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Saturday, December 31, 2011

A Mile-High Hot Air Balloon Wedding!

Filed under: Hot Air Balloon Wedding,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

This Valentine’s Day (2/14/12) I’m going to get very high… with an amazing couple who have decided to have me perform their wedding ceremony in a hot air balloon. This will be my 6th trip skyward. Talk about memorable! The actual wedding ceremony takes place while in flight. This will be a day they will always remember. What a great way to add a special touch to your wedding day to make it adventurous and unique.

What could be more romantic than flying among the clouds and Celebrating Love in hot air balloon?

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Candice King & Mike Hansen – Married @ 5:30 a.m., Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Your Arizona balloon adventure begins upon arrival at Hot Air Expeditions’ Sonoran desert launch site. You will receive a “pre-flight briefing” where you’ll learn more about the hot air balloon and how it flies, plus other facts you should know to make your Arizona flight as enjoyable as possible.

Once the balloon is inflated, we will climb slowly for the first several minutes of the flight to give you time to “soak up” the views and get accustomed to the flight. Once we’ve reached our “cruising altitude”, I’ll perform my “romantic,” non-denominational wedding ceremony which usually takes about 20 to 25 minutes. You are encouraged to write some of your own “Personal Promises” to read to each other.

You can safely float along at about 5,500 feet without getting into commercial airline air space. You have an unobstructed 360-degree view and can see for miles. The sensation of ballooning is very gentle and it’s calming effect seems to put the world below into perspective. And… since we are in the Valley of the Sun (the Greater Phoenix area) it’s nice to escape to a temperature that can be as much as 20 to 30 degrees cooler than the sunny desert floor.

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A “mile-high” wedding toast!

I’ve had some people tell me that they would never go up in a hot air balloon because they are afraid of heights. I can’t get within 10 feet of the short little rock wall that is suppose to protect you from falling into the Grand Canyon, but had no fear exploring the heavens in a hot air balloon. It is truly an exhilarating, fearless, safe, inspiring and “romantic” adventure – to say nothing of it being one of the most FUN things I’ve done!

Sometimes wedding guests will follow the balloon’s chase crew in their own vehicle, so they can be there when the balloon lands and greet the newly married couple.

Often the bride and groom will have two close friends tag along to be witnesses to their ceremony and to sign the marriage license when they land. To save a little on flight fees, sometimes the pilot and one of the ground crew will sub as witnesses.

As a safety precaution is is wise to add string to the ring to prevent the ring from being deep sixed. 😉

You should plan to set aside approximately 3 hours for your entire ballooning experience including meeting, pre-launch set-up and inflation of the balloon, flight, landing, pack-up and the ride back home.

balloonwedding2The ground crew of Hot Air Expeditions, Phoenix always prepares champagne/sparkling cider for a post-wedding toast and a brief snack is also available upon landing.

After landing, some couples will have a Wedding Reception Brunch at another location with family and friends.

Larry’s intimate hot air balloon weddings are tailored towards couples wishing to have a simple, unique and memorable wedding ceremony. He can arrange for a photographer to capture this romantic moment for you to enjoy with your friends after the wedding.

Renewal of Vows Ceremonies are fun too!

Be a true romantic!! Come fly with me! Up, up, and away!

Hot Air Expeditions Loves Larry James too! – “I don’t ‘partner’ with many people. In twenty years, you and Vincents Restaurant are about the only two people I actively promote. I do so with no hesitations knowing the quality of your service. Larry, I look forward to you coming out with us again soon! And, thank you for making booking weddings in the air easy!” – Margie Long, Hot Air Expeditions, Phoenix – Visit their Website for contact information and more details – then call Larry James to check availability before you book the date.

To read the story and view a few photos of one couple who celebrated their 18th wedding anniversary in a hot air balloon, click here.

Bonus Article: Come Fly With Me – Hot Air Balloon Wedding Inspiration

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, December 27, 2011

10 Blunt-But-Loving Ways to Tell People They’re Not Invited to Your Wedding!

Filed under: Guest Authors,Guest List — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Ariel Meadow Stallings, Guest Author

NOTinvitedOh, the trials of the wedding guest list. Especially if you’re throwing a smaller wedding, dealing with frustrations from family and friends who aren’t invited to your wedding can be grueling. I wrote about this in my book — dealing with your wedding’s guest list can make you feel like a big mean club bouncer, deciding who’s in and who’s out of the VIP line.

