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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

6 Things NOT to Say to Your Wedding Vendors

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Susan Southerland, Guest Author

You have the ring and you’ve set the date, but now the rubber is meeting the road and you’re running around doing tastings, viewing venues and looking at photography and video samples, figuring out who you want hire for your big day. There’s a huge difference between talking to someone about their products and services and actually signing on the dotted line on a contract that puts money on the line. Every bride wants to feel as if she is getting a good deal on the products and services that she needs for her wedding day. After all, weddings are expensive!

BrideJumpYet many brides fall into some classic negotiating mistakes when contract time comes. Most first-time brides aren’t experienced negotiators and repeat brides who have done this before can go over the top trying to demonstrate knowledge and aggressiveness in negotiating.

The good news? Most wedding vendors have some things that they are willing to offer deals on, especially if the bride knows how to properly negotiate. Here are some thoughts on what not to do when negotiating for your wedding.

Don’t be unreasonable: A vendor who charges $2,000.00 for something is not going to give it to you for $1,000.00, so don’t insult him by asking.

Don’t make threats. Saying you’re going to go with another vendor if your demands aren’t met won’t result in a deal.

Don’t lie. The wedding industry is very small. Chances are the vendors you are interviewing know each other. You won’t get away with saying, “Well, so and so is charging me $1,000.00 less,” if it isn’t true. Vendors talk.

Don’t make comparisons between vendors who don’t give the same type of product or service. You wouldn’t expect to pay for a Volkswagen and get a Mercedes — the same is true for wedding vendors. Sometimes you can expect to pay more because of name and reputation, but more often you will pay more for experience and expertise.

bridalSALEDon’t beat around the bush with your budget. When you make your budget a secret, a vendor may propose something to you that is way out of your price range. This can be aggravating to you and a waste of time for her. A good wedding vendor will give you suggestions on how you can use her services while staying within your budget, or she will simply tell you that the two of you aren’t a good match. She might even make helpful suggestions on another vendor who might be better for you.

Don’t just ask for discounts. Vendors who don’t give money off may have some items that he can give you to beef up the package for which you are paying full price. Some examples are overtime, dessert, additional bar time, extra prints, a toss bouquet and thank-you notes.

When it comes to negotiating, you need to remember the old adage; “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.” Most wedding vendors will go out of their way to work with a sweet, well-mannered bride. Transforming into “Bridezilla” will more than likely get you an extra nuisance fee, or an invitation to hire someone else.

SusanSCopyright © 2013 – Susan Southerland. Susan is president of Just Marry!, a full service wedding planning company with offices in Orlando, Florida. She is also the national wedding expert for Perfect Wedding Guide, where her entertaining and informative blog regularly dispenses excellent advice, ideas and photos to readers. Couples can also find a wealth of information at www.SusanSoutherland.com. Susan’s Photo by: Kim Nodruft Photography.

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Saturday, January 26, 2013

10 Things You Can Do to Avoid a Photographer’s Gripes!

Photographers tell me that there are several gripes that often show up as they are busy doing their best to take the best photos of the bride and groom. Here are a few things that you and your bridal party can do to make things go smoother.

1. Not holding the kiss long enough for them to get the shot. Kiss SLOOOooowly! I always tell the groom to hold the kiss until it begins to feel a little uncomfortable, then let her go! 😉 Why? Because the photographer doesn’t know when the kiss will be and if its a quick kiss they often miss the photo. That photo is usually the one that get’s missed the most. Also, the guests love it! Someone recently shouted during an unusually long kiss, “Get a room!” which brought laughter from the guests.

weddinggueststakingphotos2. It’s annoying when the guests hover around the photographer, taking their own photos during the family portrait session. The couple’s eyes don’t know which camera to look at. Tip for the bride and groom… “always” keep your eyes on the one you’re paying the big bucks to – the photographer, of course. Don’t be looking around in all directions. Look at the photographer’s lens. Ask the photographer to pause for a minute or two between family photos to allow guests to shoot there own photos. He might say, “I’m going to break for a minute or two for family members who want to take snap shots with your cameras.” People usually get the clue that there is a time for them to shoot, and a time when they need to keep out of the way.

