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Monday, June 29, 2015

6 Things Bridesmaids Do That Really Annoy the Bride

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Leah Messenger, Guest Author

Planning a wedding can be stressful! So, bridesmaids, take note. Here are five things that you do that really, really annoy the bride – even if she’s not saying so…

1. Being impossible to contact ~ Bridesmaids being difficult or impossible to contact is a huge problem. We’re not saying it’s compulsory for your bridesmaids’ phones to be in their hands at all times, and kept on loud on their pillow whilst they sleep, but the role comes with certain responsibilities and one of them is being contactable at certain times.

Angry Bride 2. Being fussy about dresses ~ Choosing a dress style that suits lots of different body shapes is a hard enough task by itself without adding a fussy bridesmaid into the equation. Don’t put your bridesmaids in dresses that don’t suit them or they don’t feel comfortable in, but don’t succumb to a moody best friend just because you didn’t get the dress SHE wanted most.

3. Not getting on with other bridesmaids ~ You want the whole of the bridal party to get on! Through the planning process, through to the wedding day, you’re all going to be spending a lot of time with each other. Maybe one of your maids hasn’t taken a liking to one of your other maids? This causes tension within the bridal party, whether it’s kept quiet or seen through out-right arguments. Resolution?

At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you’ve chosen your best girls to be right next to you the whole way through it, so let her know and realize her mistakes! Arranging ‘get-to-know-each-other’ activities is a great idea to get the bonding started.

4. Making a mess ~ Girls are well known for being a bit messy when it comes to getting ready. Clothes scattered across the floor, make-up all over the place and so on. Whilst this is ok in their own bedrooms no one wants a messy bridesmaid in the bridal suite! Each girl should bring a little bag with everything they need for the big day and get ready as soon as possible, leaving a calm and tidy room where the bride can relax before her big entrance.

5. Not listening ~ Having your bridesmaids ask you the same details over and over again is not ideal when you’ve got so much to do. You don’t want to be bombarded by questions because your bridesmaids didn’t listen to you in the first place! We’re sure that you’ll have a to-do list for your wedding planning and for your big day – hand one over to each of your bridesmaids, or assign them specific tasks, and make sure they are in complete understanding prior to your day to avoid any hassle.

6. Uploading photos on social media ~ Everyone loves a good bride and bridesmaids photograph – but wait! Your bride may not want unofficial shots plastered all over Instagram even before she’s cut her cake! Make sure you let your maids know about how you feel about your wedding photos on Facebook. Have an acceptable social media plan in mind, and tell your chief bridesmaid who can spread the word.

BONUS Articles: 8 Ways to Guarantee Happy Bridesmaids
Cloned “look alike” Bridesmaids
Brides! Should You Fire Your Bridesmaid?
So, You’re a Bridesmaid… What Now?
6 Tips on How to Avoid Embarrassment as the Bridesmaid!

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Thursday, June 25, 2015

9 Ways to Guarantee S#x on Your Wedding Night

Rachel Morgan, Guest Author

According to an annual wedding survey carried out by top hen and stag party providers Chillisauce.com, only 33% of newlyweds have sex on their wedding night. So we’ve come up with 9 top tips to make sure you do…

1. Don’t drink excessively ~ Nerves and excitement can make it all too easy to quaff Champagne, but if you drink to excess you’ll be falling asleep before the first dance. Instead, aim to have a glass of water in between drinks, and switch to sparkling water or fruit juice by the end of the night to perk you up.

WEDdingNight2. Luscious lingerie is never a bad idea ~ We girls are well aware of the power of sexy lingerie. It can make you feel empowered, beautiful, and it boosts your self-esteem to no end. Be sure to wear some stunning wedding lingerie under your dress so you have a constant reminder of what to look forward to – especially the look on your new husband’s face when he sees you in bed later!

3. Bat those eyelashes ~ Don’t forget to flirt with each other during the day! You don’t want to do anything outrageous – but a coy look and a whisper in his ear can work wonders. Let him know with longing looks that you can’t wait until the day is done and you’re finally alone together.

