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Friday, July 31, 2015

The Pros And Cons Of Planning A Big Wedding

Izabella Zaydenberg, Guest Author

Every little girl loves planning her wedding: what dress she’ll wear, where she wants to have it, what kind of cake she wants to eat.

No little girl, however, has answers to questions about seating arrangements or how she plans to pay for everything. We might all want the Carrie and Big wedding (before he left her at the library, that is), but no one wants to think about precisely what it takes to pull off the fairy-tale ending. All we envision is a gigantic wedding with every friend, family member and stuffed animal in attendance.

WED-ProsConsBig weddings are the epitome of pomp and circumstance. If you choose to have one, you should know what goes into it. Check out our pros and cons, with plenty of advice from the experts (AKA, people that are paid to deal with kicking and screaming brides on a day-to-day basis).

Pro: “Big” doesn’t always mean “big.”

A big wedding is entirely subjective, but you knew that already.

“I’ve spoken to people who say they want a small wedding of 160 people and others call and say they want a big wedding of 120,” explained Rachel Sackheim, the Director of Sales and Events at Brooklyn Winery. “A big wedding largely depends on where you grew up and how big your family is. In the New York area, a large wedding is generally defined as anything at or over 200 guests. South American weddings can be upwards of 400 to 600 guests while a midwest wedding might be large at 120. Big is based on whatever the couple is used to.”

Pro: Large weddings require as much work as smaller ones.

Andrea Freeman, the MVP of weddings who planned Ian Somerhalder’s nuptials to Nikki Reed, insists that “big weddings aren’t any more work to plan than intimate celebrations.”

The reasoning behind it is simple: if you’re planning a wedding, you’ll already be thinking of the little details. The number of people only changes the quantity, not the actual minuscule moving parts.

Con: You might have to sell a kidney to pay it off.

Sackheim explains that your budget is really the first thing to keep in mind when planning a big shebang.

“The most expensive part of a wedding is the per person price, and as you increase the guest count, you increase the food and beverage, labor, furniture, decorations and anything else that you need.”

The easiest way to decrease the overall cost? Knock some names off your guest list.

Sackheim suggests asking yourself, “Do you really need coworkers from a job you had 3 years ago there, or would you prefer to provide a better overall experience for your closest family and friends?”

Con: You need to budget time.

“I tell my couples to plan on spending 2 minutes with each wedding guest,” Freeman says. “Just remember that you’re not visiting with guests every moment — you also want time to dance, eat, cut your cake. Basically, once your list is north of 200, you’ll want to add time.”

Sackheim agreed: “A lot of couples feel that they need to act as hosts and want to greet and welcome each of their guests. That can be extremely time consuming and stressful and takes away from the couple’s enjoyment of the evening.”

“A large wedding,” she adds, “can make it difficult to seek out and spend time with the most important people there.”

If a large wedding can be an excuse to ditch your in-laws and your scary Aunt Lucy, maybe that’s not so bad after all.

Pro: You get to have a giant party.

No surprise here: The more people you invite, the crazier a bash you can expect.

“A large room full of people who all showed up to see you is an incredibly amazing experience,” Sackheim explained, “I personally had a wedding of 208 guests, and looking out over that room was a wonderful, beautiful feeling.”

Pro: Nobody is left behind.

When you have a large wedding, you don’t have to worry about leaving anyone out or having to turn anyone down.

Sackheim warned that creating a guest list is one of the most difficult parts of wedding planning — there are the bride and groom’s list, the bride’s family’s list and the groom’s family’s list.

“Putting a limit on any one of those groups can often lead to tension, so opting for a larger wedding can ease some stress,” she added.

Con: It’s not as intimate.

When Aparna Suresh married her husband, Dhruvan, she had a party that consisted almost 800 guests. A large part of her decision to opt for such a large wedding was because it was culturally appropriate. She explained her parents insisted on it.

The downside of having that many people at your wedding? Not knowing who the f*ck showed up or not.

“The entire experience loses its intimacy,” Suresh explained, “There are so many people you barely know who are either from your husband’s side and not related to you or are your parents’ friends from 20 years ago.”

Good luck remembering your great aunt’s boyfriend’s name, too. By the end of the day, Suresh warned, “You won’t remember anyone’s name when you have so much other sh*t happening.”

Con: Seating is going to be a b*tch.

Everyone has family and friend drama — and if you’re going to invite everyone you have to take all that interpersonal sh*t into account.

“First rule of thumb is to have assigned tables,” Sackheim recommends, “and it’s even better to have assigned place settings. It eliminates any awkwardness that guests might have if they’re trying to figure out where to sit on their own.”

Suresh agreed: “Seating was one of the biggest challenges. Choosing large tables of people that will get along with one another — that’s hard to find!”

Pro: You can hire someone to take care of all the stuff you don’t feel like dealing with.

If you’d rather bury yourself in a ditch than try and figure out flowers and seating arrangements, hire a wedding planner. You don’t have to opt for an expensive year-round one, either.

