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Friday, August 28, 2015

Celebrate the Spirit of Aloha at Your Wedding!

Have a Hawaiian themed wedding! It’s the next thing to being in paradise! There are lots of ways to thrill and excite your guests at the wedding and the reception. If you aren’t able to have your wedding in Hawaii you can still make your dream Hawaiian wedding come true!

WED-HawaiianThemeEncourage your guests to wear aloha attire; Hawaiian shirts & skirts. This lets them know they can show up in the aloha spirit instead of the usual formal wedding attire, plus it adds a ton to your reception’s island atmosphere and the photos of your wedding.

Begin by sending Hawaii theme invitations to your guests. You can make them yourself or buy some really fancy invitations with a Hawaiian theme. Dress up Hawaiian, take a photo and order PhotoStamps for your invitations. Have the invitations sent from the city of Bridal Veil, Oregon (See link below in BONUS Articles) to your guests in the Greater Phoenix area or anywhere in the US.

In the Hawaiian Islands leis are given as a symbol of love, respect and appreciation. There is no wrong way to incorporate leis in a wedding. Have your wedding party wear Leis. The Wedding Officiant too. For a Hawaii theme wedding a bride can wear a lei on her head rather than a traditional veil. The head lei is know as a haku and sits like a crown of flowers on the brides head. Have a hula girl greet your guests with leis.

A tropical alternative to the flower girl dropping rose petals is to have her drop lifelike silk plumeria blooms. The flower girl can carry the orchids in a traditional basket or for more of a beach theme in a beach pail. Be sure to bring in plenty of beautiful flowers as they will help to capture what this wedding theme is all about. Exotic, tropical flowers and plants help to make a beautiful backdrop and so do some gorgeous eye popping colors.

I did a Hawaiian themed wedding recently at the bride and groom’s home. They had a truck deliver a load of sand in their back yard and invited the guests to feel the sand between their toes by going barefoot during the ceremony and reception. It made it feel like a wedding on a Hawaiian beach. They added tiki lamps, had chocolate covered macadamia nuts as favors, and a signature drink like a pineapple martini. They hired several Hawaiian belly dancers and Fire dancers to put on a 30-minute eye-popping show for their guests.

Rather than the ring bearer using a pillow for a more tropical twist have him carry the rings in a real sea shell, coconut shell or tropical wooden bowl. An abalone shell or a oyster shell work great.

With a little imagination, a Hawaiian themed ceremony can be as distinctive as the couple getting married. There are all sorts of creative ways to personalize your wedding ceremony. Learn to say, “I love you” in Hawaiian and say it to each other during your ceremony. Click here to listen to how to say it. In Hawaii it is common for the wedding couple to have a circle of blooms mark the spot where they will exchange vows. I suggest a heart-shaped circle of flowers. The circle of flowers is symbolic of their never ending love for one another and their eternal pledge they commit to one another in the circle. The wedding couple stands in the circle and the wedding officiant stands outside the circle.

The bride and groom can have the Wedding Officiant ( The big Kahuna ;-) ) perform a simple binding of hands during the ceremony using a maile lei (a flowering Hawaiian vine, of the genus Alyxia, used to make lei), symbolizing their sacred union. (Similar to the Handfasting Ceremony).

HawaiianCakeHave a hula girl greet your guests with leis and invite them to sign the guest register. Rather than wearing leis from the start of the wedding some wedding couples incorporate a lei exchange as part of the wedding ceremony. Like the exchange of rings the exchange of leis symbolizes love, respect, appreciation.

It is easy to turn a simple cake or a formal wedding cake into a Hawaii theme cake by adding an adorable Hawaiian kissing couple cake topper, lifelike silk plumeria blooms, lifelike silk leis, or fresh tropical flowers to the cake. The top of the cake can be decorated in plumeria and hibiscus sugar flowers. While the other tiers include various Hawaiian themed items like flip flops, the Hawaiian islands, a ukulele, turtles and of course the traditional Hawaiian Lei. My friend, Sue Jacobs, Master Wedding Cake Designer @ Sue Jacobs Cakes can fix you up!

Acknowledge special people at the wedding with Leis. For significant people who will be attending the wedding but who are not in the wedding party like the parents and/or grandparents of the wedding couple, children of the wedding couple, god parents of the wedding couple and have the wedding officiant offer a special way to acknowledge them and have them stand out as special people at the wedding.

