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Friday, September 28, 2012

Bride and Groom Advice Coasters

Filed under: Favors,Receptions,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

ReceptionIDEABridalHotspotWhat a fun way to leave some “words of wisdom” and marriage tips for the newly marrieds – and create a unique guest book at the same time! They usually come in a 3.5 inches circle. Some are printed to coordinate with your wedding colors.

Instead of having the coasters available on the guest book table, I suggest that in order for the guests to have time to think about what they would like to write that you have several assistants pass among the guest tables handing each adult a coaster and let them know that there is a box on a table near the exit for them to deposit their advice. They should also hand out pens.

adviceCoasterIf you have them printed with the names of the Bride and Groom, always print the Bride’s name first. Most wedding favors, including advice coasters, napkins, matchbooks, favor bags, favor boxes and ribbon, are printed with a design or monogram with the bride and groom’s first name and wedding date printed below the design or monogram.

Advice coasters are a perfect addition to your wedding celebration and a great way to keep another memory from your special day.

Do a Google search for “Bride and Groom Advice Coasters” to find a resource to purchase the style you like best.

For a few extra cents, you can order glass coasters. Coasters prevent damage to furniture from sweating glasses and cups. You can purchase them in a variety of materials and styles, or you can make them yourself. Some coasters come with a place to put a photo under the glass; perhaps an engagement photo would be nice. When planning your wedding, you can provide each guest with a set of two decorative coasters to commemorate the event.

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, September 24, 2012

Don’t Get Married…

Filed under: Marriage Tips!,Personal Growth,Relationship Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Here are a few good reasons to NOT get married and a few things that you can expect to change if you do.

Don’t get married if one of your highest priorities is to change your partner. That will not work! People change because they want to not because someone else wants them to.

Don’t get married if YOU are not willing to make some changes in your behavior. Some people have a difficult time adjusting to married life when they have been single so long. Others think that they can continue going out with the guys or going out with the gals after they are married. Having friends is encouraged outside of your marriage, however doing the same rowdy things you used to do as singles seldom fits the new lifestyle of newly married couples.

Special note to guys & gals: Settling down with one woman/man eliminates the wide selection of women/men and the thrill of the chase. Leave your ex boyfriends and girlfriends alone. There are no “hall passes” in marriage. You shouldn’t take chances when another person’s life, money, health, and future are in your hands.

Don’t get married if you are not willing to make your relationship the highest priority that you both work on.

Don’t get married yet if the fear of living with someone for the rest of your life is present. OR if you fear that your significant other turn from a Dr. Jekyll to a Mr. Hyde shortly after the chime of the wedding bells? It would be better if you postpone the wedding for awhile until you get to the real issue of what causes this fear. Wedding day jitters is an expensive angst that can be avoided. One of the challenges that I work with when coaching newly married couples is that now that they are married they often stop sending the romantic greeting cards or doing the things that brought them together in the first place. They begin taking each other for granted and suddenly they are again two singles living in the same house. That is NEVER a good idea.

“Relationships are something that must be worked on all the time, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed.” ~ Larry James

Don’t get married if you think a getting married is a license to to belch and fart more openly after getting married.

Don’t get married if the only reason is that you are tired of the dating scene.

Don’t get married if the only reason is that you think that you should get married. There is no shame in being single.

Don’t get married yet if you are so focused on your career that is has become an obsession. Your partner would be a better obsession.

Don’t get married yet if you can’t afford it. Getting married is often very costly. On average, couples that live in Maricopa, AZ (County) spend between $19,175 and $31,959 on their wedding. Make a plan to save the money while you are single. It’s considered okay to ask your guests for money if this is your second marriage and you don’t want to end up with 3 coffee makers, etc. Scale down your wedding celebration. Consider a quick wedding with a few special friends and family and have a big celebration when you can afford it. Nearly 90% of all divorces in the first 7 years are caused by money problems (usually a lack of it)! Marriage is expensive, but so is divorce.

eldercouplehavingfunDon’t get married just because you need health insurance. Marriage is much more than that.

“What really changes when you get married? People will stop asking you when you are getting married and start asking when you’ll start having kids!” ~ Larry James

Don’t get married if you are selfish. If you’ve been single for a long time you may find yourself doing what you want to do when you want to do it. That has got to change.

