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Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Prepare a “Must Have” Wedding Day Emergency Kit

A bride without her trusty emergency kit (some call it a survival kit) is a meltdown waiting to happen!

WEDEmergencyKitIt’s always better to be safe than sorry. There’s no time for panic on your wedding day. The last thing you need on your wedding day is to be unprepared if something goes wrong. Have your bridesmaids or maid/matron of honor, or do-it-yourself and put together a list of just-in-case items that will ensure your dream wedding goes off without a hitch. They have been known to save the day on more than one occasion.

These things might include makeup, bottled water, a phone, band-aids, Altoids, etc. Pack up your kit in a tote bag, satchel or gym bag and keep it easily accessible in the bride’s dressing room and close by during the reception. The better prepared you are, the smoother your wedding day will go.

Before the wedding day, put together a little kit of must-haves in case something should go wrong. Ideally, you should have extra make-up, safety pins, pantyhose (both black and nude), nail polish for snags, hairspray, a comb, and anything else you deem appropriate to combat wedding stress. If a situation does arise, you’ll be thankful you had these things with you.

Reminder for the Groom: To make sure he looks dashing for the wedding, remind him to bring along shaving cream, skin cleanser, cologne and other necessities. Show up. Bring the wedding ring. A few other reminders for the groom.

By the way, if you don’t have any wedding day mishaps, beauty blunders, fashion faux pas, or personal care predicaments, pass it along to the next bride from your bridal party.

Take a look at a list I put together: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com/bridesemergency.html. In sharing this article with a bride whose wedding I was about to perform, she suggested, “smelling salts” in case she (or, more likely, the groom) keeled over during a pivotal moment, requiring immediate resuscitation. ;-)

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Saturday, May 16, 2015

Selling Your Wedding Gown… Online!

If you’re not the sentimental type, there are several online outlets that will gladly take your once-worn, pre-loved wedding gown off your hands. Selling a wedding dress after the wedding is a growing trend. If you will be selling your wedding dress, here are a few ideas.

In addition to eBay and Craigslist, consider sites that specialize in preowned wedding gowns – Tradesy, Nearly Newlywed (They make it super fuss-free to sell your wedding dress), Sell My Wedding Dress, Encore Bridal, Once Wed, Pre-Owed Wedding Dresses, RecycledBride.com and Still White.

SELLWeddingGownOnlineIn a recent listing, a bride asked $495 for a once-worn $6,000 Vera Wang gown. Policies covering listings and commissions vary – check the sites, and watch for promotions.

The best time to list a wedding dress is February or March… the slowest time for sales is Thanksgiving to New Year’s. List dresses while they are still in style – ones more than three years old are hard to sell, although vintage dresses can be popular.

In the listing, include designer, size, original price, details of style and information on extras, such as beads and pearls. If the gown has been worn, it is not “New without tags,” it is “used.” The description is crucial.

Take lots of photos showing the whole dress and all of its detailing. Make sure your gown is photographed from all angles, including the train, the back, the bodice, the side, and with the train up if the gown is already bustled.

Let your bridesmaids know that if they want to sell there dresses, you are okay with that.

Best Sellers: Plus size, short, lace, white and ivory gowns. If it applies, make sure to use these keywords in the headline and body of the listing.

Or… you could go out in style and “Trash the Dress!” What a terrific photo-opt!

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Married? Now You Can Begin Dating Again!

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One of the secrets of keeping a marriage great is to never, ever stop dating! Do you know what kills love in marriage faster than anything else? Boredom. When we get bored with each other, it’s all too easy to start ignoring each other’s needs, taking each other for granted and to stop being kind. That is never a good way to begin a marriage.

How about making some new memories? You must never stop stirring the romantic pot. Now is not a good time to settle in. You have to keep actually doing things together… FUN things! Just because you’re married now, doesn’t mean your dating life is over. It is, in fact, just beginning! You went through the single dating phase and now it’s time for married dating.

