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Monday, December 17, 2012

Here’s a Secret About Wedding Music

Filed under: Music,Receptions,Wedding Music — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Great wedding music has nothing to do with hiring a live band over a Disc Jockey or vice versa.

Planning the perfect wedding day soundtrack – the kind that will have guest tearing up during the ceremony and packing the dance floor until the last song is played at the reception – has everything to do with keeping your guests happy and “entertained.”

dancingHow do you do this? Take a cue from the latest entertainment trends and work with your DJ or band to map out your wedding music – from the time your guests are seated at the ceremony to the last dance of the evening.

Struggling to conjure up thoughts of what you and your guests will be up to once your reception meal is over, and the night becomes young? Whether it’s putting your dancing shoes on for a live band, or dancing to the latest DJ CDs, there’s plenty of options to undertake to keep the action flowing. Many couples think that simply having a DJ, or bringing in a friend’s amateur band is a great and cost-effective way of saving money. Believe me… it’s never a good idea!

If you will be hiring a DJ, make sure that he/she is someone more than someone who just plays music. It’s not rocket science, but it takes skill, experience and a great personality to make a party happen the way you want. An in-depth interview is good but it will not tell you how good a DJ will interact behind the mike in front of a crowd. If he doesn’t have a “great” video showing him in action, shout, “NEXT!” and move on.

A cringe-worthy DJ can cause the reception to be a disaster! Weddings should focus on the bride and groom, not a DJ eager for the spotlight. He should be a Professional – a DJ/Emcee/Entertainer! Pick a DJ who can loosen up a crowd and pick up a lull in the party. He needs to be able to deal with a crowd that just won’t dance, while keeping the reception enjoyable. It’s his job to get the party started and keep people on the dance floor. No cheesy or out-of-date songs. Let the DJ know the kind of genre you’re interested in, but allow him to choose the best way to mix the music.

There’s no such thing as “one size fits all” when it comes to your wedding music. Collaborate with the DJ. Talk about the music you like and dislike. It takes careful preparation. Coordinate a precise sequence of events for him to follow during the reception. Give him a “no play” list. If a guest requests a song on the no play list he can diplomatically explain to guests that the song they requested is on the no-play list without making the requester feel bad.

Nothing can beat the quality of listening to a professional live band. You might be surprised by the musical depth a “good” band can offer. One indication of a bands versatility: the number of singers. If a band has both female and male singers chances are pretty good that they can perform a wide range of songs.

It’s always worth going the extra mile when it comes to evening entertainment. Spend some money for the very best entertainers you can afford.

Another reminder: Never hire a professional DJ at the last minute. Most of the really good ones book months in advance.

BONUS Article: Hire a DJ Just for the Music? I Don’t Think So!!

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