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Saturday, June 18, 2011

Wedding Speech Tips – Ideas on Wedding Speeches

Filed under: Guest Authors,Toasts,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Andy Royce, Guest Author

Wedding speeches have been around since we can all remember. Many have been very forgettable, but there have been many legendary speeches as well. If the thought of giving a wedding speech is casting a shadow over someone else’s shining moment, you are not alone.

bestmanSpeechMost people can’t create a successful speech for wedding from scratch without some help. All it takes is a little preparation and knowing a few tricks of the trade. Below are some tips to help you get through a wedding ceremony speech with no sweat, or very little. While many of these may sound cheesy and stupid, if you take them seriously they can really make wedding speeches go by easier than you’d think.

Wedding speeches are important at a wedding ceremony and are usually given at the reception. They usually serve not just as formalities within a ceremony, but to add insight to the bride and groom, and the union that has been established. Here is a closer look into the nitty-gritty of wedding speeches.

Wedding speeches are usually given by the father of the bride, the groom, the best man, and the maid/matron of honor. A wedding speech should be about both families and impersonal, although exceptions are given to the best man and maid/matron of honor, who can inject more personal comments in their speeches.

The bride’s father usually gives the first wedding speech. Traditionally, if there is no master of ceremonies or toastmaster, he is to be introduced by the best man. In his speech, the father of the bride welcomes the guests to the wedding and thanks them for their attendance in the marriage of his daughter to her new husband. He could proceed by taking about his daughter, her character, childhood, accomplishments and skills. He then talks about his new son in law. His little talk about his son in law should be more impersonal in approach, after which he proposes a toast to the bride and groom.

The groom, in response to his father in law’s speech will then deliver a speech.

After the groom’s speech and toast (which is usually directed to his new family), the maid/matron of honor will follow, who then proposes a toast for the bride, to be concluded with the best man’s wedding speech. The best man will be responsible as well for any messages from the uninvited, or those unable to attend, and finishes with a toast to the parents of the bride and groom.

When planning the wedding reception speech, don’t feel like you have to fully conform to tradition. Sure, the best man speech is usually the funny one, the Father of the Bride’s is normally the sincere one and the Groom’s speech is usually the short, forgettable one, but they needn’t be just that.

If you are the Groom and want to say something a little more memorable, or the Best Man who wants to make it more heartfelt, or the Father of the Bride who will cry if he keeps it all lovey-dovey then do what feels right and comfortable. Don’t lose sight of the speech’s tradition, but most importantly just be yourself.

First, before you ever begin your wedding speech, have a chat with close friends and relatives of the bride and groom beforehand and ask them to lead the applause and laughter where appropriate.

BestmanToastAlso, have a snack about quarter of an hour before your wedding speech. Professionals advise a banana but if you can’t get hold of one of them just make sure you down anything that will stop your tummy from rumbling yet won’t repeat on you!

When you think of the wedding speech, picture it with a smile on your face. It is always helpful to go into a speech with confidence. However, before you speak, forget completely about what lies ahead and remember to enjoy yourself, take everything in and focus only on the moment.

Another thing to picture is the very end of the speech. What happens at the end of outstanding wedding speeches or any of those humorous funny wedding speeches? Try picturing it with everyone applauding and imagine them laughing (at the appropriate bits) throughout. You would find some really humorous wedding speech jokes elsewhere in this site to help you on it. And if you want you could also browse the internet and search for free wedding speeches. Some of these resources have pretty good wedding speech content and you can use them in your speech with a little customization.

Before you stand up to deliver wedding speech, think of a something that makes you laugh or giggle, that way you’ll begin with a big smile like you imagined rather than a look of dread.

When you start, begin with a glance around the guests present in the marriage ceremony before you start to help you relax and give the audience an air of confidence. If you don’t drink don’t worry, you won’t be pressured into doing so at the end of your speech. Instead, make sure that the reception venue is aware of your requirements and just ask to have a non-alcoholic beverage in front of you.

There is hardly any doubt that a most of us have some kind of fear regarding public speaking. This is why giving a good wedding speech can be so difficult. Nonetheless, you can be assured that you will have a good wedding speech by getting sample wedding speeches off of the internet through templates.

Remember above all else that nobody wants you to fail. And you should now be confident enough of achieving a total control on all the wedding speeches that you have to give today, tomorrow and in the days to come.

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Larry’s Note: Here is something fun to watch – maybe not the very BEST wedding speech – but funny!

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