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Friday, September 30, 2011

Spit Out Your Gum. . .

Filed under: Photography Tips — Larry James @ 8:00 am

. . . and 11 more tips to make your wedding photos great!

1. Lose the gum BEFORE the ceremony and certainly while the photos are being taken. 😉 It’s more difficult to get a great smile if you’re thinking about where to park the gum, eg., under your tongue, the roof of your mouth, etc. Gum chewing while you’re being photographed on your wedding day is a no-no.

smile2. As you are walking down the aisle, be aware of the photographer. Take your time. You may want to slow down a bit. It’s your big day. Show that you are happy! SMILE!

3. As a Wedding Officiant, I always arrive early to tell the photographer that he has my permission to go anywhere he needs to go to get a good photo. Most photographers like to stay out of the way however, there are times when it’s best for them to move in close for a moment or two. Be sure to let them know that you are okay with that.

bicyclewedding4. Never be afraid to shine and go with the moment. Let your emotions show on your wedding day. Whatever you feel, let it out. Wear your best smile. If you feel yourself getting a little emotional (by the way, it’s okay to cry at your wedding), wipe the tears away and get back to smiling. Bonus Tip: Remind the groom to have a clean handkerchief in his pocket and have a small tissue tucked in the center of the bride’s bouquet just in case. If the bride tears up the groom can take out the hankie, offer it to her or dab the tears himself.

5. Hire the best, most creative professional photographer you can afford and trust them to do a good job. It’s best not to rely on family and friends to take photos. First, they want to be at the wedding to enjoy your moment, and second, if they are not pros, the kind of photos you will receive may not be the best. At the reception, keep the disposable cameras away from the children otherwise you get photos of the floor, and worse. Have the MC remind the adults that they may take as many photos as possible and to leave them on the table at the end of the evening.

6. Sometimes the groomsmen will want to wear sun glasses. Never during the ceremony. Their eyes help make the smile they are wearing shine for the photos. A really fun Bride or Grooms gift to their bridesmaids and groomsmen are custom sunglasses. In their wedding colors or even monogrammed, they also make for some great photo ops after the wedding.

WeddingBouquet7. Avoid “white” roses for the bridal bouquet. They are beautiful, however all roses symbolize Love, but their colors have special meaning. White roses offer little contract against the bride’s white dress. If you plan on having a rose bouquet, use the list below to choose the shade that best matches the feeling you want to convey.

White – innocence, purity, secrecy, reverence and to honor those who are deceased
Red – Love, passion, respect and courage
Yellow – Joy, friendship and freedom
Pink – Happiness, gratitude, appreciation and admiration
Cream – Thoughtfulness, charm and graciousness
Orange – Admiration, fascination, enthusiasm and desire

8. When exchanging rings, don’t be afraid to turn towards each other, or even towards your guests. Take your time. This in not a moment to rush through. Even though the wedding officiant will continue to speak, you do not need to be facing him/her. Tilt the hand receiving the ring toward the camera.

9. Make the kiss last a lot longer than you usually do. Two reasons: the photographer doesn’t know when that moment is coming and you want to be sure they get a photo of the kiss, and second, the guests love it. They will usually begin applauding and you may hear someone say, “Get a room!” 😉 Some couples don’t like showing affection in public. Let this one day be the exception.

weddingshot10. Prepare a photo list. Give your photographer a complete list of all the photos to be taken after the ceremony; the names of the brides family, siblings, grandparents, and the grooms family, siblings, wedding party, etc. If your intent is go take photos at or near sunset, losing light can be a problem. Appoint someone familiar with your family to be in charge of finding these people and getting them to the photography location as quickly as possible. Remind everyone to stay near the ceremony site for photos after the wedding and to listen for their names to be called. Tell the groomsmen that you will save them drinks so they don’t start drifting toward the bar.

11. Before the wedding, professional makeup is a must. After the wedding and before you begin to take photos, the maid or matron of honor should have a make-up kit handy to help the bride freshen her make up.

12. The smallest adjustments in posture can make such a huge difference! Try these simple tweaks for a slimming effect:

• The lower the bride holds her bouquet, the thinner she will look.
• Turn your body to a 45 degree angle from the camera
• Lift your chin slightly up and out
• Put all of your weight on your back leg
• Lean in a little with your chest

Relax and have fun. It’s a great day! If you’re stressed or exhausted, it’ll show. Get plenty of rest the night before your wedding. I encourage brides and grooms to schedule their rehearsal dinner two days before the wedding instead of the night before. This gives you a day of rest and an a opportunity to energize yourself for your wedding day. Be funky, outrageous and outwardly emotional. Allow your photographer to capture those emotions, you will treasure them. Remember, your mood will always be reflected in your photographs. Trust your photographer – you’re paying a professional for a reason!