Incorporate the Blending of the Sands ceremony as part of your Hawaiian themed wedding. Go overboard. Contact someone who lives in Hawaii and have them send you several ounces of sand from a Hawaiian beach to be used in the sand ceremony. The Wedding Officiant can start this part of the ceremony by pouring the “Hawaiian sand” and tell your guests where the sand came from.

Have your DJ play romantic Hawaiian music before, during, and after the ceremony. Here is a list of Hawaiian songs compliments of www.AlohaFriends.com.

AlohaHawaiian Wedding Song performed by Elvis Presley
Ke Kali Nei Au – The Hawaiian Wedding Song performed by Makaha Sons
Love and Honesty by The Hawaiian Style Band
I’ll Weave A Lei Of Stars For You by the Royal Hawaiian Serenaders
Kiss You In The Morning by Kalaeloa
Stuck On You by Ekolu
Honestly by Ekolu
Better Together by Jack Johnson
My Best Friend – Keahiwai
• For the First Time – Keali’i Reichel
In My Life – by The Beatles; performed & interpreted by Keali’i Reichel
Mele ‘Ohana – by Keali’i Reichel
Somewhere Over the Rainbow & What A Wonderful World – performed by Israel Kamakawiwo’ole (Larry’s favorite!)

The true Hawaiian theme is about a beach, beautiful colors, a few exotic twists, and making this a gorgeous backdrop for your special day. You will never forget it and your guests won’t either!

Why go to Hawaii when you can experience the islands right here in Arizona? The Hukilau Hawaiian Village features cascading waterfalls, koi fish ponds, authentic tikis, and live entertainment. You’re sure to feel the spirit of Aloha as if you were in Hawaii.

So… where do you go for your honeymoon? I recommend Hawaii – the Big Island of Hawaii. I love Kona, Hawaii.

OR… plan a destination wedding “in” Hawaii and invite me to perform my romantic wedding ceremony on the beach! I will go anywhere your budget allows. ;-)

Larry’s NOTE: A very special “thank you” to Mike & Kim Crinella of http://www.AlohaFriends.com for allowing me to borrow some of their ideas from their Hawaiian website. Visit their shop for items that are appropriate for Hawaiian weddings below.

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BONUS Article: Pull Off a Hawaiian Luau Wedding Reception Anywhere – With Ease
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Hawaiian Words and Phrases to Add to Your Ceremony ~ (Listen to how they are pronounced)

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Monday, August 24, 2015

Marriage is Not a Test Drive…

It’s for real and for life. Or, at least, that’s the way it is supposed to be.

Although the divorce rate is not as high as most people think – 50% of all marriages are NOT ending in divorce, according to the Census Bureau. 72% of those who have ever been married, are still married to their first spouse! We have been both accepting and adding to a deep sense of cultural discouragement about marriage by continuing to quote a distorted statistic. In affect it’s a discouragement that instead of motivating couples, leeches hope from marriages. A discouragement that, it turns out, is based more on myth than reality.

WEDTestDriveRegardless… The divorce rate is still too high because couples give up, they begin to take each other for granted, they stop working on the relationship and then they let it fall apart. The effects of divorce on couples and especially children is difficult to calculate.

A good marriage takes your whole heart. Selfish people can’t pull it off. Having a healthy marriage is not easy. It’s takes working together, even when you don’t feel like it. A total commitment from both partners must be your highest priority.

Love is never enough.

The vows that you say during your wedding ceremony must be taken seriously. True, they are just words, and are easy to say when you are excited about being in love. However, vows are a solemn promise, pledge, or personal commitment to your partner; a solemn promise often made to a deity committing oneself to an act, service, or condition.

Test driving a marriage often comes from those who enter a marriage knowing that there are issues that need to be settled, but they proceed hoping it will get better and all work out and knowing all the while that they can always get a divorce if it doesn’t. That kind of thinking is a recipe for disaster. Marriage works out for those who not only speak the vows, but actually have an intention to keep them – no matter what it takes.

There are only a few legitimate reasons why couples should get a divorce. Cheating is not necessarily one of them. Although difficult, you always have a choice to forgive. I’ve seen couples who, with the help of a good coach, forgive and very quickly shift their focus to the work of having a happy and healthy relationship – totally new and exciting again. It can happen.

