In solving crimes, police officers rely on what they call a hunch or a “gut feeling.” It’s defined as instinctive feeling, intuition; also called gut reaction. When working with wedding vendors… trust your gut feeling.
“Your unconscious brain is intelligent enough to select the best options,” according to a study let by Mathias Pessiglione, a neuroscientist at the Centre for Neuroimaging Research in Paris, France.
Sit down with each vendor and talk to them to see if they can actually create the vision you have of your wedding. Be strategic when interviewing them and rely on more than just the references. Look for a vendor who goes above and beyond your expectations. Beware of the high pressure sales pitch: The best vendors are eager for your business but not desperate. Also beware of part-timers. Look for vendors who are in the wedding business full-time.
When you trust your gut feeling you will avoid obnoxious and cheesy DJs, florists who do not make the arrangements as agreed, talented photographers who are rude to guests (or, heaven forbid, to you), caterers who consistently run behind schedule, a cake baker with a sloppy cake, and a dress shop that brings in a wedding dress inferior to the one you ordered and won’t return your deposit. If you feel the least bit discomfort in the interview process, run the other way.
Don’t choose the first vendor you find with the cheapest price, however, when your gut feeling says, “This is the one!” you would be wise to offer a deposit to secure your date. Shop value, not just price. The great wedding vendors are very busy and the choice date book quickly.
After you do your due diligent, you owe it to yourself to hire the best of the best and then let go and let them to their job. Full-time wedding vendors do what they do all the time. Trust them to do what they do best. They’re good at what they do. Let them work their magic. Don’t trust blindly though. Do your homework up front. A wedding vendor who offers you a low price and low quality is a recipe for a very expensive mistake. Your vendors will become a part of your life for the next several months so choose wisely.
Weddings can be the most stressful and emotional event you can help plan if you try to micromanage it every step of the way. If you do not trust your wedding vendors, you worry. That’s what make’s it stressful. Hiring a wedding vendor can be scary. You are in essence, purchasing something that at the time you pay for it, is invisible.
To a full-time professional wedding vendor, your wedding is not “just another wedding”. They will work to make it very special for you – the kind of wedding that will be memorable for you and your guests.
Do your vendors respond to your e-mail, text messages, and phone calls in a timely manner? Do they take the initiative in contacting you, or do they wait for a reminder from you? Not doing so can be a red flag.
Before you start micromanaging every decision your wedding vendors make, remember one thing: you’re paying them for a reason. Consider their experience and expertise an opportunity for you to relax and enjoy your wedding. They want you to love the result because your recommendation hinges on it. They’re going to strive to please. Wouldn’t you rather help someone who trusts your abilities rather than second-guesses everything you do? There’s no harm in giving a good amount of direction in the beginning, but asking for daily progress reports is overkill and eats into the time it takes them to do a great job.
One of the reasons I have a Wedding Blog is to build trust over the long-term with potential brides and grooms. I want them to see how involved I am in the industry. I want them to know that I know the wedding business – inside and out – not just what it takes to be an award winning Wedding OFficiant.
Business relationships are built on trust. Make sure to hire someone you feel you can trust. If you don’t get the sense that the wedding vendor you are interviewing is someone you can trust, don’t move forward with them just because you’re getting a deal or you like the price. Trust your gut feeling! Shout, “NEXT!” and hire someone else!
A great vendor relationship will result in a smoother planning process and a seemless and stress-free wedding day. Take a deep breath and enjoy your special day.
Trust leads to a happy, stress-free wedding day and a lasting marriage.
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