There are many other photo tips too numerous to mention. Spend some time with your photographer and ask them for their best tips.

Having said all this, FORGET about the camera and just have fun!

BONUS Articles: Photography Tips

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, September 26, 2011

Cord of Three Strands Ceremony – God’s Knot

Filed under: Add-on Ceremonies,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

The cord of three strands ceremony (often called “God’s Knot” or the Unity Braid Ceremony) symbolizes the joining of one man, one woman, and God into a marriage relationship. It adds a truly unique element to your ceremony that friends and family will remember.

Couples with strong spiritual beliefs may want to add this short ceremony toward the end of the wedding ceremony.

Cordof3StrandsMarriage takes three; you, your soon to be spouse, and God. It was God who taught us to love. By keeping Him at the center of your marriage, His love will continue to bind you together as one throughout your marriage.

The cord of three strands ceremony is a great addition to a wedding ceremony. It adds a truly unique element to your ceremony that friends and family will remember. It can also serve as a substitute for the Unity Candle or the Blending of the Sands Ceremony. This is useful for situations where candles may not be used, or may be difficult. The Cord of Three Strands works well as a substitute in outside weddings.

Toward the end of the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom braid the Cord of Three Strands together. The groom holds a small metal ring with three attached strands. The bride then braids the strands together, symbolizing the union of God, husband and wife. The colors of the cords is significant.

3strandcordGold Strand – Represents God

The divinity of God is represented in Gold. This covenant relationship is initiated by Him, will be built under His authority, and is intended to glorify Him.

Purple Strand – Represents the Groom

As a new creation in Christ, the majesty of the Groom is represented in purple. As the husband loves his wife and submits himself to the Lord, the Lord in turn will demonstrate His great love in the marriage relationship.

White Strand – Represents the Bride

Having been cleansed by salvation in Christ, the purity of the Bride is represented in white. As the wife honors her husband and submits herself to the Lord, the Lord in turn will nurture and strengthen the marriage relationship.

After the braid is completed, the officiant can use the braid to bond the couple together. This can be done by loosely tying their hands together or draping the braid over their shoulders.

Some couples prefer to have a family member make the three colorful cords rather than buy the cords. One couple’s parents gave the bride and groom a braided cord that they had used in their wedding for the couple to use in their wedding with the understanding that they pass it on to their children to use in their children’s future weddings.

This ceremony can be used in a “Renewal of Vows” ceremony to re-enforce your marriage covenant.

To see the words that are used in this ceremony, click here.

Here are 2 places where you can order the Cord of Three Strands:

http://www.MarriageBraid.com
http://www.GodsKnot.com

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, September 22, 2011

How to Have a “Good Hair Day” at Your Wedding!

Filed under: Hair Style,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Think and plan ahead.

Haven’t picked a hairstyle?

Red hair and hairdresser toolsTo ensure that your big day goes according to your plans consider scheduling a “hair trial rehearsal” with your wedding hair stylist! Your wedding day is the single most memorable day of your life. A practice appointment prior to your wedding is highly recommended to ensure your big day runs smoothly and stress free.

Some brides schedule their trial run for the day of their bridal shower. This time allows for your hair stylist to explore your hair and accessory needs and is an opportunity to chat with your stylist and decide if you will need to make any changes to your current hairstyle, such as length, condition or color.

When discussing up-dos with your hair stylist, keep in mind that your profile will be facing your guests throughout most of the ceremony, as you face your fiancé. If you have medium-length to long hair, pulling it back or up on the top of your head (at least the front sections) will let your guests be able to see your beautiful and happy face, and not just a head full of hair. Most stylists recommend that you don’t wear your hair in a way that is totally different from your usual style.

BridalHairstyleSift through magazines for styles that catch your eye, and start a collection of clippings that you can bring in to your stylist for a rehearsal of your favorite hairstyle. When you have some styling ideas in mind, it’s a good idea to schedule a hair rehearsal no later than about a month or more before the wedding. That will give you some built-in time to make changes to the final style if necessary.

