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Thursday, July 24, 2014

Don’t Do Me Any Favors…

Filed under: Favors,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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Unless the favor is a food — like some delicious cookies, double fudge brownies or chocolates the guests can eat right then – it’s a wedding expense you can forgo. And all the traditionalists say, “Tacky!”

Not really. They aren’t really necessary. The point of a favor is to acknowledge and thank your guests for coming to your wedding. Many couples shell out hundreds of dollars on junky favors that will just get thrown away or left on the table when the guests leave the reception.

FavorsSome think that the expense of a nice meal at the reception is great way to say thank you. Others say the invitation to the wedding is a gift in itself.

If you need to be frugal or must cut something out completely, favors would be the wise choice. Most people will not even notice if you eliminate favors.

Here’s an idea. Forgo favors in “favor” of making a donation in honor of your wedding. Write a note to each guest and leave it at their place setting, letting them know you’ve donated to a charity in lieu of a traditional wedding favor. (Do not put anything about the donation being “in honor of” your guests or in their name.) Some larger charitable organizations such as the American Cancer Society will even do the work for you by printing favor cards or tags announcing your donation. The actual amount contributed should be kept private. Mentioning a dollar amount or directly collecting donations from your guests is considered an etiquette no-no.

The Knot says, “If you want to announce it, do one discreet sign that is in a high traffic area (like cake table or guest book table) and be done with it. Plastering announcements all over your reception is very “look at how awesome we are” and also makes your wedding look like a fundraiser.”

Oh, yes, one more thing about donations. Give serious consideration to the organization you choose. For example, weddings are not, in my opinion, the place to advertise political or religious donations that could spark unpleasant conversations during your reception. Some say donating to a cause YOU support is not a favor to anyone else. Hmmm.

What is important to you as a couple is what really matters. It’s “your” wedding… do what ever you want! If you decide that you must have favors, remember, favors do not need to be extravagant or expensive… it really is the thought that counts.

There are many ways to cut down on the expense of a wedding… no favors is one of them.

BONUS Article: Instead of Buying Wedding Favors – Try This…

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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Sunday, July 20, 2014

Music at the Reception!

Filed under: Reception Music,Receptions,Wedding Tips — Larry James @ 7:30 am
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“Did you like our DJ?”

“He was fine. But he didn’t play the songs we asked for, but it was still fun.”

SongRequestsOh, oh!

Obviously, the bride and groom will create a playlist of their favorites and a don’t playlist (the inappropriate lyrics, the songs you hate, hard to dance to, outdated, overplayed, or carry the wrong message, etc.) to keep the “chicken dance” and others from being annoying the guests. The last thing you want to hear is a song you hate. Create a “do not play” list for your band or DJ and you’ll never have to regret your reception music later.

Top 10 ‘Do Not Play’ Wedding Songs

1. The Macarena – along with all those other cheesy organized dance songs (Electric Slide, Chicken Dance, YMCA, Hokey Pokey, etc.).
2. Celebration
3. White Wedding
4. Lips of an Angel by Hinder – and other cheating, breakup, or death-related songs, including Jesse’s Girl, Tears in Heaven, and I Will Survive.
5. The Humpty Dance
6. Love Shack
7. Brick House
8. Who Let the Dogs Out
9. Hot, Hot, Hot
10. Tainted Love – or any ‘bad’ love song.

It’s one thing to have your DJ announce that he will play requests, but yet another to make it easy for your guests to have him play their favorite dance tune that will encourage them to get up and kick up their heels.

rsvpSongRequestSome couples are including a line on the invitation RSVP for guests to write-in a special request to be played at the reception. Asking guests for song requests on your reply card is a fun and interactive way to pre-plan a perfect playlist. Send your guests a small question along with their invite asking them their favorite song. It’ll get them excited to attend your wedding and contribute to your big day. When the guests hear their song they’ll get excited when their requested song comes on and get up and dance.

It can get a little hectic when guests are running up requesting different songs during the reception. Give this RSVP list of songs to your DJ, along with the name of the person who requested each song. That way, if the dance floor starts to thin out, the DJ can play songs off of the request list and call out their name. This pretty much guarantees that the person who requested the song will get up and dance and encourage others to do so as well.

Top 10 Best Wedding Songs For Reception

1. All of Me – Jon Legend
2. Just the Way You Are – Bruno Mars
3. XO – Beyonce
4. Treasure – Bruno Mars
5. Let’s Get Married – Jagged Edge
6. Who You Love – Katy Perry and John Mayer
7. Marry Me – Jason Derulo
8. Borrow My Heart – Taylor Henderson
9. How Long Will I Love You– Ellie Goulding
10. Somebody Loves You – Betty Who

Keep in mind that the music will have a big influence on the mood of your reception, as well as your guests’ memories of your special day.

BONUS Article: Reasons to NOT allow the guests to make requests!

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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Yikes! Call Off the Wedding!!