“If you know that the wedding is going to be big,” Sackheim suggests, “It’s a great idea to have a month-of or day-of planner, in addition to the venue-provided staff to make sure that everything goes off without a hitch.”

Still unsure if you really need to splurge on the extra assistance?

“Having a planner means having someone to make sure every vendor is in place with all of their needs, someone to keep the timeline moving and someone to wrangle everyone into place, from getting guests seated for the ceremony to finding Grandma for photos.”

Pro: You get all the swag.

This is perhaps the biggest pro of all: A large wedding means more guests, and more guests mean more presents.

Suresh enthused that one of the best things about her massive wedding was that due to the sheer number of attendees, she received “a load of money and presents,” which can be used to help pay off the cost of the wedding.

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Monday, July 27, 2015

After the Wedding… Now What?

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Thursday, July 23, 2015

Non-Cheesy Wedding Readings for Long-Term Couples

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Isabel Hicks, Guest Author

Readings are one of the easiest ways to personalize your wedding ceremony and what type you choose will depend on your venue – religious readings and hymns, for example, are often not permitted in a civil ceremony location (e.g., court house weddings).

Having readings at your ceremony is also a great way of including a special friend or relative in the day, especially if you haven’t been able to choose them as a member of the main bridal party.

WED-ReadingsIt’s important that you both choose something that reflects your relationship and the way you feel about marriage. If you and your husband-to-be (h2b) have been together for a long time, then you might find that some of the more popular wedding readings focus too much on young or new love to suit you. We’ve gathered some of our favorite non-cheesy wedding readings that are suitable for long-term couples – hopefully you’ll find the perfect match!

From Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, by Louis De Bernieres

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”

This is an oldie and a goodie – it truly speaks to what long-term love should be about, which makes it perfect for couples who have already been together for a while. As this character is speaking to his daughter, this reading would be particularly beautiful if it was read by the father of the bride on the day.

Why Marriage, by Dena Acolatse

“Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…

Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,
Who won’t hold them against me,
Who loves me when I’m unlikable,
Who sees the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me…

Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold…

Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love, in friendship…

Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements…

Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole…

Because, knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness
I create me,
I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage…

Because with this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.”

We think this reading answers the question of ‘why bother getting married?’, which many long-term couple who have already built a life together may be asked. We particularly love the line, “Because marriage means opportunity/To grow in love, in friendship”. Just be aware that if you’re having a non-religious ceremony, you may not be allowed a reading like this due to the Christian aspects of it – it’s best to check with your officiant.

I will be here, by Steven Curtis Chapman

WeddingReadingScroll“If in the morning when you wake,
If the sun does not appear,
I will be here.
If in the dark we lose sight of love,
Hold my hand and have no fear,
I will be here.
I will be here,
When you feel like being quiet,
When you need to speak your mind I will listen.
Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together,
And I will be here.
If in the morning when you wake,
If the future is unclear,
I will be here.
As sure as seasons were made for change,
Our lifetimes were made for years,
I will be here.
I will be here,
And you can cry on my shoulder,
When the mirror tells us we’re older.
I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty,
And tell you all the things you are to me.
We’ll be together and I will be here.
I will be true to the promises I’ve made,
To you and to the one who gave you to me.
I will be here.”

If you and your h2b (husband to be) hate cheesy poetry, then this simple, beautiful piece might be for you! It’s about sticking together through thick and thin, which makes it a great choice if you’ve been through some ups and downs together, and the line “I will be true to the promises I’ve made, To you and to the one who gave you to me,” makes it definite wedding material.

A Chinese Wedding Poem

“I want to be your friend
For ever and ever without break or decay.
When the hills are all flat
And the rivers are all dry,
When it lightens and thunders in winter,
When it rains and snows in summer,
When Heaven and Earth mingle
Not ’til then will I part from you.”

This translation of a traditional Chinese reading is short but sweet – if you’re not a fan of schmaltz, then this might be perfect. We love that it talks about unending friendship, as that’s one of the most important parts of a successful marriage.

Blessing For A Marriage, by James Dillet Freeman

Corinthians“May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding. May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.

May you look for things to praise, often say, ‘I love you!’ and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence — no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.”

This is another classic wedding reading, and one of our favourites. Many wedding readings talk about being the same soul or person, but this one is more about complementing each other’s unique personalities. It’s just the right amount of formal to suit the solemnity of the occasion, but also has some real, useful advice that will stand the pair of you in good stead.

Sonnet 116, by William Shakespeare

“Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests, and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.”

Of course no collection of love poems would be complete without The Bard of Avon. One of his most famous sonnets, this piece is about love being unwavering even in the face of adversity, and being unaffected by time. We think this reading would be perfect for a formal ceremony, especially if you’ve chosen to leave religion out of it.

