A recent survey by the Kinsey Institute of 1,009 committed heterosexual couples reveals just how important it is for couples to be physically affectionate, especially in long-term relationships.
Scientists found women were more likely to be sexually satisfied overall if they frequently cuddled with and were kissed by their partner – even if sex didn’t immediately follow.
Every woman is an affectionate and sexual being by nature. However, like flowers in a garden, these dimensions of her personality can fully blossom only in a healthy and loving environment. Your partner will be more inclined to feel sexual desire for you if you have developed a solid spiritual and emotional relationship with her.
I once asked the husband in a coaching session if he really loved his wife and his rather indignant response was, “She knows I love her!” His wife rolled her eyes and said, “Of course I know you love me, but it would be nice if you told me once in a while.”
Both women and men love to be told, “I love you” (out loud) often.
Guys… pay attention! Physical attention is one of the best ways to communicate your feelings to the one you love.
As you navigate your way through the countless choices you have to shower love on your partner be generous with your cuddles. Do spoons! Give her a spontaneous foot rub. Hold hands. Flirt. Whisper, “I love you!” Bring her flowers for no special reason. Give her frequent hugs. Be sensitive to her needs.
Most men get equal pleasure from giving physical affection as well as from giving it.
I repeat… PAY ATTENTION! Use your imagination. Touching is essential to feeling connected and loved, whether it is taking your partner’s hand, putting your arm around her or rubbing her shoulders and back. Let your feelings show. Frequently let her know she is your one and only. Demonstrate your love, not just when you want sex.
From a woman’s perspective: “Think of it as building a fire. You light the kindling, and slowly, at the right moment, place each new log onto the flames, allowing the embers to become hot and glowing, until eventually, the fire is blazing. This is how it is for our bodies. Each caress, each embrace kindles the fire of desire within our bodies, and our passion slowly builds until we burn with longing for you. You wouldn’t expect a fire to be burning strongly after just striking a match and placing a fresh log upon it. In this same way, know that you cannot expect us to be “ready” on Saturday night if you have not even touched us or loved us all week long.” ~ Barbara DeAngelis, Ph.D
Always remember, if she is happy… well, you know! 😉
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