Most importantly, be sure to bring your veil, headpiece, and anything else that you’ll be wearing on the day of the wedding to your hair trial appointment. Some veils will lend well to hair being down and some to hair being up. Having a friend there with you to take a few pictures or ask your stylist to take photographs of your hair in each style from all perspectives. This will enable you to keep a record of the different looks. It is wise to consider the hair style before buying the veil.

If you are having a “destination” wedding, when searching for a stylist, shop around, look at portfolios of work, and ask for recommendations. Get referrals from friends in your wedding city or from the wedding coordinator at your wedding venue. The bottom line for a destination wedding is to keep your hairstyle uncomplicated. From a simple up-do to loose, casual and sexy, you can find a style that won’t require a lot of effort on a day when you have plenty of other details to think about.

bridehairstylesRemember to consider the season and climate. In the Greater Phoenix area, there is very low humidity and it’s hotter than most other places. Also, if you’re getting married at 5:30 p.m. don’t get your hair done at 9:00 a.m. Closer to the wedding start time is better. This will help keep your wedding hair style looking fresh and flawless as you walk down the aisle.

The perfect wedding hairstyle is ultimately the one that YOU love – whether it’s simple or elaborate – and one that will feel comfortable and natural on the big day. Planning ahead with a Hair rehearsal at your stylist’s shop will transform your “good hair day” into a “sensational hair day!”

If possible have your makeup artist and hairstylist come to you on the day of the wedding. Remind them to please “be on time” in case you run into a snag. Nobody wants a last minute hair disaster or style flop on their wedding day. Then sit back, relax, knowing you will look and feel your best and steal the show.

NOTE: A special “thank you” to Little Wedding Guide for their contribution to this article. Subscribe to their free eWedding tips at: http://www.littleweddingguide.com/subscribe/

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Sunday, September 18, 2011

Should You Send “Save the Date Cards?”

Filed under: Save the Date Cards,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Yes!

Save the date cards are a fun, festive way to tell your friends and family about your wedding. Make sure your wedding is on your friends’ calendars. They usually take the form of a card, but can also be a refrigerator magnet, stickers, photo booth photos or similar item. Using photographs is another clever way to announce your wedding date to guests. Combine your love of music and your recent engagement photos into a save the date CD.

SavetheDate1Your cards may be as fancy or as whimsical as you wish. They are generally sent out at least six to twelve months before the wedding date, and are usually followed by a formal wedding invitation.

If your wedding falls near a major holiday, like Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Year’s Eve, save the date announcements are especially important. They are pretty much a “must” for a Destination Wedding. Consider including travel and area information, e.g., resorts, flights, phone numbers, a map of the area, group booking plans, etc. If you plan to make a wedding Website, supply guests with the URL address on your save the date card as well. It is not proper to send your registry information with the save the date card. Guests with children will need to arrange for child care and some couples may have to put in for vacation time.

SavetheDate2Creative save the date wedding cards are available in a huge variety of styles, from DIY (do it yourself) to professionally designed keepsakes. Your wedding save the date cards will be the first thing people see regarding the style of your wedding so you want to make them cool and unique, personalized, or reflect the colors and theme of your wedding day.

While save the date started as a wedding-related custom, it is now used by individuals, businesses, and organizations to announce the date of any formal event, ranging from wedding anniversaries to grand opening ceremonies for office buildings.

They are essential in the following situations: if many of your guests are traveling to your wedding, your wedding takes place on or around a holiday, you are planning a faraway destination wedding, or your wedding will take place in a seasonally busy or tourist locale, where the flights and hotels perhaps book up early.

Don’t leave anyone out. Send a save the date to everyone on your guest list, even if you’ve already shared your wedding date with some of them in person, via e-mail or over the phone. Let them know if the invite includes a guest.

SavetheDate3There are literally thousands of wedding save the date card designs from a multitude of companies. New trends are popping up daily. Do a Google search or ask some of your wedding vendors for references.

Wording is also simple, if you are going the formal route try this: “Please save the date of Saturday the Twenty-Sixth of November, Two Thousand Eleven for the wedding for Miss Kelly Simpson and Mr. Andy Jones. Include the names of the host and “Invitation to follow” at the bottom.

Help to keep within your budget by calling the post office to inquire about size limitations on cards and envelopes. If you need bigger cards to say everything that is required, be sure to calculate the added postage expense if you are on a tight budget.