4. Reflect on your day ~ We can’t say it enough – this day is about the two of you. With all the partying, eating, photographing and conversing, it can be difficult to get a moment alone. After the party is over, avoid running straight off to the bedroom. Instead, take a moment to reflect on the day. Running through what’s just happened will make you feel even more connected with your new husband.

5. Where’s your hubby? ~ It may sound ridiculous, but it is surprisingly easy to forget about your other half during the day. Whether you’re getting ready with your bridesmaids, posing for the photographer, or chatting to friends and family, all of this can take over and cause you to neglect each other. Of course, it’s not possible to remove yourself from the wedding necessities, but be sure to go through as much of the day as possible with your husband by your side.

6. Sleep well ~ You’re sure to be full of wedding jitters, but it’s important to get your solid eight hours of sleep the night before your wedding! A good night’s rest will make sure that you are revitalized and ready to last the whole day – and night!

7. Don’t sweat the small stuff ~ Your wedding is a day you’ve been planning for months… perhaps even years. It can be easy to allow minor details to become a source of irritation or even cause an argument or a tiff with your family, friends or new husband. Keep a level head and don’t let anything ruin your day – the most important thing is that you get married to the person you love.

8. Rose petals, anyone? ~ You’ve seen it in all the movies: rose petals on the bed, candle light, romantic music and an ice bucket with Champagne. Clichéd, right? Yes, of course it is – but clichés are clichés for a reason. Setting the scene in the honeymoon suite can make intimacy hard to resist.

9. Be realistic ~ Reckon you’re going to have the most mind-blowing sex of your life on your wedding night? It could happen… but probably not. No matter what you do during the day, the excitement of your wedding will have you both filled with adrenaline, the eating and drinking will have you both full, and the dancing, chatting and general activities of the day will have you both feeling drowsy. If you follow the above tips, romance is certainly on the cards for the end of the night, but chances are it won’t be ground-breaking sex. Instead, keep your expectations realistic and focus instead on the closeness and intimacy you feel with the man who is now your husband. And you never know – it could end up being your most exciting sex yet!

Is it okay to not have sex on your wedding night? ~ “Actually, recent wedding stats show that it’s completely normal to not have sex on your wedding night! And it’s not hard to see why. You’ve been up since sunrise getting your hair and make-up sorted, not to mention sipping on champagne from the early hours, (only because it calms the pre-wedding nerves, obviously), then proceed to standing on your feet pretty much all day long. All the excitement a bride and groom endure on their wedding day can be tiring, so really, there’s no surprise that over half of newly married couples end their wedding day in the classiest way possible: passing out.” ~ Leah Messenger

Larry’s NOTE: If the night after you exchanged your vows ended with an orgasm, consider yourself lucky: 52 percent of newlyweds say they didn’t have sex on their wedding night, finds a recent survey of 2,128 people by the U.K. coupon website Voucher Codes Pro.

BONUS Articles: 10 Sexy Ways to Make Your Wedding Night Very Special
Will Sex on Your Wedding Night Be Unforgettable or Should You Fugetaboutit?
Wedding Night Whoopee: Hot ‘n Heavy or Hype?
Honeymoon Q & A

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Sunday, June 21, 2015

Duties of the Ring Bearer

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If you will be having children in your wedding, CAUTION… kids are unpredictable. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Expect the unexpected. Countless times I have seen the children make the wedding memorable and be the rockstars of the whole event.

WEDringBearerThis will often be the very first wedding for many of them, so you can’t assume they have even the foggiest notion of what they’re supposed to do.

The key is to choose your ring bearer wisely. The ring bearer can be a girl, if the bride chooses. Some children are just too young to understand why they are there. The ring bearer, traditionally a small boy aged four to eight, walks down the aisle just before the flower girl (or he may walk with her), carrying a pillow with two rings tied to it. They should be mature and confident enough to make their way between the seats without having a full-fledged meltdown along the way.

He is not ring security. Most brides and grooms actually have the Best Man hold both rings to keep from entrusting the expensive rings to a rambunctious 6-year-old, the rings are usually fakes. Often a bride will want the Maid/Matron of Honor to carry one of the rings, however, I don’t recommend that because she will be holding her own bouquet, the brides bouquet (during the ceremony) and usually does not have pockets.