The true enemy of love is not hate, but selfishness.” ~ Brother Tyson Moore of Crenshaw Church of Christ in Los Angeles

Don’t get married yet if you feel you will loose the spontaneity you enjoyed as a single. Married people have a diluted and compromised idea of spontaneity. It doesn’t have to be that way. Yes, you do have a partner now to be spontaneous with, however when you are willing to compromise you will find that if your partner want to do something quickly, you may want to make an agreement that next time we can do what you want to do. You picked the activity last week, he gets to pick it this week.

Don’t get married if you are afraid your marriage will fail. Some do, it’s true, however when two people really love each other and will each hold each other to the promise of doing everything possible to make it work… it can work. Relationship coaching is a great idea. Some do it for preventative maintenance. Those couples are called very wise.

Don’t get married if you think that if marriage doesn’t work out for you, you can always get a divorce. While that is true, going into a marriage with that attitude is setting yourself up for disappointment.

Don’t get married if the only reason is you want children. When children come along, things really change. Everything you do revolves around your baby. Some husbands get jealous of the time the baby takes their wives, time which they can’t devote to them any longer. Seeking a balance in the relationship must be a priority. Agreements must be made BEFORE you get married. Do you want children? Who shops for groceries? Do you want pets? Who will take care of them? If you both are of different religions, which Church (Temple, Synagogue, Mosque, etc.) will your children attend?

Don’t get married if you’re lonely and think getting married will “fix” your life. It won’t! You must learn to love yourself first! It is not possible to give love to your partner if you don’t have love for yourself. I repeat: do not get married if you’re lonely and think getting married will “fix” your life.

Marriage is more that just being in love or loving someone. Love is not enough. Marriage means you’re keeping the best interests of two people in mind during every decision. It’s sharing the TV remote. It’s having respect for your partner and doing the little things that will make life better for both of you. Respect is the most important part of a relationship, because no matter how much you love each other, life throws surprises at you, and it’s important that you make decisions together. You get to start posting photos of what you made for dinner on Facebook. You get to share the housework. You get to accept responsibility for who you are being in the relationship. Marriage is a big commitment and saying that you want to spend your entire life with someone is often scary. A successful marriage is hard work. You must learn to laugh a lot. Sometimes at yourself!

“List five things you don’t like about your intended. Then decide whether or not you can live with these things in the long term. If you can’t think of five things, then you either don’t know your partner well enough, or you are not paying close enough attention. If you can identify five things, but you expect them to get better once you say ‘I do,’ you don’t understand marriage well enough to get involved.” —Judge Lynn Toler of Divorce Court, author of My Mother’s Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius

When you get married you can’t do everything the way you always did. You have to learn to give and take. Your partner becomes the mirror in which you see yourself. There will be times when you may feel unloved. This is when having an agreement to have no undelivered communication will come to the rescue. Have an agreement (this is important!) to talk about anything and everything, all the time… and in the most loving way you can muster. You get to remember important dates, like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. They are part of being married. Always remember, when you fell in love, you chose each other. Also remember that there may be times when you need to choose each other all over again. You need to know that marriage is a choice you have to make every day.

CoupleCuddling“Hey gals, if you are going to bitch, bitch to his mother, not yours. His mother will forgive him. Yours never will.” ~ Lydia Netzer

Keep the intimacy in your relationship alive! This sense of closeness offers a kind of communication that goes far beyond words. The road to intimacy is paved with empathy. Get really good at making love. You should make it your life’s mission to become the perfect sex machine for your partner. It makes “everything” so much better. Sex is fun and pleasure is good for you. Kiss and cuddle often. Do spoons without making love. Make sure you and your partner are both on the same page when it comes to making love. Anyone can have sex. Making Love is special.

It’s important to remind yourself every day why you love your spouse, and be aware of what you really want out of your marriage. When problems do occur it will help you both when you know why you love your partner. A marriage based on friendship allows you to be the true person that you are. You must learn the important skill of really listening to your partner. Always make important decisions together. Be your partner’s cheerleader, not critic!

And finally, the core reason for getting married should be because you are deeply in love and want to grow old together, for better or worse. And you make each other a promise to always be awake in your relationship to times when there are lingering differences or growing distance so you can both work quickly to find workable solutions.

