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Friday, August 31, 2012

The History of the Flower Girl

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The flower girl brings beauty, innocence, and wishes for healthy children to the wedding ceremony and she melts our hearts with each step she takes. She walks down the aisle in front of the bride, dropping flower petals, which symbolize fertility. The petals are usually red rose petals. Originally, the petals may have also been used to ward off evil spirits, so the flower girl walking in front of the bride would protect her on her wedding day.

flowergirl2She is the cutest thing you’ve ever seen in her little white dress with a pink sash and matching flower basket, but the flower girl’s history is based on more than just heart-melting “aws” from your guests.

The “flower” girl first made her appearance in weddings in Ancient Rome when she would carry wreaths of herbs and wheat down the aisle which symbolized prosperity and fertility for the bride and groom. During the Medieval period, a young girl carried garlic down the aisle which was said to ward off evil spirits – talk about pre-wedding jitters!

During one of her many centurial makeovers, the flower girl that is now classic to the modern wedding world evolved through the Victorian beauty and sentiment nurtured through Queen Victoria herself. Their dresses were white with a colored ribbon sash and they carried baskets of flower petals to sprinkle down the aisle before the bride made her grand entrance.

Fast forward a few hundred years: In modern times, brides often select flower girl attire that mirrors their own beautiful wedding gown. The flower girl is often dressed as a “mini-bride” to symbolize the transition of the bride from little girl into womanhood. Some brides choose to put their flower girls in colored frocks. She is a whimsical reminder to all on-lookers of how magical and brief is innocence and childhood.

kissingballInstead of dropping flower petals, many flower girls blow bubbles going down the aisle. Others throw confetti or carry teddy bears. Items such as herbs, grains, and garlic have been scattered by the little ones over the years. These items have been used as a calling for fertility as well as keeping evil spirits at bay. They will often wear halos or carry a kissing ball – often called a pomander.

Kissing balls are an alternative to baskets of flowers or scattering rose petals. They are balls that are made out of real, silk or paper flowers. Many churches will not allow fresh rose petals to be dropped, since they can damage carpet. They can also be dangerous if there is a bare floor; the possibility exists for a person to slip and fall.

Although the meaning behind having a flower girl has changed drastically over the centuries, I think we can all agree: thank goodness she no longer carries garlic!

BONUS Articles: An Age Guide to the Little Ones in Your Wedding
Here Comes the Flower Girl!

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, August 27, 2012

Why the Third Finger, Left-hand?

Filed under: Ring Bearer,Wedding Rings — Larry James @ 7:50 am
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Tradition!! A wedding ring signifies an eternal love, eternal commitment and (hopefully) eternal happiness. Wedding rings today are a billion dollar sentiment of love, but no one can really say for sure when this age old tradition actually started. Some believe that the oldest recorded exchange of wedding rings comes from ancient Egypt, about 4800 years ago.

ring-fingerIn ancient times, it was believed there was a vein in the third finger of the left hand that ran directly to the heart. Thus, the ring being placed on that finger, denoted the strong connection of a heartfelt love and commitment to one another. Although during times of modern autopsy, this long held belief was found not to be so, however the tradition continued to this day.

Medieval bridegrooms place the ring on three of the bride’s fingers, in turn, to symbolize, God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. The ring then remained on the third finger and has become the customary ring finger for English-speaking cultures. In some European countries, the ring is worn on the left hand before marriage, and is moved to the right hand during the ceremony.

However, in most European countries the ring is still worn on the brides left hand. A Greek Orthodox bride wears her ring on her left had before marriage, and moves it to her right hand after the ceremony.

engagement-ring-and-wedding-bandIf a bride has an engagement ring, sometimes during the ceremony it will be removed and the wedding ring is placed on the ring finger first and then the engagement ring. Tradition says that the wedding ring should the closest ring to the heart. In my ceremonies, usually the bride leaves the engagement ring on during the ceremony, the groom places the wedding ring on and then after the ceremony – preparation for the wedding photos – the wedding ring is placed on first and then the engagement ring.

Why? That way the ring bearer (often a small child) doesn’t have the responsibility of caring 3 rings; the groom’s ring, the wedding ring and the engagement ring. I recommend that if a small child is the ring bearer, he or she carries a pillow with fake rings and the best man carry the the groom’s ring and the bride’s ring. The Maid of Honor usually doesn’t carry any rings in my ceremonies because she will be carrying her own bouquet, the bride’s bouquet and she has no pockets.