If someone receives a save-the-date and will be unable to attend, they are likely to offer regrets far in advance. You still need to send a wedding invitation as a common courtesy.

BONUS Articles: What to Include (Etiquette Wise) With Your Wedding Invitations
The Pros and Cons of Destination Weddings

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Wedding Consultants Love Larry James too!

Filed under: LoveNotes for Larry James,Rave Reviews! — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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We Get LoveNotes. . . When it comes to choosing an officiant for your wedding, I hope that you choose Larry James.

As a professional wedding and event planner, I highly recommend him. His level of service to brides and grooms is unmatched in the industry. He really cares about the words of commitment that will be spoken on your wedding day. He is always willing to go the extra mile when it comes to creating a special ceremony for you, your family, and friends. He is a very talented writer and professional speaker. ~ Tera Whitaker Weddings & Events, LLC

love-heartLarry’s Note: Tera Whitaker Weddings & Events, LLC, is a full service wedding and event consulting company located in Phoenix, AZ. They are consultants committed to delivering a spectacular and unforgettable wedding or event to their clients, as well as an amazing experience working with them!

Bonus Articles: Read, “Top 10 Reasons to Hire a Wedding Planner” by Melissa Jill, Photographer.
Interviewing a Wedding Officiant? – Bring Lots of Questions!

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Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, September 10, 2011

Time for a Humor Break!

Filed under: Humor Break! — Larry James @ 7:00 am

e-mailA police officer in a small town stopped a motorist who was speeding down Main Street.

“But officer,” the man began, “I can explain.”

“Just be quiet,” snapped the officer. “I’m going to let you cool your heels in jail until the chief gets back.”

“But, officer, I just wanted to say. . .”

“And I said to keep quiet! You’re going to jail!”

A few hours later the officer looked in on his prisoner and said, “Lucky for you that the chief’s at his daughter’s wedding. He’ll be in a good mood when he gets back.”

“Don’t count on it,” answered the fellow in the cell. “I’m the groom.”

howworse• • • • • • • • • • • •

Although this married couple enjoyed their new fishing boat together, it was the husband who was behind the wheel operating the boat. He was concerned about what might happen in an emergency. So one day out on the lake he said to his wife, “Please take the wheel, dear. Pretend that I am having a heart attack. You must get the boat safely to shore and dock it.”

So she drove the boat to shore.

Later that evening, the wife walked into the living room where her husband was watching television. She sat down next to him, switched the TV channel, and said to him, “Please go into the kitchen, dear. Pretend I’m having a heart attack and set the table, cook dinner and wash the dishes.”

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A man is at work one day, when he notices that his co-worker is wearing an earring. The man knows his co-worker to be a conservative guy, and is curious about his sudden change in fashion sense. The man walks up and says, “I didn’t know you were into earrings.”

The co-worker responds sheepishly, “Don’t make such a big deal out of this, it’s only an earring.”

The man falls silent for a few minutes, but then his curiosity prods him to say, “So how long have you been wearing one?”

The co-worker responds, “Ever since my wife found it in my truck.”

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 455 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Booze: To Serve or Not to Serve

Filed under: $$$ Tips,Cocktail Hour,Receptions — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Amina Michele, Guest Author

Okay… here we are, the ongoing dilemma I see with a lot of Brides: “What type of bar are they going to serve if any?”

We all know booze can be expensive and can really take from your wedding budget. As a wedding coordinator – here is my advice:

cocktailhourFor the Brides that don’t drink any type of alcohol and their wish is to not have alcohol at their wedding because they don’t want to drink so want to make everyone else endure the evening with no booze – my advice – suck it up… just this one time.

Why so harsh Amina Michele? I want your guests to stay the entire night and walk away from your wedding feeling like you had all the components of a perfect wedding. Those that drink alcohol socially enjoy alcohol at weddings, and if they don’t leave before the cake cutting, they will certainly leave after, and your party will be cut in half if not more.

Bottom line – chances are 85% of your guests like a drink to wind down, or with dinner, or just need a little something to dance. So serving, even if it’s just beer and wine should always be an option.

For the Brides that don’t have enough money to serve a premium bar, no biggie, go call, or just serving beer and wine is perfectly acceptable. If you can’t afford anything at all, at least offer a cash bar so your guests can decide for themselves… I will say however… this is the last resort, it is always nice to host a bar at least for a certain period of time.