Continuous emotional and especially physical abuse is number one! Death, divorce, or separation do not end a relationship, they only change it. As long as you have memory, you will have a relationship. So, my best advice: Forget divorce if you want the relationship to end. It won’t. You may be better off both agreeing to begin working on the relationship you are presently in.

“Test driving a car is very similar to driving the same car after you have bought it. But living with someone before you are married is nothing like living with the same person after you are married. The relationship is totally different.” ~ Rabbi Aron Moss

Rabbi Moss goes on to say that if you follow the traditional system – first use the mind and do some research, then slowly introduce the heart when you meet – you are more likely to make it. First find out about their values and their character. Do they see marriage as an ideal, do they believe in family, are they committed and focused in their personal life, do they have integrity and trustworthiness, are they good-natured and considerate? If so, they might be a good match.

Cohabitation puts men in the driver’s seat. They get what they want – sex and companionship – without giving what they fear the most – commitment.

Only 30 percent of couples who live together actually get married. (Source: John D. Cunningham and John K. Antill, “Cohabitation and Marriage: Retrospective and Predictive Comparisions,” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships 11 (1994), pp. 77-93.) Damage does occur when couples choose to live together. Marriage cements love with a commitment. Living together leaves you vulnerable, causing you to doubt the level of your partner’s dedication. It’s the adult version of playing house.

SHESproposingCohabitation fosters enough intimacy to facilitate childbearing but not enough commitment to make people deliberate about their choices to become parents.

“When a woman makes marriage the condition for giving herself to a man, she may lose a guy who has no interest in commitment, but she will challenge a “good man” to take the step of a marriage covenant. Feminists tout that cohabitation gives women freedom and independence rather than being tied to a man. However, women are far more likely to flourish economically and emotionally within the stability of marriage.” ~ Dr. Juli Slattery

Getting married is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. Reality check – the decision to get married is unlike any other decision – it’s not a temporary commitment. The marriage license does not expire after it’s been filed at the court house. Please…take some time to really get to know each other. I may be old fashion, but from my experience as a relationship coach for nearly 20 years, a long engagement – one year or more – (while not living together) seems to work best. The longer couples wait to make that first serious commitment of marriage, the better their chances for marital success.

Before you make the commitment to get married, if there is any doubt… any doubt at all, do not pass GO… do not collect… in other words do not get married. I can assure you that the odds are it will NOT get better after marriage.

In playing house and stocking up on premarital Ikea furniture are we all heightening our risk for divorce? (Although the time it takes to put some of that stuff together might suggest otherwise.) ;-) A new study from the nonpartisan Council on Contemporary Families says, “No.” Moving in before marriage doesn’t automatically make you a divorce statistic. Choosing a partner way too early, however, just might.

You should never rush something that you want to last forever!

BONUS Article: Everything We Think We Know About Marriage and Divorce is Wrong!!
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Thursday, August 20, 2015

Pre-Wedding Beauty Tips for the Bride

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NewsUSA, Guest Author

You want everything to be picture perfect for your wedding, including your smile. But like everything else about your big day, that perfect smile could require some work ahead of time. In fact, experts suggest starting your entire beauty regimen six months before the wedding.

Here’s a complete pre-wedding beauty checklist.

WEDBrideBeautyTipsLips: Get soft, kissable lips by brushing away flakes of dry skin with an infant toothbrush soaked in baking soda and water. Apply healing ointment, and in no time, your lips will be ready for that “kiss the bride” kiss.

Teeth: A cosmetic dentist can often correct an imperfect smile with veneers. But if spending painful hours in the dentist’s chair getting your teeth ground down sounds like it would put a damper on all the joyful planning, here’s good news: Lumineers (www.lumineers.com) are now used by thousands of dentists nationwide and can be applied in two short, pain-free appointments.

Unlike other veneer procedures, Lumineers are so strong and thin that they don’t require removal of sensitive tooth structure. The procedure is quick, painless and even reversible.

Makeup: Women with warm skin tones look best in makeup with pink, coral, peach, amber, brown and red with yellow undertones. If you have a cool skin tone, choose pink, berry, lilac, mauve or red with blue undertones.