Opps! Oh, yes… one more finally, always remember: There is nothing that cannot be forgiven!

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Photo credit: Older couple on the beach – Corbis Corporation

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, September 20, 2012

Message in a Bottle – Take 2!

Filed under: Receptions,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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What a great idea? Here is another idea for your reception that you can use along with your wedding guest book.

messageinabottleAsk your guests to take a few minutes during your reception celebration to write some marriage tips, special notes, etc., for the bride and groom and ask them to slip them in the year bottle of their choice. Guests are encouraged to write several notes for more than one bottle. After the reception, each bottle is sealed with a cork.

LoveNotesPrint some brief forms on slips of paper that has a place for the guest’s message and their name.

On the anniversary of year that appears on the bottle, the couple will open and read the messages to each other.

Instead of numbering the bottles 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 10, 15, etc. You could number them 1 through 5, then call Larry James to perform his “Renewal of Vows” ceremony on your 5th anniversary, then have 5 more bottles available for your guests to start the the process all over again: 6 through 10, etc. You could keep this going for many years to come! 😉

To expand on this idea, you could choose to pick a few special notes from your 5th anniversary bottle – written by guests who attended your original ceremony – and read a few of them during your “Renewal of Vows” ceremony.

Be sure to have your Master of Ceremonies make several announcements to your guests so they won’t miss this opportunity to pass along their special “Love Notes,” advice, etc.

BONUS Articles: Message in a Bottle
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Wine Box & Love Letter Ceremony

Photo Credits: (Upper left) – Unknown (If you know the photographer of this photo, please let me know so I can give proper credit.)
(Lower right) – Photo by Geoff Duncan

Larry’s NOTE: A special “thank you” to Brenda Owen, WeddingWoman.net for this great idea! Check Brenda’s Facebook page. The photos originally appeared on StyleMePretty.com.

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Sunday, September 16, 2012

Tempted to go to a Justice of the Peace? Think Again!

I wouldn’t recommend a JP if you want a memorable wedding ceremony. If you were going to call a Justice of the Peace, you get a cheap wedding, a civil ceremony that lasts a few minutes, an official pronouncement and that’s about it! Not very memorable for such an important day in your life.

KissnGoPROMOAs a full-time, professional Wedding Officiant, I often get phone calls asking if I am a Justice of the Peace. My truthful answer is always, “No.” However, here is your opportunity to get a very special, quick, intimate, affordable and legal “romantic” wedding ceremony that far exceeds the reach of an officer of the court. It’s also a terrific idea if you are thinking of eloping.

Large fancy weddings are very expensive… beautiful, memorable and more, but expensive. On average, couples who live in Maricopa County, AZ (the Greater Phoenix area) spend between $19,175 and $31,959 on their wedding. You should expect to pay, on average, 50% to 100%+ more when choosing well-experienced professionals, designer labels, popular event locations, unique or custom products and services. The amount you pay may also be affected by the number of guests you invite.

If you are looking for a quick way to save some $$$s, I have created a very special for those of you who just want to get married and would normally call a Justice of the Peace.

My “romantic” wedding ceremony is a great Justice of the Peace alternative. AND you don’t have to go through a metal detector and security screeners to get to the JP. It’s call a “Kiss ‘n Go” romantic wedding ceremony.

Here’s what you get with a Larry James “Kiss ‘n Go” Ceremony:

• A speedy 10 minute (or less – your choice) “romantic” wedding ceremony (no customization, no sand ceremony, extras, etc.)
• A copy of the ceremony on parchment paper as a keepsake
• A “
Relationship Coaching Certificate” (Value: $120.00)
• A Marriage Certificate from Larry James
• One digital photo taken after the wedding and sent by e-mail.
• Larry James will register your marriage license with the County Court Clerk the first business day after your ceremony
• And that’s it!

Here is what you need to do:

• Show up (on time)! I will tell you where we will meet.
• Provide the Marriage License
• Provide two witnesses (AZ law says: Must be 18 year of age or older)
• Limit your wedding party to no more than 4 people (plus the Bride and Groom)
• Bring the wedding rings (not required)
• Stand together for the ceremony – You may write some of your own vows
• Sign the marriage license with 2 witnesses
• Kiss ‘n Go!