Seldom ever is this something that I have had to deal with since I began performing wedding ceremonies, however, on occasion, it does happen. Unfortunately, sometimes weddings are called off. The bride and groom must effectively do damage control.

I once had a bride and groom call me, was excited about my romantic wedding ceremony, made an appointment to review the ceremony and make edits, set the date and paid a deposit. What happened next. NOTHING!

CancelledWeddingI never heard from them again. As time got closer to their wedding day, I called, sent e-mail and waited… nothing. No communication whatsoever. I called the venue, the disc jockey and the photographer and not one had heard a word from them. On the advice of my attorney, I sent a registered letter letting them know that if I didn’t hear from them within 10 days, the would lose their deposit and I would sell the date to someone else. They signed for the letter, but I heard not a word from them.

I can only guess that they either broke up or decided not to get married. Based on where the wedding venue was, they lost a bundle of money by forfeiting their deposits.

There is a better way! This kind of situation should be handled with respect and grace.

Although breaking an engagement or delaying a wedding is a difficult thing to do, it is less painful to call off the wedding now than it is to file for divorce later on. My best advice: First, Let your wedding vendors know what’s going on. Next, let your guests know as soon as possible. It may be embarrassing, however, most vendors will work with you. Some “may” return a portion of the deposit, others may not. How much you may receive will depend on how close the date of the wedding is when you cancelled the arrangements. Although the couple I mentioned above forfeited their deposit with me because of zero communication, if I would have been able to sell the date to someone else, we perhaps could have negotiated something.

Depending on the size, complexity, and date of your wedding plans, canceling the bookings for the arrangements you made may be overwhelming both emotionally and financially, but family and friends can help you through the process. At least let everyone know. You are not obligated to share the details or your reasons, however, common courtesy says… communicate. If asked, you could answer in any polite way (i.e: “Yes, we have decided the time was not right,” or “It’s true, and I’m rather uncomfortable talking about it right now.”)

If the wedding is simply postponed, include the new date and any new information. If the wedding is off indefinitely, indicate that as well.

If the invitations have already gone out and/or there’s no time to get a written explanation to guests, someone needs to call everyone on the guest list and let them know that the wedding will not take place. Obviously the bride and groom may be too traumatized to take care of this; parents, siblings, attendants, or other friends and family members should help out.

In case of a broken engagement, wedding insurance will not help. Insurance companies will only cover situations such as a death in the family, illness, a natural disaster, or severe weather conditions.

Everything happens for a reason. That may be a bitter pill to swallow in the middle of a break up, but I would recommend that you think ahead what might happen if you go through with the marriage and end up with a divorce. After tallying the costs of lost deposits and the other costs associated with simply planning a wedding, it’s still cheaper to suck it up now than pay for a divorce later. When in doubt… don’t! If it doesn’t feel right you may be better off waiting or calling everything off.

Some advice from MyWeddingGotCancelled.com: “When the decision is made to call-off your wedding, all the feelings that go along with a break-up can be intensified by shame and embarrassment. These feelings can complicate the healing process. There is no exact science to dealing with a loss, but most experts agree that grief is an individual experience that can vary in duration and intensity. Loss entails good days and bad days, often without much rhyme or reason. Grief also involves a multitude of emotions such as sadness, anger, guilt, loneliness and even relief. Accepting your needs and your feelings as you grieve is an important first step on the road to healing.”

BONUS Articles: What to Do After You Cancel Your Wedding
Calling Off the Wedding – How to Survive a Broken Engagement
Coping with a Cancelled Wedding
Calling it Off: Etiquette Q & A

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Saturday, July 12, 2014

Packing for a Honeymoon?

The first question… Where are you going? Whether you’re heading to a honeymoon cabin in the woods or a beach honeymoon in a romantic tropical location, once you have your reservations and your tickets there are several packing tips that can help you create a honeymoon to remember.

Oh, yes. The first tip is don’t plan to leave on your honeymoon immediately. The wedding and reception may cause extreme exhaustion. It’s a big day. The honeymoon is very special so give yourself a couple of days (or more) to rest. Open gifts, write “thank you” notes, sleep late, rest and just be together. When you are fully rested, go for it! Don’t worry about not being able to take a big fancy honeymoon. You have the rest of your lives to make money and take big, wonderful, fabulous vacations. But you only get “one” wedding. Do it well and be happy.

HoneymoonChecklistGet help with the honeymoon. Avoid incurring honeymoon debt and sign up with a honeymoon gift registry. Guests will then be able to buy increments of your big sendoff – a valuable cost-cutting plan. Since you may already have most of the traditional wedding gift items, you may want to offer your guests a popular new wedding gift alternative – a honeymoon registry. This will allow them to help you create the honeymoon memories that will last a lifetime. Check out Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry.