In the United States, United Kingdom, Ireland, Canada, Australia, Mexico, Brazil, Iran, Chile, Italy, France, Sweden, Slovenia and other Commonwealth nations an engagement ring is generally worn on the left hand. In other countries such as Germany, Greece, Russia, Spain, India, Colombia, Venezuela, and Poland it is most often worn on the right hand.

Across the globe it is generally recognized that an individual (or couple) can choose to wear wedding and engagement rings on whichever hand they please. Right or left hand – neither is correct or incorrect, it is a matter of personal preference. Wearing your engagement and wedding bands separately is culturally and socially acceptable to most people. Different cultures observe different rituals.

BONUS Article: 11 Wedding Ring Shopping Rules

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, August 23, 2012

Average Wedding Costs in Maricopa County, AZ

Filed under: $$$ Tips,Budget,Vendor Fees,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Every bride is faced with a million choices and let’s face it, she really doesn’t know what to do with all of them. She wants a beautiful wedding and so assumes that she wants all the bells and whistles. In reality however she couldn’t afford the bells and whistles and probably doesn’t even need them. Starting your happily-ever-after with a stack of bills can add an incredible strain to your relationship.

On average, couples that live in Maricopa, AZ (County) spend between $19,175 and $31,959 on their wedding. You should expect to pay, on average, 50% to 100%+ more when choosing well-experienced professionals, designer labels, popular event locations, unique or custom products and services. The amount you pay may also be affected by the number of guests you invite.

weddingcostsThe average wedding cost is based on number of guests estimated between 120 and 140. A single guest could add between $177 and $216 to the overall cost of your wedding. The best way to save money on your wedding is to control the number of guests. You should expect to pay, on average, 50% to 100%+ more when choosing well-experienced professionals, designer labels, popular event locations, unique or custom products and services. Investigate all options and choose products and services that best meet your needs.

• Dress accessories includes; Tiara, Combs, Hair Pins, Garter, Shoes, Jewelry (not the engagement ring or wedding bands), etc.
• Tuxedo/suit/other accessories includes; Cuff links, Cummerbund, Tie, Pocket Square, Shoes, Jewelry (not the engagement ring or wedding bands), etc.
• Ceremony accessories includes; Aisle Runner, Ring Pillow or Box, Unity Candle, etc. not flowers or decorations
• Wedding Officiant includes; Justice of the Peace, Officiant, Ordained Friend or Family, Pastor, Minister, Priest, etc.
• Other transportation includes; Shuttles, Antique Car, Horse & Carriage, etc.
• Reception accessories includes; Toasting Flutes, Cake Topper, Serving Set, etc. not flowers or decorations
• Reception rentals includes; Lighting, Tent, Tables, Chairs, Photo Booth, etc.

Cities Included in the above: Aguila AZ – Arlington AZ – Avondale AZ – Buckeye AZ – Carefree AZ – Cashion AZ – Cave Creek AZ – Chandler AZ – Chandler Heights AZ – El Mirage AZ – Fort McDowell AZ – Fountain Hills AZ – Gila Bend AZ – Gilbert AZ – Glendale AZ – Glendale Luke AFB AZ – Goodyear AZ – Higley AZ – Laveen AZ – Litchfield Park AZ – Mesa AZ – Morristown AZ – New River AZ – Palo Verde AZ – Paradise Valley AZ – Peoria AZ – Phoenix AZ – Queen Creek AZ – Rio Verde AZ – Scottsdale AZ – Sun City AZ – Sun City West AZ – Surprise AZ – Tempe AZ – Tolleson AZ – Tonopah AZ – Tortilla Flat AZ – Waddell AZ – Wickenburg AZ – Wittmann AZ – Youngtown AZ. (Source: http://www.costofwedding.com)

A Wedding Costs a House Down Payment

These are the numbers. According to CostOfWedding.com, which is produced by a market-research company collecting information for the wedding industry, the average wedding in the U.S. costs about $25,631, possibly more depending on where you live. That is a down payment on a very nice house here – or the whole house, in large swaths of the country – and an amount many claim they just can’t manage to save up.

creditcarddebtSo ask yourself: You want to take that amount and blow it on a one-day party, or you want to use it to create an investment that’ll end up paying your kids’ tuition if you play it right? And if your answer is the former, holy crap. Are you bipolar?

The website goes on to list all the expenses you should take into account when planning a wedding. Things like gifts for the parents, wedding favors, a “traditional leather bound album” for the photos, flower-girl petals. According to the Association of Wedding Professionals, the wedding industry nets about $86 billion per year. That’s billion with a “B.”