My “Kiss ‘n Go” Ceremony is a limited offer and is subject to my availability. I am often available on short notice on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and sometimes on Thursdays. Weddings on Friday, Saturday and Sundays are limited and reserved for large weddings at Hotels and Resorts.

This offer is not available at hotels, resorts or wedding venues, on holidays, on special days (e.g., 12/12/12, Valentine’s Day, etc.) or on weekends. Friday, Saturday and Sundays are reserved for weddings at Hotels and Resorts.

CoupleKissingNo rehearsal is necessary. You will set up your wedding by telephone (no meeting). Casual dress (your option). No Covenant Marriage Ceremonies with this offer. The wedding will be in Scottsdale, AZ only.

Larry’s NOTE: Most of my weddings are at Hotels and Resorts. If you will be having a wedding at a Hotel or Resort, give me a call. I can give you lots of great ideas to make your wedding and your wedding ceremony something that your guests will be talking about for years to come. Really! These ceremonies have a touch of traditional with a few modern twists, a slight Spiritual tint (or not!) and an emphasis on lots of love and romance! It is my most popular ceremony. It is always customized to fit your specific needs. Anything goes! It’s “your” day and you get to say what is in your ceremony! The “romance” is in the details!

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Brilliant Ideas for Table Numbers at the Reception

Filed under: Receptions,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Although numbers are the classic choice, you don’t have to settle for a plain ole’ white card with a number on it! There are many great alternatives out there.

AgetablenumbersOne of the most clever ideas I’ve come across for unique table numbers is showcasing a picture of the bride and groom on each table number with their age corresponding with the number. For example; on Table 8 there will be a picture of the bride and groom at 8 years old and at table 15 a picture of the bride and groom at age 15, etc. The more humorous the photos the better. Your guests will get a kick out of these quirky table numbers. Not only will this be an adorable way to personalize your wedding, but it will also act as a conversation starter to get your guests talking.

tn2Ask your photographer to take a few photos of you holding up numbers during your engagement session. Another couple really thought “outside the box” when they created their “reversible” table number images! (Photo on right)

There’s more than one way to help your guests find their tables. You don’t have to choose numbers. Instead of using numbers, try coming up with creative names for each of your tables. You can choose romantic objects or something that will reflect the personality of the couple. Printing words such as love, kiss, etc., names of cities, etc., names of colors, names of your favorite musicians or your favorite flower (Tulip, Daffodil, Crocus, Lily, Forsythia, Dogwood, Iris) can be nice too. Having each table named after a place you’ve been, where you went on our 1st date, where you live, where you’re going on our honeymoon also works.

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As the guests entered the room, the dinner staff stood at attention near each table with a numbered towel instead of a placard on a stand. A special “Thank you” to Curtis Whipple for this idea!

TableNumbersFor a romantic wedding, print the word “love” in different languages. In the fall, carve medium-sized pumpkins with table numbers and illuminate with votive candles.

Displaying your table numbers in a fun and surprising way is yet another great way to personalize your event and further enhance your guests’ experience. For other great ideas, put “ideas for table numbers at wedding reception” in Google and pick your favorite idea.

BONUS Articles: Ideas for Table Names and Numbers – 68 Photos.
Reception Seating…

Photo Credits: Top left, SlimmingDownForTheGown.com
Bottom left, Bridal Hotspot
Lower right, Curtis Whipple, Wedding Entertainer

NOTE from Larry James: A special “Thank you!” to Brenda Owen of WeddingWoman.net for inspiring this article.

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Saturday, September 8, 2012

“I Didn’t Know He Snored!”

Filed under: Snoring — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Snoring is a funny problem only in a comedy sketch, but there’s nothing funny about it when you’re with a partner that snores. The husband snores. The wife nudges him to flip over. Both wake up feeling grouchy the next morning. Snoring is annoying.

snoring-sleep-apneaThe intimacy of a good marriage can be destroyed by snoring. If one spouse snores so loudly that it wakes up other, that’s a problem that must be solved. The non-snoring spouse will probably not be able to get back to sleep. If it is available, they may move to a guest room. But no one really wants to leave their spouse and sleep alone. If this goes on night after night, it can break down an otherwise good relationship.

