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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

You’re Married Now, Stop Hanging Out with Your Single Friends!!

Filed under: Opposite Sex Friends,Relationship Tips — Larry James @ 8:30 am

Is there anything wrong with having a close friend of the opposite sex after you’re married?

Wait… what?!

The idea that you and your spouse are a married couple and should work on replacing your single friends with other married couples is just ridiculous. It’s a great idea to have a mix of married and single friends so that when you decide to host a dinner or Super Bowl party there’s more than just one ‘type’ of person in your crowd. It will make for more interesting and dynamic conversation and an overall better time!

oppositesexfriendsWhile it’s true that some of your single friends may feel a little uncomfortable hanging out with someone who is married, I recommend maintaining friendships with both sexes after you are married. While the friendships were great during singlehood, in marriage, these relationships can prove problematic. The caveats? There are three things to remember:

1. Be sure your level of trust is high with your partner. Trust is foundational to a healthy marriage. If your partner is of a jealous sort or has trust issues, you may want to have a conversation with them to be sure that they are alright with you spending the evening with a friend of the opposite sex. Let’s face it, there are some things that you used to do that you may not want to do since you are now married. Your bar-hopping days are probably over. There is far to much temptation there. Most affairs begin as an innocent connection between two people.

2. Be sure that your single friend is not a bad influence on you. If they are, they become avoidable friends. Opposite-sex friendships are tricky and can be a direct threat to your marriage, but they don’t have to be. Be sure that the intentions of both the friend and your partner are pure.

3. Ask yourself, “Would you behave differently around your friend if your spouse were present?” “If you answered “yes” to this question, your opposite-sex friendship may be a real threat to the quality of your marriage. It may even be in the best interest of your marriage to either significantly limit or actually end your close friendship. In it’s place, it may be wise to nurture a “best friend” relationship with your spouse instead.

coupleundertreeFear comes not from the friendship, but in keeping the friendship non-sexual; which can be difficult given that 90 percent of the time one of the individuals has experienced romantic feelings for his/her friend. Time spent with the friend should never supersede time spent with your partner.

Here is one of the keys. Now that you are married there can be no secrets. It’s best to introduce your partner to your friend by all going out to dinner together. Ask how your partner feels about meeting with your friend.

There are compelling reasons to be cautious about opposite-sex friendships outside of your spouse’s company. No matter how happy and secure your marriage, you should always protect your relationship against temptation, deception and potential affairs.

So can women and men be friends? Of course they can. But there is a silent understanding that some friendships are meant to be nothing more, and as with all relationships, there are certain rules that need to be followed. There are things you can do only in a relationship with your partner, and things, which you can only do with your best friend. Maintain the dignity of those things to maintain the dignity of both your relationships as well, without messing up either of them.

It’s fine to have friends of the oppposite sex, but make sure that they know and spend time with both you and your spouse. Stop the private chit chats or e-mail. If you hang out with this friend, invite your spouse and any signifigant other of your friend as well. it’s important for every married couple to set some clear boundaries in terms of relationships with the opposite sex. These boundaries do not mean that you have to stop yourself from doing things that you like, but when you are handling a girlfriend and a female best friend, or a boyfriend and a male best friend, then you can’t be doing the same kinds of things with both of them.

In a truly healthy relationship, you can have both: the person you love, and the person you just love to hang out with.

Your thoughts?

BONUS Article: Can Spouses Have Friends of the Opposite Sex?
Friends Beyond Marriage, Part 1
Friends Beyond Marriage, Part 2

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, November 23, 2012

Clever Ideas (Photos) to Make Your Wedding Special

Filed under: Photos,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Some wedding images need no explanation.

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WedSignWeddingWoman.netLarry’s Note: These images were “borrowed” 😉 from Brenda Owen’s Facebook page with her permission! Brenda Owen is a wedding officiant and ordained minister. Brenda is best known in three states (SC, NC and GA) as the Wedding Woman because of her beautiful, romantic and memorable ceremonies. Brenda lives in Anderson, SC. Follow her on Pinterest, Twitter, Facebook and on her Website @ WeddingWoman.net!

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Monday, November 19, 2012

The Lasso Ceremony

Filed under: Add-on Ceremonies — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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The Lasso Ceremony unites Two Souls in the “Lasso” of Everlasting Love! This tradition is usually associated with Hispanic and Filipino families.

