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Thursday, June 30, 2011

Surprise Wedding Proposal – I Mean… Really Surprise!!

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Sunday, June 26, 2011

Wedding and Honeymoon Gift Baskets for the Bride and Groom

Filed under: Gifts,Wedding Showers,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Diane Peterson, Guest Author

giftbasket2Wedding season is in full swing and that means shopping for wedding gifts. A registry gift is nice, but predictable. If you want to give a surprising and delightful gift, pick out a gift basket that will keep the bride and groom toasting to their big day!

Wedding gift baskets are a perfect indulgent gift for the bride and groom to receive. There are so many options for gift baskets that are suitable as a wedding gift; which makes this such a great gift to give.

Since there isn’t any one specific type of wedding gift basket, choosing one can be a little tricky. Get some help from gift basket sites that review some of the best gift baskets. Generally speaking, a gift basket containing wine or champagne is probably your best bet for a wedding gift. These types of gift baskets are accompanied by gourmet snacks that pair well with the wines. It’s like a mini cocktail party in a basket!

Another great characteristic of a wedding gift basket is the presentation. Amidst a sea of white and silver wrapping paper, a gift basket is sure to stand out on a gift table.

giftbasket1If you are trying to think of a gift that breaks tradition, give the newlyweds a gift basket they can take with them on their honeymoon.

A bride and groom beach tote is a practical and fun way to say congratulations and kick start their much needed beach vacation after months of stressful wedding planning.

This fantastic cotton canvas beach tote gift gives you the option of embroidering the couple’s names and wedding date on the bag. Every time they use it they will think of their wedding day. It can be filled with some beach towels, sunscreen, flip-flops as well as a bottle of wine. A spa themed gift basket is also appropriate as a honeymoon gift.

A honeymoon should be relaxing and a gift basket filled with slippers, bubble bath and scented candles will pamper the newlyweds in luxury. Whichever type of gift basket you choose for the bride and groom it is sure to say congratulations and show them how happy you are for them.

BONUS Articles: Several articles about “Honeymoons!”

dianePetersonCopyright © 2011 – Diane Peterson. Reprinted with permission. – Diane is “The Gift Basket Gal.” She is the owner of Gift Basket Reviews and services the Greater Phoenix, AZ area. She custom-makes all kinds of gift baskets. Visit Diane’s Website and Blog.

Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Who (of the bridal party) Walks Down the Aisle First?

Filed under: Bridal Party,Non-Traditional Ideas,Rehearsals — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Although tradition says that the Best Man and the Maid of Honor usually walk up just before Ring Bearer, Flower girl and the Bride and her escort, if you have 3 or 4 (or more) Bridesmaids and Groomsmen on each side, it is often a better idea to have the Best Man and the Maid of Honor walk in after the Minister and the Groom so that everyone else knows exactly where they are suppose to stand.

The traditional way often has the spacing between everyone staggered or off the mark and may show up as loosely organized and bad in the wedding photos. If you decide to do it this way, please remember to tell the wedding venue coordinator because they usually line everyone up to go in the traditional way.

orange-bridesmaidsRemember to provide the Wedding Venue Coordinator at your wedding venue ALL the details of the rehearsal, BEFORE the rehearsal NOT at the rehearsal. Example: Names of Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, who seats the parents & grandparents, are the guys walking up first or will the Groomsmen walk with the Bridesmaids, names of the ushers (if any), etc.

Having the names of EVERYONE in the wedding party in advance of the rehearsal will help make your rehearsal go much smoother and less time consuming. Send an e-mail a day or two before the rehearsal to the wedding venue coordinator with the names. Also send a copy of the e-mail to the Wedding Officiant/Minister.

When the wedding venue coordinator has the names of everyone “prior” to the rehearsal, it’s much easier for them to call out the names of everyone in the bridal party and line them up. When you wait until you get to the rehearsal to give the names to the wedding venue coordinator it often slows down the rehearsal time by 10 to 15 minutes while you give her/him the names and he/she writes them down.