That is a lot of people counting on you getting starry-eyed about your wedding. Just like Las Vegas counts on chumps who think they’re going to beat the craps table, and the tobacco industry counts on weak-willed copycats who feel rebellious when they emulate Courtney Love.

jackzieglerCartoonThis idea that you deserve a wedding is not the point; of course you deserve a wonderful day. But what you deserve even more is financial security and a debt-free future. So plan a wedding based in reality, and who you are and what kind of wife you want to be: supportive, smart and with two feet firmly in reality.

You’re not a princess, princess. He’s not a prince. You’re both smart cookies. Choose your wedding vendors wisely.

Your wedding budget and spending styles should be discussed before you tie the knot, and communication about money should be maintained throughout your marriage. Remember, pretending money issues don’t exist doesn’t actually make them disappear.

Larry’s NOTE: A special “Thank you” to Amy Keyishian for her contribution to this article. She has been a staff writer for Cosmopolitan Magazine, a freelance writer for Glamour, Self, Maxim and other magazines, and now blogs for Learnvest as well as Recipe.com, Kveller and the Huffington Post. She lives with her family in San Francisco.

BONUS Articles: Post-Wedding Credit Card Blues? Here’s the Solution!
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Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Sunday, August 19, 2012

You’re WHAT???

Filed under: Wedding Video — Larry James @ 8:00 am

The most joyous pregnancy surprise you’ll ever see!

The happiness and love in this family is evident right away. When you see how this girl and her husband surprise her parents you will smile. One thing is for sure – that baby will be loved.

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Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, August 15, 2012

“I’m Getting Married! What Are the Rules?”

Filed under: Non-Traditional Ideas,Wedding Rules,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Rules?

There are rules?

Tradition and etiquette. . . you bet. The only reason there “is” tradition is because someone – a looooong time ago – decided that this or that should only be done a certain way. Most rules for etiquette demonstrate a common courtesy.

So what are the rules these days? Are there any?

gartertossLots of wedding traditions are losing popularity. Many modern, hip brides are choosing to create some of their own rules and stepping out of the box to discover new and exciting traditions of their own. These new ideas capture the attention of the guests and help to make their wedding a truly memorable experience. It is important for the happy couple to create some of their own “customs.” Many of the customs are no brainers.

I love it when a bride and groom choose to have their ceremony be different. Different is a good thing. Often they will add a small bit of tradition but for the most part they want a wedding that is fun, inspiring for the guests and “romantic” – something that expresses their love for each other. That’s right down my alley. 😉

Every wedding ceremony I perform is different because it always reflects the couple’s tastes. In my opinion there are not too many wedding rules when it comes to a theme, style or location.

Obviously setting a budget is one of the first things you should do. I suppose you could call that a rule. Writing personal thank-you notes, making table visits during the reception, and selecting the caterer, the cake baker and other wedding vendors are a given. Traditions like the bouquet/garter toss, “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue,” “honor and obey,” throwing rice and others are being cast aside.

BouquetTossThe important thing to remember is to not get too distracted by advice from the many people who will be eager to give it (especially the mothers), and especially when it’s unsolicited. Never feel pressured to comply with all of your families’ or wedding guests’ requests. It is never possible to please everyone. Always remember… this is YOUR wedding… only yours.

clockHere is one of Larry’s rules: “NEVER be late to your own wedding.” (Read: “PLEASE Be on Time! (for your own wedding!).” Plan ahead. Hire a wedding consultant to give you an accurate timeline for the day of the wedding. This is a great idea! It will help keep you on schedule. Ask your consultant to help you avoid being late. They are good at that. If you are typically running late, ask them to add a 15 minute window to the timeline to give yourself plenty of time just in case something goes wrong. If you need a referral to a wedding consultant, give me a call. I am a member of the Association of Bridal Consultants and hang out monthly with many of the top wedding consultants in the Greater Phoenix area.

As a wedding officiant my primary role is to be a committed listener when meeting with the bride and groom and to cover all the details of the rehearsal, the ceremony and anything else I can assist them with. The couple never have to worry that they will be asked uncomfortable questions or “preached” to. That is not my style. I want to know what they like, dislike and what they might consider inappropriate in the ceremony. A little humor often lightens things up a bit.

Their dream wedding ceremony is a wish their hearts make. I am there to make sure they get what they really want, customized to their complete satisfaction – not out of a book! They get to choose their favorite readings, scriptures (if any), music, other participants, of significant cultural traditions.