Children younger than four may need to be coaxed with candy or a toy as a reward. Sometimes a teddy bear or other personal item is utilized for carrying the rings. In some cases a family dog takes the place of a human ring bearer for an added personal touch. The downside: someone has to be responsible for caring for the dog and will miss some of the cocktail party and reception. No cats, please. They have a mind of their own at weddings.

Very young children may walk hand-in-hand with a parent or are sometime carried down the aisle by their parent. One of my weddings had a teen pull a wagon with the 2 year old ring bearer in it. The wagon was decorated and the ring bearer was surrounded by rose pedals. By the way, Having a ring bearer is not a requirement. The best man is perfectly capable.

At one on my themed weddings in Tucson – the bride, groom, bridal party and moms and dads – were all dressed as pirates. The ring bearer was about 6 years old and carried both rings in a tiny pirate’s treasure chest.

Kids will be kids, so the best you can do is have them as well prepared and trained as is possible. Remember though, with kids, practice does not make them perfect, it only makes them a little better. Having an alternative plan B is not a bad idea either.

Here are a few duties of the ring bearer:

• Attend the pre-wedding day ceremony rehearsal but does not usually attend the rehearsal dinner

• He immediately precedes the flower girl during the processional or if the flower girl is younger, he may Walk down the aisle with her

• Deliver the wedding rings to the best man or groom

• Be present in all wedding photos

• Possibly stand up with the groomsmen during the length of the ceremony. If he gets finicky he can go sit on the front row.

• Walk with the flower girl directly behind the couple during the recessional

• Hold a basket of rose petals or confetti for other guests to throw at the newlyweds as they depart

• And if mature enough, anything else you can imagine to make your ceremony more memorable.

The ring bearer should sit with his parents at the reception – not at the head table with the bridal party. Depending upon their ages, you may want to have him dance with the flower girl during the reception.

The ring bearer is usually dressed similar to the ushers (sometimes a rented child’s tuxedo) and in some areas – like Arizona – may even wear dress shorts instead of pants if desired. Often it is the parents who shop for the ring bearer’s attire as long as he does not need to match identically to the groomsmen. His family pays for the cost of his attire.

Along with the duties mentioned above, the ring bearer’s additional responsibility is to look handsome, charm the ladies, dance and eat cake. ;-)

If you are dreaming of the perfect wedding, get stressed even thinking about having children at the ceremony, and have a vision of everything running as planned, you may want to think twice before you include very young children.

Watch Bilbo the owl bring the rings down the aisle at a wedding! Very creative!

BONUS Article: An Age Guide to the Little Ones in Your Wedding

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Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Let’s Lock Wedding Tradition in the Box…

AND not let it out… ever!

It can be a lot more fun when you have the courage to step out of the box and do your own thing at your own wedding. Wheew! Express your own creativity! What an exhilarating feeling!

WEDTraditionBOX1You really don’t have to worry about tradition and what others might think… once you decide, you can cast all traditions aside (or maybe keep a few traditions – your choice). The point is… it’s your choice, not your Moms, not the person who is paying for the wedding (I know, that’s a tough one), but yours (and your partner, of course).

There are so many interesting things that are not traditional that will keep the buzz at the reception buzzing for many months into the future.

1. Tradition says the Best Man and the Maid/Matron of Honor walk down the aisle just before the ring bearer and the flower girl; next comes the Bride and her escort. Dump tradition. If you have 3 or 4 (or more) Bridesmaids and Groomsmen on each side, it is often a better idea to have the Best Man and the Maid/Matron of Honor walk in after the Minister and the Groom so that everyone else knows exactly where they are suppose to stand.

The traditional way often has the spacing between everyone staggered or off the mark and may show up as loosely organized and bad in the wedding photos. If you decide to do it this way, please remember to tell the wedding venue coordinator because they usually line everyone up to go in the traditional way.