Send an e-mail a day or two before the rehearsal to the wedding venue coordinator. A well-coordinated rehearsal should not take longer than 30 minutes provided everyone arrives on time. Please encourage those who will be in the wedding party to be on time. The Wedding Officiant or Minister often will have more than one rehearsal in a day.

Rehearsals go much faster and smoother when everyone is lined up first as if everyone had just walked in and are ready for the wedding to begin. In other words, you start at the end. Next, the wedding officiant/minster hits the highlights of the ceremony to familiarize everyone with the order of things, then you practice walking out. The wedding venue coordinator then lines everyone up in the order they will walk in and you do it all over again. In affect you get two rehearsals this way. I always ask if everyone is comfortable with the rehearsal and if they have any questions.

With this rehearsal method, 9 times out of 10, a one-time walk-through does it.

Larry’s Note: Old traditions are hard to break, but bridal couples must be mindful that just because something has been around for a long time, doesn’t mean that fashioning new rituals isn’t perfectly acceptable and perhaps even preferable.

BONUS Article: The Rehearsal & the Rehearsal Dinner! It’s Fun Time!

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Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, June 18, 2011

Wedding Speech Tips – Ideas on Wedding Speeches

Filed under: Guest Authors,Toasts,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Andy Royce, Guest Author

Wedding speeches have been around since we can all remember. Many have been very forgettable, but there have been many legendary speeches as well. If the thought of giving a wedding speech is casting a shadow over someone else’s shining moment, you are not alone.

bestmanSpeechMost people can’t create a successful speech for wedding from scratch without some help. All it takes is a little preparation and knowing a few tricks of the trade. Below are some tips to help you get through a wedding ceremony speech with no sweat, or very little. While many of these may sound cheesy and stupid, if you take them seriously they can really make wedding speeches go by easier than you’d think.

Wedding speeches are important at a wedding ceremony and are usually given at the reception. They usually serve not just as formalities within a ceremony, but to add insight to the bride and groom, and the union that has been established. Here is a closer look into the nitty-gritty of wedding speeches.

Wedding speeches are usually given by the father of the bride, the groom, the best man, and the maid/matron of honor. A wedding speech should be about both families and impersonal, although exceptions are given to the best man and maid/matron of honor, who can inject more personal comments in their speeches.

The bride’s father usually gives the first wedding speech. Traditionally, if there is no master of ceremonies or toastmaster, he is to be introduced by the best man. In his speech, the father of the bride welcomes the guests to the wedding and thanks them for their attendance in the marriage of his daughter to her new husband. He could proceed by taking about his daughter, her character, childhood, accomplishments and skills. He then talks about his new son in law. His little talk about his son in law should be more impersonal in approach, after which he proposes a toast to the bride and groom.

The groom, in response to his father in law’s speech will then deliver a speech.

After the groom’s speech and toast (which is usually directed to his new family), the maid/matron of honor will follow, who then proposes a toast for the bride, to be concluded with the best man’s wedding speech. The best man will be responsible as well for any messages from the uninvited, or those unable to attend, and finishes with a toast to the parents of the bride and groom.

When planning the wedding reception speech, don’t feel like you have to fully conform to tradition. Sure, the best man speech is usually the funny one, the Father of the Bride’s is normally the sincere one and the Groom’s speech is usually the short, forgettable one, but they needn’t be just that.

If you are the Groom and want to say something a little more memorable, or the Best Man who wants to make it more heartfelt, or the Father of the Bride who will cry if he keeps it all lovey-dovey then do what feels right and comfortable. Don’t lose sight of the speech’s tradition, but most importantly just be yourself.

First, before you ever begin your wedding speech, have a chat with close friends and relatives of the bride and groom beforehand and ask them to lead the applause and laughter where appropriate.