3. You want sunset photos? Most photographers will suggest getting married around 4 p.m. or 4:30 p.m. if the sun is setting at 6:30 p.m. and this is great advice. Many couples don’t realize that in order for a photographer to get the best photos, either agree to see each other before the wedding and take a lot of photos before the ceremony begins or have your wedding consultant or wedding coordinator at the venue create a time-line that has the ceremony begin at least an hour and a half before sunset. The average ceremony (usually about 30 minutes or less and some are longer) will be over and you will still have 1 hour for photos. Discuss this with your photographer. I recommend taking the bride and her bridesmaids photos BEFORE the wedding, then the groom and his groomsmen photos so that the photographer can take a few family photos after the ceremony. This allows the photographer to spend more time with just the bride and groom. It’s rude to keep your guests waiting while you take photos after the ceremony for more than one hour, plus the guests are at the cocktail hour and if you are longer than an hour don’t be surprise when you get your bar bill. 😉

4. Not creating a shoot list. More than any other complaint photographers hear from brides is that the photographer missed getting a certain photo. Usually it’s because that particular photo was not on the shoot list. This list acts as a checklist for the photographer so that no important “must have” photos are missed. Ask the photographer to take lots of fun photos and candid shots. As the photos of the people on the list are taken, they are checked off the list. Include “all” the names of the people who will be in the photos and before the wedding ask them to stay close so they can hear the photographer shout out the names for the next photo. Be sure to list the bride and her siblings, and the groom and his siblings. Give the photographer the names and cell phone numbers of the maid of honor and the best man and ask them to assist the photographer in rounding people up for the next photos. They should be your your go-to persons for question from the photographer. Make sure they understand that this will be part of their duties. Tell them to caution guests who will also want to take photos to stay out of the way of the photographer and to not use flash while the photographer is working.

5. Be clear about how many hours you will need the photographer. Before the event, clearly communicate to them what services they are prepared to offer for the price you pay. Do they include digital files? How many hours of work will they shoot? Are they going to shoot the reception too? Is there a travel charge? What prints are included? Will they do an album? Don’t surprise the photographer with a demand to stay longer than you hired them for and not expect to be charged extra for the time.

6. Nothing is worse than one photographer trying to conduct two large families for photos. Make sure you tell the families and the photographer which family will go first.

funweddingphoto7. Let the photographer know if it is okay to move around during the ceremony. If you want the best shots, your answer should be, “go anywhere you need to go to get a good shot.” That may mean getting in the guests way – momentarily – to get the picture. Weddings in churches often have restrictions about the photographer using flash during the ceremony. Be sure to check with the person performing the ceremony. Every location has different rules. Get to know them.

8. Create a timeline for the reception. It can be very easy for the photographer to miss the cake cutting, bouquet throwing, etc. Photographers are usually very good about following a schedule with brides for the big things like when the bride and groom photos will be taken. Be sure your timeline has everything that you want the photographer to shoot.

9. Hire your photographer far enough in advance so they won’t be rushed to obtain all the details that you want them to know about your engagement photos and your wedding.

10. Not being ready for photos when the photographer arrives. Plan your day! Especially your wedding day. Double-check with the hair dresser and anyone else that may need to be there to help you be ready – according to your time-line – to make sure they stay on schedule. Be on time! No excuses.

We’ve all seen the bad wedding pics. Blurry brides, green tinted grooms, hideous composition and the list goes on. Weddings are a one shot chance. There is no reshoot of the event and the bride and groom are very emotionally invested in the outcome of the photos. Hire a photographer only after viewing his/her portfolio, an in-depth interview about your likes and dislikes, checking their references, etc. You will want to know if they have a plan in place for handling an equipment malfunction?

A professional wedding photographer knows the ins and outs of weddings, what works and what doesn’t. I would NEVER recommend that you “cheap-out” by having a family member or someone who is just beginning their photography career to shoot your wedding. NEVER! The good ones aren’t cheap and the cheap ones are not usually good. Plan your wedding budget accordingly.

Wedding photography is one of the hardest jobs in photography. Weddings are emotionally and physically exhausting events to shoot. They have days of prep before the wedding and days, if not weeks, of work (editing, etc.) afterwards. Wedding photographers deserve your “respect” and trust and the really good ones genuinely deserve the fees they receive.

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Photo Credits: Top photo: Andrew Sansom Wedding Photography
Photo on the right: KWP | Weaver, Orlando

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Tuesday, January 22, 2013

What Happens to Sex After Marriage?

Lori & Bob Hollander, Guest Authors

Most people would agree that sex after marriage changes. It’s easy to see why. If you ate crème brulee once in a while you’d look forward to it, dream about it, desire it. But if you had it every night, well, it would be less exciting. You’d take it for granted.