WEDMarried&Dating“I encourage you to date your spouse, pursue them whole-heartedly, and understand that dating shouldn’t end just because you said, ‘I do.'” ~ Jarrid Wilson

Karl Pillerner, PhD., a Cornell University gerontologist, and author of “30 Lessons for Loving: Advice From the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships and Marriage,” learned this secret from a 70 year-old woman, Leigh. Leigh and her husband had each been married before and agreed to treat their marriage together as a lifetime date.

What a great idea! Latch on to this idea because it is an important tool to keep love alive, exciting and interesting.

Here’s why it works: When you go on dates, you do your best to be interesting, upbeat, attractive and attentive. You try to make the person you are with feel special.

When people have been married a long time, they often begin to take each other for granted. Always remember, what you take for granted… disappears. When this happens, we don’t feel the need to make an effort, because, after all, we know they love us, so why do we need to?

What? Down deep in your heart, you know the answer to that question. You do need to. When you make an effort, you fuel the spark that makes a marriage thrive.

Another aspect of dating is that it’s exciting because it offers an element of the unknown. Married couples who try new things… take spontaneous trips… and give surprise gifts increase their odds of remaining happily married.

Treating marriage like a date doesn’t mean that there won’t be trying times. The trick is to view the difficult days of a marriage like the time between dates – not as a problem with the relationship but as an unavoidable intermission from it. Then we look forward to when we can resume the date of our lifetime.

Larry’s NOTE: A special “thank you” to Karen Larson for bringing this to my attention.

Copyright © 2015 – Karen Larson and Larry James. Karen is the Editor of Bottom Line Personal.

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Friday, May 8, 2015

Assistance for Out-of-Town Wedding Guests

Anna Post, Guest Author

Many couples invite wedding guests from near and far to join them on their special day. Providing an experience that makes out-of-town guests feel at home and welcome will create a lasting memory for everyone. Give guests ample time to plan, suggest places to stay and eat, and if time and money permits, throw in a few weekend extras.

businessman lost in field using a mapAdvance Notice

Save the date cards are especially important for guests who may be traveling to join you on your special day. Usually mailed four to eight months in advance, they allow out-of-town guests to book plane tickets and hotel rooms with plenty of time.

If you are planning a dinner or get-together for out-of-town guests at a local club or restaurant, include this information for these guests on a separate card within your wedding invitation. It is also ideal to include this information in a tab on your wedding website that lists the schedule of wedding events.

Accommodations

Provide a list of suggested hotels in close proximity to your ceremony and wedding reception site. You can add this information on your wedding website as soon as you know it so guests can book early. Offer a few selections at different price points, or you may be able to hold a block of rooms at one or two hotels at a special price. Couples often ask a few close friends or family members if they would be willing to host an out-of-town guest or bridal party member at their house for the weekend.

At the selected hotels, consider leaving a welcome letter for your arriving guests. Include a personal note thanking them for joining you and showing your excitement. This is also a good place to include a timetable of events, relevant addresses for venues, links to online map sites, telephone numbers and any information about transportation services if they will be provided.

While by no means a must, a goodie bag is a popular way to welcome out-of-town guests. These are often DIY projects and can incorporate whatever your time and budget allow. Some suggestions include bottled water, restaurant suggestions, mints, small candies or chocolates, granola bars, tissues, sunscreen wipes, maps, and brochures of local activities.

Weekend Extras

When wedding guests will be staying several nights, couples often organize or suggest ways for out-of-town and even local guests to spend their free time. These plans can include things such as golf outings, reserved tennis courts or could get as creative as a trolley tour of the city where your wedding is held. It is important to note that it isn’t the responsibility of the couple to pay for these activities; however, it should be clearly communicated that guests are expected to pay if they attend. Choose activities that align with what your guests are interested in, what they can afford and what makes sense with the schedule of other events for the weekend.

