Brides, don’t insist on making your bridesmaids look like clones. No more “cookie cutter” outfits.
The practice started with weddings in ancient Rome, which required the presence of 10 witnesses, who dressed like the bride and groom in order to ward off evil spirits. If the spirits couldn’t figure out who the bride and groom were, they couldn’t inflict evil on them. Very clever, ancient Romans. ;-)
Every good friend knows that along with the honor of being a bridesmaid comes the obligation to wear a dress in a color and style that’s not of her choosing. So your girls accept that, but it doesn’t mean they’ll submit happily if you force them to wear identical shoes, jewelry, wraps, and hairstyles.
In order to have a great time at your wedding, your bridesmaids need to feel attractive too – something that’s impossible if you’ve micromanaged their looks down to the lipstick hue. Plus, buying a bunch of matching accessories they may never wear again gets expensive. Not to worry… YOU will still be the main attraction! Why not select a dresses they can actually wear again without altering?
Your bridesmaids will look even better if you give them leeway to let their individual styles shine through the blush-colored chiffon gowns you’ve dressed them in. Even if the dresses are all completely different, you can still have a preview to determine who should stand next to who in order to create balance. Their look should compliment their body type. Same color, different styles and lengths is another idea. Let them choose their hair and makeup styles; give them more than one option with accessories like shoes, jewelry, and cover-ups.
It’s a near-impossible feat to find ONE dress (or even one color) that three or four or 10 girls (who are different colors and shapes and size) are ALL going to feel great in. So why not make it easier on everyone and let them all wear WHATEVER, and trust that your friends have good taste? Your “Bridal Brigade” should have the freedom to choose within your guidelines. Of course you have the final say; you are, after all, “the bride.”
Should your bridesmaids wear the same dress? No, just similar enough to be a little of the same but individual enough to compliment each girl.
Perhaps it is finally time to ditch tradition of the matchy-matchy bridesmaid dresses! What say you?
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