While there’s no way to make everyone happy, I do believe that there are a few key phrases you can use to let uninvited guests to that you love them, you SO appreciate their interest, but no, they’re still not invited.

Read the rest of the article by Ariel Meadow Stallings at: http://offbeatbride.com/2011/09/tell-people-theyre-not-invited-to-wedding. Copyright © 2011 – Ariel Meadow Stallings.

Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, December 23, 2011

Are You Seeing Each Other Before the Wedding? – “No way!”… However…

When brides hear the question, “Are you seeing each other before the wedding?” – “No way!” or “Not at my wedding!” are typical responses. More and more, brides and grooms are tossing aside the “no see before the wedding” tradition in favor of a special moment where the bride and groom first meet before the wedding with the photographer.

Although they will most likely be on a strict timeline after the ceremony, by scheduling a “first look” or “reveal moment,” before the wedding ceremony the photographer will be able to capture your special moment of seeing each other privately for the first time. From a photographer’s position, there are usually many more pros to seeing each other beforehand than cons, but what it comes down to is your personal decision. The idea of not seeing each other before the ceremony comes from the days when marriages were arranged and the groom might never have seen the bride. There was a chance that he might take one look at her and bolt – so it was often safer for them to meet for the first time at the altar.

“That quiet moment that couples share the first time they see each other in private before the ceremony is the one time all day that they get to be alone and reflect on their true emotions.” ~ Marnee Marriott, MarriottPhoto.com

firstlookHere is how to set it up. The bride and the groom get ready separately. While your hair and make-up are still fresh, you and your photographer stage a time for the bride and groom to see each other for the first time. At the exact moment that you see each other for the first time, you’ll completely forget the photographer is snapping away some very special and intimate moments.

If you think that it will make walking down the isle or saying your vows any less special, I promise you it won’t. You will inevitably have lots of emotions on your wedding day – enough to spread out through the entire day.

If you are having an outside wedding at sunset, most photographers want you to allow no less than 1 1/2 hour from the end of the ceremony to the beginning of sunset. Lighting is one of the most important factors for getting great photographs. If you’re having a sunset wedding, there is a good chance that there won’t be any daylight remaining after the ceremony for photos unless you plan for it. By doing a first look, we’ll be able to do your “formal” photos and couple session BEFORE your ceremony in the gorgeous natural light!

“If the bride and groom are very traditional, they won’t see each other before the ceremony. But photographers will encourage it because the bride’s makeup is fresh and her hair is done so they can get a lot more photos done before the ceremony. Afterward, they can take a few family shots and enjoy the cocktail hour.” ~ Elizabeth Todd, wedding coordinator at Blackstone Country Club, Peoria, Arizona

I like the “first look” idea because you will get more and better photos when you give the photographer the time to go above and beyond the call of duty. Taking photos before the ceremony can often be so much more relaxing as well. And I’ve never met a couple that wasn’t in a hurry to get to their reception. You’ll also be giving yourselves some extra time right after the ceremony to take a few brief photos, then join your guests at cocktail hour or spend a few alone minutes together to take in the special moment you just shared.

Most couples do a “reveal moment” well before the ceremony. This gives them an opportunity to greet each other in a more secluded area away from the guests. A couple may choose to do this if they would like to do formal and family pictures before the ceremony rather than after, giving the couple more time with their guests following the ceremony. They may also choose to do this to relieve a little of the pressure of the wedding day.

Make sure everyone is ready when the photographer is scheduled to arrive; dressed, hair and make-up, etc.

Larry’s Note: A special “thank you” to Cory Ryan, Photographer, Austin, Texas for his contribution to this article.

Photo Credit: Real Photography, Inc., Black Forest, just outside Colorado Springs, CO.