Notify your financial institutions of when you will be traveling out of the country on your honeymoon. This could save you the embarrassment of having your credit card rejected because the bank suspects someone else may be using your card. Avoid costly curency conversion. Some European merchants and ATMs capitalize on the fact that Americans can be intimidated by foreign currencies. If a merchant or ATM offers to convert euros to dollars while running your card transaction, refuse – you’ll be paying a premium for the conversion. If you are traveling internationally, arrange to get foreign currency of the country you will be visiting from your hometown bank.

beachsandelsAlso remember to leave your hotel accommodation details (room and phone number) and itinerary with your family so they can contact you in an emergency. Don’t take your cell phone. Give it it’s own vacation. While your cell is recharging its batteries, you can do the same. This is a very special get-away for only the two of you. If you must take your cell, arrange with your carrier for international access.

Don’t overtip. Service is often included at restaurants. If it isn’t, a tip of 5 to 10 percent is the norm in Europe. For taxis, round up to the next euro on the fare.

Label your luggage – inside and out – name, address, phone and another address of a close family member, just in case (God forbid) something happens to you. Use your “Honeymoon Leverage.” Many resorts will go out of their way for honeymooners: room upgrades, free bottles of champagne, flowers, a free dinner – these sorts of freebies are relatively common. Some of the upscale international hotel chains have programs whereby travel agents who are members of their program can request a free amenity or upgrade for their honeymoon couples.

When traveling outside the U.S., put your phone on airplane mode. Forget and the phone keeps checking the Internet and e-mail over the cellular network in the new country and you’ll get a huge bill when you return. If you must check e-mail, turn Wi-Fi on and find a Wi-Fi hot spot. If you are taking your smartphone or tablet to Europe, buy an international phone/data package before you leave to prevent costly roaming charges. Short-term plans generally start at $25-$30 and can save you hundreds of dollars.

Don’t be afraid to let hotels or travel agents know that this is your honeymoon: yes, the travel industry DOES market heavily to honeymooners, but you’re much more likely to get a bonus because of it than you are to be over-charged or taken advantage of. A thoroughly experienced travel agent who specializes in your destination can help you get more for your honeymoon budget this way.

Sandals-Honeymoon-160x600Check out weather and climate conditions. Sometimes a beach honeymoon can be rainy and windy, so make sure you know what type of weather to expect. A lightweight but warm jacket, sturdy walking shoes (that’s a must) and a small umbrella, especially if you plan on spending a lot of time outdoors. Wear comfortable clothes for honeymoon travel and be sure to carry necessities in a carry-on bag.

Remember your passport if traveling out of the country. Make sure it is up-to-date. If you do not have a passport, allow plenty of time to get one. You’ll want to preserve these memories so pack a digital camera. Pack a few extra batteries and a couple extra memory cards. Check with a travel agent about gadgets to recharge any electronic gear. Electric outlets in foreign countries may be different. Chargers for cell phones, iPods, and digital cameras. Leave home with everything fully charged.

PackingAlthough a good honeymoon means spending a lot of time together in bed, you will need clothes for whenever you want to venture out of your room. Pack a swimsuit and sunscreen. Your honeymoon hotel may include hot tubs or outdoor swimming pools, and you’ll definitely want a suit if there’s a beach nearby. Romantic honeymoons often include luxurious dinners at formal restaurants, which may require a dress and a suit and tie. Even if your plans don’t include a four-star cafe, you will still want at least one dressy outfit for other occasions, including dancing, attending a musical or other honeymoon ideas.

Don’t forget extras. Whether you’ll be gone for just a few days or for a few weeks, the most romantic honeymoons include special touches to make everything perfect. Pack candles, flower petals, perfume and, of course, intimates for a trip you’ll never forget. Make a mix of love songs you and your partner can listen to together. Leave your valuable jewelry at home.

Pack several ziplock bags, all sizes; use for packing wet swimsuits or protecting your camera if it rains. Check the Knot’s Master Honeymoon Checklist for more suggestions.

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BONUS Articles: Must-Do List for Every Sandals Destination Honeymoon Bride!
Honeymoon Q & A
More articles about Honeymoons!

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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

The Second Time Around… Married to the Same Person Twice!

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What would you do differently if you and your ex-husband/ex-wife got married again – to each other? How would your 2nd wedding to the same person be different? More important… how would your 2nd “marriage” to the same person be different?

The only sensible reason I can think of to do this is that you get back together because you Love each another and truly want to be together again. That’s it!

Remarriage2SamePersonI would suggest that before you tie the knot again that you both consult a marriage coach or counselor – not to see if you are really crazy for considering it, but to learn from your own marital history. If you didn’t get coaching prior to your divorce, are you both willing to do it now? Are you doomed to repeat the same mistakes again? Another reason would be to honestly look at what caused you both to give up the first time around. It’s important to know that it is likely that unresolved and unfinished business could resurface the second time around.

“It is important to recognize that the first marriage is dead. Don’t let that ghost hurt your new marriage.” ~ Sheri & Bob Stritof

Sheri and Bob are right! It’s in the past. You cannot go back and change it. You begin from where you are now and move ahead. Coaching will help you both to see one another’s part in the marriage’s failure. I suggest that you do not move ahead unless you both can accept your responsibility for what happened and promise to never make the same mistakes again. AND… hold each other accountable!