BestmanToastAlso, have a snack about quarter of an hour before your wedding speech. Professionals advise a banana but if you can’t get hold of one of them just make sure you down anything that will stop your tummy from rumbling yet won’t repeat on you!

When you think of the wedding speech, picture it with a smile on your face. It is always helpful to go into a speech with confidence. However, before you speak, forget completely about what lies ahead and remember to enjoy yourself, take everything in and focus only on the moment.

Another thing to picture is the very end of the speech. What happens at the end of outstanding wedding speeches or any of those humorous funny wedding speeches? Try picturing it with everyone applauding and imagine them laughing (at the appropriate bits) throughout. You would find some really humorous wedding speech jokes elsewhere in this site to help you on it. And if you want you could also browse the internet and search for free wedding speeches. Some of these resources have pretty good wedding speech content and you can use them in your speech with a little customization.

Before you stand up to deliver wedding speech, think of a something that makes you laugh or giggle, that way you’ll begin with a big smile like you imagined rather than a look of dread.

When you start, begin with a glance around the guests present in the marriage ceremony before you start to help you relax and give the audience an air of confidence. If you don’t drink don’t worry, you won’t be pressured into doing so at the end of your speech. Instead, make sure that the reception venue is aware of your requirements and just ask to have a non-alcoholic beverage in front of you.

There is hardly any doubt that a most of us have some kind of fear regarding public speaking. This is why giving a good wedding speech can be so difficult. Nonetheless, you can be assured that you will have a good wedding speech by getting sample wedding speeches off of the internet through templates.

Remember above all else that nobody wants you to fail. And you should now be confident enough of achieving a total control on all the wedding speeches that you have to give today, tomorrow and in the days to come.

BONUS Articles: Rambling Ron, Rita and the “Toasted” Toaster 😉
Wedding Toasts
Tips on Giving a Wedding Toast

Larry’s Note: Here is something fun to watch – maybe not the very BEST wedding speech – but funny!

Copyright © 2011 – Copyright © Wedding Speech Digest – Your Guide To Wedding Speeches. Reprinted with permission.

Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, June 14, 2011

10+ Tips to Help You Choose the Right Wedding Vendor!

During my interview with brides and grooms, I often get asked, what are some areas that I can skimp on and what areas are really important?

That is a question that you as the bride and groom need to think about. What is important for you on your wedding? Some people want to spend all of their money on a wonderful photographer while for others the food is important. Others only care about the quality of the favors on the guest’s tables or the disc jockey. Whatever your most important area may be. . . don’t hire anyone less than a quality vendor.

JustMarriedAlways hire the best you can afford. The vendors that you choose for your wedding ceremony and reception will be the key factor in determining just how successful your wedding will be. I can personally tell you of weddings I’ve heard about that were total disasters because the bride and groom made there choices on price alone. That is rarely ever a good idea. Choose a vendor based on past customer reviews, not on price. Choosing the cheapest pricing could prove to be disastrous.

A true professional can be accommodating to your tastes while maintaining a level of control. They should offer advice where needed and help to ensure your wedding is as stress-free as possible and runs without a hitch. You can never have too many experts in your corner!

There are two important areas of your wedding celebration where price should never be a factor. A mediocre Minister and a unenthusiastic DJ can wreak havoc at your wedding. A lackluster minister with a boring ceremony – like most of the others you’ve heard – can leave the guests cold and uninspired and if the DJ isn’t a true “entertainer” the reception can crash and burn.

Your wedding reception DJ should be considered your “Wedding Entertainment Director.” A great DJ determines whether your reception is a hit or a miss! The minister and the DJ should be the very best you can hire. I know its cliché, but you really do get what you pay for.

