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Saturday, April 18, 2015

Saying “I Do” and Enjoying it Too

For many brides, the quest to plan the perfect day can quickly turn into a nightmare trip down the aisle. Here are a few tips to keep your wedding day bliss from turning into the honeymoon blues.

Marriage Planning 101: Once the ring goes on, the race to plan the perfect wedding begins, giving couples little time to think about the marriage itself or how their wedding spending decisions could affect their future. But smart couples are now setting aside time to address pre-wedding issues such as what they will do when it comes to financial planning, spending money, raising children and family politics.

WEDIDOWith nearly half of all newlyweds taking on debt to finance their “big day,” couples should take every opportunity to make their wedding-related and everyday spending count toward their future.

In addition to helping couples save for their future, uTANGO.com offers free advice from wedding, financial and relationship experts. By taking a proactive approach, couples can leverage their wedding spending to ease financial worries and start building toward their future.

Destination USA: While destination weddings, especially to international locales, continue to be one of the hottest wedding trends in recent years, they can also present challenges such as increased costs, security concerns, language barriers and unreliable vendors.

A less expensive alternative is to pick a centrally located U.S. city like Chicago, known for fantastic wedding and party venues, choice accommodations and activities to suit any taste and budget. It may not be as exotic as Tahiti, but couples often find that more family and friends can attend and planning challenges are drastically reduced when the nuptials stay stateside.

Larry’s NOTE: Scottsdale, AZ is another incredible wedding destination. Lots of beautiful wedding venues, hotels, and loads of things to do for your guests. We have two wedding seasons in Scottsdale; March, April and May and October, November and December. The rest of the year, if you are coming our way, plan to have your wedding indoors to escape the desert heat.

Managing wedding expectations: For many brides, planning the perfect wedding is a major life event decades in the making. With this in mind, it’s easy to see how wedding expectations can get out of hand in a hurry.

With wedding euphoria taking over, busy brides and grooms can quickly lose sight of spending, causing the perfect wedding to turn into fights over money. By managing expectations of what a “dream” wedding should be, it is still possible to have a lovely and elegant wedding without breaking the bank.

Bridezilla-free zone: The term “Bridezilla” has been used to describe a difficult, unpleasant, perfectionist bride whose obsession with planning the perfect wedding day leaves frustrated family, friends, bridal vendors and even her groom distraught in her wake.

WEDenjoyITBelligerent Bridezillas beware: Horror stories of fist fights, hair pulling, kicking and screaming from out of control brides-to-be have put wedding planners, vendors and bridesmaids on the offensive. Some wedding vendors now go as far as to include language in their contracts reserving the right to cancel if the bride’s behavior is determined to be “out of control or abusive.” So, whether you hit the gym or hit the spa, have a plan in place to handle wedding-related stress and keep Bridezilla at bay.

Just say “no”: Brides place such demands on their bridesmaids these days that it is not uncommon for them to decline, even when it’s one of their best friends. Not only is the financial responsibility of being a bridesmaid staggering, but the time commitment demanded by some brides is also daunting.

The massive to-do lists handed out by brides, coupled with the obligatory appearances for shopping, parties and showers, can leave bridesmaids feeling under appreciated, overworked and broke after the wedding is over.

Brides should be upfront about both time and financial expectations with their friends when asking them to join their wedding party and understand if the answer is no.

BONUS Articles: 10 Ways to Enjoy Your Wedding Day More
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Goody Bags for “Out-of-Town” Wedding Guests

Copyright © 2015 – Martie Duncan. Martie Duncan is a nationally renowned wedding expert who has worked in the bridal industry for more than 20 years. Duncan has consulted on episodes of “The Oprah Winfrey Show” and the film “My Best Friend’s Wedding” and is currently editor in chief of the uTANGO.com LifeMatters e-magazine (www.utango.com/LifeMatters).

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Monday, April 6, 2015

Remember to Buy Each Other a Wedding Gift

Filed under: Gifts,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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The day has finally come for the bride and groom to walk down the aisle and begin their new life together as man and wife.

If you’re reading this article, you’re probably one of the approximately 825,000 couples who’ve just gotten engaged since Thanksgiving and are now planning your wedding. So here’s perhaps the single most important reminder – and grooms do seem to need more reminding than brides – anyone will offer: Tradition holds that you both exchange wedding presents.