BONUS Article: The Bride and Groom’s “Reveal Moment”
75 Reasons to Have a First Look
16 First Looks You Don’t Want To Miss
Seven Reasons to See the Bride Before the Wedding

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Monday, December 19, 2011

Hey, Guys! Want Closer Intimacy in Your Marriage?

Filed under: Intimacy,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:00 am
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A recent survey by the Kinsey Institute of 1,009 committed heterosexual couples reveals just how important it is for couples to be physically affectionate, especially in long-term relationships.

DoingSpoonsScientists found women were more likely to be sexually satisfied overall if they frequently cuddled with and were kissed by their partner – even if sex didn’t immediately follow.

Every woman is an affectionate and sexual being by nature. However, like flowers in a garden, these dimensions of her personality can fully blossom only in a healthy and loving environment. Your partner will be more inclined to feel sexual desire for you if you have developed a solid spiritual and emotional relationship with her.

I once asked the husband in a coaching session if he really loved his wife and his rather indignant response was, “She knows I love her!” His wife rolled her eyes and said, “Of course I know you love me, but it would be nice if you told me once in a while.”

sexy coupleBoth women and men love to be told, “I love you” (out loud) often.

Guys… pay attention! Physical attention is one of the best ways to communicate your feelings to the one you love.

As you navigate your way through the countless choices you have to shower love on your partner be generous with your cuddles. Do spoons! Give her a spontaneous foot rub. Hold hands. Flirt. Whisper, “I love you!” Bring her flowers for no special reason. Give her frequent hugs. Be sensitive to her needs.

Most men get equal pleasure from giving physical affection as well as from giving it.

I repeat… PAY ATTENTION! Use your imagination. Touching is essential to feeling connected and loved, whether it is taking your partner’s hand, putting your arm around her or rubbing her shoulders and back. Let your feelings show. Frequently let her know she is your one and only. Demonstrate your love, not just when you want sex.

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From a woman’s perspective: “Think of it as building a fire. You light the kindling, and slowly, at the right moment, place each new log onto the flames, allowing the embers to become hot and glowing, until eventually, the fire is blazing. This is how it is for our bodies. Each caress, each embrace kindles the fire of desire within our bodies, and our passion slowly builds until we burn with longing for you. You wouldn’t expect a fire to be burning strongly after just striking a match and placing a fresh log upon it. In this same way, know that you cannot expect us to be “ready” on Saturday night if you have not even touched us or loved us all week long.” ~ Barbara DeAngelis, Ph.D

Always remember, if she is happy… well, you know! 😉

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, December 15, 2011

“You May Now Seal Your Promises With a Kiss!”

Filed under: First Kiss — Larry James @ 8:00 am

first-kissHave you thought much about your first kiss as wife and husband? It’s the kiss that seals the deal. In my interviews with brides and grooms most are more excited about other aspects of the weddings than the first kiss.

Some say the kiss is considered a symbolic act of sharing each others spirit as the couple each breathes in a portion of their new mate’s soul. It is a Western custom for a newly married couple to exchange a kiss at the conclusion of their wedding ceremony.

Some trace the tradition to an ancient Roman tradition, whereby the exchange of a kiss signified the completion of a contract. Although the kiss is not a “formal” requirement of the ceremony, most regard the gesture as a joyful start of the marriage. Today, the kissing of the bride signifies that the marriage ceremony is complete and that the couple is now wife and husband.

dippingKISSNo more quick pecks! This intimate, momentous moment occurs in front of all your friends and family and should be memorable. First of all, make it last a little longer than you think is necessary. Why? Because the photographer does not know when the kiss is coming and you want to be sure they get that photo. I always tell the bride and groom that I will let the photographer know that I’ve asked them to hold the kiss.

There is another good reason to make it last. The guests love it. Someone may shout, “Get a room!”

It’s okay to share a bit of the passion you have for each other for more than a brief second. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a dip kiss, a short and sweet kiss, or a lingering kiss. Do what makes you feel comfortable. However a sloppy wet, tongue-in-mouth kiss might be a bit much for the grandmas and grandpas on your guest list.

By the way, the bride and groom have their choice of having me say, “You may now kiss the bride,” (the traditional way) or “You may now seal your promises with a kiss” (the Larry – and more “romantic” way)! 😉

BONUS Article: Last Kiss. . . Before the First Kiss!