Skin: Make your face glow with a good cleansing program. Use a cleanser that’s appropriate for your skin type in the morning, makeup remover and cleanser at night and a daily moisturizer. Use a gentle facial scrub once a week.

Hair: If you’re planning to change your hairstyle or color, experiment several months before the wedding so you have time to correct any mistakes.

Nails: If you’re a nail-biter, get weekly manicures to keep your nails healthy. Plan your last manicure a couple of days before the big day. Choose a pretty pale pink or splurge on a French manicure, not just because it looks great, but because the chips won’t show as much and are easy to fix. You’ll have beautiful hands for the rehearsal dinner and any other festivities.

Don’t forget, practice makes perfect. Schedule a trial run with your hair and makeup artists several days before your wedding, so there are no surprises the day of the ceremony.

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Sunday, August 16, 2015

Where to Get Your Marriage License in Arizona

To get a marriage license in the Greater Phoenix area, specifically Maricopa County, an engaged couple must appear in person, together at one of the Justice Court offices listed in the link below and each must present a government issued photo I.D. such as a driver’s license. You will be required to provide a driver’s license as proof of age. You must appear “in person” to obtain a marriage license in Maricopa County. Marriage licenses are NOT available online or by mail. A copy of a divorce decree is not required. No blood test is required.

WED-LicenseThe fee for a marriage license, which is valid throughout Arizona, is $76.00 payable by cash or check with a driver’s license or bank guarantee card or credit card. If you are purchasing a license at the Justice Courts, they accept checks, money orders, or cashiers checks. No cash or credit cards are accepted. There may be some exceptions to this, so call to inquire about what form of payment is acceptable.

For a list of places where you can purchase an Arizona Marriage License, click here.

It is recommended that you also purchased one or more “Certified” copies of the marriage license ($27.50 each in Arizona) when you purchase your marriage license, to be sent to you after the license is filed by the Officiant with the Clerk of the Court. Some agencies require to see it but do not send it back so, ordering several “Certified” copies is recommended. If you order 2 or 3 certified marriage certificates you can begin to file multiple forms simultaneously and not have to wait for one to be returned before you file the next request to change your name.

Social Security requires it from a Bride who will be changing her name. It will be sent to you about 4 to 8 weeks (depending upon the month that you get married) after the County Court Clerk records it. Our busiest months for weddings – March, April & May and October, November & December – tend to have longer return times. Larry James will file the license the first business day after the wedding.

After the wedding, you will receive the top part of the marriage license for your records and you can begin to use it to change your name at some of the places listed here.

If you have a “passport” and your name will be legally changed due to marriage, you will need a certified copy of your marriage license to submit along with one or more official forms to have your name changed on your passport. For more information and links to download the forms you will need, click here.

You will receive your marriage license and can be married on the same day you apply for it. An unused marriage license expires one year from the date of purchase. Any license purchased in any Arizona county may be used in any city in Arizona.

If you are under the age of 18, you must either have a notarized parental consent form or have your parents accompany you, present the proper identification, and sign the parental consent form in front of the clerk issuing your license.

If you are age 16 – 17 identification and one of the following documents showing proof of age is needed: a) certified copy of birth certificate; b) current driver’s license; c) state or military I.D. card; or d) current passport. If you are age 15 or under, you must also have a court order. To obtain a court order you must contact Conciliation Court at: 602-506-3296.

Click here for information on “Arizona Covenant Marriage License Requirements.”

Our friends from the LGBT community can now get a marriage license in Arizona.

Most Justice Court offices are open until 5:00 p.m. MST, however you are encouraged to arrive by 4 p.m. to complete the paperwork.

To find out where to get a Marriage License in other states, click here.

BONUS Article:Getting Married in Arizona? Here’s the Latest Scoop!

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Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Does the Father of the Groom Give a Speech at the Wedding?

Barry Watson, Guest Author

Your son’s about to get married to the love of his life. Most likely, you are overwhelmed with joy and pride right now. It’s exactly the sort of emotion you want to share with the audience at your son’s wedding.

Although there is no set rule for who must and must not give a speech at the wedding, having family and friends say a few words is always good fun. The father of the bride has a speech delivered at the engagement party, then the father of the groom takes over at the rehearsal dinner and the best man is supposed to give the first toast at the wedding reception. But that’s just the most common way of doing things and you can get creative if you like.