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Monday, May 4, 2015

Wish Lanterns for Your Wedding

Make your guests “ooh” and “ahh!”

Here’s how to get that true wedding day glow! The best part is there are tons of beautiful lighting options to choose from for your big day. Picking the right one can really set the tone of your wedding and add a sweet, romantic feel.

WEDWishLanternsWish lanterns are a long-time tradition at Asian festivals for thousands of years, paper lanterns were used to celebrate the Chinese New Year and as a signaling device. Countless were launched to rid the people of their worries and to decorate the city’s sky with light. The flame would symbolize knowledge and wisdom.

Search for the kind of wish lanterns that are biodegradable, wire free and made from the highest quality flame resistant paper. Wish lanterns are traditionally made out of oiled rice paper stretched over a bamboo frame, containing a small candle or flameproof fuel cells. When you light the candle, the air heats up, and the lantern rises into the air. The lanterns will make a fantastic evening even more magical.

Most are stylish and elegantly designed, and are suitable for many events, including weddings and can be decorated or drawn on. Light your lantern, make a wish for the bride and groom and watch it float up into the evening sky. These lanterns are a perfect send off for the bride and groom. Paper lanterns for weddings symbolize a couple’s love for one another, bringing light and even more joy to the special day. It a wedding lantern display that will stun your guests and is sure to stay in the minds of everyone for years to come.

Once they come down, in time they are absorbed into the ground, since they are completely biodegradable. For material to be defined as truly biodegradable, half of it must break down within 180 days.

“If you decide to invite your guests to launch their own wishes, make sure you provide colorful markers so they can write down their well wishes for your future. Guests could send off their lanterns as you emerge from the chapel or outdoor alter, anytime during the reception or just as you are departing to start your new life together. It will be much easier to gather your sober guests at the beginning of the event, and having someone pre-fill the lanterns will save precious time.” ~ Nicole Kidder

While the flame is lit, wish lanterns can fly into the air for up to 15 minutes, traveling several miles in distance and up to 1,000 feet in altitude before the flame goes out and the lantern floats safely back to the ground. To maximize the visibility and enjoyment of a sky lantern release, and because they can travel such long distances, wish lanterns should always be released outdoors in a clear and wide open space without any overhead obstructions like trees, power lines or buildings.

To determine the best place and time to launch the lanterns at your wedding, it may be best to talk with your wedding consultant/planner.

LanternsImagine the finale to the big day, when the happy couple, and all their guests, release dozens of lanterns, bearing messages of love and luck, into the sky. This is usually done immediately after the bride and groom are pronounced husband and wife and after they have their final walk down the aisle from the alter.

Wedding Sky Lantern Ceremony: Before sending up your sky lanterns, have the Minister/Wedding Officiant or Master of Ceremonies share a little about the symbolism of the wish lanterns and the following heart felt poem by Author D. Simone with your wedding guests.

May light always surround you, hope kindle and rebound you.
May your hurts turn to healing, your heart embrace feeling.
May wounds become wisdom, every kindness a prism.
May laughter infect you, your passion resurrect you.
May goodness inspire your deepest desires.
Through all that you reach for, may your arms never tire.
You may now release your wish lanterns.

Another way to achieve the wow-factor during a Rocky Point, Mexico beach wedding is to incorporate Chinese sky lanterns into the ceremony or reception.

Please check with your wedding venue and local marshal to see if it is legal to use in your state before you purchase. If you do decide to integrate a sky lantern release into your wedding, make sure you adhere to all safety warnings and proceed with extreme caution. Available at Walmart and other places. Google: “Wish Lanterns for Your Wedding.”

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Thursday, April 30, 2015

“Oh!” but you say, “I Was Only Offering Constructive Criticism.”

Hogwash!

I hate to pop your bubble but there is no such thing as “constructive” criticism. In a healthy love relationship there is absolutely no room for what some people call constructive criticism.