2. No more Bride’s or Groom’s side! “At many ceremonies, all the bride’s friends have to sit on one side of the room and all the groom’s friends sit on the other side. That sucks, because sometimes you’re friends with both of them — how do you choose? That moment of indecision is just weird for me. Plus, one side is usually much less crowded and people sit there thinking, ‘Gee, the groom doesn’t have many friends.’ All of this can easily be avoided by just letting guests sit where they want.” — Angie, 35

I totally agree! Usually it works best if when the guest asks the usher, “Which side is the Bride’s side?” that they tell them to not choose sides, but pick a good seat on either side towards the front. Find some neat sign’s you can post on my Pintrest Page.

3. What about seating the parents? Tradition says the parents of the bride sit in the front row on the left side and the parents of the groom sit in the front row on the right side. When the couple walks up the aisle, the bride is usually on the left and whoever is escorting her is on the right. Once the groom takes his place next to the bride their backs are to the guests. In my “romantic” wedding ceremony after about 6 minutes into the presentation of the ceremony they are asked to face each other holding hands.

When the bride faces the groom, she is facing away from her parents and the only thing they see is her back. The parents of the groom can only see the back of the groom. Solution: Seat the parents of the bride on the right side and the parents of the groom on the left side. I know, that’s not tradition, however the first time we actually seated the parents in this manner, both sets of parents came up to me after the ceremony to personally thank me for allowing them to see the expressions on the faces of their daughter and son as the ceremony was being performed.

4. Assigned seating at the reception? Some brides and grooms spend way to much time on trying to put the right guests at the right table. It’s not likely that you will please everyone. I’m finding that more and more couples are opting for “open seating,” – letting the guests sit with whomever they want. AND there are times when it is important to select the seating for a guest, such as exes who need to be separated, or putting a shy couple with someone you know that will engage them in conversation and help them to feel like part of the celebration. There are exceptions to every rule. I recommend two table of “reserved seating” for the the mothers and fathers and their close family members.

bridesmaidrainbow5. No more cloned “look alike” bridesmaids. In order to have a great time at your wedding, your bridesmaids need to feel attractive too – something that’s impossible if you’ve micromanaged their looks down to the lipstick hue. Plus, buying a bunch of matching accessories they may never wear again gets expensive. Not to worry… YOU will still be the main attraction! Why not select a dresses they can actually wear again without altering?

Your bridesmaids will look even better if you give them leeway to let their individual styles shine through the blush-colored chiffon gowns you’ve dressed them in. Even if the dresses are all completely different, you can still have a preview to determine who should stand next to who in order to create balance.

Their look should compliment their body type. Same color, different styles and lengths is another idea. Let them choose their hair and makeup styles; give them more than one option with accessories like shoes, jewelry, and cover-ups. Should your bridesmaids wear the same dress? No, just similar enough to be a little of the same but individual enough to compliment each girl.

Your bridesmaids don’t have to hold the same kind of flowers to look the part. Have each one carry a bouquet in a signature color or let your florist create several mono-botanic bouquets in the same hue. Perhaps it is finally time to ditch tradition of the matchy-matchy bridesmaid dresses! What say you?

6. Have your DJ or Band play “Another One Bites the Dust” for your processional. “All You Need is Love” by the Beatles is great too.

7. Bridesmaids are female and groomsmen are male. Wrong! Not anymore. Never confine your list of VIPs to your female friends (or his to only guys)! If the brides best friend in the world happens to be a guy, make him your bridesman, or the groom can ask his good friend to be a groomswoman.

8. Let’s get this party started! While it’s rare, I have had several couples offer cocktails and non-alcoholic drinks about 30 minutes before the ceremony. Or you can set up a table at the ceremony site with a few snacks, lemonade, iced tea, juice or even ice water with sliced lemons, limes or cucumber. Here in Arizona it’s wise to always have a bottled water table available at all times to help your guests stay hydrated.

