the bride and bridesmaid bouquets. They can be made with a single flower or a flower and a little bit of greens (e.g., letter leaf, gypso, solidago, hypericum). The stems need to be cut very close to the head of the flower leaving some space to tighten the flowers and greens. Use floral tape or twine to wrap the boutonnieres and add a little cloth pin to the back of each boutonniere.

Regardless how much money you try to save on flowers, your blooms will likely take up a significant amount of your budget. One of the best ways to cut down on floral costs is to use the same flowers for both your ceremony and reception, which essentially halves your total floral expense. This is easiest to do if you’re getting married and holding the reception at the same location.

BONUS Article: How to SAVE on Your Wedding Floral Budget

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Thursday, March 7, 2013

Choosing Sides!

Brides and Grooms… Here are what two guests think about “choosing sides” at the wedding!

BridesSideWeddingWoman.net“At many ceremonies, all the bride’s friends have to sit on one side of the room and all the groom’s friends sit on the other side. That sucks, because sometimes you’re friends with both of them — how do you choose? That moment of indecision is just weird for me. Plus, one side is usually much less crowded and people sit there thinking, ‘Gee, the groom doesn’t have many friends.’ All of this can easily be avoided by just letting guests sit where they want.” — Angie, 35

I totally agree! Usually it works best if when the guest asks the usher, “Which side is the Bride’s side?” that they tell them to not choose sides, but pick a good seat on either side towards the front.

“There’s always that one table at the reception: The people kind of know each other but not really — or they’re all the extra people who couldn’t be seated with people they know due to space constraints. It’s always a random mix of cousins, college friends, neighbors, work friends, and distant relatives. The guests always know they’re the misfit table, and it’s always awkward to sit there trying to make conversation with these people you have no interest in. Lack of thought in the seating plan has one of the most painful, sometimes embarrassing, results for a guest who often wonders, ‘Why am I stuck behind a pole at a table with a bunch of strangers?'” — Megan, 27

I totally agree! (There’s an echo in here) 😉 Some brides and grooms spend way to much time on trying to put the right guests at the right table. It’s not likely that you will please everyone. I’m finding that more and more couples are opting for “open seating,” – letting the guests sit with whomever they want. AND there are times when it is important to select the seating for a guest, such as exes who need to be separated, or putting a shy couple with someone you know that will engage them in conversation and help them to feel like part of the celebration. There are exceptions to every rule. I recommend two table of “reserved seating” for the the mothers and fathers and their close family members.

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Sunday, March 3, 2013

Bridal Brokerage Recycles Weddings So Someone Else Can Buy Your “Special” Day

Filed under: Wedding Tips,Wedding Trends — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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People fall in and out of love all the time. Unfortunately, some couples decide to break up after making all sorts of wedding plans and preparations. Not only is that exceptionally heartbreaking, it also results in a whole lot of wasted time and money.

bridal-brokerageSo many weddings are getting canceled every year (over 250,000!) that it has caused services like Bridal Brokerage to emerge.

Bridal Brokerage basically buys cancelled weddings and sells them to interested buyers who are hoping to put together a wedding within a short period of time. It’s a win-win-win situation, at least according to the wedding brokers: sellers get their deposits back, suppliers enjoy uninterrupted business, and the buyers can purchase pre-planned weddings at lower prices. They provide personal concierges to help coordinate your wedding and graphic designers to quickly distribute save-the-dates, invitations, and programs.

Sellers recover deposits and upfront costs hassle-free.
Venues and vendors enjoy uninterrupted business as usual.
Buyers find beautiful, pre-planned weddings at a fraction of the price.

It’s an interesting business but the whole thing is pretty sad at the same time. One good thing (if there’s any to be found) regarding the sheer number of cancelled weddings is that at least the couples who broke up before tying the knot won’t end up getting a divorce a couple of weeks or months later.

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