By the way… women snore too! However, no matter who is the culprit, snoring can wreck a good night’s sleep and cause some serious resentment in the morning. Try to figure out what causes the snoring: allergies, dry air or laying on his/her back and then fix the situation. Simply popping a decongestant or buying a humidifier could be your solution or one of you may need to get some ear plugs. If, after trying some of our suggestions, the snoring situation is still leading to sleep deprivation make a doctor’s appointment. There are medical conditions that can cause snoring and you want to make sure your best beloved is diagnosed and treated.

Snoring is a fairly common affliction, affecting 40 percent of men and 25 percent of women. If you snore, you make a raspy, rattling, snorting sound while you breathe during sleep. In spite of its frequency, snoring is a sleep disorder that can have serious medical and social consequences.

Is separate rooms the solution? Statistics from the National Sleep Foundation about snoring and sleep apnea say 90 million Americans are affected by snoring. A study by the National Sleep Foundation found that about 24 percent of couples sleep in separate rooms and many couples who sleep separately are reluctant to discuss it. The National Sleep Foundation found that more than a third of respondents admit that their partner’s disruptive sleep habits have affected the quality of their relationship.

When snoring gets out of control, some couples resort to sleeping in separate beds, which is never good for any relationship. Sleeping in the same bed as your partner is an extremely important part of an intimate relationship. When couples start sleeping in separate beds, it can have drastic effects on emotional and sexual relations. Not to mention, it does not set a great example for their children and often “outsiders” get the wrong idea about the couple’s relationship.

snoreThe point is that snoring is a symptom of a serious underlying condition. But you don’t have to continue to suffer! Get help, stop snoring and get sleep now. Here are a few ideas that may help, however consulting a specialist in sleeping disorders or sleep apnea is your best bet. Sleep apnea is a serious health problem that should be treated.

1. Sleep on Your Side – You’re more likely to snore if you’re lying on your back, and sleeping on your stomach is stressful on your neck.

2. Lose Weight – Excess body weight, especially around the neck, puts pressure on the airway, causing it to partially collapse.

3. Avoid Alcohol and Tranquilizers – Both alcohol and sleeping pills can depress your central nervous system and relax the muscles of your throat and jaw, making snoring more likely. These substances are also known to contribute to sleep apnea, a dangerous condition that has been linked with cardiovascular disease. And they should never, ever be used together. If you have difficulty sleeping without sleeping pills (or if you use alcohol to help yourself fall asleep), discuss it with your doctor.

4. Get Your Allergies Treated – Chronic respiratory allergies may cause snoring by forcing sufferers to breathe through their mouths while they sleep. Taking an antihistamine just before bedtime may help. If your nose is stuffed up, try using an over-the-counter saline spray or a humidifier.

5. Buy a Mouth Guard – Your dentist or doctor may be able to prescribe an antisnoring mouth guard that holds the teeth together and keeps the lower jaw muscles from becoming too lax.

6. Stop Smoking – Smoke damages the respiratory system.

7. Keep a Regular Schedule – Get plenty of sleep. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day.

8. Elevate Your Head – Sleeping with your head raised may take some of the pressure off of the airway, making breathing easier. Raise the head of the bed by putting blocks under the bed posts, or prop up your upper body (not just your head, which can actually inhibit breathing) with pillows.

snoring1Excessive snoring may also indicate that you have sleep apnea, a serious sleep disorder. The National Sleep Foundation (www.sleepfoundation.org) recommends that you see your doctor if:

• You wake up during the night choking and gasping for breath
• You have been told that your snoring is disturbing to others
• You don’t feel refreshed when you wake up
• You are extremely tired during the day
• You wake with a headache
• You are gaining weight
• You have trouble concentrating, remembering, or paying attention
• Your bed partner notices that your breathing pauses during sleep

A common mistake… ignoring your partner’s complaints about your snoring. That’s bad news for two reasons – your snoring could ruin his/her sleep, and it could be affecting your own health. The research that links snoring and sleep apnea to serious medical problems continues to pile up. Just recently, researchers at NYU Langone Medical Center in New York City found that loud snorers developed symptoms of dementia 10 years earlier than people who don’t snore – and that getting treatment for snoring helped delay the onset of dementia. Talk to your doctor about getting tested for sleep apnea. Treatment (ranging from losing weight to the us of a breathing machine, among other options) can reduce dementia risk.