Perhaps the primary deciding factor should be who performs the most memorable and unique wedding ceremony for you and your guests and what other extras do they offer in their package that other ministers do not. You will enjoy the comfort and assurance of knowing you are contracting with a first-class minister who comes with professional experience, impeccable integrity, commendable references, a gentle and enthusiastic spirit and a subtle, but delightful sense of humor (hmmm, sounds like a description of Larry James). 😉

This is your very special day. It will only happen once. I would never recommend that you make your decision on price alone. There are numerous other areas that you can cut back on when the $$s are tight.

weddingplanningchecklistThere are so many choices when it comes to vendors, but having quality and reliable vendors will help to make your big day even more memorable. Here are a few helpful tips when choosing vendors.

1. Hire a wedding consultant. Planning a wedding can be a stressful and often frustrating experience. Most brides and grooms have no idea of the many wedding details that are included in the fee of a wedding consultant. You want a stress-free wedding? This is the best tip I could give you. Wedding consultants know a lot of vendors and can tell you which ones are reliable and of high quality. The time and money saved is well worth the investment.

2. Ask for vendor recommendations. While some may be less expensive than others, you want to make sure that they are reliable. Call them first and get your questions answered and if you feel comfortable with making an appointment, then meet with the vendor in person and decide whether their professionalism and personalities match your own. Get to know ‘em before you book ‘em. The more detail that you can get about a wedding service provider, the better you will feel about making an informed decision. You’ll be a much happier couple on your wedding day if you do your homework.

3. Visit vendor Websites and Blogs. Use these resources to see if vendor’s reviews are current and review the comments that others are making. Attend bridal shows and vendor “open houses.”

4. Most important: Be sure that you really connect with them, feel comfortable and compatible with them and trust them. You need to surround yourself with vendors who make you feel good on the wedding day. If a vendor’s personality doesn’t match your needs, choose someone else.

5. Make a list of all types of vendors you will need for your wedding. When you find a vendor that feels right for you, hire them! He who hesitate often loses the date to someone else. Vendors who are the best are usually the busiest. You often to not need to interview 4 or 5 vendors who do the same thing.

late6. Don’t be late for vendor appointments. It’s rude! Often vendors will have more than one wedding appointment following your appointment. Time is money for most business people. If you see you might be a little early or late, have the courtesy to call and let them know.

7. Treat your vendor with respect and you will be respected. Not only does this add to the vendor customer relationship, but it also means that a vendor will be more willing to listen to and help you with problems and areas of their services that you don’t understand.

8. Don’t wait until the last minute to begin selecting your vendors. Prioritize your wedding vendors. You need to decided which vendor needs to be booked immediately. To be certain that you can book the wedding officiant or minister you want on the date and time you want; first, choose your wedding date, second, book the wedding venue, and third, book the wedding officiant or minister. These are the vendors that are high in demand and tend to get booked quickly so you will need to reserve their services immediately. When you find a wedding vendor you really like, book ’em! Great vendors book choice dates quickly.

9. Be prepared. Go to your vendor with a list of questions to ask and a list of your expectations and priorities. You should feel free to ask the most basic of questions without feeling like you “should know” the answer. Your vendors do this all day everyday for a living and it is their job to help you understand what they can do for you and how things work. Here are a few questions you should remember to ask a Wedding Officiant.

10. If you love a vendors work and want them to develop a plan to fit your budget you have to be prepared to be flexible. If they offer to lower their fee, chances are they will have to subtract a few things from the package. You may want to cut back on the wedding favors to be able to afford a vendor you “really” want. Because of the many details involved in planning, preparing and customizing my romantic wedding ceremony, a fee quote is available ONLY after a no pressure, no obligation telephone consultation and after I have spoken with you about the numerous details of your wedding that may affect the fee. Most of my wedding appointments last about 1 1/2 hours to be sure we cover all the details.

CalendarThose of us who are busy performing ceremonies often book wedding dates as much as 9 months to 12 months and more in advance. Check Larry’s availability for your wedding or renewal of vows ceremony!

As a courtesy to the vendor, always call the vendors you interviewed and let them know your decision. Some (including me) will place a temporary courtesy “hold” on the date and if another couple calls for the same date, they will call the couple they’ve met with to determine their interest.