The word constructive means to build up. The intent of criticism usually tears down. While it is usually well intended, it leaves the person in a mixed-up frame of mind.

NEWCIWedLOGOConstructive criticism – Those two words do not fit together at all. Criticism by its very nature is only and always destructive, not constructive. The central notion is that criticism should have the aim of constructing, or improving a situation, something which is often obstructed by hostile language or personal attacks. Constructive feedback, without the criticism can provide a helpful critique. If you must criticize, do it in the most loving way you can, but don’t call it constructive.

Try constructive compliments instead! We might call them expressions of love straight from the heart. Those words will be music to your partner’s ears. Some might call it “ear candy!”

We feel closest to people who cause us to feel good about ourselves, never those who criticize and try to mask it by calling it constructive criticism. Compliments given with sincerity are a genuine gift of love. Offer them often. Be generous with praise for your partner. Catch them doing something right! Next… let them know you noticed.

In my years of relationship coaching I have found that if one partner wants to re-imagine, re-design and re-launch their relationship they can have a profound influence upon the other partner.

ThinkB4UspeakFirst realize that your spouse may not be as frustrated and unhappy as you are and while it works much better when both partners are working on the relationship together you may need to make a commitment to yourself to be working on only changing you. Discover the things you might need to change in yourself before your partner will change. What you can do is take your eyes off your partner and put them on yourself. You have total control to change yourself, and no control to change your partner.

So… how do you give constructive criticism? You don’t!

No relationship can prosper when one partner rarely has anything good to say about or to their partner. Put-downs, disapproval, condemnation, and verbal attacks are forbidden. Silence your inner-critic! Allow words of appreciation and compliments to pass from your lips to your partner every day. The road to prosperity in relationships is paved with a commitment to generosity and appreciation toward your partner.

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Sunday, April 26, 2015

Caution! You Are Entering a Danger Zone!

What would you do?

WEDDangerZoneYou chose your wedding date, booked the venue and hired a friend of the family to perform your wedding ceremony. The rehearsal was scheduled the day before the wedding. When the friend of the family shows up for the rehearsal, he knew nothing about conducting a rehearsal (and was guided by the owner of the venue) and upon leaving the rehearsal, told the bride and groom that he could not do their wedding. WHAT? This is the day before the wedding and now they do not have anyone to perform their ceremony.

Scramble time!

The owner of the venue called me at 10:30 p.m. the night before the wedding and asked if I could perform the ceremony. Fortunately for the bride and groom I was available. (Another good reason to have the rehearsal 2 days before the wedding – not the night before the wedding). This allows a day of rest and an opportunity to do last minute details – and in the case above, more time to look for a professional Wedding Officiant. Read “Guaranteed! No Hangovers on Your Wedding Day!” See link in BONUS Articles below.

The truth is, most Ministers and professional Wedding Officiants do not attend the rehearsal. I always do (subject to my availability, of course). It’s included at no additional cost as part of the fee. Some Wedding Officiants charge an extra $50 to $100 to be at the rehearsal. I want the bride and groom to feel comfortable with what they will be saying during the ceremony and for me to be aware of any last minute changes. But that’s not the main point.

When you hire “anyone” to perform your wedding ceremony, whether it’s a “friend of the family” who does it for free, or a professional Wedding Officiant, by contact they promise to be there and fulfill all their duties – not to back out at the last minute and leave the bride and groom hanging! You do need a signed agreement (contract) which gives you legal recourse.

This is not the first time someone hired an amateur. Several years ago I received a call from a bride who had just discovered that although they had a wedding ceremony performed by an uncle from Canada 1 year and a few months earlier, the Court House in Phoenix had no record of their license ever being filed. No official filing by the one-time wedding officiant = no legal marriage. In Arizona, once you purchase the license, you have exactly one year to use it and the Wedding Officiant has 10 days to file the license at the court house. I always file the license the first business day after the wedding.

The uncle went online and got an ordination to do one wedding. The bride was in panic mode!