9. Your wedding dress “has” to be white. NOT! You could still wear a white or ivory dress – but don’t be afraid to add a dash of color with a sash, cardigan, pair of shoes (or tennis shoes or something comphy) or fancy piece of jewelry. You could also do a lightly colored skirt with a white or ivory overlay for a barely there hint of color. Be brave and brazen! Champagne, black, blush and pastel-hued dresses in mint, lavender or cornflower blue are on trend right now, adding an understated uniqueness to your ensemble. (A special thank you to the Knot.com for this tip).

10. Add a fresh spin by incorporating some new ceremony material instead of the classic unity candle. This blog offers about 25 excellent “add-on” ceremonies, any of which will make your wedding more memorable or consider starting a new tradition of your own.

11. You can’t see each other before the ceremony. For many brides this is no longer true. Schedule a “first-look” photo session with just you and your groom and the photographer before the ceremony. This frees up more time after the ceremony so you can go directly to photos with the photographer or enjoy your own cocktail hour. It can also help with the pre-wedding jitters.

Being a full-time, non-denominational Wedding Officiant has allowed me to be a part of many non-traditional weddings and receptions. One Pirate themed wedding I was dressed like a pirate. Another renewal of vows ceremony was performed in a hot air balloon. Want a “beach wedding?” A 4 1/2 drive from Phoenix to Puerto Peñasco (Rocky Point), Mexico with a few close friends is something completely different.

Based upon the wishes of the bride and groom, I can also add a little light humor to give the guests a few giggles. Most guests would not expect the Wedding Officiant to have a sense of humor. Some weddings will have a slight touch of tradition, however the weddings that are memorable are the ones where the bride and groom are not afraid to do what “they” want.

My experience has been that most brides and grooms prefer a mixture of a little traditional and more non-traditional in their wedding. Old traditions are hard to break, but bridal couples must be mindful that just because something has been around for a long time, doesn’t mean that fashioning new rituals isn’t perfectly acceptable and perhaps even preferable.

BONUS Articles: Who (of the bridal party) Walks Down the Aisle First?
Traditional Wedding or NOT!?
A Bright Idea for Seating the Parents of the Bride and Groom
Cloned “look alike” Bridesmaids
To See… or Not to See? That is the Question!

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Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Tying the Knot ~ A Nice Addition to Your Wedding!

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Thomas Witham, Guest Author

“Tying the Knot” is a wedding ceremony that can be added to the main wedding ceremony whereby a couple ties a fisherman’s knot as their ceremony’s Primary Option. As a primary option, it is used after the exchanges of vows and rings. The couple, using large colored cords, ties this knot as the officiant reads a commentary. That commentary appears below. The theme of the commentary is that, like a fisherman’s knot, marriage strengthens and supports the bride and groom through life and, like the knot, their marriage grows stronger under pressure. A YouTube.com video of my first couple to use this option, Jeremy and Melanie, appears below.

Below is a sample of a “Tying the Knot” ceremony.

_____ and _____ have just sealed their relationship with the giving and receiving of rings. Today their relationship is further symbolized by the tying of a fisherman’s knot; a true lovers knot, for it is the strongest there is; its bond will not break, becoming ever stronger under pressure.

These two cords represent each of you as individuals – as the unique and special gifts you bring to your marriage. As you fasten your pieces together, these actions represent the joining of your two lives into one common purpose. The completed knot represents your future, secure in the knowledge your relationship will continue to be strong, despite the inevitable changes life brings.

Although the fisherman’s knot is one of the simplest to tie, it is also one of the sturdiest. As stress is applied, the knot becomes ever stronger. It is the goal of marriage to achieve a blending of hearts and lives, but like the spaces between these cords formed by the knot, let there also be spaces in your new life together, so each may encourage and nurture the individual growth of the other.

I ask that you now pull on this rope to see it strengthen under pressure while still allowing us to see the individual cords – just as your support of one another as beautiful and blessed individuals strengthens your union. As you hold one another in mutual concern and shared respect, may you continue holding each other tightly in your hearts and form a strong bond, now and forever. Let this knot indicate the strength of your love and be a symbol of your unity from this day forward.

The above words for the “Tying the Knot” ceremony were written by Thomas Witham, Wedding Officiant. Larry’s NOTE: When I get a request to add the “Tying the Knot” ceremony to the wedding ceremony, I allow the bride and groom to edit the words in any way they choose.