WEDExchangeGIFTSExchanging wedding gifts from groom to bride is a romantic tradition many couples observe with sentimental and meaningful items that they can treasure for many happy anniversaries.

(Yes, grooms, even though you just bought her an engagement ring.)

But what to get?

The ring remains the official gift between husband and wife, but many couples enjoy exchanging something more intimate as well. It’s not necessary, especially if you’re paying for your wedding and you’re already over budget.

“Gifts should come from the heart,” says WeddingChannel.com. Gift-giving should be optional and a personal choice.

It is an optional tradition for the bride and groom to exchange gifts – the night before the wedding, the morning of, or once the festivities are over. You could give each other something to wear for the wedding itself (cuff links, a necklace) or maybe something for the honeymoon (a great pair of sunglasses, snorkeling gear). Gifts for the newlyweds can be engraved with their names and wedding day to commemorate their special day. It doesn’t have to be anything major – a silver money clip. some boudoir photos for him, a photo frame or a treasured book of poetry make great gifts. Honor this tradition in whatever way you two desire!

Here are a few tips to keep in mind whether you two opt for some type of jewelry – the traditional and most popular choice – or something else.

• Practicality can wait. Etiquette dictates that gifts be exchanged at one of three times: the night before the wedding, the morning of the ceremony, or right before you leave on your honeymoon. So you could see where this has the potential for becoming a bigger disaster than Chernobyl if the groom’s idea of “practical” is, say, a toaster.

• Being uniquely personal is appreciated. One of the best examples we’ve heard of is a guy who had a photographer secretly capture the moment he proposed in New York’s Central Park, and then presented the results to his bride on the day of their wedding.

“So cute!” read a typical blog post.

The best gift will be one that matches the lifestyle and personality of the bride and groom, reflecting their interests and passions. This shows enduring thoughtfulness and consideration for each other that will help strengthen the couple’s relationship for as long as they are married.

The downside, of course, is that pulling it off requires imagination, creativity and – in this instance – a lot of advance planning.

BONUS Articles: Christians and Boudoir Photography
Wedding and Honeymoon Gift Baskets for the Bride and Groom

Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. Reprinted with permission. – This article is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is an award winning Wedding Officiant, professional speaker, relationship coach and is the author of, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com & http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com.

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Thursday, April 2, 2015

Cleaning Up a Scruffy Groomsmen or Usher

Emily Post Weddings (Peggy & Anna Post), Guest Authors

Question: One of our ushers has a scruffy beard and could use a haircut, too. He’s a wonderful guy, but how do we ensure he’s properly clipped and styled for our big day?

WEDQ&AAnswer: Just as you wouldn’t dismiss a bridesmaid who’s gained a few pounds, you can’t force your usher to adopt different personal grooming habits for your wedding. Yes, it’s worrisome to think that he’ll stand out in a negative way, but give the guy some credit. No doubt he grasps the seriousness of the day and will likely surprise you by rising to the occasion.

If you really can’t resist the need to act, ask your fiance to apply some benevolent coercion: “Mark, you’re gonna shave for the wedding, right, dude?” If he doesn’t clean up, so be it. Focus on what matters most: that those you love are there to stand beside you. Plus, when you look back in 20 years, you can give him a hard time for his lackluster 20-something style.

Copyright © 2015 – Emily Post Weddings. From old traditions to new trends, The Emily Post Institute has over 90 years of offering trusted inspiration, advice, and etiquette for couples, families, and guests. Visit: http://www.EmilyPost.com/wedding

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Sunday, March 29, 2015

Be Practical, Respectful and “Flexible” With Your Reception Timeline

Filed under: Receptions,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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Ron Ruth, Guest Author

Begin by developing a timeline that provides an even-paced flow of events. In doing so, you will prevent the most memorable moments of your reception from flying by too quickly.

A comprehensive timeline will also keep your event from coming to a standstill and boring your guests to tears. But, be practical, respectful and flexible with your timeline.

WEDreceptiontimelineIt is a given that, as the Bride and Groom, you are the guests of honor. But, you are also the host of your celebration. Be respectful. Remember that guests are waiting on your arrival at the venue. Work with your photographer to organize and maximize the time for your post-ceremony photos so you can arrive at the reception venue no later than an hour after your guests… 45 minutes would be better.

