Dr. Alan Viau, Guest Author
The groom’s wedding party is getting ready to head to the ceremony area. The guys all walk up to their designated locations and are expected to look suave and supportive of their mate getting married. But are they committing some faux pas that doesn’t quite get that look?
One of the joys of being involved in a wedding is that you get to dress up for the special event. You don’t get that many occasions where you can look your best. Along with looking your best, there are implications that you are acting your best as well. The ultimate suave gentlemen is who you must be – at least for the ceremony. When the party begins, all bets are off.
Unfortunately, I see many men not quite succeeding in pulling off the debonair James Bond 007 look and feel. They may have a nice made-to-measure suit on – but they don’t quite measure up in other ways. Here are some commonly made errors that kill the buzz.
Look the Part. Make sure your suit fits, your shirt is cleanly pressed, your tie is straight and all the appropriate buttons and zippers are done up. Nothing needs to be hanging out. Anything other than black shoes – like athletic wear or sandals – are a big NO. Ditch the chewing gum and sunglasses. Like the bridesmaids in their heels, you to can suffer for your friend.
Walk the Part. James Bond does not walk into a room shuffling his feet with slouched shoulders. He stands straight, shoulders relaxed and walks with purpose. You can see this with the GunBarrel clip in every film. When he stands – he stands with relaxed (and deadly) confidence. Try practicing the Yoga Mountain Pose in preparation for the event.
Act the Part. Avoid the smart ass quips and comments during the ceremony – it’s not about you but about your mate and his mate. I certainly don’t want to hear it and neither does anyone else. Keep it for the reception. Finally, learn to properly escort a lady on your arm for the exit. Those poor ladies have been standing there just as long as you have but in high heels. The least you can do is ensure that they walk out nicely.
Groomsmen, you are playing a noble role in this ceremony. A role that goes back centuries as the supportive gentlemen to your friend or family member who is in an important life transition. You have an important part to play in how he and everyone remembers this day. I know that you want it to be the best for him and therefore you can be the best you can be for this part of the day. Remember James Bond and you can be noticed as the suave and debonair man that was there for him.
Copyright © 2011 – Alan Viau. Reprinted with permission. Dr. Alan Viau performs weddings and other life celebrations in the capital of Canada, Ottawa, since 2004. As a multi-faith, multi-cultural wedding officiant, he works with and crafts a wedding so that the couple has the ceremony that is a true expression of what is in their hearts. Alan is married to his Sweetheart of over 30 years and has three wonderfully creative young adult children. He finds grounding in yoga and horseback riding. You can find more tips and real wedding stories at www.WeddingChaplain. ca
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