After marriage, life settles into a routine. Couples become more comfortable, some let themselves go.

Hormones and bodies change, sex becomes less of a priority and new responsibilities abound. Everything comes before sex – careers, children, housework, meals, laundry and bills. Energy is stretched, time becomes a precious commodity. When you can catch a breath, you wonder, how connected are we? Am I still attractive to him? Will I get rejected if I ask for sex and on and on.

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It’s vital for couples to recognize and understand the reasons that sex after marriage will inevitably change. So what is a couple to do?

• Most importantly, talk about it, take it on, address it, communicate
• Go on dates to focus on each other and reconnect
• Do connecting acts of love every day
• Carve out time for sex and schedule it if you have to
• Plan short trips to get away from the routine
• Remember studies show, “the more you do it, the more you’ll do it.”

Sex in a committed relationship is a crucial part of the head, heart, hormone connection. With consciousness, communication and caring, loving intimacy in a committed relationship can last forever. And, by the way, it gets better after the kids launch, that is, if you have stayed connected. So hang in there.

Red Hot LoveNote… There is no such thing as a natural born lover. Learning how to make extraordinary love is something that takes practice. People who want their sex lives to be great are most likely happy to hear this. Learn more. Do more. Have more fun. Take your sexuality to new heights. There is always something new to learn about sex. That something new always feels good. Discover things together. Making love is a lot more fun that way. ~ Larry James, from the book, “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers”

Copyright © 2013 – Lori & Bob Hollander. Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, and Bob Hollander, JD, LCSW-C, are licensed counselors and co-founders of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center. Together, they encourage couples to consciously co-create their relationships in order to achieve a deeper, more intimate connection. You can visit Relationships Work online at: http://www.RelationshipsWork.com. Follow them on Facebook.

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Friday, January 18, 2013

Tough Talk “Before” the Wedding!

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MissNowMrs.com, Guest Author

When it comes to marriage, there are many matters that could result in power struggles once or several times over the length of the relationship, but there are two very common reoccurring themes that come up in marital disputes. The first has to do with the financial status of the new family unit and the second deals with the matter of time. Learning your fiancé’s take on both topics can help solidify a base for your marriage to stand upon. This post addresses a few of the questions that can be the starting point for these necessary pre-wedding conversations.

african-american-couple-arguingWho does the housework and grocery shopping? Many years ago, the answer to this question was obvious. Today the “little woman” isn’t necessarily in charge of the household. With both the husband and the wife taking on professional roles in this day and age, the rules of marriage have been altered. Suddenly, housekeeping and grocery shopping are eating into everyone’s free time. Because time is valuable to both of you, it is best to be up front about what will be expected from each of you, so don’t be afraid to be specific and outline the chores to be done.

What’s the ultimate income goal and who is going to handle the financial matters? Perhaps even more important than time, is money. At least this seems to be the case in marriages as financial problems are the number one cause of divorce. So, be upfront about your expectations and ask about his or hers. It is better to know in advance where each expects to be financially two-, ten -, and even fifty years down the road. Also choosing the member of your new team who is best able to make that happen, will reduce stress over the length of your marriage.

couple-talkingHow much will our monthly bills cost us? Similarly, it is important to have a true understanding of all expenses that will come with your coming together as one. These costs may not be entirely obvious. It is safe to assume that anyone today will have some debt. He or she may also carry insurance policies (auto, life, home, etc.) that can quickly rack up. Calculating all of these expenses in advance can help to keep everyone on the same page.

What professional goals do you have and will they keep us apart often? Another matter linked to time is the professional aspirations of each spouse. It is important to know what is involved with the career that your partner wishes for. Are the commitments something that you can truly live with? He or she needs to be able to answer the same question about your goals in life.

How often do you expect to see your parents? Mine? Our friends? Finally, the other major claimant of time is the outside relationship. Whether it is parents, siblings, or friends, these outsiders will cost you and your soon-to-be spouse some of your time, but how much? Now is the best time to figure all of that out.

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Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, January 14, 2013

Is a Memorable Wedding Officiant Worth the Splurge?

Naturally… “I” would think so. I am an award winning Wedding Officiant.

HEARTthank-yous1Memorable? My former wedding clients think so. Rave reviews!

A special “Thank you” to them!

How do I know… they send me LoveNotes and write endorsements on WeddingWire.com, talk about me on The Knot and other social media sites.