WED-FofGroomSpeechThere could be receptions where everyone says some words at least and I’ve been to weddings where no one besides the best man has a speech ready.

It all comes down to the audience, see what comes naturally and go with that.

Father-of-the-groom speeches are important. ~ In most cases, people in the audience want to hear what the father of the groom has to say about the event and the relationship his son and daughter-in-law share. The speech could be either funny or deeply emotional depending on the father, but you can bet the whole audience will be paying ample attention.

What if the father of the groom in unavailable? ~ There could be circumstances in which the father of the groom simply cannot come to the wedding or give a speech in front of a crowd. This is okay and someone else can deliver a heart-warming speech instead. The mother of the groom would be most welcome to come say a few words. Even the brother or uncle could do this. Basically, as long as it feels like a very close family member is sharing the family’s joy with all those who’ve gathered, it should be enough.

Should the father talk at the wedding reception? ~ Actually, why not? As we’ve seen before there is no rule to govern the perfect wedding. Families have to plan the day of the wedding according to what suits them best and if the father of the groom would rather talk at the wedding reception or if the bride’s father would rather say a few words at the engagement party, that’s okay.

Here are a few tips for the speech. ~ Generally it is always a good idea to have a few versions of the speech ready. Have different drafts made up before the big day and ask someone to help you edit them so that they appeal to everyone. A great speech takes practice. Also give compliments, thanks and blessings with the speech that always charms the crowd. Read more on

Finally, stick to the point and avoid letting your speech run too long. People have limited attention spans and they’ve come to the wedding to celebrate, so keep it all short and sweet.

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Larry’s NOTE: A special “Thank you” to Susan Stripling Photography for the photo above.

BarryWatsonCopyright 2015 – Barry Watson. Barry is a happy father-of-two, a loving husband and an awful golfer. While preparing to give 2 wedding speeches at his son’s weddings, he learned a lot about how to create a great father of the groom speech, so he started a blog where he constantly shares the best tips he found in this topic. You can read more on MyFatheroftheGroomSpeech.com.

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Saturday, August 8, 2015

Don’t Lock Your Knees!

Filed under: Rehearsals,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 8:30 am
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When conducting a wedding rehearsal, I always tell the bride, groom and wedding party to stand loose, shift their weight occasionally, (especially if you begin to feel some numbness), keep their legs flexed (bent slightly at the knees)… and never stand at attention or lock their knees during the wedding.

When you stand still for 20 to 30 minutes, the parasympathetic, or relaxing branch of your nervous system takes over, which causes your blood vessels to expand and blood to collect in your legs instead of pumping to your brain, says Julian Stewart, M.D., Ph.D., director of the Center for Hypotension at New York Medical College.

WEDLockYourKneesFainting, also called syncope (pronounced SIN-ko-pee), is a sudden, brief loss of consciousness and posture caused by decreased blood flow to the brain.

Locking your knees, is standing in a manner in which your legs are completely straight, the knee joint “locking” back so the bones of your lower and upper legs support one another, requiring no work from the muscles of your body to maintain balance and position.

Locking your knees slows blood circulation to the brain and can cause you to pass out. Your brain needs that extra oxygen to help you maintain balance. Anxiety and dehydration, which also deprives the brain of oxygen will often exacerbate this fainting phenomenon – something you can do without at your wedding. You definitely don’t want to show up in one of those videos on America’s Funniest Videos or on blooper shows.

Heat (especially in my Arizona weddings) and alcohol don’t make standing upright for periods of time very easy. Drink plenty of water (and maybe some Gatorade) in the dressing area and limit your alcohol intake. A good rule is: No booze before the ceremony.

Be sure to eat a good breakfast the day of your wedding. Don’t go all day without giving your tummy something more to think about than being nervous.

It helps to provide a light healthy snack for your attendants so that they can nibble on something tasty and easy to eat like bananas or nectarines to keep their electrolytes balanced. No Red Bull or energy drinks, no espresso and limit the caffeine – they may work short term but you don’t know when they will wear off and its not worth the risk.