LassoCeremonyLasso (sometimes called, “lazo”) or rope is placed around the bride and groom’s shoulders (groom’s shoulder’s first) in the form of an “8” (the infinity symbol) – after they have exchanged their vows – to symbolize their everlasting union. This is usually done by the officiant, however, family members can also take part in this ritual. The couple wears the lasso throughout the remainder of the service.

It is sometimes made of rosary beads, white ribbon, orange flowers, fabric, silver, crystal or elaborately painted wood. It can also be placed around the couple’s necks, or wrists. If you have children; they may also be included as they will definitely be a part of the new family.

The Veil and the Lasso are both associated with a wedding prayer during the ceremony. Special additional members of the wedding party may be in charge of “lassoing” the Bride and Groom together after they kneel for the wedding prayer. They drape what is usually a white satin circle of cord around the shoulders of the kneeling Bride and Groom.

After the Lasso, the Veil is placed over the shoulders of the Groom and the shoulders or head and shoulders of the Bride. It may have to be pinned in place in order to stay. Thus tied together symbolically, the couple remains kneeling for the optional prayer.

After the prayer and before either attempts to rise, at the end of the ceremony, the lasso is removed by the same people who put it on and given to the bride as a memento of her becoming the mistress of the groom’s heart and home.

Different is good and added ceremonies like the Lasso Ceremony will keep the guests interested in the ceremony and make it very special for the Bride and Groom.

For more ideas and ceremonies that can be added to the Wedding Ceremony, click here!

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, November 15, 2012

5 Fabulous Facts About Diamonds

Filed under: Diamonds — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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The Taylor-Burton Diamond

Almost all women would happily admit that they love diamonds, but many of you might not know these 5 surprising facts about our “best friends”:

1. All diamonds are at least 990,000,000 years old. Many are 3,200,000,000 years old!

2. The largest engagement ring in history was given to Elizabeth Taylor by Michael Todd. Her amazing emerald-cut diamond ring weighed in at almost 69 carats.

3. The Victoria’s Secret’s Black Diamond Bra was set with 3,575 black diamonds, 117 round cut 1-carat diamonds and 2 black diamond drops. Value: $5,000.000.00. Designed by jeweler Martin Katz, the bra also features two black diamonds that total more than 100 carats. Talk about some serious bosom bling! (Larry’s Note: Photo not available at press time. ;-))

4. If you put a diamond on your tongue, your tongue will begin to cool because the diamond is the best conductor of heat (basically the diamond transfers the heat from your tongue into the air).

5. The first well-documented use of a diamond ring to signify engagement was by the Archduke Maximilian of Austria in 1477, upon his betrothal to Mary of Burgundy.

BONUS Article: Size Does NOT Matter… or Does it?

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Sunday, November 11, 2012

Accuracy of Your Wedding Guest List Helps You Stay On Budget

Filed under: Guest List — Larry James @ 8:00 am

It’s never too early in the wedding planning process to start talking about your guest list. Setting a realistic budget always comes first. Who is paying for the wedding?

guestlistIf your parents are paying the bill, you should talk to them about how many people they want to invite; some sensitive negotiation may be necessary here if they have 100 people, but you wanted to have a small wedding or vice versa. Depending on how much you trust your parents, letting them list out everyone they would ideally like to invite to the wedding gets everything out in the open.

Next, who is so important that you can’t imagine getting married without them there? Take your time on this one. Cuss and discuss it with each other. The size of the wedding venue may limit the amount you can invite.

The biggest mistake that guests often make is not returning RSVPs. Anyone who’s ever planned a wedding knows the importance of a punctual RSVP — from plotting your seating chart to giving the caterer a final headcount, it’s hard to proceed without a firm grasp of who’s coming. After about 10 days it’s time to give them a call. Recruit your maid of honor and several others in the wedding party to help you with phone duties if you’re really struggling with missing RSVPs. Or, better yet, send out a group e-mail (be sure to use a blind CC) saying that you need to know by a specific date if they’re planning on attending. Keep the tone nice, but firm.