Do NOT move ahead if either partner is hesitant to recognize their contribution to the disintegration of the failed marriage. Jim Solomon, a counselor who specializes in helping married couples, says that this hesitancy is a good indicator that the couple in question is not ready to get back together. In order for remarriage to be succesful, both spouses have to recognize that they each played a part in their marriage’s demise.

Do second marriages to each other again ever work? As with all marriages, the answer lies in what both partners are willing to do to make the relationship work for the long haul. A commitment of the highest order is absolutely necessary. If you are moving ahead with this idea, I highly recommend that you ignore any statistics that may discourage you. This time it is totally up to both of you to do “whatever it takes” to make it work. You can do that because hopefully you are much wiser now and more mature and are honestly taking marriage more seriously this time. People change as they grow older.

Would you have a small informal wedding with close friends and family or go big? You probably would have less stress. You could really let your hair down and do only what you want to do. No outside influences – mothers or friends. Hire a professional photographer to shoot the entire wedding all over again.

It’s always possible that you may hear ridicule from family members and friends. The important thing to keep in mind is to stay positive and follow your own heart. Let them know that you are both committed and you would appreciate their Love and support.

I suppose the true test is whether you know with absolute certainty that neither of you will make the same mistakes again. People do make the same mistakes unless they get insight through their own thinking about what caused the divorce and their role in the marriage failure. You also will make different ones, however, if you are both willing to take this second marriage to each other seriously and with total commitment, you will both approach how you find workable solutions together very different than the first time. For example, better communications. You must promise each other to talk about anything, and everything, all the time, that is relevant to your relationship. And, promise to do that sooner than later.

Marriage is complicated. Conflict is an inevitable part of relationships. It’s never easy. Why is remarriage so difficult? The short answer is, because it follows divorce. Simply, something came before that didn’t work out well. People who divorced are in a highly vulnerable state. They want to be in a close intimate relationship, but the failure factor is always present.

Remarriage is a serious step that needs to be taken very seriously. It’s not impossible to make remarriage work, but it takes some concerted action to make love better the second time around. There will always be ups and downs. However, something amazing happens when you again face your guests and walk out into the world together again. You both step into a new kind of commitment; one that has you promise to work together come what may and promise to do so no matter what life throws at you.

BONUS Article: So, We Got Married… (AGAIN!)
DIVORCED? Don’t Remarry Until You Read This

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Friday, July 4, 2014

Celebrate Your Love With a BANG!

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There may be no better way to celebrate Love at the end of your wedding day than to light up the sky with an elegant musical fireworks display. Add sparkle to your wedding. One of the most important aspects of any wedding is the entertainment that follows the ceremony itself. Representing the passion, excitement and general emotion of the day, fireworks light up the sky for all to see and act as an excellent form of reception entertainment as well as a special moment for the bride and groom to enjoy.

Consider booking a small fireworks display for your reception. It creates a special touch of drama and sizzle. Imagine the exhilaration of having your own personal fireworks display or having a guest provide one as a gift to make the event even more spectacular. A private fireworks display is one of the most unique touches that a bride and groom can add to their wedding that is sure to amaze guests and create a memory to last a lifetime.

WeddingFireworksRemember to budget in the cost. Hiring a professional fireworks display company, sounds as if it would be awfully expensive. However, you can get a spectacular 10-15 minute display without having to spend a fortune. Expect to spend at least $1,500 and up for typical outdoor wedding fireworks displays. Prices vary according to length of the display and kinds of pyrotechnics.

I performed a wedding ceremony at Wrigley Mansion, Phoenix, several years ago where the bride surprised the groom with a special fireworks display. The fireworks were launched at a crucial moment; as they were being pronounced wife and husband. The timing was perfect and the look on the grooms face was unforgettable.

Hire a Professional! Do not DIY (do it yourself). Fireworks laws vary greatly from town to town, and state to state. Not sure what the rules are where you live? Contact the American Pyrotechnics Association (www.AmericanPyro.com) or check with your local authorities (the fire department, police department or town hall). The Fire Marshal has permit authority over all fireworks and pyrotechnics displays & events. The law is different in each state. For a breakdown of these laws in Arizona, visit our Directory of State Laws.

Please be aware that within each state there may be local restrictions as well. Please contact your local fire or police department for the laws regarding your area. The National Council on Fireworks Safety is a valuable resource for learning more about safely enjoying fireworks. The fireworks company handles all of the necessary fireworks permitting for you. Some jurisdictions may require a Special Use Permit. Plan ahead. Different cities and counties have different lengths of time required for submitting the permit, anywhere from 45 days to two weeks.

Don’t forget clean up. When you hire a professional, they will often take care of cleaning up as part of their fee.