He’s not perfect, by Bob Marley

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”

We’re finishing with these real words of wisdom from Bob Marley. This is a brilliant reading for more informal ceremonies, and would make a great choice if you or your h2b are Marley fans. By now you and your partner have been together long enough to know you’re not perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go on to have a truly wonderful marriage.

Larry’s NOTE: Want scripture in your ceremony. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (New International Version (NIV)) is a good one.

“Verse 4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

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Wednesday, July 15, 2015

15 Honest Questions The Person You Marry Should Be Able To Answer

Paul Hudson, Guest Author

Marriage really is a beautiful thing. I used to think it was a bit pointless, just a piece of paper that allows you an extra tax cut. However, the more I thought about it, the more I learned to appreciate what marriage could be.

Marriage gets a bad rap because most people are really bad at it. It’s not marriage’s fault. It’s the couples’ fault for being neither mature enough nor smart enough to manage.

QuestionsI used to believe people couldn’t possibly promise to love someone else in 10, 20 years when neither their partners nor they will be the same people they are now. But that’s the point. We know that the future is filled with uncertainty.

Regardless, we still want that promise because it gives us courage to give ourselves to another without reservations.

You may not be able to keep that promise, but you can keep the promise to do your best to be an amazing life partner. That’s all anyone can really ask for. If you’re thinking about tying the knot then be sure that your future life partner to-be can honestly answer these questions to your liking:

1. Why do you love me? ~ People seem to feel this is a question that doesn’t especially need answering. Most will say we love others simply because we love them – a horrible answer. All people need to know exactly why it is that they love the people they love.

Loving someone is a very selfish act, and it’s okay. You love the person you love for what that person does for you and how he or she makes you feel.

We may all have slightly different answers as to why we love someone, but if we aren’t able to exactly define the parameters of our love, then we’re likely to struggle later on once the initial intensity dies down. If your partner can’t answer why he or she loves you now, then imagine the inevitable uncertainty down the road.

2. Why do you want to spend the rest of your life with me? ~ “Because I love you” is not a good answer. Life is a journey – one that is best not traveled entirely alone. However, not everyone has the same destination in mind. Wanting to take different pit stops along the route is one thing. Wanting different things out of life is another entirely.

Your partner should be able to tell you what life experiences he or she hopes to share with you. It’s these little goals you set for yourselves that make your life special.

3. Will you do your best to keep the romance alive? ~ Keeping the romance alive is not an easy task. Yes, it’s all mental, but keeping interest for such a long time is difficult. It takes a lot of work and creativity. It takes the other person regularly trying to please and impress you, which in itself becomes increasingly difficult with each new year.

Romantic love cannot survive on its own; both of you are going to have to maintain it constantly. Is your partner willing to keep the romance as one of his or her main priorities?

4. Will you grow with me, and not away from me? ~ We may not know exactly where our lives will take us and what we will learn — who we will become — along the way, but we can make a conscious effort to grow closer together and not apart.

Most people grow apart over the years because they feel like they’ve accomplished everything in their relationships that needs accomplishing.

This is one main reason marriages end up being so horrible – people think that there is no greater peak to climb than the one their relationship is already resting on. Marriage shouldn’t be the end, it should be the beginning.

5. Will you stick through the rough times? ~ The good times are a piece of cake. The difficult times, however, will destroy your relationship if you allow them to. There comes a point in every relationship when you have to make a decision. It’s a decision that, if made, is only made once. You will reach a point where you will either decide you are going to be there for this person for the rest of his or her life, or not.

If you decide you’re going to stick with this person then you can’t allow any tragedy or outside force to shake that decision. This is one of the most important decisions we make in our lives – or, as it often turns out, fail to make decisively. Has your lover made the decision? Have you?

6. Are you willing to lose some battles in order to keep the peace? ~ The key to a successful marriage is taming your ego. No matter how competitive we are, sometimes you just need to pick your battles. Sometimes the arguments and the stress just aren’t worth it.

What you need to understand is that 99 percent of arguments aren’t arguments over fact, but rather over opinion. An opinion is neither right nor wrong. Sometimes you just have to let things be.

7. Can you promise to put us ahead of everything else? ~ Life has a lot to offer. And if you’re anything like me, you have a very large appetite. We want everything life has to offer, and then some. The problem is we don’t have enough time to have it all; our lives are too short. We can only pick a few things we consider important and do our best to flourish in those areas.

The beauty of marriage is that it can be used as a base to build the rest of your life on. Your partner should be just that: your partner. Your relationship is the most important thing in your life because it’s what makes the rest of your life possible.

LoveUoutLoud8. Will you be a great parent? ~ Again, how could anyone know he or she will be a great parent? Easy. You just decide you’re going to be. That’s it. No tricks. No gimmicks. Just a decision and then action.

Some things don’t need too much thinking involved. You’re going to be great because you decided you will be. Will your lover do the same and be a great role model for your children?

9. Will you be sure to remind me how much you love me regularly? ~ People not only want, but need to hear it. We need to be reminded you love us because we know that love doesn’t always last forever. We want to hear the words and then have that reassurement reinforced with actions showing how much you love us.