For the Brides that are worried about mayhem at your wedding reception – all you have to do is express to your banquet captain and bartenders that they need to regulate their pours – “DO NOT OVER POUR!!

ClassicLOGOMost of your guests will know to behave, but if you expect people to get a little rowdy, make sure the staff is prepared to control this so you don’t have to!! Enjoy the fun… it’s your special time to celebrate!!

BONUS Article: Cash Bars at Weddings: Tacky or Thrifty?
Beverage Selections for a Toast

Photo Credit: (Upper left) Peacock Photography.

AminaCopyright © 2011 – Amina Michele. Amina Michele began her career in corporate and charity event planning in 2002. She fell in love with weddings two years later and since has built one of the most sought after wedding planning companies in the West. Some Like It Classic – Wedding & Event Design was founded in 2006, and in only its first year of business was awarded a total of 4 different industry awards, and since has quadrupled that number and been featured in every major wedding publication and blog. Amina Michele and her excellent staff serves the Greater Phoenix area and beyond! Amina Michele’s bio. Visit Amin’s Websites: http://www.SomeLikeItClassic.com and http://AminaMichele.com.

Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 470 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Friday, September 2, 2011

Do’s and Don’ts for a Stress-Free Wedding

Filed under: $$$ Tips,Budget,Stress-Free Wedding,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Your wedding day should be a day of fun and romantic celebration. You want your wedding day to be great and to run smoothly, right? It doesn’t take much for you to begin to feel overwhelmed. Couples who begin planning early and pace themselves should be able to avoid last minute chaos.

First things first. Start planning at least a year in advance – more if possible. Get organized. Buy a wedding organizer. You may not think you need one, but the best way to keep track of potential caterers, DJs, Wedding Officiant, venues and other assorted bridal services. Make a Wedding Checklist. Keep track of every wedding vendor you talk with; name, phone number, Website and e-mail address and bring the list with you to the wedding, just in case you need to contact them.

DO – Set priorities; choose the date, book the wedding venue and hire a professional wedding officiant.

WeddingStressDO – Select “dependable” attendants and give each one a copy of the tentative timeline for the wedding so they can make arrangements in their own life to be at rehearsal, etc. Be sure that they are clear about the duties that come with being the Maid of Honor, Best Man and bridesmaids and groomsmen. If they falter from doing what they are expected to do, let them know that you will not hesitate to appoint someone else. Surround yourself with attendants who cause you the least amount of stress.

DO – Delegate someone to put together a bride’s emergency kit to have on hand the day of the wedding. Be prepared for anything that may happen.

DON’T – Don’t wait until the wedding day to make major changes. Don’t make any spur of the moment decisions. Thank ahead. Once you make a decision, move on.

DO – A wedding is not just for the bride. It takes two! Make sure the groom is involved. Girls: he may say he doesn’t care, but down deep, he does. Give him a list of things to do with deadlines. This event is the mutual responsibility of both of you, so guys, you need to do more than get fitted for a tux and remember to bring the ring. 😉

DON’T – Don’t eat, drink, smoke or apply make-up after you’ve put your wedding dress on for the ceremony. If you do drink, use a straw and be very careful.

DO – Two weeks prior to the wedding, phone all your vendors and verify everything. Verify the date, time, location and exactly what they will be doing. Make sure they know the directions to the wedding venue. Bring a list of phone numbers so someone can call them if they don’t show up on time.

DO – If you plan to have a wedding party of 3 or more standing on each side of the wedding officiant – have a rehearsal! The wedding rehearsal is a run-through of the ceremony with the minister (hitting the highlights of the ceremony and giving everyone their cues for the big day) from beginning to end, allowing everybody involved to feel more confident about what will happen on the wedding day. Walk through the ceremony, establishing the pace and timing, in the order each element will occur, where everyone will be standing and make sure all of the participants know their responsibilities.

HOT TIP: Some couples prefer to have the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner two days before the wedding to allow a day of rest from the stress of having two busy days in a row. Wrap it up early enough for the bride to tend to any last minute details the next day like doing her nails or packing for her honeymoon, and to allow her the opportunity to wind down, relax, and rest well for the big day ahead. Take that stress-free day before the wedding to really pamper yourself – your hair, a spa visit, a manicure and pedicure. Just relax.

DO – Accept that your wedding may not be perfect! Sometimes things go wrong. Take a deep breath and be okay with whatever happens. Sometimes those things become the memorable moments you can smile about later.

stressedbrideDON’T – Don’t stress out about what other people think about your choices for your wedding, especially the mothers. This is YOUR wedding. They have already had their wedding. You may have to “gently” remind them of this if their ideas get in your way.