Sad as it is to say, most of the wedding details that you work so hard on will be mere memories the next day. Some you won’t even remember. The food will be eaten, the dress put away, the monogrammed napkins crumpled, the flowers wilted and the party of the year – your reception (intended to celebrate the wedding ceremony) – will be a distance memory. Be smart. The reception is not the most memorable part of a wedding! Even the guests will tell you that. Sure, it’s great to have a terrific party but when you hire the right wedding officiant, the buzz at the reception should be about the wonderful wedding ceremony.

Don’t hire the first wedding officiant you find online. Take the time to find the right wedding officiant. I promise… it will be worth it.

When asked what most brides and grooms splurge on, seldom does “Wedding Officiant” even make the list. Trends come and go, but your wedding is all about the “wedding ceremony.” If hiring the best wedding officiant stretches your budget, make some cuts in other places. I wish could tell you how many of the brides and grooms that I have talked with that have either hired their “friend” – who backed out at the last minute or had never performed a wedding ceremony – or they hired the “cheapest” officiant they could find and lived to regret it.

mcneilI’ve seen couples splurge on over-the top cakes, a Hummer limousine, a killer honeymoon, or flowers galore. There is nothing wrong with that if you have bags of bucks. Don’t skimp on your wedding officiant. It never ceases to amaze me when someone calls and says, “So-and-so across town only charges $_____!” Comparing prices will seldom get you the right wedding officiant for your wedding. The price should not be the only determining factor. Comparing the words in their wedding ceremony, their willingness to change what you don’t like and their wedding experience will.

I’ve built my wedding career on integrity as a wedding officiant and by demonstrating the “Lagniappe Principle” to every client. Lagniappe has been defined as: an unexpected or indirect benefit or, giving what your clients pay for… and then some. Most are surprised at the level of knowledge and experience that I represent when we first meet. I can honestly say that I have never had a bride and groom who has complained that I didn’t give them much more than they expected. Many refer to the numerous awards I have won and this blog as a example, which – as of this writing – has more than 330 articles, tips, suggestions, add-on ceremonies, etc., about weddings.

weddingwire2013I know you are busy planning the party, but I ask you to remember the most important part of the day – the wedding ceremony. Remember this: “Your wedding ceremony IS your wedding!” If anything from your wedding day is going to be permanently etched on your brains, it’s got to be the moment you look into each other’s eyes and exchange your wedding vows. The ceremony is the reason you are planning this elaborate bash, right? Consider a wedding officiant who will promise to respect your specific wishes and beliefs; vows, readings and who can artfully guide your guests to a better understanding of you as a couple.

Don’t wait until the last minute to book your wedding officiant. The choice wedding dates for the really good ones go fast!

Being budget-conscious is a good thing and the truth is… sometimes the best wedding officiants costs more. Why? Because brides and grooms say they are worth it. I know I am not the most inexpensive wedding officiant, but my former brides and grooms say I am the best! I agree. 😉 You can always find someone cheaper… but better? Never!

Remember, your wedding ceremony is much more than just saying, “I do!”

So, what’s your wedding day splurge going to be?

Suggested reading: Larry’s “Romantic” Wedding Ceremony! ~ This ceremony has a touch of traditional with a few modern twists, a slight Spiritual tint (or not! – your choice) and an emphasis on lots of love and romance! In other words, anything goes – with your approval, of course!

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, January 10, 2013

Top Priority for Brides ~ Prioritize

Filed under: Guest Authors,Setting Priorites — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Shelly Stone, Guest Author

You and your fiancee have your collection of ideas and inspiration, you know what each of you wants so now it’s time to start putting these things in order and making your fantasies a reality!

PrioritizeThe first thing you’ll want to make sure of is that you don’t lose any of these ideas. Create a binder to keep notes, all your fun ideas and, later, all of your vendor contact information and contracts, timelines and other important paperwork. Everything should be readily available to you. Not only will this help you mentally, it will also keep you organized which will help you to feel cool, calm and collected.

This is also the step where you will prioritize all of your ideas to prepare to act upon them. This is necessary to make sure you, and your wedding dreams, don’t get lost in the whirlwind of wedding planning. Prioritizing the fruits of your brainstorming session can be simplified into three categories: non-negotiable, negotiable, and neutral.

Non-negotiable: These are the things that you WILL NOT change… no matter what! This is the areas for the “must haves” only. Example: your great-grandmother’s knife and server set that has been used in your great-grandmother’s, grandmother’s and mother’s wedding. This is non-negotiable!!