Some fainting symptoms are:

• A feeling of heaviness in the legs
• Blurred vision
• Confusion
• Feeling warm or hot
• Lightheadedness, dizziness, a floating feeling
• Nausea
• Sweating
• Vomiting
• Yawning

The best thing you can do if overcome with nerves or if you feel any of the symptoms listed above is to take a few deep cleansing breaths and relax your shoulders and legs and get that blood flowing. And, if possible, have a seat so you don’t fall down.

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Tuesday, August 4, 2015

How to Choose a Wedding Photographer

Melissa Jill, Guest Author

If you’re a bride or groom who values photography, the task of picking a wedding photographer can be daunting and somewhat terrifying. After all, there are no re-dos. You’re going to get married once, and you only have one shot to pick a photographer. You’re spending a lot of money, and you’re putting all your eggs in one basket… without being able to see the final product in advance. Yikes! Scary!!

WED-ChoosePhotographerI try to put myself in my clients’ shoes when I am meeting with them to talk about their photography needs. Even though I’ve never hired a wedding photographer myself, I think I can imagine the fear and trepidation they must feel. In addition to this, I’ve heard FAR TOO MANY horror stories involving wedding photographers not delivering, and newlyweds being left disappointed or heartbroken.

So, from a photographer’s point of view, I thought I’d share a few tips on making this huge decision. I know it may seem that I’m a little biased (pick me! pick me!) but I honestly don’t think every bride out there is right for me or me for them. So how do you find the best wedding photographer for you?

MelissaJill_Elopement_BouquetThree simple pieces of advice:

1 – Make sure that when you view their photos, you FEEL something. You are hiring an artist with a specific eye and heart. You want to resonate with how they see and capture the world around them — specifically relationships. And if you feel something when you look through their portfolio at a bunch of strangers’ wedding photos, you are guaranteed to love your own photos all the more!

2 – Ask to view an entire wedding worth of photos – the proofs. Any photographer can show you a slideshow of their best 50 photos they’ve ever shot and you will be impressed. But that won’t give you a good sense for what your wedding photos will look like. You want to make sure they have good quality photos throughout the course of one entire wedding.

3 – Make sure you like them as a person. Whoever you pick to be your photographer is going to be around you and your family for many hours on the best day of your life. So you want to feel comfortable with them and most of all, be able to TRUST them.

If you make your choice for a photographer based on the above three criteria MORE SO than based on price, you GREATLY increase your chances of being thrilled with the result of this once-in-a-lifetime decision.

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melissajillMelissaPHOTOCopyright © 2015 – Melissa Jill. Melissa Jill is a wedding photographer based out of Gilbert, Arizona. She has been shooting weddings for many years and specializes in capturing emotions and moments in an artistic way. Visit her Website at: http://www.MelissaJill.com and her BLOG.

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Friday, July 31, 2015

The Pros And Cons Of Planning A Big Wedding

Izabella Zaydenberg, Guest Author

Every little girl loves planning her wedding: what dress she’ll wear, where she wants to have it, what kind of cake she wants to eat.

No little girl, however, has answers to questions about seating arrangements or how she plans to pay for everything. We might all want the Carrie and Big wedding (before he left her at the library, that is), but no one wants to think about precisely what it takes to pull off the fairy-tale ending. All we envision is a gigantic wedding with every friend, family member and stuffed animal in attendance.

WED-ProsConsBig weddings are the epitome of pomp and circumstance. If you choose to have one, you should know what goes into it. Check out our pros and cons, with plenty of advice from the experts (AKA, people that are paid to deal with kicking and screaming brides on a day-to-day basis).

Pro: “Big” doesn’t always mean “big.”

A big wedding is entirely subjective, but you knew that already.

“I’ve spoken to people who say they want a small wedding of 160 people and others call and say they want a big wedding of 120,” explained Rachel Sackheim, the Director of Sales and Events at Brooklyn Winery. “A big wedding largely depends on where you grew up and how big your family is. In the New York area, a large wedding is generally defined as anything at or over 200 guests. South American weddings can be upwards of 400 to 600 guests while a midwest wedding might be large at 120. Big is based on whatever the couple is used to.”

Pro: Large weddings require as much work as smaller ones.

Andrea Freeman, the MVP of weddings who planned Ian Somerhalder’s nuptials to Nikki Reed, insists that “big weddings aren’t any more work to plan than intimate celebrations.”