I solved the problem by having them purchase another marriage license (Currently $72) plus a certified copy of the license (Currently $27.50) and performed a brief legal ceremony (with 2 witnesses) and immediately filed the license with the Maricopa County Court House. Although this is rare, the problem occurs when an inexperienced one-time wedding officiant is unaware of the legalities and all other aspect of the wedding business.

Solution: Always hire an experienced, full-time professional Wedding Officiant! AND check their references!!

BadChoiceBy the way, just to clear things up… getting an online ordination is perfectly legal in the state of Arizona. The hard part is finding a “qualified” wedding officiant with an online ordination who has the “experience” in performing ceremonies that will keep you from experiencing all the things that go wrong with an amateur.

This year alone (in the first 4 months of 2015), I have had no less that 4 calls from brides in a panic because their “friend of the family” backed out at the last minute and in one instance, the Minister of their church had something more important to do than perform their wedding ceremony as agreed. How sad.

Last year, (2014) at least 7 calls from brides whose “friend of the family” backed out at the last minute. This only happens when you hire someone who is inexperienced in the wedding business.

Some of the questions you should always ask an amateur is, are they legally qualified to perform weddings in your state? Three other questions should be, “Do you have a ceremony prepared?” and “Do you know what legally must be in a ceremony in your state?” and “Do you know your legal responsibilities after the wedding is over?” It is their responsibility to check the individual state laws regarding this issue. Most amateurs who get ordained online to perform one wedding ceremony will not be able to answer these questions to your satisfaction.

I repeat: Always hire an experienced, full-time professional Wedding Officiant! AND check their references!

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. Reprinted with permission. – This article is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is an award winning Wedding Officiant, professional speaker, relationship coach and is the author of, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com & http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com.

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Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: Cell: 480-205-3694. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Wednesday, April 22, 2015

How to Tell Guests Where Are You Registered

You should never include wedding registry info with your invitations! Never!

It is considered inappropriate to include in your invitations where you are registered. No guest should ever receive an announcement about your wedding registry: not with your invitations, via e-mail, or from a store. If the store offers to send a note, decline the offer. Instead, pass the word through family and friends. It’s okay to tell someone if they ask you or to let those who may host a bridal shower for you so they can tell those who attend.

WEDregistry2Guests often feel at a loss when choosing wedding gifts, and would prefer to purchase something you picked out yourself. Request a gift card to a nice restaurant for the bride and groom.

Some couples who do not wish to receive gifts, which is often the case with a second-time bride or groom, will provide the name of a charity organization to which wedding guests can contribute in lieu of buying a wedding gift for the couple.

Anna Post ~ great-great-granddaughter of etiquette guru Emily Post and author of Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette. Here is what she had to say about wedding registries:

“There’s a funny catch about wedding gift etiquette: If you’re invited to a wedding, you’re expected to give a gift, regardless of whether or not you attend. But in order to keep the focus on your guests rather than the gifts, registry information should never be included with the wedding invitation. That goes for any enclosures, too. Some stores give out little “We are registered at this store” cards for you to oh-so-conveniently include with your invitations — but don’t. Any mention of the registry on or with the invitation is like saying, “We hope you can come to the wedding. Now, about that gift we all know you’ll be sending…”

Good etiquette is also usually quite practical. I’m not a fan of fussy rules for their own sake, but this is one case where I think the extra effort is worth it. Without a wedding website, word of mouth is your best and only option that isn’t on the tacky side. Tell your close friends, family and your wedding party where you’re registered. This isn’t grasping for gifts — it’s how registry information has always been shared. Say, “If any other guests ask you [which they very well might], we’re registered at _____.”

It’s also entirely likely, and perfectly okay, that guests will ask you directly where you’re registered. Let them know, “We’re registered at XYZ store, but anything you choose would be wonderful. Thank you!” As a bride planning her wedding right now, I’ve gotten that question quite a bit lately, which means my fiancé and I better hurry up and figure out our registry soon!