Copyright © 2015 – Thomas Witham. Thomas is a leading Chicago Wedding Officiant. As a wedding minister/wedding officiant, he performs wedding ceremonies in any state. He also play a central role in helping couples plan their wedding. Visit Thomas’ Website: www.DayofDreams.com

How to Tie a Fisherman’s Knot

Step 1: Grab ends. Grab a hold of both ends of the rope. The end in your left hand is end B, and the end in your right hand is end A.

Step 2: Cross ends. Cross end B in front of end A so that the end B is behind the loop and pointing down.

Step 3: Pull end B through loop. Pull end B up through the loop and to the left, thus creating a small loop on top of the larger loop below.

Step 4: Pull end B through small loop. Pull end B through the small loop from back to front with your right hand.

Step 5: Tighten knot. Tighten the knot by pulling end B with your right hand, while holding the part of the large loop next to end A in your left hand. You should now have a knot on the top of your large loop, and end A should be able to slide back and forth to make the loop larger or smaller.

Step 6: Pull end A through large loop. Pull end A through the large loop from behind, pull it up, thus creating another small loop on top of the larger loop below.

Step 7: Pull end A through small loop. Pull end A through the small loop from back to front, and pull tightly with your left hand.

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Monday, June 1, 2015

Pay Attention to the “KISS!”

“You may now kiss the bride” (or as I usually say, “You may now seal your promises with a kiss!) raises the question: “How do we kiss?”

WEDKissDataThere are few kisses more important and more meaningful than your first one as a married couple. It is a passionate moment that should symbolize the love you share. Filled with romance and hope, that first kiss clinches the lifelong vows you have just pledged.

Your friends and your family are all there to witness this PDA (public display of affection), so what’s okay? A modest peck, or a full-on whopper now that you’re finally husband and wife?

To be honest, it’s up to YOU. It’s your wedding day – if there has to be an excuse for PDA (Public Displays of Affection), today is that day. Whether you keep it low-key and save it for the wedding night, or go all out, everyone will be happy for you.

From my point of view a “modest peck” doesn’t cut it. My advice to the bride and groom is two things:

1. Practice the ceremony kiss. Otherwise it may appear awkward. Remember the day he proposed, and you saw the ring and the tears in his eyes, and then you two started making out like maniacs? Yeah, don’t do that! Practice will definitely help so that your kiss will look natural and spontaneous. The bride needs to know if you will will include a “dip” and you should decide before hand which direction you’ll tilt your heads.

2. Hold the kiss a little longer than normal. Why? Photographers often miss this photo opt if you exchange a modest peck. Hold it until it begins to feel a little uncomfortable… usually about 5 seconds. It should not be too short since you want to capture the emotions of the moment, but it should not last so long that your guests get fidgety. Close your eyes. Embracing or holding hands is also a good idea. A 20-second workout for your tongues isn’t called for. No sloppy make-out sessions, please! ;-)

…OR… “Otherwise it may appear awkward.”

…And into the future. Kiss often. Smooching actually reduces stress! Kissing is also good for dental hygiene, and since French kissing uses all 34 facial muscles, passionate sessions on the sofa can burn 6.4 calories per minute.

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Thursday, May 28, 2015

How About a Foot Massage for the Bride?

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Hey gals, your wedding shoes can make or break your day. Make sure you bring happy feet to the wedding and do everything to keep them happy. Refuse to wear uncomfortable shoes. If you are buying new shoes, remember to break in your shoes before the wedding. Be sure to break ’em in to avoid dealing with blisters. Wedding shoes like any other pair of fashion footwear should fit properly and not be too tight, too small or too big.

If your dress is long, wear some fancy flats or tennis shoes – no one will be the wiser and they are as comfortable as they are stylish. Shop around. Some brides wear wedges to make them taller, and others wear them to save money on alterations. Will you be designer driven or comfort driven?