It really is enough just to love us, but understand you need to love us the way we need to be loved — just like we need to love you the way you need to be loved in order for you to be happy.

10. Can you promise to do all you can to keep that spark alive? ~ Sparks don’t spark on their own. Think about how a lighter works. You have a spark that lights the fuel, which creates a flame. But how does that spark, spark? You have to create a force that will result in the energy creating a spark.

Just the same, you can’t expect sparks to keep flying if you’re not trying. If you want to have a happy and healthy marriage, then you need to find someone willing to devote the necessary energy.

11. Will you support me if I can’t support myself? ~ Not just financially, but mentally. Maybe even physically if necessary. No one knows what life holds. The unexpected happens, often leaving us weak, hurt or even permanently damaged. Will your partner carry you when you can’t walk?

Will your partner support you when you’re weak at the knees? Will your partner carry the family you’ve created until you regain your strength? Is your partner capable of mustering the strength to fight battles for the both of you?

12. Will you promise to continue to pursue your personal goals and dreams? ~ Marriage is not entirely the end of the person you were and the start of a new you. Sure, being in a serious relationship does require a person to change in many ways.

Yet, there’s a part of us we can never, under any circumstance, let go of. The dreams, wants and hopes we have — our personal goals – must stay alive.

When we lose them, we lose ourselves and inevitably lose the person we love. Marriage isn’t just an “us.” It’s also a you and him/her. You have to juggle being the person you have always been with being a part of a larger whole. It’s not easy. But it is necessary.

13. Will you not allow yourself to let go? ~ Will your partner take care of him or herself by eating healthy and exercising? Will your partner get regular checkups and take vitamins? This may sound silly, but I’ve seen what letting yourself go can do to a marriage.

Moreover, I’ve seen how not maintaining your health can make the lives of those closest to you incredibly difficult.

Yes, your family should take care of you when you need to be taken care of – but it’s your responsibility first and foremost to take care of yourself. No people should become a burden to those they love.

14. If I’m the first to go, will you be there with me until the end? ~ Will your partner hold your hand when you’re too weak to hold it back? Will your partner kiss your forehead and tell you he or she loves you, that you made life worth living? That, because of you, life made sense? Will your partner be there for your last breath, when you find yourself pressed betwixt fear and content?

No one should leave this world alone. It’s said that we leave it the way we come into it, but even when we come into it, there’s someone there to hold us. I understand most people don’t like to think about death, but seeing as it’s an inevitability, it’s better to plan ahead.

15. Can you promise me that if my time is cut short, you’ll continue to live on for the both of us? ~ You love this person. You want him or her to be happy regardless of whether he or she is with you or without you. If death collects you ahead of schedule, you’ll want to know during those last few seconds that the person you love will continue to live life to the fullest.

That your partner will continue to do great things, continue to be happy, and – if you have children – continue to love your children and guide them through life.

The death of a loved one can ruin you. It can break you in ways that make full-recovery impossible. Can your partner promise you to find the strength and courage to press forward?

I don’t know about you, but the last thing I’d want for the woman I love is for my departure to be her downfall. If my being in her life or leaving her life will in anyway destroy hers, then I clearly made a mistake by allowing myself into her life.

Copyright © 2015 – Paul Hudson. A young writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur, Paul Hudson (@MrPaulHudson) has been writing for Elite Daily nearly since the start. He primarily addresses the successes and downfalls of love and life. Visit Paul’s Website!

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Saturday, July 11, 2015

48 Things Every Man Should Know

Larry’s NOTE: I got it, gals. Although this article has nothing to do with weddings, (Hint for the brides), perhaps this might be just the thing to get him to this wedding blog… where he can discover several other things that the groom could do to actually be a part of the planning process. “How to Hold a Baby” could be one, but I’m getting ahead of myself. Give him a kiss on the cheek and – whispering in his ear – ask him to read the “BONUS Articles” at the end of the article. ;-)

Ryan Kaiser, Guest Author

WED48ThingsDudes. Guys. MEN. When it comes to the male gender, there are certain things all guys simply must know. Whether its for your own personal safety, in case of emergencies (that may or may not be bear attack related), to not look like an idiot in public, for the benefit of the people in your life, or just for your own betterment, taking a moment to learn the secrets on this list of things all men should know is essential.

So you’ve got a Y chromosome. Now what? What should every guy know how to do? What are the things every man should know? From building fires to tying your tie, if you’re a man, the things on this list are essentials for being the best, most manly man you can be. But it’s not all beer and sports.

Men should also know how to hold a baby and sew on a button. Do you know which fork to use at a fancy dinner? Stop embarrassing your dates and take the time to learn.

There are things everyone should know, but this list is full of advice for MEN, with tips, tricks, and basic information all male humans should know. So get in touch with your inner Ron Swanson, and read through the list below to make sure you know how to escape zip ties and shine your shoes. You just never know when this advice will come in handy.