The reasoning behind it is simple: if you’re planning a wedding, you’ll already be thinking of the little details. The number of people only changes the quantity, not the actual minuscule moving parts.

Con: You might have to sell a kidney to pay it off.

Sackheim explains that your budget is really the first thing to keep in mind when planning a big shebang.

“The most expensive part of a wedding is the per person price, and as you increase the guest count, you increase the food and beverage, labor, furniture, decorations and anything else that you need.”

The easiest way to decrease the overall cost? Knock some names off your guest list.

Sackheim suggests asking yourself, “Do you really need coworkers from a job you had 3 years ago there, or would you prefer to provide a better overall experience for your closest family and friends?”

Con: You need to budget time.

“I tell my couples to plan on spending 2 minutes with each wedding guest,” Freeman says. “Just remember that you’re not visiting with guests every moment — you also want time to dance, eat, cut your cake. Basically, once your list is north of 200, you’ll want to add time.”

Sackheim agreed: “A lot of couples feel that they need to act as hosts and want to greet and welcome each of their guests. That can be extremely time consuming and stressful and takes away from the couple’s enjoyment of the evening.”

“A large wedding,” she adds, “can make it difficult to seek out and spend time with the most important people there.”

If a large wedding can be an excuse to ditch your in-laws and your scary Aunt Lucy, maybe that’s not so bad after all.

Pro: You get to have a giant party.

No surprise here: The more people you invite, the crazier a bash you can expect.

“A large room full of people who all showed up to see you is an incredibly amazing experience,” Sackheim explained, “I personally had a wedding of 208 guests, and looking out over that room was a wonderful, beautiful feeling.”

Pro: Nobody is left behind.

When you have a large wedding, you don’t have to worry about leaving anyone out or having to turn anyone down.

Sackheim warned that creating a guest list is one of the most difficult parts of wedding planning — there are the bride and groom’s list, the bride’s family’s list and the groom’s family’s list.

“Putting a limit on any one of those groups can often lead to tension, so opting for a larger wedding can ease some stress,” she added.

Con: It’s not as intimate.

When Aparna Suresh married her husband, Dhruvan, she had a party that consisted almost 800 guests. A large part of her decision to opt for such a large wedding was because it was culturally appropriate. She explained her parents insisted on it.

The downside of having that many people at your wedding? Not knowing who the f*ck showed up or not.

“The entire experience loses its intimacy,” Suresh explained, “There are so many people you barely know who are either from your husband’s side and not related to you or are your parents’ friends from 20 years ago.”

Good luck remembering your great aunt’s boyfriend’s name, too. By the end of the day, Suresh warned, “You won’t remember anyone’s name when you have so much other sh*t happening.”

Con: Seating is going to be a b*tch.

Everyone has family and friend drama — and if you’re going to invite everyone you have to take all that interpersonal sh*t into account.

“First rule of thumb is to have assigned tables,” Sackheim recommends, “and it’s even better to have assigned place settings. It eliminates any awkwardness that guests might have if they’re trying to figure out where to sit on their own.”

Suresh agreed: “Seating was one of the biggest challenges. Choosing large tables of people that will get along with one another — that’s hard to find!”

Pro: You can hire someone to take care of all the stuff you don’t feel like dealing with.

If you’d rather bury yourself in a ditch than try and figure out flowers and seating arrangements, hire a wedding planner. You don’t have to opt for an expensive year-round one, either.

“If you know that the wedding is going to be big,” Sackheim suggests, “It’s a great idea to have a month-of or day-of planner, in addition to the venue-provided staff to make sure that everything goes off without a hitch.”

Still unsure if you really need to splurge on the extra assistance?

“Having a planner means having someone to make sure every vendor is in place with all of their needs, someone to keep the timeline moving and someone to wrangle everyone into place, from getting guests seated for the ceremony to finding Grandma for photos.”

Pro: You get all the swag.

This is perhaps the biggest pro of all: A large wedding means more guests, and more guests mean more presents.

Suresh enthused that one of the best things about her massive wedding was that due to the sheer number of attendees, she received “a load of money and presents,” which can be used to help pay off the cost of the wedding.

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Monday, July 27, 2015

After the Wedding… Now What?