WEDFootMassageMindy Weiss, a celebrity wedding planner and author of “The Wedding Book,” offers four tips:

• Buy the shoes before your first gown fitting. You’ll need to wear them to each and every fitting to make sure you hem the dress to the right height. It’ll also help you get used to them.

• Don’t wear white shoes with an ivory gown or ivory shoes with a white one. It’s OK, though, to step completely out of the box and wear a bright color (maybe blue?) if you feel comfortable with it.

• Watch out for rhinestones; they can snag the dress. If you really love sparkly shoes, run a piece of delicate fabric over them to see if they cause any snags. If you still want to wear them, cover with clear scotch tape.

• Flip-flops are acceptable as long as the wedding isn’t overly formal. “I’m not a fan of flip-flops, but it’s fine – I’m not against it. It’s time to party and it’s better than being barefoot. Barefoot only works after midnight,” Weiss says.

Stuff happens: heels break, your shoes can make your feet hurt, or you may want heels for photos but sandals for dancing. In any case, bring a spare pair of shoes just in case. Don’t skip the pedicure.

Consider a rejuvenating foot massage treatment on your own or as an add on to another spa treatment. Modern technology has made hand and foot massages more popular than ever. Initial gentle pressure yields to increasing pressure, with circular motions of the thumb and fingers over the sole of the foot, and even more pressure in areas such as the ball of the foot can really feel great when you’ve been on your feet all day and into the evening. Try foot reflexology – This type of foot massage involves the application of pressure with a thumb, fingers and hand techniques to the feet.

Brides, please don’t maintain the illusion that you can wear those fabulous designer heels all night long. They will begin to hurt your feet and impede your ability to hob-knob with your guests. Pack some cute previously broken in flats or some simple white sandals so you can keep dancing all night long.

Grooms: Want to earn a few extra points, pamper your bride with a foot massage. Take your lovely bride to get a foot massage a couple of days before the wedding. Add a pedicure and manicure and it will truly brighten her day. The morning and day of the wedding will be very busy, so make sure there is enough time if you want to schedule something like a foot massage or – better yet – a full-body massage.

WEDFootMassage2Give her anything the bride needs to make sure everything runs smoothly and she stays cool, calm and as stress-free as possible. It’s a wonderful way to invigorate and refresh a bride before she is married to her best friend. This is sure to make her feel very special and loved.

Terrific Idea: One groom I know hired a Masseuse for “foot relief duty” to be at the reception. He invited everyone to indulge their feet and get in line behind the new bride for a FREE foot massage. Just a few minutes is all you’ll need to spend here. That will make your guests feel more relaxed and ready to get back to the dance floor.

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Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Prepare a “Must Have” Wedding Day Emergency Kit

A bride without her trusty emergency kit (some call it a survival kit) is a meltdown waiting to happen!

WEDEmergencyKitIt’s always better to be safe than sorry. There’s no time for panic on your wedding day. The last thing you need on your wedding day is to be unprepared if something goes wrong. Have your bridesmaids or maid/matron of honor, or do-it-yourself and put together a list of just-in-case items that will ensure your dream wedding goes off without a hitch. They have been known to save the day on more than one occasion.

These things might include makeup, bottled water, a phone, band-aids, Altoids, etc. Pack up your kit in a tote bag, satchel or gym bag and keep it easily accessible in the bride’s dressing room and close by during the reception. The better prepared you are, the smoother your wedding day will go.

Before the wedding day, put together a little kit of must-haves in case something should go wrong. Ideally, you should have extra make-up, safety pins, pantyhose (both black and nude), nail polish for snags, hairspray, a comb, and anything else you deem appropriate to combat wedding stress. If a situation does arise, you’ll be thankful you had these things with you.

Reminder for the Groom: To make sure he looks dashing for the wedding, remind him to bring along shaving cream, skin cleanser, cologne and other necessities. Show up. Bring the wedding ring. A few other reminders for the groom.

By the way, if you don’t have any wedding day mishaps, beauty blunders, fashion faux pas, or personal care predicaments, pass it along to the next bride from your bridal party.