Have you ever thought to yourself, “Hey, I’m a guy. Aren’t there specific things I should know?” The answer is yes! This list of things men should know is your starting place. Man up and read. Click here!

BONUS Articles: Brides Want Grooms to Be More Involved in Planning the Wedding!
Grooming the Groom! Staying on Track for the Big Day!
Grooms… Listen up!
Listen Up Guys! – Planning a Wedding is a Team Sport!
Hey Guy! Getting Married? – Don’t Be Clueless!
Here Comes the Groom! – A Call to ACTIVE Duty!

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Tuesday, July 7, 2015

5 Good Reasons to Hire a Wedding Planner!

Alexa Price, Guest Author

1. Hire a Wedding Planner to save money! ~ Budgeting is one of the most challenging aspects of planning a wedding. Think of your wedding planner as a financial advisor. An experienced planner will help you navigate the tough conversations such as who is paying. Planners are familiar with costs and how to best allot your money to the areas you value. A planner can create a realistic budget, secure the best pricing from trusted vendors, and manage payments. Lastly a wedding planner is an invaluable resource when it comes to cost-saving ideas. Would you like to save money? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

WEDweddingPlanner2. Hire a Wedding Planner to save time! ~ Time is truly a valuable commodity. It seems as if in today’s world there is never enough. Planning a wedding is very time consuming with many hours per week spent researching, planning, meeting, and coordinating. It can take over your life. Think of your wedding planner as a personal assistant who takes care of the details while you enjoy making the fun decisions and spending time with your fiancé in the days leading up to your wedding. Would you like to save time? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

3. Hire a Wedding Planner to save yourself from headaches and worry! ~ Headaches and worry are two things most people will likely experience when planning a wedding — with numerous checklists and the fear of overlooking an important detail. When is a payment due? Did you order your Grandmothers corsage and one for Great-Aunt Sally? Your wedding planner has your back and will keep on top of all the details and action items for you. You won’t lose sleep worrying and Great-Aunty Sally will be delighted you remembered her. Would you like less headaches and worry? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

4. Hire a Wedding Planner to maintain your love and relationships! ~ Relationships and memories with the ones you love are the most important things in life, but it is easy to lose sight of this when planning a wedding. This is an emotional time as you and your love ones are faced with important decisions that involve money, time, etiquette, and tradition. Think of your planner as a trusted therapist. A wedding planner can help you keep things in perspective by providing sound advice, solutions, and guidance throughout the entire planning process. Would you like maintain your love and relationships? Hire a Wedding Planner today!

5. Hire a Wedding Planner to minimize stress and maximize fun! ~ Stress is unpleasant, unhealthy, and can test the best relationships. Planning a wedding with little prior experience and expertise can create a lot of unwanted stress. Wedding planners have years of experience planning weddings and can navigate the process with ease on your behalf allowing you to enjoy your engagement period with the one you love. A great wedding planner specializes in making every meeting a fun memorable experience.

Larry’s NOTE: A Wedding Planner acts as your “go to person” – The average wedding has from 15 to 25 different vendors. Combine that with the entire wedding party and all of the guests and that is a lot of people with questions and concerns! By hiring a wedding planner, brides and grooms can simply tell others to “talk to the wedding planner!”

True story: Ten minutes before the start of the Zachary Salter wedding below, someone took my wedding book with the ceremony I was about to perform. There I was with no wedding book, no wedding ceremony and 10 minutes to go before the wedding was to begin. I immediately notified Alexa Price and she smiled and said, “No problem!” as she handed me a hard copy of the ceremony that I had sent to the bride. WoW! Close call. Saved by the Wedding Planner! The show must go on! Thanks, Alexa!

Congratulations to Mr. & Mrs. Zachary Salter. Renee del Castillo and Zach Salter were married at 5:00 p.m., Saturday, May 9, 2015 at JW Marriott Scottsdale Camelback Inn Resort & Spa, Paradise Valley, AZ.
Wedding Venue: Marjorie Jackson, JW Marriott Scottsdale Camelback Inn Resort & Spa, Paradise Valley, AZ. http://www.Marriott.com/
Wedding Planner: Alexa Price, Simply Modern Events, Greater Phoenix, AZ. http://SimplyModEvents.com
Wedding Officiant: Larry James, Scottsdale, AZ. http://www.CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com/ & Blog: http://CelebrateIntimateWeddings.wordpress.com/

BONUS Articles: Brides: Need Help Planning Your Wedding?
Hiring a Wedding Planner: Why It’s a Good Idea
Sorry, I Don’t Need a Wedding Consultant… My Venue Has One!

Alexa-PriceCopyright © 2015 – Alexa Price. In 2010 Alexa Price moved to Arizona and started using her skills to design and create amazing events. She found intense fulfillment as she helped many loved ones celebrate their most important moments in life. In 2013 she created Simply Modern Events from her little studio in the Melrose District. I absolutely love my job! She understands events can be stressful but aims to ease stress through simple, clear, and uncomplicated transactions with her customers.

