Although tradition says that the Best Man and the Maid of Honor usually walk up just before Ring Bearer, Flower girl and the Bride and her escort, if you have 3 or 4 (or more) Bridesmaids and Groomsmen on each side, it is often a better idea to have the Best Man and the Maid of Honor walk in after the Minister and the Groom so that everyone else knows exactly where they are suppose to stand.
The traditional way often has the spacing between everyone staggered or off the mark and may show up as loosely organized and bad in the wedding photos. If you decide to do it this way, please remember to tell the wedding venue coordinator because they usually line everyone up to go in the traditional way.
Remember to provide the Wedding Venue Coordinator at your wedding venue ALL the details of the rehearsal, BEFORE the rehearsal NOT at the rehearsal. Example: Names of Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, who seats the parents & grandparents, are the guys walking up first or will the Groomsmen walk with the Bridesmaids, names of the ushers (if any), etc.
Having the names of EVERYONE in the wedding party in advance of the rehearsal will help make your rehearsal go much smoother and less time consuming. Send an e-mail a day or two before the rehearsal to the wedding venue coordinator with the names. Also send a copy of the e-mail to the Wedding Officiant/Minister.
When the wedding venue coordinator has the names of everyone “prior” to the rehearsal, it’s much easier for them to call out the names of everyone in the bridal party and line them up. When you wait until you get to the rehearsal to give the names to the wedding venue coordinator it often slows down the rehearsal time by 10 to 15 minutes while you give her/him the names and he/she writes them down.
Send an e-mail a day or two before the rehearsal to the wedding venue coordinator. A well-coordinated rehearsal should not take longer than 30 minutes provided everyone arrives on time. Please encourage those who will be in the wedding party to be on time. The Wedding Officiant or Minister often will have more than one rehearsal in a day.
Rehearsals go much faster and smoother when everyone is lined up first as if everyone had just walked in and are ready for the wedding to begin. In other words, you start at the end. Next, the wedding officiant/minster hits the highlights of the ceremony to familiarize everyone with the order of things, then you practice walking out. The wedding venue coordinator then lines everyone up in the order they will walk in and you do it all over again. In affect you get two rehearsals this way. I always ask if everyone is comfortable with the rehearsal and if they have any questions.
With this rehearsal method, 9 times out of 10, a one-time walk-through does it.
Larry’s Note: Old traditions are hard to break, but bridal couples must be mindful that just because something has been around for a long time, doesn’t mean that fashioning new rituals isn’t perfectly acceptable and perhaps even preferable.
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