Generally speaking, we do not recommend bachelor or bachelorette parties. Many feel that such a party gives them license to have one last fling or do things they know their future spouse would never approve of.
As a relationship coach, I’ve heard numerous horror stories of such parties that have gotten what could have been a terrific marriage off to a horrible start.
If you must party. . . plan your party a week or more before the wedding and behave yourself. You do not want to start your wedding day with a hangover or with the guilt of something that you know you should not have done.
While we are on the subject of parties, most couples will plan a rehearsal dinner after the rehearsal. You are encouraged to plan the wedding rehearsal and dinner two days before the wedding (instead of the day before the wedding) to give you time to work out all the details and time for all to recover from the rehearsal dinner. This also gives you a day of rest before the wedding which can – for some – be a stressful day and gives you time to catch up on last minute things that you may have forgotten or put off until the last minute.
Your wedding rehearsal is really only for the people who are in your wedding and the bride and groom’s parents. During your wedding rehearsal, your Officiant (or your wedding consultant) will guide you through the ceremony and explain everyone’s roles.
Once you’ve taken care of business, it’s time to celebrate! Get your wedding party together, along with any other special guests and head off to your rehearsal party – your time to unwind before the big day. The rehearsal dinner should be more intimate than the reception. It is a celebration usually reserved for the couple’s closest friends, relations, your wedding consultant and the Minister/Officiant.
If you must party, please remember that soon you will be wed. Agree not to do anything that you would not feel comfortable in telling your partner. It’s called, “r-e-s-p-e-c-t!”
No alcohol is best.
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