Photo Credit: (Seaside kiss) – Aaron Polhill Photography

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Sunday, December 11, 2011

How to Manage Wedding Planning Stress with Your Partner

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Kristin Offiler, Guest Author

Whether you’re the bride or groom, it’s likely that you will feel stressed out at some point while planning your wedding. It’s understandable; weddings typically take around a year to plan, and during that time, there are countless decisions that need to be made and checks that have to be written—talk about stress-inducing! And on top of that, you still have your everyday life to live, too.

stressfreeBefore my husband and I got married in August of 2010, we had so many things on our proverbial plate that stress became inevitable for us. I began working on my thesis for graduate school earlier that summer, just after we made an offer on a house and began the closing process. The last three months before our wedding were pure chaos. Our closing date kept getting pushed back until finally we moved into all our things into our new home a scant three days before our wedding.

Plus, during it all, we had work, school, and about a thousand meetings regarding the wedding. It would have been easy to lose our cool, but we tried to manage the stress with a few different techniques you and your partner can try too.

Keep reminding yourselves why you’re doing all this in the first place. There were many times I wanted to just run off and elope before our wedding, but it was just a matter of remembering what’s important and why the stress was worth it that kept me going. My husband is great at helping me gain perspective when life gets crazy (he was born with a naturally cool head and calm demeanor). If you’re not inclined to stay relaxed under pressure, try reciting your reasons for having a wedding in the first place. That might be all you need to refocus your attention and squash stress.

MazinestressedBe grateful. It’s so easy to get so caught up in the to-do list, the guest list, the budget, the dress, etc. that you lose sight of how fortunate you are. While some things might seem like annoyances during the wedding planning process, there’s a good chance you can flip it around and be thankful for it. Out of control guest list? I can sympathize. Ours was a source of stress… until I realized we’re lucky that so many people wanted to celebrate with us! Reframe your stress and see it as a blessing instead of a frustration.

Get away together often. It may be impossible to take a trip with your soon-to-be-spouse before the wedding, but you should still get away together as often as possible. What do I mean by “get away?” Take a walk together, grab lunch together, or do other non-wedding activities just the two of you. While we were waiting for our closing to happen, we would head down to our future neighborhood in the evenings and take walks. We explored the nearby beach and enjoyed the park that’s down the road. It helped us unwind and focus on each other, not the stress all around us.

Visualize the big day and life after it. If you’re laser focused on the wedding day and the color of every napkin, ribbon and flower, you’ll wear yourself out. Instead, think about not only how pretty your wedding day will be, but how special it will feel to have loved ones all around you. Think about life after you say “I do.” Think about the honeymoon (this helped me quite a bit! I kept myself focused on being out of town and unavailable to e-mail and phone calls, and it helped me power through my stress). Use your mind to project into the future—it will make all the planning worth it and will even help you find some peace.

Stay in the moment. Even though I suggest visualizing the future, I think it’s just as important to live in the moment. The engagement period and the wedding all happen fast. Every so often throughout your busy days, even when you’re stressing, take a few deep breaths and try to commit snippets of the process to memory. Imprint in your memory the feeling of picking up your wedding bands, signing the contract with the perfect photographer, or seeing yourself in full wedding dress. You’ll have pictures to look back on, yes, but your own memories are precious and if you force yourself to be in the present more often, you’ll have a harder time feeling stressed out.

relaxAccept the stress and anxiety, but don’t feed into it. It’s going to happen—things will go wrong, people will make rude comments, someone will turn up a nose at your brilliant cake idea; what you do with those moments is what matters. Let yourself feel stressed out, anxious, nervous. Those are normal feelings and it’s fine to feel them. But don’t feed into them. Don’t give them more power than they deserve. Instead, accept them as part of the process, but acknowledge your control over your feelings. You’re more powerful than stress. Remind your partner of this, too, if he or she is letting stress run the show.

There are plenty of ways to let wedding stress suck you in and make you miserable, but there are even more ways to beat it. The best way is to get on the same page with your future husband or wife. Make sure he or she knows how you’re feeling and, whenever you can, combat wedding stress together. I firmly believe that the way you handle pre-wedding stress as a couple speaks volumes about how you’ll handle life’s obstacles once you’re wed!