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Friday, June 10, 2011

5 Tips For Emotional Brides (and Grooms)!

Filed under: Makeup,Tears at the Wedding,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am

It’s okay to cry at your own wedding. As a matter of fact. . . it often happens and is quite normal. Weeping is not uncommon. Getting married is an emotional moment. Many people tear up at weddings. Crying because you are happy is an amazing emotion. Here are a few tips that might help you be ready for such a moment.

1. Tuck a tissue in the middle of the bride’s bouquet. Usually the Maid (or Matron) of Honor holds the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony and she can be on alert for an emotional moment for the bride if it occurs. (The groom may get misty-eyed when when he sees his bride walking down the aisle) Or. . . wrap a a beautiful cloth handkerchief around the base of the bouquet, just in case. Your teary wedding hankie will be a keepsake you can pass on to daughters or loan to friends as their “something borrowed.” Not wearing a veil over your face makes it easier to take care of a falling tear if it happens. It also helps not to make eye-contact with anyone else who may be shedding a tear.

2. Put a clean handkerchief in the groom’s inside pocket. If the bride get’s emotional, it’s a nice touch for the groom to be ready to gently wipe away her tears.

3. Remember to breath. Emotional moments can often be cut short if you feel them coming on and will remember to slowly breathe in through your nose and exhale through your mouth. You have to “think” about breathing this way. When you think of something other than what is causing this emotional moment (or what you may be nervous about) it short-circuits your brain. It really has a calming effect. Simply pause and take several really deep breaths and let them out calmly and coolly. Another trick is to press your tongue to the roof of your mouth (or tickle the roof of your mouth with it). Anything that distracts you will often work to slow down the tears.

4. Be prepared. If you think you might cry at your wedding, you probably will. Waterproof mascara or an eye makeup sealer is a great idea. Talk with your makeup artist. She will usually have some great ideas. Have the photographer take plenty of photos before the wedding to avoid your teary eyes and red nose. Bring a compact to touch up makeup or to retouch your makeup after the ceremony and before photos begin.

5. Do everything you can to eliminate stress during your ceremony. If you have written a few “Personal Promises” to say to each other, have the Wedding Officiant hand them to you on a card and “read” them to your partner. This is the time when most brides and grooms get choked up. You are less likely to cry if you don’t have to worry about memorizing them. NEVER memorize – Read! (Note: It is a good idea not to tell your partner what you will be saying. Let it be a nice surprise.)

Don’t try to stop the tears. If you think you are going to cry, just cry – go with it. If your voice is a little shaky and there were some sniffles – let it happen. Your guests appreciate moments like this. Never accept the notion that is is inappropriate to cry at your wedding. Get rid of the fear of “ruining your big day.” It’s okay to cry! Blubbering criers are the ones who spend the few minutes before tears insisting to themselves: “I’m not going to cry, I’m not going to cry, I’m not going to cry.” All this does is make the tears begin to flow harder and messier. It helps to do your best to think of something other that what is causing this emotional moment. Never try to fight the tears. Let ’em flow.

Make sure your “Bridal Emergency Kit” has eye drops to clear any red eyes. Talk to your photographer and make sure she/he is able to airbrush any puffy red eyes away.

Also here is a tip for the fathers of the bride and groom. Remind them to tuck a clean handkerchief in their pocket for the mothers. Moms almost always cry at wedding.

You may be surprised to find that due to stage-fright, you may be too nervous to cry during the ceremony.

If you know you will cry and you feel you must absolutely not cry at your wedding, consider tear duct removal. (Just kidding!) The sad part is. . . you will never be able to cry ever again! 😉

BONUS Article: Why Do We Cry at Weddings?

Photo credits: Bride crying – Lister Studios. Groom crying – Sweet Smile Digital Photography.

