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Sunday, December 12, 2010

The Breaking of the Glass

Filed under: Add-on Ceremonies,Wedding Articles — Larry James @ 7:00 am

Although this ceremony is traditionally of Jewish origin, many couples choose to incorporate it into traditional and non-traditional ceremonies. When the bride and groom are of different faiths, and one is Jewish, they often will honor the Jewish tradition of breaking a glass toward the end of the wedding ceremony.

wineglassOne interpretation of this ceremony states that once the glass is shattered, it can never return to its former condition, thus symbolizing the couples wish to never return to the time before they shared their lives.

The breaking of the glass at the conclusion of the wedding also symbolizes that marriage is not always as joyous as the wedding itself. The bad times, when our hearts break, are representative of the shattered glass.

A couple that enters marriage, believing that their married life will always be as blissful as courtship, is in denial and doomed to failure. In this sense, the breaking of the glass causes us to be mindful of the needless barriers that people erect between one another and that we can break down the barriers and build a relationship of respect, unity and peace.

The breaking of the glass also symbolizes the fragility of life, the fact that whatever we see before us as whole can be broken at any moment. It calls our attention for the need to care for one another; for just as glass can be shattered with a single blow, so the grace of a marriage bond can be shattered with a single act of infidelity or repeated acts of emotional irresponsibility.

Its spiritual significance is our reaffirmation of our faith in God. The idea is that the couple’s lives together be longer than it would take to fit the pieces of the broken glass back together again.

In Greece, the custom of breaking plates during the reception symbolizes good luck, happiness and the permanence of marriage.

The breaking of the glass also serves as a separation between the awe of the ceremony and the reception celebration that will follow.

breakingglassSome say (with tongue in cheek) that the moment the groom smashes the glass symbolizes the last time he gets to “put his foot down.”

This part of the ceremony comes right after the exchanging of rings and just before declaring the couple to be wife and husband.

The “glass” is often a light bulb wrapped in a white napkin or towel. Sometimes a wine glass is difficult to break. The best man hands the minister the glass. The minister will say a few words to explain the significance of the breaking of the glass. He then places the glass on the ground before the groom.

After he declares the bride and groom to be wife and husband he invites the couple to seal their promises with a kiss. The groom then kisses the bride and then breaks the glass with his right foot. Some couples choose to break the glass together. Applause is appropriate in most ceremonies with the breaking of the glass.

What do you do with the broken glass after the wedding? If the “glass” was a delicate wine glass (easy to break), some couples choose to save the glass and preserve it in a velvet pouch or another glass container to serve as a momento of their wedding day. Other creative couples have jewelry made from it.

Mazel Tov!

Photo Credit (left): The Jewish Glass Breaking Pouch –

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  1. […] a ceremony that makes the wedding unique and special for the couple. Some add-on ceremonies include breaking the glass, blending of the sand, the rose ceremony, jumping of the broom, and Celtic and Pagan hand-fasting. […]


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  2. Bertha & Nate – I have sent what you requested by separate e-mail. Thank your for visiting my Website and my Wedding Blog.


    Comment by Larry James — Wednesday, April 27, 2011 @ 1:11 pm | Reply

  3. When looking for suggestions for reaffirming vows, I found your article on the internet for
    April 26, 2011. I was at work and couldn’t complete reading it. However, it was the best and most precious I have seen. We are reaffirming our vows for our 50th Anniversary. Please send me a copy via e-mail. I have been looking for it everywhere on your Website. I wanted my husband to see it. Please share it with us. We will be ever grateful.

    Bertha Somerville and Nate


    Comment by Bertha Somerville — Wednesday, April 27, 2011 @ 3:09 am | Reply

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