Negotiable: This is for the things that you want but are willing to forgo. Example: you really want to have Cold Stone creamery available to serve with your cake. You realize this may be quite expensive and are willing to give it up if it means you can have the ice sculpture for your shrimp appetizers.

Neutral: Here are the things that you are more impartial to. You would like to have these items, but won’t miss them if you don’t. Example: You really don’t care what wines are served at dinner…

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Copyright © 2013 by Shelly Stone. Signature Events by Shelly is a full service Event Design and Coordination company with dedication to every detail of your celebration from beginning to end. Based in Waupaca, Wisconsin, Shelly is a certified Professional Event and Wedding Planner through Scheffield School in New York and stays current with the latest industry trends. Visit Shelly’s Website.

Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Sunday, January 6, 2013

Help Us Break a Guinness Book of World Records…

This Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2013 married couples from all over the United States will be gathering at Fountain Hills Park in Fountain Hills, Arizona (a shade east of the Greater Phoenix area) to break the Guinness Book of World Records for the most couples Renewing their Marriage Vows.

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I will be performing a very “romantic” Renewal of Vows Ceremony for more than 2,000 couples in the amphitheater near “The Fountain” of Fountain Hills, Arizona. At 560 Feet, being one of the “World’s Highest Fountains” it is 5 feet taller than Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris. Fountain Park is a 64-acre passive recreation area and anchor to the town center.

fountain-hills-fountainSami Fine Jewelry, plus our amazing “Love in the Hills” sponsors, plan to smash the Guinness Book of World Records! Sami Fine Jewelry will be hosting “Love in the Hills”, the largest and most beautiful vow renewal ceremony in the world!

As of 2012, the “Miami Merger Moment”, held on June 20th 2009, renewed the vows of 1,087 couples. Deemed, the “Queen of Marketing”, Stephenie Bjorkman, owner of Sami Fine Jewelry, claims that Sami’s event, “Love in the Hills”, will crush that record!

Reminder: You must register to participate and to be eligible for the prizes! Details below.

Bjorkman is currently working day and night to assemble her troop of local businesses to help put together this amazing event. We are thrilled that the Town of Fountain Hills has donated the Fountain Hills Park as the ceremony location. The park features over 35 acres of turf, and has been named one of the most beautiful wedding locations in Arizona. “The Fountain Hills park is the perfect location for the vow renewal ceremony. Not only is it beautiful, but the park can easily hold thousands of people”, says Bryan Hughes, Supervisor of Recreation for the Town of Fountain Hills. “Besides, who wouldn’t want to renew their vows with the World Famous Fountain in the background?” exclaims Hughes.

Larry James, Award Winning Wedding Officiant, Professional Speaker, Relationship Coach, and author of the book “How to Really Love the One You’re With,” was interviewed by Barbara Walters on ABC TVs “The View,” and has stepped up as the Wedding Officiant for the event. Larry has performed wedding ceremonies for more than 600 couples. James sees the vision. “I can’t wait to make this the largest celebration of love in history,” say James. He is also President of CelebrateLove.com.

Wedding planner, and local florist Jerrod Alcaida from Nonny’s has also joined the team by offering their services for all participants. “As the event get’s closer, who knows how big the vow renewal ceremony will get. Weddings and flowers are what I do best, so I am just thrilled to be involved” say Alcaida.

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Sara Goodnick Photography will also be on site, taking romantic photos of all couples. “I plan to get a lot of rest, the night before”, states Goodnick. “I can’t wait to offer such a great memory to all participating couples. This will be an event of a lifetime!”

Fort McDowell Casino has jumped on board, and plans to provide an amazing “after party” for the couples at the Casino along with all of your favorite casino games. Fort McDowell Casino also offers a great place to stay at their adjacent hotel, The Radisson. “The casino has 5 restaurants on site, a fortune club, live events/entertainment, and plenty of gambling, which makes this the ideal hot spot for all of the couples to go after the vow renewal ceremony”, say Tom McGill, Chief Marketing Officer for Fort McDowell Casino.

Award winning DJ and Entertainer, Curtis Whipple, will provide the music and sound equipment.

This event will be completely FREE for couples to participate. If you are a couple that wants to renew your vows, prior registration will be required to participate and to be eligible for prizes. All couples that participate will receive a commemorative “Renewal of Vows” certificate of participation from Larry James, a coupon for a complimentary ring cleaning from Sami Fine Jewelry, a Family Relationship Profile for better communication, from John Hersey International, and all couples will receive a goody bag from participating businesses. “Every day I am getting more businesses asking me if they can participate. I have a feeling that by the time the event comes, the goody bags are going to be filled to the top with amazing free gifts!” says Bjorkman.