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Monday, June 6, 2011

Christians and Boudoir Photography

Filed under: Boudoir Photography,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:00 am
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Kristin Smetona, Guest Author

I have recently been very involved in boudoir photography. With that comes a lot of questions from potential clients, especially from my fellow Christians. I want to take just a few minutes to address what boudoir photography is and why I think Christian women ESPECIALLY should be involved in boudoir photography.

First, what is boudoir photography? Boudoir (pronounced bood-wah) refers to a woman’s dressing area. This can be a bedroom, vanity, or anything of the like. Specifically, boudoir photography refers to sexy, cute and tasteful photos that a woman might have taken of herself to give to a special man in her life. Think Victoria’s Secret photos of YOU. 🙂

So, why do them? I once heard a pastor refer to a man’s brain as a Rolodex. A man has thousands of images that he is bombarded with every day. Some good. Some not. Some holy. Some not. And whether he knows it or not, he remembers them. Ever so often his Rolodex goes on shuffle and pulls up an image in his mind. These images could even be as old as a Playboy cover he saw years ago. Now, don’t go thinking men are sick. It’s just the way God created them. They are visual.

But, why should Christian couples be interested?

Because of my Christian convictions, I believe that boudoir photography is best used in the context of marriage. I think any man would be delighted that his wife (or wife-to-be) would think enough of him to give him a gift that takes a lot of courage and love to do. Now, remember that Rolodex, ladies, how much better and holier is it if your husband’s brain goes on shuffle and up pops a gorgeous image of you. . . HIS WIFE? He is now thinking of the wonderful woman God blessed him with! What could be more God honoring than that?

Christian ladies, that are getting married. Some of you are (like I was) unfamiliar and intimidated by the thought of being *gasp* sexy. Just the thought of being naked with your husband makes you blush. I remember the feeling. I walked in the hotel room for my boudoir session and the first thing I thought was, “I need Vodka.” (Granted I had never even had Vodka, but for some reason it seemed to fit the bill.) Having a boudoir photography session is a great chance for you to warm up. It’s a safe environment for you to practice being sexy and see that it’s not bad or scary. In fact, I am convinced that if you are scared or nervous, it is all the more reason to do it.

“But what if my body is not in shape?” So what?!? Most ladies will NEVER be in the ideal shape that they want to be. But I bet you that even if you aren’t perfect, your husband will adore the photos. Why? Because it’s you! I had one boudoir photographer tell me that “Hey thanks for writing that post about Christians and boudoir! You totally rocked it!” I had a christian girl say it changed their marriage! You never know what a little sexy confidence can do for your marriage.

Let me also take this a step further, married ladies, when you are in the privacy of your own home with your husband, why do you stay so covered? Why not add even MORE images of you to his file? Why not prance around the bedroom in a piece he hasn’t seen in awhile instead of that old t-shirt? Just saying.

A few days ago, I came into our bedroom to see Dustin (how I love him!) looking through the boudoir pictures he has of me. I gently kissed him and asked him what he was doing. “Oh, just looking,” he responded with a grin. What a blessing it is to know that I have a husband who not only loves me, but appreciates the body of the wife he has!

I want to leave you with one last little thing. It’s from the TV show “According to Jim” and the episode called “Cheryl’s Boudoir Photos.”

(Cheryl hands Jim the envelope containing her boudoir photos as a Valentine’s Day gift. He opens it. Pulls a photo out and his eyes get big.)

Jim: WOW! YOU ARE AMAZING!
Cheryl: You think so?
Jim: You know, you could go pro! I mean as a model!
Cheryl: Do you like it?
Jim: Like it? I want to marry it! But I did! [Laughs] I can’t take my eyes off it!
Cheryl: Maybe you can take your eyes off of it for this. [She kisses him.]

It’s gonna get steamy in Arizona!

