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Tuesday, October 30, 2012

It’s Your 1st Dance as Wife and Husband – Make it Special

Filed under: First Dance,Wedding Video — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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One of the first steps of choosing a first dance tune is to try to find a song that matches the way that you feel about each other or relates to a past moment in your lives together. If you don’t already have a song in mind, ask your dance instructor or reception DJ for suggestions. Try to limit the dance to about 2 minutes – any longer will seem like an eternity. Before anything else you need to choose “your song.”

first danceThere is no right or wrong answer to what you choose. Whatever your taste, there is a song that will perfectly reflect you as a couple. Do you have a special song? If not, start by listening to music. Look for something special.

The first dance is expected. It’s traditional. You have to dance. If you want your first dance to be different, consider not choosing “At Last” by Etta James. While it’s a beautiful song with wonderful words it’s the all-time most played wedding first dance song ever. Choose an unexpected or different song to surprise your guests.

Before you make your final choice of first dance song, be sure to listen to, and preferably also read, the words of the song. It’s amazing how many romantic-sounding songs turn out to be less appropriate than you might think.

Learning to dance is an essential part of Wedding Day planning. Don’t think of it as just another box on your bridal checklist. You and your dance moves will be on display with all eyes on you. How long has it been since you danced together? If you are an excellent dancer… is your partner? A way to make your first dance an unforgettable part of the most important day of your life is to practice dancing together. This is not “Dancing With the Stars!” It’s just you two. Time to talk about the first dance. Test your moves at home first. Have a glass of wine, turn on the stereo, and boogie!

So what’s the secret to the perfect First Dance? Partnership. It takes two to tango and you have to be able to move together as a unified body. Having a unique first dance does not mean you have to perform a never before seen masterpiece. Due to the significance of this dance, couples are increasingly going that extra mile to make it unique and special. If you are worried that you’re not such a great dancer, sign up for a few dance lessons at your local dance studio.

A fun option might be to have your dance instructor come to your wedding and give all your guests a few lessons. You can start the evening with a group lesson and when you are warmed up and the ice is broken, clear the floor and start your first dance. has numerous instructional videos teaching beginners how to dance. Remember, not only will you have a first dance, you will also be involved in the father-daugher dance and many others.

Thanks to the popularity of YouTube videos featuring surprising twists on the traditional first dance, many couples now start out with a slow, traditional first dance song and then switch it up in the middle by changing to a fast, paced dance song. Watch the video.

Surprise your parents. After the first dance is over, have the disc jockey or band play the song your parents danced to at their wedding and let them dance alone.

When a couple decides to get married and are planning the wedding, rarely will the choice of the first dance be top of their priorities when it comes to decisions that they have to make. I hope you will change that. Surprise and delight your family and friends with a fabulous first dance worthy of your special day!

BONUS Article: Put on Your Dancing Shoes!
How To Make Your First Dance One To Remember
Interesting Choices for First Dance Songs

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