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Thursday, June 28, 2012

How to Get Special Song Requests for Your Reception

Filed under: Receptions — Larry James @ 7:00 am

A great DJ makes the reception! He will suggest the right mix of music; how he will interact with the guests to keep the party going; make your announcements properly and any other attention to details. A typical DJ will only be able to play about a dozen songs an hour at the reception.

musicnotesIn some of the receptions I’ve attended the DJ or wedding entertainer will ask the guests if they have any special requests for music to be sure to tell him/her with little success. Here is a terrific idea to overcome this dilemma.

When you send your wedding invitations most will include an RSVP card. On the RSVP cards add a line for a song they might like to hear at the reception. This way you know what the guests want to hear and they will be excited when the DJ or band plays their special request. It will help your guests dance the night away and make unforgettable memories at your wedding reception.

If you have a wedding website include a section asking your guests to submit songs they’d like to hear. You could even ask the DJ to recognize the requester when playing the song.

DJhappyfaceMake a list of the songs and make the songs that fit your tastes a part of the song choices you give to the DJ or band. Also give your DJ a “Do Not Play” list of songs NOT to play (Electric Slide, Hokey Pokey, Macarena, chicken dance, etc.). That way if someone requests a song that is on the list the DJ can explain to the guest that the bride and groom have requested that that song not be played.

A great wedding entertainer (sometimes called a DJ – ;-)) will of course filter these requests and won’t play anything inappropriate. The music for your reception is the soundtrack to one of the most important days of your life – chose the music carefully. Have him play to the older guests early.

Submit your music list at least two to three weeks prior to the wedding if you are using a DJ, this will allow them plenty of time to compile the music or to acquire any songs that they may not have in their library. Allow the DJ their discretion to play the music in the order that best fits the crowd.

The more entertained your guests are, the less you have to worry about them having a good time, and the more you can concentrate on each other. Your guests may forget many of the small details of your wedding like the favors and the flowers or even the food, but they will most likely remember whether they danced, laughed and had a good time.

bridesign2One of my frequent DJ annoyances is: The music is waaaaay too loud as the DJ introduces the wedding party and the bride and groom. Make a note to tell the DJ you want the names of the wedding party heard when he introduces them.

BONUS Tip: Have a little girl carry a “Here comes the Bride” sign as she walks down the aisle just before the bride. Click on the photo to the left to get more info on this sign.

Copyright © 2012 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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  1. This is my 1st time I visit right here. I discovered a lot of entertaining stuff in your blog, especially its discussion. From the tons of comments on your articles, I guess I am not the only one having all of the enjoyment here! Maintain up the excellent Job.


    Comment by mouzzam — Monday, July 9, 2012 @ 4:35 am | Reply

  2. I must agree with Mark. I’m a Styx fan and I think that “Come Sail Away” is one of the great all-time songs of the rock catalogue but… it’s NOT danceable. Maybe during cocktails at a Class of ’78 reunion but not at a wedding.


    Comment by Curtis Whipple — Thursday, June 28, 2012 @ 5:38 pm | Reply

  3. Good tips Larry. One little suggestion I make is I would ask the Bride and Groom or their guests is: “What songs do you enjoy dancing to?”, instead of just asking for song requests. For me, I like all types of music, half of the music I like you can’t really dance to. For the most part it also prevents getting obscure requests on suggestion cards. 😉 See ya soon.


    Comment by Mark Sanchez — Thursday, June 28, 2012 @ 10:49 am | Reply

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