RSVPWhen you put your deposit down on a venue for your wedding it is a good idea to have an accurate account of your guest list. It is easy to assume that you think you know the number you are going to invite but when you finally sit down to start listing the guests, it can change and usually increases. This can impact your budget.

WeddingGuestConnection.com is a free website that allows the bride to add, edit and delete her guests. You can start out with just the name of the guest but you can add the address, e-mail and phone at any time. Of course, phone and e-mail are optional. The website does have the ability to e-mail guests in different ways. If you know the e-mail, it doesn’t hurt to list it. Even if you want to stay with the traditional snail mail invitation, there may be other reasons to e-mail your guests. If an emergency happens where you have to postpone the wedding, it is easy to go in and e-mail the guests with this change.

The site keeps an accurate account of the headcount before and after the responses come in. The website includes the bride, groom, their children if any and the host and family. They often get forgotten when adding the number for meals. Meals become the big expense. There is a place to track seating and tables which is so appreciated by your venue.

The website, has a check list and a budget planner. It has a way to print invitations from 7 different free themes. It prints invitation envelopes along with response envelopes. It has a place to keep track of your gifts for thank you notes.

Copyright © 2012 – SAM S Sites. SAM S Sites is the owner and website designer/developer since 1995 for transNETMedia.com. When she became the mother of a bride for her only daughter she started WeddingGuestConnection.com and decided it was a great tool for brides and planners. She now shares it with the world.

Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Sign of the Times…

Meet Instagram

instagramA relevant sign of the times. Fun idea…so you can see the pictures your guests take during the wedding!

It’s a fast, beautiful and fun way to share your photos with friends and family.

Snap a picture, choose a filter to transform its look and feel, then post to Instagram. Share to Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr too – it’s as easy as pie. It’s photo sharing, reinvented.

Oh yeah, did we mention, Instagram is FREE?

Display a sign at your reception to let your guests know where to send the photos.

BONUS Article: Techie Ways to Share Your Wedding Photos

Photo Credit: Arizona’s Finest Wedding Sites and Services Magazine

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, November 3, 2012

Rushing the Future: The Worst Possible Idea for Newlyweds

Filed under: Newlyweds — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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As Elvis sang in his famous song “Only Fools Rush In.” When it comes to marriages, most would agree that these words define truth – marrying a person you hardly know can prove to be a thoughtless and sometimes even a dangerous decision.

Your marriage was different, right? It wasn’t a hasty act. You two had time to get to know each other, and the thought of marriage wasn’t something that you rushed. Like many, you married someone with whom you see yourself having children and growing old.

babyloveWait, what was that? Having children? Retiring? Getting old? It’s only natural to think of the future occasionally, but rushing things is the worst possible idea for newlyweds! Rushing the future may not just create an array of hard-to-meet expectations for your spouse, but alienate your significant other, creating feelings of anxiety that shouldn’t be there. You may even make your husband feel trapped in the marriage instead of being a happy member of the union. It’s a fact! Having children does change the complexion of the relationship. Do your best to prepare for those changes.

The first few years of marriage are crucial for every married couple. During those years, responsibilities are divided, finances are joined and the spouses learn each other’s habits, traits they may dislike, and nuances they may have missed during the dating period. The time of adjustment, which starts after the wedding and the honeymoon, can last anywhere from a few months for up to a year, depending on a couple. It is NOT a good time to make important financial decisions, such as buying a house, or life-altering decision such as having a child. Just let these things occur as naturally as possible.

PlanAheadIf, prior to the wedding, you and your fiancé created a “five-year plan” where you outlined all the steps you will be taking to achieve certain goals during the first five years of marriage, remember that unforeseen circumstances can significantly alter your plans or make it impossible to achieve your set goals in such a short period of time. Perhaps you envisioned your family building its future in a different location, provided one of you found a new job there, and, due to a difficult economic situation and job market flooded with great candidates, the two of you are unable to find anything. Once again, rushing things will only create stress on your marriage. Things will work out in due course.

The best thing you can do during the first year or two of your marriage is to take things slowly, listen to your partner, and communicate and spend quality time together while continuing to maintain your own interests and circle of friends.

The future is inevitable. Just focus on loving each other and let it happen!

Copyright © 2012 – MissNowMrs.com. Reprinted from the NewlyWed Blog.

Larry James is a non-denominational Wedding Officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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