It is, however, okay to include registry information with bridal shower invitations. The point of the shower is that you are getting gifts; thus it’s okay, and convenience wins. The host can include the registry information with the shower invitation. This is the right place to put those little store-provided registry cards to use, or to include a slip of paper with the information.

Some shower hosts don’t include registry information at all, and instead, only share it with those guests who RSVP “yes”. Though it’s not required, some shower guests who can’t attend might like to send a gift anyway, so I think it’s nice to include the information with the [shower] invite.

If you do choose to have a wedding website, adding the site to the enclosures sent with the invitation can be a nice bridge. Simply include the web address along with any maps or directions. When guests check the site, the registry information will be there. It’s a step removed, but I think it’s a step worth taking.” ~ Anna Post

Conclusion: Good ol’ word of mouth is best!

BONUS Article: For Guests Only – Wedding Gift Suggestions for the Bride and Groom

Copyright © 2015 – Anna Post. Emily Post Weddings – from old traditions to new trends, The Emily Post Institute has over 90 years of offering trusted inspiration, advice, and etiquette for couples, families, and guests. Visit: http://www.EmilyPost.com/wedding

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Saturday, April 18, 2015

Saying “I Do” and Enjoying it Too

For many brides, the quest to plan the perfect day can quickly turn into a nightmare trip down the aisle. Here are a few tips to keep your wedding day bliss from turning into the honeymoon blues.

Marriage Planning 101: Once the ring goes on, the race to plan the perfect wedding begins, giving couples little time to think about the marriage itself or how their wedding spending decisions could affect their future. But smart couples are now setting aside time to address pre-wedding issues such as what they will do when it comes to financial planning, spending money, raising children and family politics.

WEDIDOWith nearly half of all newlyweds taking on debt to finance their “big day,” couples should take every opportunity to make their wedding-related and everyday spending count toward their future.

In addition to helping couples save for their future, uTANGO.com offers free advice from wedding, financial and relationship experts. By taking a proactive approach, couples can leverage their wedding spending to ease financial worries and start building toward their future.

Destination USA: While destination weddings, especially to international locales, continue to be one of the hottest wedding trends in recent years, they can also present challenges such as increased costs, security concerns, language barriers and unreliable vendors.

A less expensive alternative is to pick a centrally located U.S. city like Chicago, known for fantastic wedding and party venues, choice accommodations and activities to suit any taste and budget. It may not be as exotic as Tahiti, but couples often find that more family and friends can attend and planning challenges are drastically reduced when the nuptials stay stateside.

Larry’s NOTE: Scottsdale, AZ is another incredible wedding destination. Lots of beautiful wedding venues, hotels, and loads of things to do for your guests. We have two wedding seasons in Scottsdale; March, April and May and October, November and December. The rest of the year, if you are coming our way, plan to have your wedding indoors to escape the desert heat.

Managing wedding expectations: For many brides, planning the perfect wedding is a major life event decades in the making. With this in mind, it’s easy to see how wedding expectations can get out of hand in a hurry.

With wedding euphoria taking over, busy brides and grooms can quickly lose sight of spending, causing the perfect wedding to turn into fights over money. By managing expectations of what a “dream” wedding should be, it is still possible to have a lovely and elegant wedding without breaking the bank.

Bridezilla-free zone: The term “Bridezilla” has been used to describe a difficult, unpleasant, perfectionist bride whose obsession with planning the perfect wedding day leaves frustrated family, friends, bridal vendors and even her groom distraught in her wake.

WEDenjoyITBelligerent Bridezillas beware: Horror stories of fist fights, hair pulling, kicking and screaming from out of control brides-to-be have put wedding planners, vendors and bridesmaids on the offensive. Some wedding vendors now go as far as to include language in their contracts reserving the right to cancel if the bride’s behavior is determined to be “out of control or abusive.” So, whether you hit the gym or hit the spa, have a plan in place to handle wedding-related stress and keep Bridezilla at bay.