Larry’s Note: Begin planning your wedding as far in advance as possible. A year to 1 1/2 years in advance is not to early. Also give yourself some “down” time – a special spa treatment the day before the wedding, etc. Have your rehearsal 2 days before the wedding to avoid having to deal with 2 stressful days in a row.

BONUS Article: Do’s and Don’ts for a Stress-Free Wedding

KristinOffilerCopyright © 2011 – Kristin Offiler. Kristin Offiler is a freelance writer in Rhode Island who writes for a site that helps students find the right psychology degree.

Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Your Wedding Day is “YOUR” Day and You Get to Say!

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Your wedding day belongs solely to you – the engaged couple – and should NEVER be compromised by others who believe that they are “helping” by getting involved. Just as you and your fiancé are excited about your wedding, your parents are feeling the same sense of excitement.

One of the most important things you can do after you become engaged and you share the joyful news with family and friends is to sit down with both sets of parents and ask if they would like to contribute to your wedding. Communication is the most important aspect of planning your wedding with an over-bearing mother, or mother-in-law to be. How can the mother of the bride support her daughter? Let your mother know that all you want is her support. You may want to ask the mother and the mother-in-law to be to accompany you to view venues, dresses, florists, etc., and will welcome their opinions but that you will want to make the final decisions. It is wise to establish some ground rules early and certainly discuss that you would like first. Set boundaries for your mother-in-law and after you do, both partners must stand by them.

Daughters still typically turn to their mother for help and guidance in planning one of the most important days of their life, but they usually have their own ideas and thoughts on exactly how they want it to be and have long ago chosen their colors and themes. Mothers may be helpful in adding ideas that the bride had not considered.

mother&BrideThis includes the mother of the bride and the groom (and friends, too!). The prospect of change – losing her daughter or wanting to have her daughter have the wedding the mother never had – can bring up deep feelings for both you and your mother as the big day gets closer. Nothing could be more natural. The relationship you share with the moms and dads will affect your decision to include them or exclude them and to what extent. How you each handle these feelings depends on your own personality and your willingness to give up control of all of the details of your wedding.

It’s not your mother’s wedding… but what if she’s paying for it? If you want a disc jockey and she is will to upgrade to a band, you may want to consider it. If the guest list is growing out of control, filled with your parents friends and co-workers, that may be something you give in to. Some parents think that because they are footing the bill that everything they want should be agreed to.

Some mothers assume that you want and need their advice. Ideas, suggestions, etc., “Yes!” Advice and demands – Opps! – be careful with how you handle this one. It can become a touchy subject. Your wedding is not meant to tear families apart but instead bring them closer together. “Handle with care” are the key words. Let everyone know that you are open to suggestions, but let them know firmly that you will be making the final choices. You may want to acquiesce to some of your mother and mother-in-law’s wishes to keep peace in the families.

If demands are leading to major difficulties, perhaps you may want to get out your checkbook and pay for the wedding yourself. This may be a good way to appease a strong will and still create a wedding that is more to your taste.

I once had a father tell me point blank that since he was paying for the wedding that he and his wife would be making the final decisions. I very politely told him that if he insisted upon things that the bride did not want that he and his wife may end up being responsible for hurt feelings and for driving a wedge between the bride and them.

I told him of another situation where the bride abruptly cancelled the wedding that the parents had already spent a significant about of dollars on and ran away to get married so she could have it her way. While that was indeed an extreme I cautioned him and his wife that they may want to be a little more open to negotiation with his daughter. His daughter later told me that he did relent of some of the key things that were the cause of her dilemma. The father came up to me at the reception and thanked me for our previous conversation. I wasn’t concerned if he became angry at me because I would rather him hear that the bride was upset from me and be angry with me than for him to be angry with the bride.