Visiting every table to welcome each guest individually is certainly polite. However, it adds an avoidable lull that will have many looking at their watches. Refer back to the section where we discussed creating “Moments and Memories.” If you really want your guests to feel welcome and know how glad you are they have given of their time to be with you, keep them entertained.

Be practical in timeline assessments. On an average, it is not necessary to allow more than 45 minutes to an hour for dinner. As the guest of honor, you will most likely be served, first. That means you’ll be done eating first and can move on to fun activities and/or formalities that your guests can enjoy while they’re finishing their meals.

If you choose to include a memory video as a scheduled activity in the reception, limit your video to 7-8 minutes. As entertaining as you may think it is to view every baby photo ever taken of the two of you, guests will quickly lose interest. A short and entertaining memory video, however, can make for a great transition between dinner and toasts.

Always remember that timelines are subjective and the unexpected can cause a need to hold off on certain activities or create a need to move forward, ahead of schedule. Either way, be flexible.

Once you’ve created your plan, share it with every member of your wedding reception team so they can help you stay on schedule. And, finally, assign someone with the responsibility of keeping you on track. But, whatever you do, make sure that “someone” isn’t you… or other family members!

RonRuthlogoCopyright © 2015 – Ron Ruth. Ron Ruth is the only certified, Wedding Entertainment Director™ in the central Midwest and the owner of Ron Ruth Wedding Entertainment; a Kansas City based wedding DJ company. He is a 20 year veteran of the wedding entertainment industry and has helped over 1,000 couples and their guests enjoy unforgettably fun wedding receptions. Ron serves on the WED Guild™ Advisory Board, is a member of the Association of Bridal Consultants and National Association of Catering Executives, and a credited contributor to Peter Merry’s celebrated book of fun wedding ideas, “The Best Wedding Reception…Ever!” Ron is also the author of two highly acclaimed wedding workshops for engaged couples and a nationally recognized speaker in the wedding entertainment industry. Visit Ron’s Blog.

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Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Hundreds of FREE Wedding Articles!

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If you are about to tie the knot, researching about the things that you need to prepare for your wedding is of great importance. This Wedding Blog features more creative wedding ideas than you can possibly imagine. Planning a wedding is sometimes stressful. Our purpose is to assist you with this process to make your rehearsal and your wedding as stress-free as possible.

This Wedding Blog is one of the largest online reference point when you are searching for FREE bridal or wedding articles.

Did you know that as of March 25, 2015, there are more than 520 FREE articles about weddings, honeymoons, special ceremonies (e.g., Blending of the Sands, The Rose Ceremony, Hand Fasting – See “Add-on Ceremonies” topic) etc., on this blog. Something NEW about Weddings is posted every 4th day!

WEDFREEArticlesThere is an index of all the articles, tips, etc., on this Wedding blog. Go to: https://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com/wedding-article-index/. Just find a topic that interests you and click on the title of the article to read the post. Each article you click on opens in a new browser window. The newer articles are posted at the bottom of the list every 4th day.

There are 232 topics (along the right border) from which to choose on just about any wedding topic you can imagine. There is something there for everyone.

Larry James is not a wedding consultant, he is an award winning Wedding Officiant. However, if you need ideas to help you as you plan for your wedding, give him a call. He is always there to help you with some of the “not thought of” details about your wedding that can help – regardless of whether you hire him to perform his “romantic” wedding ceremony.

Larry James recommends that you hire a Wedding Planner from the network of The Association of Bridal Consultants. Call him for a recommendation.

NOTE: All articles and networking tips listed in this BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, Blogs, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. First, call or e-mail for permission, second, post the following copyright notice and bio at the end of the article:

Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. Reprinted with permission. – This article is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is an award winning Wedding Officiant, professional speaker, relationship coach and is the author of, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com & http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com.

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Saturday, March 21, 2015

Blended Family… He Turns to His Bride’s Daughter to Give His Vows & Everyone is in Tears

There’s so much to say about Whitney and Brian. They live in North Carolina and were planning a wedding in the mountains of McCall, Idaho, but PenWeddings got the chance to take a short trip to meet them before their big day when they were in Texas for a weekend. We instantly fell in love not just with the two of them, but also their daughter Brielle (affectionately known as Breezy). Brian came into Whitney and Breezy’s lives a couple of years ago, and his love for both of them is almost tangible. There were many amazing moments over their wedding weekend, but nothing touched us more than their sweet notes and vows to one another… except perhaps for Brian’s vows to Brielle. If that doesn’t bring you to tears, I don’t know what will.