Larry James NOTE: Alexa Price get 5 stars from me. Working with her was a pleasure.

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Friday, July 3, 2015

“Oh, About the Reception…”

Larry’s NOTE: Here are a few money saving tips about receptions from the article, “101 Ways to Save Thousands on Your Wedding!” Use some of these creative and often non-traditional ideas to cut costs so you can better afford someone whose fee may be out of range without cuts to the budget elsewhere. It’s about reassigning priorities when it comes to who you want to hire and what you can afford. Always hire the best vendor you can afford.

Have a lunch or an afternoon tea reception instead of a sit-down dinner. Guests tend to drink less during the day, so you’ll save on liquor costs.

WEDReceptionTipsIf you prefer an evening reception, but still want to stick to a budget, consider a desserts-only reception. Specify on the invitation that you will be serving desserts, so that guests don’t expect a full meal. Offer a delicious array of sweets: pastries, pies, mousses and a dramatic flaming treat like Bananas Foster. To accompany, serve champagne or prosecco and specialty coffees and teas.

Another increasingly popular choice is the cocktail party reception. Event planner Harriette Rose Katz notes that you’ll save thousands on food and decorations; after all, you can forgo big floral arrangements for your tables and adorn small cocktail tables with candles and modest bunches of blooms.

Hand pass hors d’oeuvres like mini hot dogs, grilled cheese sandwiches and mini quiches. On a multi-tiered table offer finger foods like Italian breads, olives, artichoke hearts and cheeses (at room temperature), finger fruits and salads.

Consider a chic wine-tasting reception. Guests can sample from an array of small dishes at food stations, each matched with a special wine. Printed cards can explain the pairing.

For savings of up to 20 percent, consider family-style dishes: platters of pasta or sliced meat that guests can pass around.

Beware the buffet option. It won’t necessarily cost less than a sit-down dinner because you have to supply more food than you would for a plated meal. Do a cost comparison before you make a decision.

Consider a modified DIY approach: One groom’s cousin baked enchiladas, and the couple ordered more food from local Mexican stores. Hint: Don’t make the wedding meal yourselves — that’s too DIY for your own sanity!

Less is more. The more elaborate the arrangements at your reception, the higher your bill. For simple elegance, consider a few roses, tulips or even orchids submerged in water. Rose petals floating in water in clear bowls are pleasing to look at, too. Be sure to use all kinds of candles to good advantage: Place votives, pillar candles or tapers between floral arrangements and create a stylish look on a shoestring. Must you place flowers on tables? Of course not. Pick one focal point – perhaps the entrance or the front corners of the room – and place just one gorgeous arrangement there.

Trim your bar tab. Cut out the bubbly; guests can toast with whatever they’re drinking. Don’t forget to have some inexpensive (non-alcoholic) drinks on hand. Consider fresh lemonade in tall, sugar-rimmed glasses for a warm-weather wedding or sparkling water with colorful wedges of orange, lemon or lime. Eliminate shots or any drinks that make use of a number of liquors – these all raise your bar tab and aren’t necessary for guests to have fun.

Close the open bar an hour early and offer coffee. You’ll save hundreds of dollars; even better, guests will have a chance to sober up before they head out to the road.

Consider cupcakes. These save money because they require less intricate decoration. Have a dessert buffet. Mini pastries and other tiny sweets are crowd-pleasers. Save money by having only a small cake for your cake cutting.

BONUS Articles: 101 Ways to Save Thousands on Your Wedding!
Save $$’s With a Cake and Punch Reception!
Booze: To Serve or Not to Serve
How Much Do You Charge to Perform a Wedding Ceremony?

Copyright © 2015 – BridalGuide.com. BridalGuide.com is a great resource for brides. Hundreds of articles and ideas about all aspects of a wedding. Available at: BridalGuide.com

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Monday, June 29, 2015

6 Things Bridesmaids Do That Really Annoy the Bride

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Leah Messenger, Guest Author

Planning a wedding can be stressful! So, bridesmaids, take note. Here are five things that you do that really, really annoy the bride – even if she’s not saying so…

1. Being impossible to contact ~ Bridesmaids being difficult or impossible to contact is a huge problem. We’re not saying it’s compulsory for your bridesmaids’ phones to be in their hands at all times, and kept on loud on their pillow whilst they sleep, but the role comes with certain responsibilities and one of them is being contactable at certain times.

Angry Bride 2. Being fussy about dresses ~ Choosing a dress style that suits lots of different body shapes is a hard enough task by itself without adding a fussy bridesmaid into the equation. Don’t put your bridesmaids in dresses that don’t suit them or they don’t feel comfortable in, but don’t succumb to a moody best friend just because you didn’t get the dress SHE wanted most.