Or… Just add sparklers. Sparklers and Confetti poppers can be fun, but make sure you are providing safe and quality items at your wedding. Have your guests line up outside the venue at the end of the night with lit sparklers and cheer as you depart from the party. Even if you are only using sparklers, safety must be a major focus. Be sure to provide a receptacle so guests can put the sparklers out; galvanized steel pails filled with sand work best. Add sparklers to your wedding cake. Give your cake baker a heads-up about your sparklers plan so he/she can decorate the cake with them in mind. Makes for a great photo!

Be sure to check with the wedding coordinator at your venue. Some venues have restrictions on fireworks.

A fireworks display at your wedding can be a fun finale for your wedding day!

Contact Fireworks Productions of Arizona or Google “Arizona fireworks displays.” Here is a source for Fireworks Wedding Invitations.

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Monday, June 30, 2014

18 Tips for the Pregnant Bride

Sandra & Harry Choron, Guest Authors

A MaternityBride.com survey of bridal shop owners indicated that one in six brides are pregnant. In decades past, the pregnant bride was cause for scandal, and wedding ceremonies were typically hushed-up and private, hidden from the raised eyebrows of society.

According to Brides magazine editor-in-chief, Millie martini Bratten, “Today we see so many celebrities who are… pregnant at the alter… so it’s something people are talking about openly.” Pregnant brides now beam from the covers of the tabloids, and more and more designers are catering to the new market for their wares. Here are some tips for those who chose to put the horse before the cart.

PregnantBride1. Ask yourself if you are truly up to the many hours of planning – often stressful – at this time. Yes, it’s possible to plan a wedding in just a matter of weeks, but can you handle the pressure? If you’re determined to make your commitment before the baby arrives keep it simple.

2. Decide early on whether you’re going to hide the pregnancy during the wedding or use the event to celebrate two joyous occasions at once. Let your bridesmaids and guests know what choice you have made. If you’re flaunting it, ask your maid of honor to throw a bridal/baby shower. If members of your family are making the situation difficult talk to them before the wedding and ask that they put aside their issues for this one day.

3. Shop on the Internet to save time and energy. Visit websites and make phone calls before you visit local wedding shops.

4. Save money anyway you can; you’re looking at lots of expenses dow the line. Be practical by registering only for items you really need.

5. Get help. Make lists of all the tasks your wedding will entail, and create a team of friends who are willing to take them on. Or hire a Wedding Consultant.

6. Let the bridesmaids choose their own dresses. Delegate tasks and decisions to those bridesmaids who are closest to you and most likely to make the same choices you would.

7. Choose a Wedding Officiant who will preside over your ceremony and meet with him or her to discuss any religious conflicts.

8. Yes, you can wear white.

9. If you are working with a dressmaker for your wedding gown, choose a style that will accommodate last-minute alterations: lacking ties that can be loosened, tabs i the back that can be tightened of loosened as the growing waistline demands, a flowing style to which panels can be added. Empire waists are popular among pregnant brides (think Gwyneth Paltrow in “Emma“) for their elegance and romance.

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10. Don’t limit your dress shopping to wedding gown sources. Most major designers offer maternity formalwear that is both stylish and appropriate, and in this day and age of anything goes, you can choose any color you like.

11. You fingers will probably swell during the pregnancy, but if this hasn’t happened yet, get fitted for a ring as soon as possible. You might want to use a fake larger ring for the ceremony or borrow one from a friend. If you’re buying a ring when you’re already into your later months, choose a ring style that can be altered later on.

12. Talk to your photographer about your pregnancy and let him or her know how you want your pictures to look. If you want to play down the pregnancy, suggest that photos be take from high angles.

13. Insist on comfort. Choose undergarments that allow you to breathe and move around freely. Say away from itchy lace and restricting elastic. Don’t try to squeeze yourself into styles that just don’t fit.

14. If the ceremony is to be very long, ask the Officiant to have you and the groom seated for at least part of it.

15. IF reception rituals (raising the bride and groom in chairs during frenzied dancing, for instance) pose a hazard, let the wedding attendants know these will be avoided.

16. Make sure your maid of honor keeps your champagne flute filled – with ginger ale. If nausea is an issue for you, ask the chef to have on hand anything you have been handling well.

17. Choose a spa honeymoon that will give you a chance to relax between one big day and the next, preferably one close to home.

18. Wear shoes with a low, chunky heel, but don’t buy them until just before the wedding, as your feet are likely to swell. If you must buy them early, buy them in two sizes – one larger than you normally wear – and return the unworn pair after the wedding. Or buy a pair of fancy heels for the wedding and good old Keds or even thongs (hot-glue a few silk flower buds to each) for the reception.

Larry’s NOTE: Lots more info about pregnant brides, babies and more at: www.TheBump.com.

choron$sandyCopyright 2014 Sandra and Harry Choron. From the book, “Planet Wedding: A Nuptial-pedia.” Sandra is a writer, editor, literary agent, book packager and designer. She and her husband Harry, a graphic designer, are the authors of “Planet Wedding,” “Planet Cat,” “Planet Dog,” “The book of Lists for Teens,” and “The All-New Book of Lists for Kids,” among other works. Visit their Website at http://MarchTenthInc.com/.