Clergymen have less options because often they must follow the rules of the church, temple or synagogue. My ceremony is always a one-of-a-kind for each couple. I allow them to design a wedding that is uniquely theirs, to express their likes and dislikes freely and to make the day about the only two people that matter – the bride and groom! I often have married couples of different religions and different cultures – two religions, one marriage – tailored to meet the expectation of both the bride and the groom.

If your minister or Wedding Officant will not allow changes, you should call someone who will.

firstdanceWhat are the rules for the ceremony of couples who practice two spiritual disciplines? If the pressure between two sets of parents is too great then you can have a more casual (modern) ceremony by a wedding officiant. Generally speaking Clergymen may not be able to perform the ceremony in their church, temple or synagogue unless one of the partners converts to that religion. The couple is required to fulfill all of the obligations imposed upon the wedding of two Catholics (e.g., Practicing Catholics). The couple must request a dispensation for mixed marriage and the Catholic Party must sign the document stating that all children of the union will be baptized and educated in the Roman Catholic Faith. Rabbis are not permitted to perform ceremonies outside of the temple or synagogue. All Protestant churches are different. Ask your minister for the rules of your church. Read: Vows, Parents & Religion: Conundrum!

What about second marriages? If you’ve been married before or have children it’s perfectly acceptable to wear white. If you’ve been married before or have children you’re not supposed to wear a veil or have a train attached to your dress or carry orange blossoms. (Must be a sign of purity or virginity thing). The second time around, your parents are not obligated to pay for anything. If you get along with your ex-husband and his family and it’s fine with your fiancé, then it’s acceptable to invite them to the wedding. Before you do, you may want to read: “Tell Your Exes to Stay in Texas!

Click here for several non-traditional ceremony and wedding ideas.

Guess that’s it. If I missed anything… make up some of your own rules.

BONUS Articles: Top 7 Wedding Don’ts
6 New Wedding Rules
The 10 Wedding Rules You Can Break
25 Extremely Strange Wedding Traditions – (Not required reading!) 😉

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, August 11, 2012

Must the Bride Wear White?

Filed under: Non-Traditional Ideas,Wedding Dress,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

White is no longer just for virginal, first-time brides, nor do brides have to wear it at all. “Really, a bride may wear any color she desires on her wedding day,” says Washington, D.C.-based wedding planner and etiquette expert Claudia Lutman. “Before Queen Victoria, who is solely credited as establishing the tradition of the white bridal gown, brides wore their best dresses, despite the color.”

After Queen Victoria’s choice to wear a white wedding dress etiquette books then began to turn the practice into a “tradition” and the white gown soon became a popular symbol of status that also carried “a connotation of innocence and sexual purity.”

polka-dotweddingdress1One way for a bride to stand out from the many other brides-to-be out there and make a statement about her personal style is to choose a colored dress.

Recently, manufacturers are making a lot of stylish wedding dresses with color, in addition to the white dresses they already have in the marketplace. Sure, we know that this is not traditional, but modern brides are getting brave, breaking tradition and wearing what they want to wear. If you want your wedding to be different (memorable) and daring why not wear a wedding dress with color?

Dresses of color also offer many outstanding options for women who want a stunning wedding style. The best gown is one she feels most comfortable wearing, and for many brides, that’s not a stark white dress. Subtle hints of color on a wedding dress have been popular accents for years, and might include choices such as:

• Sashes or bows of color
• Colored hems or necklines
• Colored embroidery
• Contrasting inset panels
• Colored beading

Other accessories such as wedding shoes, gloves, a purse, or a handkerchief. Consider using a complementary shade, or one of a lighter or darker hue, for your accessories. While these delicate details can add a tinge of color to a dress, full colored gowns are also becoming more popular for modern, trendy brides.

Once last thought on breaking tradition: While white is typically “reserved for the bride,” according to nationally recognized etiquette expert Diane Gottsman, other experts see the tides changing on this rule. “As long as guests do not upstage the bride or appear to be in competition with her, a winter white or summer cream dress is now considered okay,” says Claudia Lutman. As Emily Post Etiquette advised New York Times readers in March, what matters most is making sure you’re not “unintentionally calling attention” or “causing offense to the bride.”

What color wedding dress would you wear, if white weren’t an option?

NOTE: Pink Wedding Gown photo courtesy of The Wedding Planning Institute, a division of Lovegevity, Inc.
Ombre (means “shaded” in French or graduated in tone) Bridal Gowns. (Photo left: Wedding dress by Lela Rose via Sunpost Weekly)
Polka-dot wedding dress photo by Bayly & Moore.