It looks like Whitney, Brian, and Brielle are off to an amazing start. It is hard to watch them give their vows to each other, and Brielle, without getting just a little bit teary eyed.

Tissue, please!

What a great way to include Brielle and honor the daughter of his bride. Another great way to include children in the wedding ceremony is to add the Blending of the Sands and let the children choose their own color of sand. Read: Blending the Sands Ceremony – Bride, Groom and Children.

BONUS Articles: Saying “I Do” for The Second Time
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Copyright © 2015 – PenWeddings (Cinematography) and American Psychological Association. Music by Marc Aaron Jacobs and The Royal Foundry, licensed through SongFreedom

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Friday, March 13, 2015

The Wedding Invitation game

Filed under: Etiquette,Invitations,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Before sending your invitation proofs to be printed, review the following and avoid any possible mistakes.

Check, double check, and have someone else look over the wording on the invitation. This includes assuring that spelling of names and reception and ceremony locations are correct, as well as the date and time.

WEDInvitationGAMEForget the gifts. Avoid including any information regarding gift registries, or even the suggestion of a “No gifts, please.” The purpose of the invitation is to focus on inviting the individual, not implying that a gift is necessary. To spread information about registries, include the information on your wedding website or ask family members to spread the word.

Instead of writing “Adults Only,” or “No Children,” only write the names of the parents on the outer and inner envelope (if you are using one).

Information about attire is never added to the invitation to the ceremony unless the ceremony and reception invitations are combined. If the reception is more formal, say black tie, include that on the bottom right corner of the reception invitation.

Menu choices, such as chicken or vegetarian, may be listed on the reply card, but don’t reference alcohol services.

Plan ahead to hand-write or hire a calligrapher to address your invitations. Avoid stick-on labels, as they are far too impersonal for such an important and special event.

Before mailing, take your entire invitation package to the post office and have it weighed and the postage calculated. You can also order the stamps you like if your post office doesn’t have them in stock.

Finally, once everything is reviewed, pop your invitations in the mailbox and let the rest of the planning continue!

Copyright © 2015 – Anna Post. Anna Post is the great-great-granddaughter of etiquette guru Emily Post and author of Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette. For more information on sharing engagement news, check out, Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette, 6th edition or visit www.EmilyPost.com.

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Monday, March 9, 2015

Shadow Wedding… Bringing Light to the Dark Side of Getting Married!

The latest trend is for couples to dress down and confess their flaws. A Shadow Wedding is an intimate ritual held before a regular “light” wedding in which all manner of difficult material between the couple is welcomed. It provides a consecrated place for partners to give voice to their darker sides, along with any doubts and fears about committing to lifelong partnership. Through the process of creating and participating in a Shadow Wedding, partners choose one another with eyes wide open, seeing both the beautiful and the ugly in their beloved.

ShadowWeddingIn Jungian psychology, the shadow refers to the instinctive, irrational and least desirable aspects of one’s personality; your dark side, the bits you feverishly suppress. Especially on your wedding day.

Basically, a Shadow Wedding allows couples to explore their own and their partner’s shadow selves – those parts of themselves that might harbor fear of marriage itself, and fear of how they might react to those less-desirable traits in their partner. In it, you work through a kind of “dark side” of your habits/flaws/shortcomings. This usually occurs several weeks before their actual wedding.

Being fearless helps, however you will be asked to step out of your realm of familiarity and say things about yourself and your partner that allow you to reveal the real you. Think of it as stopping a traditional ceremony right when the person says “for better or for worse” and then having them elaborate, exactly, on what the worse is, just a week prior.