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Thursday, June 26, 2014

To See… or Not to See? That is the Question!

The top reason many couples today seem to keep this tradition alive is because they believe it builds up the mystique before the walk down the aisle. However, more and more couples recognize the time management benefits of seeing each other before the ceremony – meeting earlier for photos gets you to the party quicker. So… photos before the wedding or do you wait for your eyes to meet on the aisle?

ToSeeOrNotThe idea of not seeing each other before the ceremony comes from the days when marriages were arranged and the groom might never have seen the bride. In some religions and cultures the option of seeing each other before is simply not allowed. The wedding symbolized a business deal between two families. Not too romantic, right? There was a chance that he might take one look at her and bolt – so it was often safer for them to meet for the first time at the altar. Most admit it’s a bit old-fashioned.

There’s more… the veil the bride wears – its original purpose was also to keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like until the last possible minute, when it was too late to back out. Brides still often wear veils, however they are usually draped behind the brides head.

It’s typical that most brides and grooms totally miss out on the cocktail hour. Usually they are out taking photos with the photographer immediately after the ceremony. If you choose this way to take photos, remember to give the photographer a complete list of the photos you want taken and stick with a strict schedule. It’s rude to keep your guests waiting too long after the wedding for the reception to begin.

Not seeing each other before the ceremony makes most bride’s more stressed out. There is always the worry of seeing each other accidentally.

First Look is gaining in popularity. Whether the groom sees you in your dress or not has nothing do do with the magic of the moment. Prior to the ceremony, flowers, hair, make-up, clothes, and moods are at their very best. The emotion is still there. By scheduling a “First Look” or “Reveal Moment,” before the wedding ceremony the photographer will be able to capture your special moment of seeing each other privately for the first time. It’s your private moment. From a photographer’s position, there are usually many more pros to seeing each other beforehand than cons, but what it comes down to is your personal decision. Most brides and grooms have anxiety about the ceremony, however, when they choose the “First Look,” once they are together at the ceremony, the jitters melt away and the day becomes much more fun.

You’re able to schedule in extra time to drive to a great location, time to get a wider variety of shots and just have a more relaxed photo shoot. You will enjoy the First Look time privately, away from the crowd, where you can feel free to enjoy sweet sentimental moments together. Meeting before the ceremony, when you’re free from the often strict timelines of the ceremony itself, gives you more personal moments and experiences together, which adds wonderful memories to your day. The bonus is that you can take your formal pictures before the ceremony when everyone’s hair and makeup are going to look a lot fresher earlier in the day.

It can be extremely comforting to have a quiet word and a hug from the most important person in your world as your stress level is mounting before the wedding. Most claim that 10 or 15 minutes alone with their partner calms them for the main event. Having the First Look and spending that quality personal time together earlier on your wedding day ramps up and fuels the emotions to brimming for when the magic moment comes you see each other at your ceremony. Obviously First Look gives you more experiences and adds memories of your day; and in a very heightened way too. Clearly everything that happens during the First Look is a unique experience you wouldn’t have had if you didn’t take that personal time to be with each other. And… that makes your ceremony even more full of excitement, passion and Love.

Another photo-related consideration is light. Many of my wedding ceremonies are outdoors and about an hour or more before sunset. This concern is legitiment. Rounding everyone up for photos after the wedding can be a major chore, one that may mean you might be taking some of your photos after the sun goes down.

Most brides that have chosen First Look at my weddings tell me it was their most favorite moment of the day because it was just about them. If you are a traditionalist and love to play “hide ‘n seek” you may want to save the First Look for when you walk down the aisle. ;-)

Never let anyone pressure you on how to make this decision. There are no rules governing when you see you first see your partner, except perhaps one: “Whichever route you take, make sure it is determined solely by ‘your’ vision of your wedding, and nobody else’s.” ~ Lauren Ragland, Wedding Photojournalist Association

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Sunday, June 22, 2014

Creating a Guest Seating Plan for the Reception

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Can’t everyone just figure out where to sit on their own? Yep! However, taking the time to develop a seating plan will reduce your guests’ anxiety of trying to find a seat. It also ensures that couples who want to sit together get to. With a little common sense, you can create a seating plan that will make almost everyone happy.

In order to prevent any confusion, arguments or stampedes on your wedding day, do yourself a favor and create a seating chart. Organizing a seating chart is best left until a few weeks before your wedding, after you know who will and will not be attending.

SeatingChartThe reserved tables, located near the head table where the bride and groom sit, is where the parents of both the bride and groom, the wedding officiant, and sometimes grandparents sit during the reception. The bride and groom’s table should be easily seen from anywhere in the room so all the guests can be witness to their expressions of happiness. Usually there are two tables reserved for family members and close friends. If parents are divorced, remarried, etc., each parent may also host his or her own table, smoothly diffusing any awkwardness or discomfort.