Bonus Articles: Colored Wedding Dresses
Your Gown: Choosing the Right White
Wedding Etiquette: 10 Rules You Can Break
Wedding Dress Shopping and Your Entourage

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Ombre Indulgence – The Newest, Hottest Trend in Weddings!

Filed under: Guest Authors,Trends — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Desiree M. Mondesir, Guest Author

Ombre2Ombre is the newest, hottest trend in fashion and in weddings in general. You can apply to your hair and makeup, table decor, bridal attire, and much much more.

In case you’re not familiar with the term ombre, it is the fading of a color from light to dark or vice versa. [Ombre literally means “shaded” in French or graduated in tone.] It’s absolutely lovely if done right and we think you should definitely incorporate it in your wedding in some way! Let us know what you think about ombre!

BONUS Articles: Ombre Weddings
{Wedding Trends} : Ombre – Part 1
{Wedding Trends} : Ombre – Part 2

Larry’s Note: When it comes to color, design and style we could take this new trend in so many directions. The subtle or dramatic hue changes creates eye catching and interesting focal points whether it be for the wedding party, florals, food, cakes or decor.

Copyright © 2012 – Desiree M. Mondesir. Desiree M. Mondesir is CEO and Founder of Desired Assistance, a virtual writing and editing company founded in 2010, which allows her to aid others in meeting their literary needs and achieving their dreams. Desired Assistance Weddings (DA Weddings for short), is a new spin-off blog for “all things wedding”. Visit Desiree’s Blog! Also visit her Writing Blog!

Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, August 3, 2012

Two Controversial Ideas Clarified for Wedding Guests…

#1. In a little European village many years ago, it was absolutely not possible for a family to entertain their neighbors and friends at a wedding, providing food and drink for everyone. They simply did not have the money. Few people did. It soon became a tradition that since every wedding celebration was a village affair; everyone who came brought something to contribute. Essentially the wedding meal became pot luck. Thus became the tradition that very few today call, “Cover-your-plate.” My research tells me that this idea is still practiced in some areas of the Northeastern United States.

CoverplateIn so many words, some brides – who have a low budgets – are suggesting that all guests have cash included in a wedding card as a gift to her wedding to “cover their plate” at the reception. When I first heard of this, my first thought was: “How ridiculous! That’s utter nonsense! Cut the budget – do anything – but don’t ask the guests to pay for their own meal.”

Let’s be clear this is NOT a reception norm. As a matter of fact some say the cover-your-plate custom is a myth perpetuated by greedy brides. This idea is largely disparaged and denied by every single etiquette expert, including Emily Post and Miss Manners.

Columnist, Carolyn Hax says, “How ridiculous — and grabby, and rude — the cover-your-plate requirement really is.” She continues, “It’s also not a requirement at all but instead a corrupt little myth. You are under no obligation to reduce your love and support for your friends into a quid pro quo with the wedding couple and their caterer.”

I agree!

coupledancing#2. What about “Plus 1?” Single bridesmaids and groomsmen do not get an automatic Plus 1. It’s not okay for guests to ask the bride to make exceptions. Unless your invitation says “and guest” it’s rude to ask the bride if you can bring your boyfriend or girlfriend. Wedding invitations are non-negotiable.

As another way to trim their wedding budgets, “many couples are not including ‘plus ones’ for their single guests,” says Claudia Lutman (etiquette expert). This goes against the once-standard rule that unattached guests of a certain age should be allowed to bring a date. The tricky part about breaking this rule is deciding what constitutes “single” – for example, a couple may have guests who are unmarried but live with their significant others. Sharon Naylor advises making a rule of inviting only “the non-married couples with whom you socialize.” Though some guests might be offended, “it’s one of those sticky things that is necessary in today’s financial era,” she says.

Anna Post writes in the Emily Post etiquette guidelines, “It’s not okay for guests to ask you to make exceptions, so it won’t be rude in the least [for brides] to stand by their guest list.” It may be an awkward conversation for the bride, but she shouldn’t hesitate to reach out and politely let the guest know that her wedding budget (and/or the size of her venue) doesn’t allow for any guest list additions.

Some generous brides invite their whole bridal party with dates or invite many of their single friends with dates. It may be an exception to invite a friend with a date when she is the only single friend in the wedding party. If you are a bride and groom on a budget, you may want to make a rule that you are only inviting guests with dates who are married, engaged or you may want to stretch it to people living together (no matter the sex). As for long-term boyfriends and girlfriends, it’s more or less up to the bride, but it’s smart for her to go with a hard and fast rule – all or none – to keep things fair across the board.

BONUS Article: Cover-your-plate Requirement a Myth by Greedy Brides

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