Take a look at a list I put together: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com/bridesemergency.html. In sharing this article with a bride whose wedding I was about to perform, she suggested, “smelling salts” in case she (or, more likely, the groom) keeled over during a pivotal moment, requiring immediate resuscitation. ;-)

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, May 16, 2015

Selling Your Wedding Gown… Online!

If you’re not the sentimental type, there are several online outlets that will gladly take your once-worn, pre-loved wedding gown off your hands. Selling a wedding dress after the wedding is a growing trend. If you will be selling your wedding dress, here are a few ideas.

In addition to eBay and Craigslist, consider sites that specialize in preowned wedding gowns – Tradesy, Nearly Newlywed (They make it super fuss-free to sell your wedding dress), Sell My Wedding Dress, Encore Bridal, Once Wed, Pre-Owed Wedding Dresses, RecycledBride.com and Still White.

SELLWeddingGownOnlineIn a recent listing, a bride asked $495 for a once-worn $6,000 Vera Wang gown. Policies covering listings and commissions vary – check the sites, and watch for promotions.

The best time to list a wedding dress is February or March… the slowest time for sales is Thanksgiving to New Year’s. List dresses while they are still in style – ones more than three years old are hard to sell, although vintage dresses can be popular.

In the listing, include designer, size, original price, details of style and information on extras, such as beads and pearls. If the gown has been worn, it is not “New without tags,” it is “used.” The description is crucial.

Take lots of photos showing the whole dress and all of its detailing. Make sure your gown is photographed from all angles, including the train, the back, the bodice, the side, and with the train up if the gown is already bustled.

Let your bridesmaids know that if they want to sell there dresses, you are okay with that.

Best Sellers: Plus size, short, lace, white and ivory gowns. If it applies, make sure to use these keywords in the headline and body of the listing.

Or… you could go out in style and “Trash the Dress!” What a terrific photo-opt!

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Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Married? Now You Can Begin Dating Again!

Filed under: Dating,Relationship Tips — Larry James @ 7:22 am
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One of the secrets of keeping a marriage great is to never, ever stop dating! Do you know what kills love in marriage faster than anything else? Boredom. When we get bored with each other, it’s all too easy to start ignoring each other’s needs, taking each other for granted and to stop being kind. That is never a good way to begin a marriage.

How about making some new memories? You must never stop stirring the romantic pot. Now is not a good time to settle in. You have to keep actually doing things together… FUN things! Just because you’re married now, doesn’t mean your dating life is over. It is, in fact, just beginning! You went through the single dating phase and now it’s time for married dating.

WEDMarried&Dating“I encourage you to date your spouse, pursue them whole-heartedly, and understand that dating shouldn’t end just because you said, ‘I do.'” ~ Jarrid Wilson

Karl Pillerner, PhD., a Cornell University gerontologist, and author of “30 Lessons for Loving: Advice From the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships and Marriage,” learned this secret from a 70 year-old woman, Leigh. Leigh and her husband had each been married before and agreed to treat their marriage together as a lifetime date.

What a great idea! Latch on to this idea because it is an important tool to keep love alive, exciting and interesting.

Here’s why it works: When you go on dates, you do your best to be interesting, upbeat, attractive and attentive. You try to make the person you are with feel special.

When people have been married a long time, they often begin to take each other for granted. Always remember, what you take for granted… disappears. When this happens, we don’t feel the need to make an effort, because, after all, we know they love us, so why do we need to?

What? Down deep in your heart, you know the answer to that question. You do need to. When you make an effort, you fuel the spark that makes a marriage thrive.

Another aspect of dating is that it’s exciting because it offers an element of the unknown. Married couples who try new things… take spontaneous trips… and give surprise gifts increase their odds of remaining happily married.

Treating marriage like a date doesn’t mean that there won’t be trying times. The trick is to view the difficult days of a marriage like the time between dates – not as a problem with the relationship but as an unavoidable intermission from it. Then we look forward to when we can resume the date of our lifetime.

Larry’s NOTE: A special “thank you” to Karen Larson for bringing this to my attention.

Copyright © 2015 – Karen Larson and Larry James. Karen is the Editor of Bottom Line Personal.

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