Not traditional? Mix it up a little with your seating plan, don’t worry about your guests being surprised. One of the things many people look forward to at a wedding reception is catching up with old friends and family. Make sure the people you are mixing have something in common other than just that they know you; they’re more likely to feel less discomfort if they’ve got more to talk about.

If you choose to invite the wedding officiant to the reception, be sure to let him/her know prior to the wedding and remember to reserve a place for him/her. Usually the seating chart is made up of RSVPs to the invitations and since it is not necessary to send the wedding officiant an invitation, often the bride and groom forget to add the wedding officiant’s name to the seating chart. That’s awkward! Now the wedding officiant has to ask where they want him/her to sit. Opps!

seatingchartEscort cards direct guests to their tables; place cards are displayed at each place setting. Make it easy for guests to find their table. A large seating chart if helpful. Put it somewhere where your guests can see it during the cocktail hour so there’s not a bottleneck when they get the call to enter the reception area. Hopefully they’ll look at it beforehand and know where to go.

Resist the urge to omit the seating chart in favor of placing the names on the table. It’s no fun for guests to wander around the room searching for their place setting. On the seating chart, the guest’s preference is listing the guest’s last name alphabetically which will help them find their table faster. Next, put the number or name of the table next to their name to make it easier to find. You can also choose to place name cards on the table telling them where to sit. Table assignments without a seat assignment is slightly less work for the bride. Never split the guests from their spouses or dates.

You could also have an escort card table where you display cards inscribed with guests’ names laid out alphabetically and each card has the table number and/or table name on it. Remember to check the spelling of all names.

There may also be situations in which certain family members just do not get along. You want to keep them as far apart as possible. Avoid putting guests on the same table as ex-partners, unless you are sure this is okay.

Younger children should be seated with their parents or, a kids’ table is a nice idea for the children who may be at the reception. This is fine if the children are mature enough to handle sitting by themselves. Otherwise you may want to seat them with their parents.

Younger people who love music and love to dance should be seated at tables close to the dance floor and the music makers, while older guests may want a quieter table for catching up with friends. It might not be wise to sit your alcoholic uncle right next to the bar.

Remember to consider special needs’ individuals who may have mobility issues. Such individuals should be seated near doors and restrooms so it’s easier for them to get around once the reception hits full swing.

For guest lists of under 50 or less, generally there is no need to have a formal seating plan. There are so many variable ways to seat the guests. Do a Google search for “Guests Seating at the Reception” to find the way that suits you best.

It’s smart to begin making your seating arrangements as soon as you receive the RSVPs. Allow for last minute changes and once you have your seating chart complete… let it go and focus on having fun at the reception.

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Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Things Someone Should Have Told You Before Your Wedding Day

Planning a wedding is no easy task. Everything from the check lists to the blogs and bridal magazines, Pintrest, etc., make it almost overwhelming. Take your time. Begin your planning six months to a year before your wedding day.

You would be wise to choose the date of your wedding first, the wedding venue second and the Wedding Officiant/Minister third. As you know I am a wedding officiant and I cannot tell you how many times a bride and groom have hired nearly all their wedding vendors and at the last minute remember that they have not hired someone special to perform the wedding ceremony.

B4YOURweddingI’ve made a list of things that I hear brides say that they wish they would have known before the wedding. Contrary to popular belief, most brides have not been thinking about the details of their wedding since they were a little girl. Another reason this list may be helpful. (NOTE: You will find various links in this article that will expound on some of the topics. Every link opens in a new browser window so you won’t lose your place.)

1. Want a really great marriage? It begins when you get serious about working on you – FIRST! Have you dealt with your issues? Your wedding day is one day of your life. Your marriage is long-term. You may have a near-perfect wedding, however, that’s not the marriage. A marriage is the ultimate commitment. You both will have to change to make the marriage work. Believe me, marriage is always a work in progress. Be sure you are ready for it.

2. There is no perfect wedding. Believe me, sometimes things mess up. Be prepared to roll with the punches if something does go wrong. The groomsmen forgot the rings. The wedding cake didn’t arrive on time. One of your bridesmaids or groomsmen is MIA. The flower girl refused to walk down the aisle. The maid of honor had too many drinks and starts making a teary scene at the reception. Your florist used roses instead of peonies for your bouquet. Things may run behind schedule. Make sure everyone knows what time to show up on your wedding day. Be a good example. Don’t be late for your own wedding! It’s happened.

3. Tell your photographer key information in advance. From special family situations like divorces and mobility limitations, to special details you want to make sure are captured, there are several things you need to share with your photographer in advance. Photographers always work better when you have provided a list of the special photos you want taken. You’d be surprised how many guests just assume they’re going to be in pictures and stick around, and how many guests who are close family that just take off to the cocktail hour. Let close friends and family know to stay close after the ceremony for photos.