It’s important to have sleep apnea treated, not only because it interferes with your daily functioning, but because it boosts your risk of vascular disease. Sleep apnea can be treated with lifestyle modification, surgery, oral mouth guards, or a CPAP machine, which blows air into the back of your throat while you sleep.

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Interesting Choices for First Dance Songs

Filed under: First Dance — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Find the perfect first dance wedding song – a song that tells your love story, a song about your commitment to each other, a special song that will remind you of your special day for years to come. First dance music sets the tone for the show of affection that a newly married couple does in front of an audience.

Decide how fast or uptempo of a first dance song you want. Discus your song choice with your disc jockey or band. They have hard ’em all. They also can talk about guest reaction to songs they have played. Don’t be afraid to strut your stuff. Most people choose something relatively slow with a 4/4 beat, because that’s the easiest to dance to. Put on a few random tunes and dance in your living room to see what feels right. Even three minutes can seem like an eternity when you’re out there on the dance floor with everyone watching. If the song is longer that three minutes, ask you disc jockey to edit the music to the time you feel most comfortable with.

Some couples will take dance lessons before their big day. A great idea if you have a tendency to step all over your partners feet. You should always do a few practice dances to see how you feel with the music you choose.

Here are a few first dance song choices to consider.

“Speechless,” Lady Gaga
“You Got What I Need,” Joshua Radin
“Stay With You,” John Legend
“Dreams-Come-True-Girl,” Cass McCombs
“You and Me,” Penny and the Quarters
“Bout Time,” Louis Armstrong
“Cause I love You,” Lenny Williams
“Til A Tear Becomes A Rose,” Keith Whitley
“Til Kingdom Come,” Coldplay
“Til The Twelth of Never,” Johnny Mathis
“(Everything I Do) I Do It For You,” Bryan Adams
“Just the Way You Are,” Bruno Mars
“All I Need,” Radiohead
“You’re My Best Friend,” Queen
“Angel Dream,” Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers
“With Whom to Dance,” Magnetic Fields
“I’m Sticking With You,” The Velvet Underground
“I’m Kissing You” from the “Romeo + Juliet” soundtrack, Des’Re
“Anyone Else But You,” The Moldy Peaches
“Part One,” Band of Horses
“California Stars,” Billy Bragg and Wilco
firstdance1“Earth Angel,” Death Cab for Cutie
“I’m Yours,” Jason Mraz
“Strangers,” The Kinks
“Dancing,” Elisa
“This Love” from the “Cruel Intentions” soundtrack, Craig Armstrong featuring Elizabeth Fraser
“No Ordinary Love,” Sade
“Wagon Wheel,” Old Crow Medicine Show
“You and Me,” Lifehouse
“Is This Love,” Whitesnake
“I Only Have Eyes for You,” Mercury Rev
“This Must Be the Place (Naive Melody),” Talking Heads
“Un-thinkable (I’m Ready),” Alicia Keys
“Besame Mucho” from the “Great Expectations” soundtrack, Cesaria Evora
“Lost in This Moment,” Big & Rich
“On Bended Knee,” Boyz II Men
“Too Lost in You,” Sugababes
“When You Say Nothing at All,” Alison Krauss and Union Station
“Better Together,” Jack Johnson
“Just Breathe,” Pearl Jam
“Thank You for Loving Me,” Bon Jovi
“Marry Song,” Band of Horses
“Thirteen,” Big Star

And… everyone’s favorite: “At Last,” Etta James or for something different, Beyonce has another version of this great classic. This song makes a lot of best first dance song lists, and Louis Armstrong’s “What a Wonderful World” isn’t far behind.

Long after your wedding day you’ll recall the first song you danced to as newlyweds because music is such a powerful recollection tool, it instantly solidifies the memory of your wedding. It might take a little time to find the perfect first dance song, but the good news is that you can have lots of fun doing so and there are hundreds of songs to choose from. The song you choose says a lot about you as a couple.

Check this site out: Click here for a special Website where you can listen to brief snippets of several hundred songs and view the lyrics.

BONUS Article: Put on Your Dancing Shoes!

Photo Credit: Top left, Jennifer Bowen Photography

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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