“If a relationship is going to develop in an atmosphere of truth, wholeness, acceptance and ultimately love, partners need to know themselves and each other in all their dimensions — even if some of those dimensions are difficult to digest.” ~ Douglas and Naomi Moseley, The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships

“This is not for people who don’t recover well from fighting,” said Jessica Wolk Benson, who with her husband, Ron experienced a Shadow Wedding. “This requires blazing honesty, and if that will be too upsetting to some, it wouldn’t be good for them.” It’s an opportunity to air out all your proverbial dirty laundry prior to saying “I do.” Shadow weddings are a way for each partner to take responsibility for the baggage they’re bringing into the union. It’s a way to make sure you’re in love with a person’s darkest side before you commit to their best parts.

“In a conscious marriage you openly acknowledge the fact that you, like everyone else, have negative traits.” ~ Harville Hendrix

The name refers to “shadow material,” the dirty truths each person must present about themselves in the form of vows, like “I vow to never do the dishes when I’m tired,” or, “I vow to call my girlfriends and complain about you instead of bringing the issue directly to you,” for example. The point is not to celebrate the darkness, but to recognize that it’s there, that it’s part of the deal, whether you want it or not.

Most shadow weddings are held at night, and many couples opt to wear unattractive clothing, or sometimes, costumes. Sometimes there’s a bonfire, but every ceremony is personalized. The price ranges from $2,500 to $7,500, depending on how often you meet.

Performing a shadow wedding can’t guarantee a problem-free marriage, says Jessica Benson, but “larger problems arise when couples try to hide their faults.

When you tell the truth in your relationship, it becomes a part of your past. If you lie, it becomes a part of your future!

BONUS Articles: My Big Fake Wedding
Welcome to The Shadow Wedding Experience
At Shadow Weddings, Extra Baggage Is Encouraged
Speaking The Unspeakable: ‘Shadow Weddings’ Before The Big Day
Introducing Shadow Weddings, the New, Dark, and Brutally Honest Wedding Ritual

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Thursday, March 5, 2015

Social Media Weddings vs Unplugged Weddings

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Larry James is an award winning, non-denominational wedding officiant and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. Pre-maritial relationship coaching is available and not required. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Something NEW about weddings is posted every 4th day on this Wedding BLOG. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Cloned “look alike” Bridesmaids

Brides, don’t insist on making your bridesmaids look like clones. No more “cookie cutter” outfits.

The practice started with weddings in ancient Rome, which required the presence of 10 witnesses, who dressed like the bride and groom in order to ward off evil spirits. If the spirits couldn’t figure out who the bride and groom were, they couldn’t inflict evil on them. Very clever, ancient Romans. ;-)

WEDBridemaidsDressesEvery good friend knows that along with the honor of being a bridesmaid comes the obligation to wear a dress in a color and style that’s not of her choosing. So your girls accept that, but it doesn’t mean they’ll submit happily if you force them to wear identical shoes, jewelry, wraps, and hairstyles.

In order to have a great time at your wedding, your bridesmaids need to feel attractive too – something that’s impossible if you’ve micromanaged their looks down to the lipstick hue. Plus, buying a bunch of matching accessories they may never wear again gets expensive. Not to worry… YOU will still be the main attraction! Why not select a dresses they can actually wear again without altering?

Your bridesmaids will look even better if you give them leeway to let their individual styles shine through the blush-colored chiffon gowns you’ve dressed them in. Even if the dresses are all completely different, you can still have a preview to determine who should stand next to who in order to create balance. Their look should compliment their body type. Same color, different styles and lengths is another idea. Let them choose their hair and makeup styles; give them more than one option with accessories like shoes, jewelry, and cover-ups.

It’s a near-impossible feat to find ONE dress (or even one color) that three or four or 10 girls (who are different colors and shapes and size) are ALL going to feel great in. So why not make it easier on everyone and let them all wear WHATEVER, and trust that your friends have good taste? Your “Bridal Brigade” should have the freedom to choose within your guidelines. Of course you have the final say; you are, after all, “the bride.”

Should your bridesmaids wear the same dress? No, just similar enough to be a little of the same but individual enough to compliment each girl.

Perhaps it is finally time to ditch tradition of the matchy-matchy bridesmaid dresses! What say you?

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

comment2Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles, “LoveNotes” and wedding tips listed in this Wedding BLOG – written by Larry James – are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.

Add Larry James to your Facebook page: http://www.Facebook.com/larry.james
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Follow Larry’s “Networking BLOG” at: http://NetworkingHQ.wordpress.com
Lots of Wedding Ideas on: Larry’s Pinterest Page

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