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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Throwing Rice is Out. . .

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That’s true, but not for the reason you might think. Just for the record, some people prefer to use birdseed instead of rice. Contrary to popular belief, it is a myth that if birds eat the rice they will explode or it will hurt them. Not true. Here’s proof!

Some churches and reception centers have rules prohibiting the throwing of confetti or rice. These rules work to keep the property clean. Confetti is notoriously hard to clean up; not even vacuuming a lawn will return the grass to its pristine condition.

Rice can pose a unique danger. Not to birds, though; to people. Scattered on a hard surface (such as the steps of a church, stepping stones, or a dance floor) it puts anyone who walks across that surface at risk of taking a nasty spill. Far better to prohibit rice throwing at a wedding than to end up with an injured guest.

heartConfettiNowadays, brides and grooms have an amazing amount of options that can fit their personality and wedding theme.

Eco-fetti, a product that is water-soluble and completely biodegradable and requires no clean-up is a great option. Ecofetti is also lighter than traditional confetti, giving your friends, family, and photographer ample time to snap some beautiful pictures of the grand finale at your wedding.

On recently someone suggested giving out paper airplanes to your guests before the ceremony. Have the guests sail paper airplanes “into the air” as the happy couple exits the ceremony area. It’s a great idea as long as guests don’t aim the paper airplanes “at” the Bride and Groom.

What a terrific idea! I like different. How about having the guests write something for the Bride and Groom on the wing of the paper airplane to be collected later and give to the happy couple?

I’ve had several weddings where the guests were given birdseed, sparklers, bubbles (may stain clothing), sunflower seeds, for fall: red and orange leaves, or assorted flower petals (they filled the air with the most wonderful scent) to throw instead of rice. Popcorn is okay but makes a mess and has to be cleaned up because children will often eat it from the ground. At a backyard wedding, the guests were asked to throw wildflower seeds. Noisemakers provide a fun alternative.

Instead of throwing something, streamers that attach to your finger look nice. As the bride and Groom come running out everyone waves the streamers and shouts their congratulations. There is no clean up because people as asked to throw them away in the trash as they proceed to the reception.

Don’t release balloons. It looks awesome, however balloons can travel a long way and wind up in rivers and lakes. Fish and water birds think they are getting a marvelous treat and then may choke on them.

Throwing things at a newly married couple is a very old tradition that may date back to ancient Rome or Egypt or even further back. The custom is intended to give newlyweds good luck, and most of the items thrown at the couple represent fertility and abundance.

Whatever you choose to throw. . . ask your guests to throw it into the air, not “at” the Bride and Groom. Clear all choices with the wedding venue.

In Chillicothe, Ohio it is illegal to throw rice at weddings.

Be green and use bird seed! It’s safer for the environment, cheaper and cleans up on it’s own!

BONUS Article: 10 Alternatives to the Rice Toss – A 10 photo slide show.
Wedding Ceremony Aisle Toss Ideas

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