Bride with Mother“When and if you do decide to ask for assistance, do not ask for assistance in a category that you feel particularly passionate about and try to find tasks that are of some interest to the person. For example, if your in-laws are wine aficionados, ask them to lead the way in selecting wines for the cocktail hour and the meal.” ~ Holly Lefevre

Assign several tasks the parents can do to help them feel they are “involved.” Ask them to send the invitations, plan and host the rehearsal dinner (traditionally the groom’s parents), gather childhood photos of your fiance for a reception slide-show or do a reading at the wedding (let them know you will have final approval of what reading will be read).

Hopefully the bride and grooms’ parents are helpful, and supportive during the wedding planning process. You and your fiancé can and should put your collective foot down and say “No” when necessary.

Planning a wedding is a sensitive time for many important relationships that will be with you long after the wedding, however in the end the only people who you should have the final say are yourself and your partner.

BONUS Article: Your Wedding is “YOUR” Wedding!

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, December 3, 2011

How to SAVE on Your Wedding Floral Budget

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One of the most expensive costs in a wedding is floral. Nearly every bride has a budget for her wedding flowers – or should – unfortunately, most do not understand how they can maximize their buying power while saving money too.

You should have an idea of your overall floral budget before meeting with your florist. That way, they can’t tempt you with wedding flower options that are unaffordable. A good florist will be full of creative yet practical ways to keep your flower costs within budget.

carnationbouquetsFrom the bride’s bouquet to the boutonnieres, the flowers add essential beauty and elegance to a wedding. You can have an elegant wedding at a reasonable price!

Whether you have an artistic flair, or barely have time to plan your wedding will help determine the route you go for flowers. Based upon your budget, there are lots of places to use flowers at weddings. Here are a few tips to help stretch the bride’s dollar.

• Go green! Use more greenery than flowers – To save money on your flowers, try using more greenery than blooms in your arrangements or garlands on archways, trellises, etc. Ferns and vines are both inexpensive and easy to obtain, sometimes for free! Awesome choices for cheap greenery are Bells of Ireland and Gladiolus.
• Swap out costly flowers – Did you know peonies can be five times more expensive than roses?
• Stick to just one or two kinds of flowers.
• Buy flowers that are in season in your area and are readily available – Avoid holding your wedding in February or other seasons when flower prices are at an annual high due to Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc.
• Include non-florals in your centerpieces, like lanterns – Expand your wedding reception centerpieces instantly with unscented candles. The beautiful glow of candles can be added strategically around the base of your floral arrangements, thereby giving the illusion of it being a larger piece than it really is.
• Rent your vases rather than buying them – Tied stems are less costly than elaborately constructed bouquets, and loose cut flowers in vases are more affordable than sculpted centerpieces.
• Keep the bridesmaids’ bouquets small and inexpensive – After all, the bride’s bouquet should be the most grand and impressive.
• Get rid of unnecessary items such as the cake knife corsage, arrangements for the cake table and the toss bouquet. Also consider skipping the flowers that are often on the chairs on the aisle.
• Find a venue such as a park or garden that is already lush and beautiful.
CallaLilies• Talk to party rental suppliers about renting large potted plants such as tropical palms or ficus.
• Order flowers in bulk and have a group of family, friends and your wedding party help put them together.
• Give your florist a little artistic and financial freedom – Ask your florist to pick the best flower market bargains within your wedding color scheme and other preset parameters.
• Silk flowers to the rescue – These fabric flowers come in all sorts of colors and styles, they are great as centerpieces and work wonderfully as bridal and bridesmaid bouquets too. Think about alternating silk with real. Placed among real flowers no one will ever spot the fake.
• Have the bride carry a single flower or a few of the same flower tied together with a single ribbon. – Long stemmed flowers such as Calla Lilies are perfect for this and it would be stunning whether you carried one or a few.

Planning and remaining within your wedding flower budget doesn’t have to be difficult at all, what it requires you to do is to be a little ingenious and creative along the way, in so doing, you will not only save money on your wedding florals, but you will also be amazed at how beautiful and unique your wedding arrangements will be, while having a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment too!

BONUS Article: Choosing Wedding Flowers – Tips for Floral Success! by Kim Horn, MBC™ (Master Bridal Consultant – 1 of 59 in the world!)

NOTE: A special “thank you” to Priscilla Martinez, Weddings & Beyond, San Diego, CA for her contribution to this article.

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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