DO – Put something in your stomach. Eat something before the wedding. Have someone pick up sandwiches or a veggie tray to share with the bridesmaids. A Pepsi, cheese and crackers are better than nothing.

DON’T – Never let yourself be pressured into buying a wedding dress which you feel is not right or cost more than you can afford. Never be tempted to buy a cheap wedding dress online unless you are sure it is from a reputable company.

DO – Make a budget. Money is such an easy thing to fight about. Make sure you sit down at the beginning of the planning process and agree on how much money you’re going to spend, and stick to it! However, allow room to switch money from one thing to another if the one vendor you really MUST have costs a little more. Cut back on favors. Have a buffet instead of an expensive per plate charge for your guests. Do your best to not charge everything on your credit card. The last thing you need is to be stressed about starting your marriage with enormous credit card bills.

DON’T – Money issues can frequently come up and create stressful situations. Not every couple has the luxury of having their parents share in the expenses of their wedding. However, I strongly recommend that instead of putting all the expenses that you are responsible for on a credit card, once you know that wedding bells are in your future begin to work on a budget together and save every penny you can into a special wedding fund.

DO – Make sure all the vendors are paid and everything is taken care of BEFORE the wedding day. You don’t have to worry on that day. Make arrangements for vendor tips to be given after the wedding. This task is often given to the best man.

DO – Designate someone to drop off all the essentials at your venue – the favors, the place cards, the cake cutter, the cake topper, the sand for the sand ceremony, etc., the day BEFORE your wedding.

DO – Make arrangements to get your hair done in plenty of time before the wedding ceremony is scheduled to begin. If you’re having a bad hair day, you will wish you had. This is often the excuse for the delay of the bride being ready on time.

DON’T – Don’t be tempted to jet off on your honeymoon as soon as the wedding is over. The wedding and reception may cause extreme exhaustion. It’s a big day. The honeymoon is very special so give yourself a couple of days (or more) to rest. Open gifts, write “thank you” notes, sleep late, rest and just be together. When you are fully rested, go for it! Don’t worry about not being able to take a big fancy honeymoon. You have the rest of your lives to make money and take big, wonderful, fabulous vacations.

DO – If your intention is to lose a lot of weight before the wedding, you would be wise to start that regimen 6 months to a year before the big day.

happycoupleYour relationship – between the bride and groom – can be stressful and can become even more stressful prior to the marriage. Focus on the important thing – the relationship! Be certain to take some time to stay connected. Don’t allow your life to be consumed by the planning of your wedding. Spend some relaxing time together as a couple. “Make” time for each other.

DO – Be okay with the butterflies in your tummy! It’s normal to be a little nervous or stressed on the day of your wedding. If you have done the best you can to hire the best wedding vendors, the butterflies should all be flying in formation by now. Allow the professionals to do the work, and sit back and relax.

PLEASE DO – If you are afraid that you will forget something important… don’t freak out… PLEASE hire a Wedding Consultant! The wedding coordinator will work with you on everything from the budget to the flowers, photographer to the DJ, caterer to the cake, and your venue. Your wedding coordinator will handle every aspect of your wedding planning, alerting you to possible problems that may be costly. Wedding coordinators also have relationships with vendors in the industry, possibly encouraging discounts and/or negotiating terms that you would not be able to do on your own. They can keep you on budget, on target and focused. They can help with event décor and design. They can help you with etiquette questions, creating a budget and payment schedule for vendors, creating timelines for your event, researching vendors, scheduling appointments with vendors and attending them with you, reviewing contracts, and much more.

Larry’s TIP: You will actually SAVE money by hiring a Wedding Consultant. Trust me, I know! Call me for referrals.

DO – Get a good nights sleep the night before the wedding. No excuses. Go to bed early. Relax into a deep slumber. You will be glad you did.

DON’T – A brief word about alcohol. Have an exciting ceremony, enjoy the reception – dance like nobody’s watching – but do yourself a favor and don’t over-indulge in social lubricant! You will thank me later.

HOT TIP for the Groom: There is nothing that will excite your bride-to-be more than a dozen roses on her wedding day.

And finally. . . take a deep breath. Relax. When your big day is done, all that matters is that you are married to the love of your life and surrounded by family and friends who love you.

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