4. Plan some quiet time before the ceremony. You need reflection time. Take time to break away from the crowd and be quiet somewhere if only for ten minutes. Drink some water and collect your thoughts. I’ve had brides and grooms tell me they hardly remember anything about the ceremony if went by so quickly. It’s like an entire day in fast forward. Pay attention during the ceremony.

5. Spend some time thinking about what you want your wedding ceremony to say. The ceremony IS the wedding. It is the heart and soul of the event. Write some of your own vows. You don’t want empty words – they must mean something.

6. Hire a professional Wedding Officiant – one with experience! Forget uncle Harry – who had never done a ceremony – and who wants to do your ceremony for free. I repeat… The ceremony IS the wedding. Why would you want to cut corners with the most important part of your wedding day? Want to hear from horror stories? Give me a call. I’ve heard it all. Hire the best! There’s a reason they are the best. There’s a reason everyone wants them. So they get booked soon, and early. They might be available when you make your inquiry but your wedding date is not secure until a deposit is paid and an agreement is signed. When you feel good about a choice, make a decision.

7. Choose your bridal party carefully. Take your time picking your wedding party. You should spend some time thinking about who you really want to share this day with you. Be willing to choose someone else if your maid of honor or best man are not helping you with what you need help with. Never assume your wedding party knows what is expected of them. Know what their duties are and talk with them about what you expect. Have your Maid of Honor “practice” bustling your dress before the wedding day. Don’t take on too many duties yourself. Delegate! Give everyone in your bridal party something to do.

8. Talk about money with your partner. How much debt are you and your partner bringing into this marriage. Be honest. It’s better to find out now rather than be strapped with debt after you tie the knot. Save your money for wedding expenses and go lite on credit cards. Your parents may contribute some, but nowadays many brides and grooms are paying their own way. It is very easy to develop bad financial habits while planning a wedding. Be certain you have a budget for your wedding and be prepared to shift money around if something or someone you want exceeds the money you set aside for them. The easiest way to trim your wedding budget? Cut your guest list.

HireConsultant“For the love of all that is remotely holy in this world, do NOT go into major debt to pay for your wedding.” ~ Melissa Lafsky

9. When in doubt… don’t! If you have any doubts in your mind about whether you should get married, a postponement is much less expensive than a divorce. Listen to your gut or intuition! Trust it! If you have major issues that you think will disappear after you are married, think again! I’ve been a relationship coach since 1995 and the one thing that I am saddened to hear is: “I though he/she would change after we got married!” That seldom works out. Have issues? Get relationship coaching BEFORE marriage. It is perhaps the most vital thing you can do before marching down the aisle.

10. Hire a Wedding Consultant OR at least a day of coordinator! Are you ready for the truth? You are not a professional event planner so please stop acting like you know everything about weddings after reading two blog articles and surfing Pinterest. Your wedding is your big day. You shouldn’t have to worry if everything is going just right! Most wedding consultants know where to get the good deals. They are there to help you bring your dream wedding to life. They can make recommendations to quality wedding vendors and watch over all the details of your wedding as they are happening. When you hire a wedding consultant, you can relax, knowing that everything will work out fine. Call me if you need referrals.

11. Don’t skip breakfast on your wedding day. With all the morning jitters, you’re likely to forget. Put something in your tummy to absorb all the nerves that might show up. ;-)

12. Put a dab hand lotion on before heading down the aisle. Whether it’s the heat or stress, you or your partner’s fingers could swell a bet, giving you a hard time trying to get that ring on. Remember to pass this tip to the groom.

13. Remember to put together an “Emergency Kit” to bring to the wedding. Oh, and don’t forget the Marriage License!

14. Always remember… this is YOUR wedding, not your mothers! You cannot please everyone. Pick the few people you want to please – at the top of the list is your partner and then you have 5 more spots. After that everyone else can sit down and shut up. ;-) If your mom or the groom’s mom or anyone else suggests something that you do not want, be tactful, however, never be afraid to say, “No.”

15. Carry an emergency contact sheet on your wedding day. Keep the paper with names and phone numbers of all your vendors in your purse or give it to your maid of honor to hold in case you need to contact a vendor. It could come in handy.

16. Give yourself plenty of time to plan your wedding. Some people can do it in 6 months. Others require a year or more. Do as much as possible and get it all ready BEFORE the morning of your wedding. Anything else should be delegated to someone else you trust to follow through.

If you have topics that brides and grooms should know about before their wedding, please list them in the comments! Sharing is a good thing!

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Copyright © 2014 – Larry James. This information is adapted from Larry’s Wedding Website and Wedding Blog. Larry James is a non-denominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere! Every wedding ceremony is customized to your complete satisfaction. Call to check availability: 480-998-9411 or 800-725-9223. You will find more than 475 pages of Wedding ideas, tips (90 tips and growing), ceremonies, and more at: http://www.celebrateintimateweddings.com. Check Larry’s availability.

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