Larry James' CelebrateIntimateWeddings BLOG

Monday, March 15, 2010

Traditional Wedding or NOT!?

Is traditional so not you? Non-traditional is the perfect way to showcase your uniqueness as a couple. Here are a few ways to be creative, have “fun” at your wedding and some ways that happy couples are doing things differently nowadays. Your imagination is the key.

No where is tradition more honored in our culture than the wedding ceremony. The thing about tradition is that it gives you something to go by. It has its own agenda and there is certainly safety in that but that’s not what I am seeing in weddings today. Traditional weddings also come with the traditional stress.

Tradition says that the Best Man and the Maid (or Matron) of Honor usually walk up just before Ring Bearer, Flower girl and the Bride and her escort. If you have 5 or 6 Bridesmaids and Groomsmen on each side, it is often a better idea to have the Best Man and the Maid of Honor walk in after the Minister and the Groom. Why? So that everyone else knows exactly where they are suppose to stand.

The traditional way often has the first two people who walk in off the mark, e.g., too close in or too far out. The spacing between everyone looks staggered or not in line and may show up as loosely organized or bad spacing in the wedding photos.

Wedding vendors say the buzz word in weddings isn’t, “I do” it’s “Hey, why not?” Brides are gobbling up the idea of grazing stations, that offer a kind of exotic honeymoon for the taste buds instead of the traditional $100 a plate sit-down meals.

There are many ways to put your “spin” on your special day. Traditional wedding ideas are everywhere. “Honor and obey, till death do us part” is out! How about “Honor and R-E-S-P-E-C-T?”

Another example might be a non-traditional wedding cakes, e.g., cupcakes for everyone instead of an expensive cake. Do pies instead of a wedding cake. Who doesn’t love pie? One couple served Krispy Kreme donuts. Hey, hey, hey!

If you even choose to have bridesmaids, let them pick out their own dresses. This will not only save them some money, but will also ensure that they pick out a dress that flatters their own body type, style, and possibly be something they could wear again.

weddingticketHere’s a novel idea! For a more casual or romantic wedding, instead of the traditional wedding invitations, how about announcing your special event with a unique, look-a-like concert ticket? They look like the real thing. Customize the tickets to create cool save-the-date announcements too.

Modern brides today often opt for the non-traditional or unconventional way of doing things in their wedding to make it different and interesting for the guests.

Remember that (in Arizona) nothing is truly necessary in a wedding ceremony except the vows for the two of you and the legal pronouncement of marriage by the Officiant.

I think you should gave fun planning your wedding. It would be fun for you and end up begin fun for your guests. Don’t let anyone – including your mother – tell you what you have to do. Stand your ground and be honest and tactful with those around you. Stay true to yourself. Be nice, but if you don’t like their ideas, just say, “No.”

Wear flip flops – or go barefoot – to be comfortable if your wedding dress will cover your feet. Or, if you’re real brave, ask everyone to go barefoot including your Officiant. The photographer will get lots of cute feet photos.

Here’s some “food for thought.” If you’re have a small, intimate back-yard wedding, rent a jukebox and filled it with our own CDs. Order pizza for everyone or have a small potluck wedding.

Instead of expensive table centerpieces, opt for daisies or wildflowers in mason jars or fishbowls with exotic fish and colorful marbles offer live entertainment.

One bride reportedly walked down the aisle to an instrumental version of “God Only Knows What I’d Do Without You” by the Beach Boys. She said the funny thing was that all the guests in the audience sort of hummed or sang along. It created this weird, movie like atmosphere. “Love Me Tender” by Elvis as a processional song and “Another One Bites the Dust” by Queen or “Wouldn’t it Be Nice” by the Beach Boys as a recessional song is quite popular at non-traditional weddings.

Hire a High School Band to do the processional.

How about some non-traditional portrait photography? After the wedding, do a “trash the dress” session.

Non-traditional wedding rings are gaining in popularity. Platinum, Palladium, Tungsten, Ceramic, and Titanium wedding rings are some of the choices.

A non-traditional wedding is not about cutting corners or saving money. . . it is about getting creative and having some fun at your wedding.

Non-traditional weddings afford you an opportunity to put your brand on the day, so relax and let your creativity shine through. If you want non-traditional, you have to start thinking outside of the box. It’s a lot more acceptable these days. Get crafty! Create some new wedding rules. Once you step outside of the box, the sky’s the limit!

Don’t do what is expected of you; do what you want! Create some new, unique and long-lasting memories.

Larry’s Note: Being a non-denominational Wedding OFficiant has allowed me to be a part of many non-traditional weddings and receptions. One Pirate themed wedding I was dressed like a pirate. Another renewal of vows ceremony was performed in a hot air balloon. Some will have a slight touch of tradition, however the weddings that are memorable are the ones where the bride and groom are not afraid to do what they want. Old traditions are hard to break, but bridal couples must be mindful that just because something has been around for a long time, doesn’t mean that fashioning new rituals isn’t perfectly acceptable and perhaps even preferable.

Copyright © 2010 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 445 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: Check Larry’s availability.

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