3. Not getting on with other bridesmaids ~ You want the whole of the bridal party to get on! Through the planning process, through to the wedding day, you’re all going to be spending a lot of time with each other. Maybe one of your maids hasn’t taken a liking to one of your other maids? This causes tension within the bridal party, whether it’s kept quiet or seen through out-right arguments. Resolution?

At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you’ve chosen your best girls to be right next to you the whole way through it, so let her know and realize her mistakes! Arranging ‘get-to-know-each-other’ activities is a great idea to get the bonding started.

4. Making a mess ~ Girls are well known for being a bit messy when it comes to getting ready. Clothes scattered across the floor, make-up all over the place and so on. Whilst this is ok in their own bedrooms no one wants a messy bridesmaid in the bridal suite! Each girl should bring a little bag with everything they need for the big day and get ready as soon as possible, leaving a calm and tidy room where the bride can relax before her big entrance.

5. Not listening ~ Having your bridesmaids ask you the same details over and over again is not ideal when you’ve got so much to do. You don’t want to be bombarded by questions because your bridesmaids didn’t listen to you in the first place! We’re sure that you’ll have a to-do list for your wedding planning and for your big day – hand one over to each of your bridesmaids, or assign them specific tasks, and make sure they are in complete understanding prior to your day to avoid any hassle.

6. Uploading photos on social media ~ Everyone loves a good bride and bridesmaids photograph – but wait! Your bride may not want unofficial shots plastered all over Instagram even before she’s cut her cake! Make sure you let your maids know about how you feel about your wedding photos on Facebook. Have an acceptable social media plan in mind, and tell your chief bridesmaid who can spread the word.

BONUS Articles: 8 Ways to Guarantee Happy Bridesmaids
Cloned “look alike” Bridesmaids
Brides! Should You Fire Your Bridesmaid?
So, You’re a Bridesmaid… What Now?
6 Tips on How to Avoid Embarrassment as the Bridesmaid!

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Thursday, June 25, 2015

9 Ways to Guarantee S#x on Your Wedding Night

Rachel Morgan, Guest Author

According to an annual wedding survey carried out by top hen and stag party providers Chillisauce.com, only 33% of newlyweds have sex on their wedding night. So we’ve come up with 9 top tips to make sure you do…

1. Don’t drink excessively ~ Nerves and excitement can make it all too easy to quaff Champagne, but if you drink to excess you’ll be falling asleep before the first dance. Instead, aim to have a glass of water in between drinks, and switch to sparkling water or fruit juice by the end of the night to perk you up.

WEDdingNight2. Luscious lingerie is never a bad idea ~ We girls are well aware of the power of sexy lingerie. It can make you feel empowered, beautiful, and it boosts your self-esteem to no end. Be sure to wear some stunning wedding lingerie under your dress so you have a constant reminder of what to look forward to – especially the look on your new husband’s face when he sees you in bed later!

3. Bat those eyelashes ~ Don’t forget to flirt with each other during the day! You don’t want to do anything outrageous – but a coy look and a whisper in his ear can work wonders. Let him know with longing looks that you can’t wait until the day is done and you’re finally alone together.

4. Reflect on your day ~ We can’t say it enough – this day is about the two of you. With all the partying, eating, photographing and conversing, it can be difficult to get a moment alone. After the party is over, avoid running straight off to the bedroom. Instead, take a moment to reflect on the day. Running through what’s just happened will make you feel even more connected with your new husband.

5. Where’s your hubby? ~ It may sound ridiculous, but it is surprisingly easy to forget about your other half during the day. Whether you’re getting ready with your bridesmaids, posing for the photographer, or chatting to friends and family, all of this can take over and cause you to neglect each other. Of course, it’s not possible to remove yourself from the wedding necessities, but be sure to go through as much of the day as possible with your husband by your side.

6. Sleep well ~ You’re sure to be full of wedding jitters, but it’s important to get your solid eight hours of sleep the night before your wedding! A good night’s rest will make sure that you are revitalized and ready to last the whole day – and night!

7. Don’t sweat the small stuff ~ Your wedding is a day you’ve been planning for months… perhaps even years. It can be easy to allow minor details to become a source of irritation or even cause an argument or a tiff with your family, friends or new husband. Keep a level head and don’t let anything ruin your day – the most important thing is that you get married to the person you love.

8. Rose petals, anyone? ~ You’ve seen it in all the movies: rose petals on the bed, candle light, romantic music and an ice bucket with Champagne. Clichéd, right? Yes, of course it is – but clichés are clichés for a reason. Setting the scene in the honeymoon suite can make intimacy hard to resist.

9. Be realistic ~ Reckon you’re going to have the most mind-blowing sex of your life on your wedding night? It could happen… but probably not. No matter what you do during the day, the excitement of your wedding will have you both filled with adrenaline, the eating and drinking will have you both full, and the dancing, chatting and general activities of the day will have you both feeling drowsy. If you follow the above tips, romance is certainly on the cards for the end of the night, but chances are it won’t be ground-breaking sex. Instead, keep your expectations realistic and focus instead on the closeness and intimacy you feel with the man who is now your husband. And you never know – it could end up being your most exciting sex yet!

