Unless the favor is a food — like some delicious cookies, double fudge brownies or chocolates the guests can eat right then – it’s a wedding expense you can forgo. And all the traditionalists say, “Tacky!”
Not really. They aren’t really necessary. The point of a favor is to acknowledge and thank your guests for coming to your wedding. Many couples shell out hundreds of dollars on junky favors that will just get thrown away or left on the table when the guests leave the reception.
If you need to be frugal or must cut something out completely, favors would be the wise choice. Most people will not even notice if you eliminate favors.
Here’s an idea. Forgo favors in “favor” of making a donation in honor of your wedding. Write a note to each guest and leave it at their place setting, letting them know you’ve donated to a charity in lieu of a traditional wedding favor. (Do not put anything about the donation being “in honor of” your guests or in their name.) Some larger charitable organizations such as the American Cancer Society will even do the work for you by printing favor cards or tags announcing your donation. The actual amount contributed should be kept private. Mentioning a dollar amount or directly collecting donations from your guests is considered an etiquette no-no.
The Knot says, “If you want to announce it, do one discreet sign that is in a high traffic area (like cake table or guest book table) and be done with it. Plastering announcements all over your reception is very “look at how awesome we are” and also makes your wedding look like a fundraiser.”
Oh, yes, one more thing about donations. Give serious consideration to the organization you choose. For example, weddings are not, in my opinion, the place to advertise political or religious donations that could spark unpleasant conversations during your reception. Some say donating to a cause YOU support is not a favor to anyone else. Hmmm.
What is important to you as a couple is what really matters. It’s “your” wedding… do what ever you want! If you decide that you must have favors, remember, favors do not need to be extravagant or expensive… it really is the thought that counts.
There are many ways to cut down on the expense of a wedding… no favors is one of them.
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