Just say “no”: Brides place such demands on their bridesmaids these days that it is not uncommon for them to decline, even when it’s one of their best friends. Not only is the financial responsibility of being a bridesmaid staggering, but the time commitment demanded by some brides is also daunting.

The massive to-do lists handed out by brides, coupled with the obligatory appearances for shopping, parties and showers, can leave bridesmaids feeling under appreciated, overworked and broke after the wedding is over.

Brides should be upfront about both time and financial expectations with their friends when asking them to join their wedding party and understand if the answer is no.

BONUS Articles: 10 Ways to Enjoy Your Wedding Day More
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Goody Bags for “Out-of-Town” Wedding Guests

Copyright © 2015 – Martie Duncan. Martie Duncan is a nationally renowned wedding expert who has worked in the bridal industry for more than 20 years. Duncan has consulted on episodes of “The Oprah Winfrey Show” and the film “My Best Friend’s Wedding” and is currently editor in chief of the uTANGO.com LifeMatters e-magazine (www.utango.com/LifeMatters).

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Monday, April 6, 2015

Remember to Buy Each Other a Wedding Gift

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The day has finally come for the bride and groom to walk down the aisle and begin their new life together as man and wife.

If you’re reading this article, you’re probably one of the approximately 825,000 couples who’ve just gotten engaged since Thanksgiving and are now planning your wedding. So here’s perhaps the single most important reminder – and grooms do seem to need more reminding than brides – anyone will offer: Tradition holds that you both exchange wedding presents.

WEDExchangeGIFTSExchanging wedding gifts from groom to bride is a romantic tradition many couples observe with sentimental and meaningful items that they can treasure for many happy anniversaries.

(Yes, grooms, even though you just bought her an engagement ring.)

But what to get?

The ring remains the official gift between husband and wife, but many couples enjoy exchanging something more intimate as well. It’s not necessary, especially if you’re paying for your wedding and you’re already over budget.

“Gifts should come from the heart,” says WeddingChannel.com. Gift-giving should be optional and a personal choice.

It is an optional tradition for the bride and groom to exchange gifts – the night before the wedding, the morning of, or once the festivities are over. You could give each other something to wear for the wedding itself (cuff links, a necklace) or maybe something for the honeymoon (a great pair of sunglasses, snorkeling gear). Gifts for the newlyweds can be engraved with their names and wedding day to commemorate their special day. It doesn’t have to be anything major – a silver money clip. some boudoir photos for him, a photo frame or a treasured book of poetry make great gifts. Honor this tradition in whatever way you two desire!

Here are a few tips to keep in mind whether you two opt for some type of jewelry – the traditional and most popular choice – or something else.

• Practicality can wait. Etiquette dictates that gifts be exchanged at one of three times: the night before the wedding, the morning of the ceremony, or right before you leave on your honeymoon. So you could see where this has the potential for becoming a bigger disaster than Chernobyl if the groom’s idea of “practical” is, say, a toaster.

• Being uniquely personal is appreciated. One of the best examples we’ve heard of is a guy who had a photographer secretly capture the moment he proposed in New York’s Central Park, and then presented the results to his bride on the day of their wedding.

“So cute!” read a typical blog post.

The best gift will be one that matches the lifestyle and personality of the bride and groom, reflecting their interests and passions. This shows enduring thoughtfulness and consideration for each other that will help strengthen the couple’s relationship for as long as they are married.

The downside, of course, is that pulling it off requires imagination, creativity and – in this instance – a lot of advance planning.

BONUS Articles: Christians and Boudoir Photography
Wedding and Honeymoon Gift Baskets for the Bride and Groom

Copyright © 2015 – Larry James. Reprinted with permission. – This article is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is an award winning Wedding Officiant, professional speaker, relationship coach and is the author of, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Contact: CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com & http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com.

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