There are 14 spots and I need 14 lovely ladies to book sessions to cover the hotel room and my flight to Arizona. When you decide to book, email me at the address below (make sure to include what day and time is best for you & any upgrades). You will be sent a booking proposal from me with payment information. Simply complete your booking and you are set! (After booking, you will not receive a refund if you cancel your session.)

If the 14 sessions do not all get filled, everyone will be refunded all monies paid and the marathon will be cancelled. Decision to cancel will be made prior to August 1st if necessary. So, tell your lady friends and make it happen for everyone!

FAQs:

Q: How long will the whole session last?
A: Your session will last approximately one hour. If you upgrade to include hair and make-up, we ask that you arrive at least 30 minutes early.

Q: Can I see any of your past boudoir work?
A: Of course! E-mail me at info@smetonaphoto.com and ask for the link and password to the boudoir portfolio.

Q: Where will the marathon be?
A: The boudoir marathon will be at The Legado Hotel in Gilbert,Arizona. Check it out by clicking here!

Q: Who is boudoir for?
A: Boudoir is for every age! Single? Do it to feel sexy and confident. Getting married? You’re perfect! Married? He will love it! Been married for awhile? You will be stunning! Most women can’t believe the spark that a few images can bring back to their marriage!

Q: What if I don’t have a model’s body?
A: Your man loves you because of your size and shape, so don’t worry if you feel like you aren’t ready for the cover of Playboy! We all have things we wish we could change. I professionally retouch each and every photo, so you will look your absolute best! If there’s a specific issue that you’re concerned with, we will chat before your session and I can provide you with some tips and tricks for before and after.

Q: Can I bring a friend for moral support?
A: Absolutely! All I ask is that you limit it to one friend, so our suite doesn’t get too crowded.

Q: How many outfit changes should I bring?
A: As many as you like. We’ll go through them and pick out the most sexy and flattering for the photos. Most sessions will have time for 2-3 outfit changes.

Q: Can I add-on upgrades later?
A: Absolutely! You can purchase books, prints and disks up to 30 days after you are sent your proofing gallery.

Q: How do I keep this a secret for my husband or husband-to-be?
A: A great option is to tell him you are going out to do “wedding shopping” or “some time with the girls”. You could also tell him what you are doing. Who knows! He might pay for everything, treat you to some new lingerie, and maybe a beauty day to prep. 😉

For more information or to book, please e-mail Kristin at info@smetonaphoto.com! I can’t wait to work with you! This is gonna be so much fun! Check the Boudoir Marathon Schedule.

BONUS Article: Confessions of a Boudoir Photographer

Larry’s Note: A special thank you to Jessica Gelder, Wedding Consultant, Sweet Soiree, LLC, East Valley (AZ) Event Planner, for suggesting this article. Visit Jessica’s Blog!

Copyright © 2011 – Kristin Smetona. Reprinted with permission. Kristin Smetona has been a photographer for six years. She owns Smetona Photo in Orange County, CA. She graduated from California Baptist University (2010) with a B.A. Magna Cum Laude in Journalism, but ended up taking more photography classes then journalism courses. She has officially moved to Southern Califonia, I (and Dustin, her husband) are rebuilding the photography business she had in Kansas City (Kristin Joy Photography). Visit her Website.

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Thursday, June 2, 2011

Flashback from Montelucia – Stephanie & John’s Wedding Video

Filed under: Wedding Video — Larry James @ 7:00 am

About 1:55 into the video you can view a brief part of my “romantic” wedding ceremony!

heartbutton Stephanie Smith and John Trygstad – Married @ 5:00 p.m., Sunday, September 26, 2010 – InterContinental Montelucia Resort & Spa, Paradise Valley, AZ. Wedding Officiant: Larry James.

Larry’s Note: A very special “Thank you” to Sarah & Carl Anderson of Princess Bride Cinematic Videography for his excellent work on these videos. Visit his Website: www.PrincessBrideVideo.com. – 5 Stars from Larry James!

Copyright © 2011 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s “romantic” Wedding Ceremony. Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 460 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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