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Thursday, July 23, 2015

Non-Cheesy Wedding Readings for Long-Term Couples

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Isabel Hicks, Guest Author

Readings are one of the easiest ways to personalize your wedding ceremony and what type you choose will depend on your venue – religious readings and hymns, for example, are often not permitted in a civil ceremony location (e.g., court house weddings).

Having readings at your ceremony is also a great way of including a special friend or relative in the day, especially if you haven’t been able to choose them as a member of the main bridal party.

WED-ReadingsIt’s important that you both choose something that reflects your relationship and the way you feel about marriage. If you and your husband-to-be (h2b) have been together for a long time, then you might find that some of the more popular wedding readings focus too much on young or new love to suit you. We’ve gathered some of our favorite non-cheesy wedding readings that are suitable for long-term couples – hopefully you’ll find the perfect match!

From Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, by Louis De Bernieres

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”

This is an oldie and a goodie – it truly speaks to what long-term love should be about, which makes it perfect for couples who have already been together for a while. As this character is speaking to his daughter, this reading would be particularly beautiful if it was read by the father of the bride on the day.

Why Marriage, by Dena Acolatse

“Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…

Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,
Who won’t hold them against me,
Who loves me when I’m unlikable,
Who sees the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me…

Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold…

Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love, in friendship…

Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements…

Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole…

Because, knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness
I create me,
I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage…

Because with this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.”

We think this reading answers the question of ‘why bother getting married?’, which many long-term couple who have already built a life together may be asked. We particularly love the line, “Because marriage means opportunity/To grow in love, in friendship”. Just be aware that if you’re having a non-religious ceremony, you may not be allowed a reading like this due to the Christian aspects of it – it’s best to check with your officiant.

I will be here, by Steven Curtis Chapman

WeddingReadingScroll“If in the morning when you wake,
If the sun does not appear,
I will be here.
If in the dark we lose sight of love,
Hold my hand and have no fear,
I will be here.
I will be here,
When you feel like being quiet,
When you need to speak your mind I will listen.
Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together,
And I will be here.
If in the morning when you wake,
If the future is unclear,
I will be here.
As sure as seasons were made for change,
Our lifetimes were made for years,
I will be here.
I will be here,
And you can cry on my shoulder,
When the mirror tells us we’re older.
I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty,
And tell you all the things you are to me.
We’ll be together and I will be here.
I will be true to the promises I’ve made,
To you and to the one who gave you to me.
I will be here.”

If you and your h2b (husband to be) hate cheesy poetry, then this simple, beautiful piece might be for you! It’s about sticking together through thick and thin, which makes it a great choice if you’ve been through some ups and downs together, and the line “I will be true to the promises I’ve made, To you and to the one who gave you to me,” makes it definite wedding material.

A Chinese Wedding Poem

“I want to be your friend
For ever and ever without break or decay.
When the hills are all flat
And the rivers are all dry,
When it lightens and thunders in winter,
When it rains and snows in summer,
When Heaven and Earth mingle
Not ’til then will I part from you.”

This translation of a traditional Chinese reading is short but sweet – if you’re not a fan of schmaltz, then this might be perfect. We love that it talks about unending friendship, as that’s one of the most important parts of a successful marriage.

Blessing For A Marriage, by James Dillet Freeman

Corinthians“May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding. May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.

May you look for things to praise, often say, ‘I love you!’ and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence — no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.”

This is another classic wedding reading, and one of our favourites. Many wedding readings talk about being the same soul or person, but this one is more about complementing each other’s unique personalities. It’s just the right amount of formal to suit the solemnity of the occasion, but also has some real, useful advice that will stand the pair of you in good stead.

Sonnet 116, by William Shakespeare

“Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests, and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.”

Of course no collection of love poems would be complete without The Bard of Avon. One of his most famous sonnets, this piece is about love being unwavering even in the face of adversity, and being unaffected by time. We think this reading would be perfect for a formal ceremony, especially if you’ve chosen to leave religion out of it.

He’s not perfect, by Bob Marley

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”

We’re finishing with these real words of wisdom from Bob Marley. This is a brilliant reading for more informal ceremonies, and would make a great choice if you or your h2b are Marley fans. By now you and your partner have been together long enough to know you’re not perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go on to have a truly wonderful marriage.

Larry’s NOTE: Want scripture in your ceremony. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (New International Version (NIV)) is a good one.

“Verse 4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

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