All “Love in the Hills” vow renewal attendees will automatically go into a drawing to win a BIG PRIZE Basket! One lucky couple will win a new set of wedding rings from Sami Fine Jewelry, a 3-night Honeymoon Stay at the Radisson at Fort McDowell, a portrait session from Sara Goodnick Photography, a huge floral arrangement from Nonny’s, a relationship coaching certificate (value $120) from Larry James along with a signed copy of his book, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” and many other gifts from local businesses.

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Gather all your married friends together for a Valentine’s Day event you will always remember… and renew your wedding vows for FREE! Major hotels are nearby. Make your reservations early! There will be specials from local restaurants so you can take your sweetheart to dinner after the event. And remember, there is an “after party” at Fort McDowell Casino!

Make your plans early as we are expecting nearly 5,000 people to participate and witness this record-breaking “Renewal of Vows” event!

For more information and to register, go to: http://www.LoveintheHills.com! You are welcome to call my cell if you have questions: 480-205-3694.

Special request: Please help us get the word out to married couples all over the U.S. by passing the link to this blog post to your friends! We look forward to seeing you on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2013.

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Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Skip Past a Receiving Line

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Most couples are skipping past a receiving line nowadays. When I ask couples if they are considering a receiving line about 9 out of 10 ask me what it is.

receivinglineA receiving line immediately follows the wedding ceremony and is for greeting each guest and thanking each one of them for coming to the wedding. It gives each one of your guests an opportunity to give their personal congratulations to the bride, groom, bridal party, mother of the bride, father of the bride, etc. The line also guarantees your guests a minute of face-to-face time with you, a chance to hug, kiss, and congratulate you both, and to say things like “We wish you the best,” etc. Generally the receiving line is formed immediately following the ceremony. Traditions like the receiving line are ultimately open to interpretation. Greeting the guests is a necessary part of your evening and should never be eliminated, however, depending upon the size of your guest list, you may opt to greet guests in other ways.

However… most brides and grooms think a receiving line is a time waster. Modern weddings mean modern approaches to traditional rules. A number of modern couples are questioning its usefulness for their own ceremonies. Large guest lists and big bridal parties can make for very long and time consuming receiving lines. Greeting guests you see on a daily basis can become redundant in this formal setting.

More and more brides and grooms choose to skip the receiving line, take a few moments for themselves (sneak away for a few moments and take a brief stroll to let what just happened sink in – have the caterer serve you an appetizer and a glass of champagne) and then hurry off with the photographer to take photos. Here’s another however… more and more brides and grooms are opting for a “First Look.” A first look allows the bride and groom to take some very special photos together BEFORE the wedding ceremony. Read more about that here. When you do the first look, this allows the bride and groom to do a “meet ‘n greet” and mingle with your guests during the cocktail hour. Because most couples rush to take photos after the ceremony, they miss the cocktail hour.

recepti022SideNote: Scheduling a brief time to take photos after the ceremony is okay… an hour us usually acceptable, however one bride and groom took an hour and forty minutes yo take photos after the ceremony. Many of the guests were having way too much to drink at the one hour and forty minute cocktail hour and a handful of couples became annoyed and left. Have a photo booth or something that serves to entertain those who do not drink at the cocktail hour.

Guests know that offering their congratulations to every single person in a receiving line immediately after the wedding ceremony is no fun for you. So here is my suggestion… nix the receiving line. Instead, after your finish your meal – you are served first – do “table visits” at the reception instead. Greet each of your guests in turn and thank them for joining you on this joyful occasion.

Important: Do table visits “together.” Remember, your guests want to congratulate you both! The idea of table visits is a very cool Chinese custom. Have your partner hold your hand or have an arm around your waist as you walk through the reception area chatting with guests as they eat. Some guests tend to be super chatty, so move along accordingly. Many guests want to meet both of you and will often want to snap a photo of you as a couple. This could also be a time when you have the photographer take snapshots of you and your guests.

Everyone wants to kiss and hug the bride and groom but no one wants to wait in line, so be considerate of your guests needs and choose the options for greeting your guests that will work best for your wedding.

BONUS Article: The Receiving Line – “NOT!”

Copyright © 2013 – Larry James. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

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