Is it okay to not have sex on your wedding night? ~ “Actually, recent wedding stats show that it’s completely normal to not have sex on your wedding night! And it’s not hard to see why. You’ve been up since sunrise getting your hair and make-up sorted, not to mention sipping on champagne from the early hours, (only because it calms the pre-wedding nerves, obviously), then proceed to standing on your feet pretty much all day long. All the excitement a bride and groom endure on their wedding day can be tiring, so really, there’s no surprise that over half of newly married couples end their wedding day in the classiest way possible: passing out.” ~ Leah Messenger

Larry’s NOTE: If the night after you exchanged your vows ended with an orgasm, consider yourself lucky: 52 percent of newlyweds say they didn’t have sex on their wedding night, finds a recent survey of 2,128 people by the U.K. coupon website Voucher Codes Pro.

BONUS Articles: 10 Sexy Ways to Make Your Wedding Night Very Special
Will Sex on Your Wedding Night Be Unforgettable or Should You Fugetaboutit?
Wedding Night Whoopee: Hot ‘n Heavy or Hype?
Honeymoon Q & A

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Sunday, June 21, 2015

Duties of the Ring Bearer

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If you will be having children in your wedding, CAUTION… kids are unpredictable. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Expect the unexpected. Countless times I have seen the children make the wedding memorable and be the rockstars of the whole event.

WEDringBearerThis will often be the very first wedding for many of them, so you can’t assume they have even the foggiest notion of what they’re supposed to do.

The key is to choose your ring bearer wisely. The ring bearer can be a girl, if the bride chooses. Some children are just too young to understand why they are there. The ring bearer, traditionally a small boy aged four to eight, walks down the aisle just before the flower girl (or he may walk with her), carrying a pillow with two rings tied to it. They should be mature and confident enough to make their way between the seats without having a full-fledged meltdown along the way.

He is not ring security. Most brides and grooms actually have the Best Man hold both rings to keep from entrusting the expensive rings to a rambunctious 6-year-old, the rings are usually fakes. Often a bride will want the Maid/Matron of Honor to carry one of the rings, however, I don’t recommend that because she will be holding her own bouquet, the brides bouquet (during the ceremony) and usually does not have pockets.

Children younger than four may need to be coaxed with candy or a toy as a reward. Sometimes a teddy bear or other personal item is utilized for carrying the rings. In some cases a family dog takes the place of a human ring bearer for an added personal touch. The downside: someone has to be responsible for caring for the dog and will miss some of the cocktail party and reception. No cats, please. They have a mind of their own at weddings.

Very young children may walk hand-in-hand with a parent or are sometime carried down the aisle by their parent. One of my weddings had a teen pull a wagon with the 2 year old ring bearer in it. The wagon was decorated and the ring bearer was surrounded by rose pedals. By the way, Having a ring bearer is not a requirement. The best man is perfectly capable.

At one on my themed weddings in Tucson – the bride, groom, bridal party and moms and dads – were all dressed as pirates. The ring bearer was about 6 years old and carried both rings in a tiny pirate’s treasure chest.

Kids will be kids, so the best you can do is have them as well prepared and trained as is possible. Remember though, with kids, practice does not make them perfect, it only makes them a little better. Having an alternative plan B is not a bad idea either.

Here are a few duties of the ring bearer:

• Attend the pre-wedding day ceremony rehearsal but does not usually attend the rehearsal dinner

• He immediately precedes the flower girl during the processional or if the flower girl is younger, he may Walk down the aisle with her

• Deliver the wedding rings to the best man or groom

• Be present in all wedding photos

• Possibly stand up with the groomsmen during the length of the ceremony. If he gets finicky he can go sit on the front row.

• Walk with the flower girl directly behind the couple during the recessional

• Hold a basket of rose petals or confetti for other guests to throw at the newlyweds as they depart

• And if mature enough, anything else you can imagine to make your ceremony more memorable.

The ring bearer should sit with his parents at the reception – not at the head table with the bridal party. Depending upon their ages, you may want to have him dance with the flower girl during the reception.

The ring bearer is usually dressed similar to the ushers (sometimes a rented child’s tuxedo) and in some areas – like Arizona – may even wear dress shorts instead of pants if desired. Often it is the parents who shop for the ring bearer’s attire as long as he does not need to match identically to the groomsmen. His family pays for the cost of his attire.

Along with the duties mentioned above, the ring bearer’s additional responsibility is to look handsome, charm the ladies, dance and eat cake. ;-)

If you are dreaming of the perfect wedding, get stressed even thinking about having children at the ceremony, and have a vision of everything running as planned, you may want to think twice before you include very young children.

Watch Bilbo the owl bring the rings down the aisle at a wedding! Very creative!

BONUS Article: An Age Guide to the Little Ones in Your Wedding

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